Fabulocity:
You're the one that's slow and reasoning through your dîck hole!! But what kind of men do we have these days??! Of course the woman is supposed to be catered for, that's to be expected, it's her rights and it's not a Favour being granted to her. I do not support her actions although I do not blame her but her husband should get off his ass and be a MAN as he should be. I'm done replying you Biko.

DukeNija:


You are obviously not getting the point. Marriage is a partnership not a parasitic relationship. Yes, men are the providers, but life can happen and that was why God said the woman will be the helper. Meaning she will help him, support him get back on his feet. It is not meant to be a permanent situation hence the statement Men who cannot cater for their families are worse than infidels. There are better ways to motivate your husband instead of nagging and killing whats left of his ego. Supportive words motivate faster than death strokes. But ofcourse, you wouldnt know this.

yhemster:


This mentality of whose responsibility is to provide and to care for the kids is definitely the root of this man's problem. This is 2017 and not 1995, financial responsibilities of the home should be the responsibility on both the Father and Mother of the house likewise the care of the home and kids. Gone are the days when Mother stays home or earn very little income. Nowadays, Male and Female are fully a workforce and their earns varies slightly.
There's not wrong in Mummy dropping her salary for upkeep of the home likewise their nothing wrong for Daddy to pickup the kids from school and prepare lunch or dinner for them while Mummy is at her duty post.
The earlier the society reset and update to this modern way of living the better for us all.

Martinez19:
Thank you. Tell her o. I pity her husband. Thumbs up to your wife Jare, I wish we have more of her on earth. Fabulocity and FortuneTe.ller na death trap for men.

cococandy:

So is she supposed to do everything by herself?
Will the man be happy providing for the family and doing all the house keeping at the same time? I'm certain the answer is negative.

Nobody should serve what they can't take.
The home runs smoothly when labor is shared.
If it all falls on one person, the stress leads to things like what the OP is describing in his post. (I don't support rudeness anyway)
However the sooner people realize this, the happier many marriages will be.

Their problem is that they want to leave everything to the woman and use blackmail to make her not talk about it.

The day any man is willing to provide for his family, do the house work, get pregnant, bear the children and raise them, that day he earns the right to complain about female breadwinners who are not willing to take all the labor with a smiling face.

Y'all are talking about how women get horrible when they are providing for the family without taking into account all the other things she's doing as the woman of the house which most of you in your erroneous pride think is beneath you to do.


Think about it and tell me how that's fair.

Never mind. I don't think any of you can understand the concept of fairness anyway.

InvertedHammer:


They even have a car he can use for a side hustle to raise money for the farm if he so wishes but he will rather be home reading the book of lamentations. A time of adversity is the ultimate litmus test for manhood.

TinaAnita:



Nice submission, you nailed it.
No woman on planet earth would assume the responsibility of a man and things would remain the same. Any woman criticising the wife of the complainant is just deceiving herself. Those saying she doesn't love him have lost touch with reality. How do you expect a woman who is stressed out, frustrated, worn out and unhappy for obvious reasons to pamper her husband in the name of love? Dreamers keep dreaming!

yungmill:


My brother I tire o some ladies are not fit to be called women at all but babies who only stick with you as long as the candy is always there,
Even if you give them a fortress the day you fall from grace they will trample you. They only want to enjoy and not work, when you hammer its our money when they hammer its my personal money I feel it's best to take the Ronaldo route and have surrogate mother(S) for my kids and spare myself they headache at least am paying for the service I get

YelloweWest:

My brother leave this modern day talk. There are certain things that just don't change.
The man is the breadwinner while the woman is the caretaker.
You made it sound so fancy. Would u be OK with washing your wife and kids cloths going to market and cooking as a man?? While your wife is at work??
The reason most men earn more than women is because the woman cannot put in as much time and devotion to her job when she has a family to care for. Which is totally understandable.
That places the financial burden on the man. That of the wife is just extra.
I agree that when the man has financial difficulties the wife's should step in, however it's not her role. And most importantly, how well did the man care for his family when the going was good??
Was it clubbing flexing with side chics every now and then? Remember women don't forget stuff like that!

HenryDion:


Cerebral = Go medical a bit..

Love is the most beautiful thing on earth. Of course nothing can substitute it. When using that sentence again, try and add a comma after LOVE.

Also, it's English, not english.

You're worst than your construct.

yungmill:


My mother catered for the house for 2 years when my dad lost his job and heaven did not fall and we the four kids of which am the last did not know until some years back and I don't remember seeing my mother insulting my father in anyway and life went on yes my dad was jobless though he did odd jobs to get back on his feet. So stop this your mentality ask your mother how she suffered with your father you will be shocked all you fair weather ladies of this generation

Martinez19:
speak for yourself, not all women are like you. I remember when my dad lost his job. My mother, a nurse, added frying akara and selling ice blocks to support my dad. Things were hard but it turned around.

TinaAnita:

Nice submission, you nailed it.
No woman on planet earth would assume the responsibility of a man and things would remain the same. Any woman criticising the wife of the complainant is just deceiving herself. Those saying she doesn't love him have lost touch with reality. How do you expect a woman who is stressed out, frustrated, worn out and unhappy for obvious reasons to pamper her husband in the name of love? Dreamers keep dreaming!

gbagyiza:
Most women r like that...from today u should know that almost all d women u see hv that character in them. U r not d only one passing tru this. Some men try to hide their pains from d public, but I can assure u that u Dont know a women until u r financial down..This is our cross to carry as husbands. I advice u find something doing to be able to cater for your family because that is d only solution u HV except if u want to divorce her n if u divorce her, I will advice u not to marry if u Dont want to experience another heart break...

sekem:


Onukwu

Fabulocity:
I agree with you a 100% but why is it that it's only when things go awry that you people remember that marriage is a partnership? But when things are good, you expect the woman to subdue herself and put herself under his authority. If marriage is truly a partnership, then he should also be able do basic house chores with his wife since she's just not there to serve him.

Fabulocity:
Okay so when the going gets tough, that's when you remember that the responsibilities should be shared 50/50 but in good times, you impose your superiority. Abeg cut me that crap. We're Africans, Nigerians and we're very cultural people. If as you said the man and the wife should have equal responsibility in a marriage, then the man should also be able to cook, clean , take care of the kids and do other chores equally with his wife. That's the only way your theory would make sense.

Martinez19:
what do you mean go medical? The right word is cerebrum. Going medical my ass. You are still as smart as your english. Check yourself before you criticise people's intelligence. Thanks for the corrections.

TinaAnita:



For how long did she support your dad without throwing tantrums like Op's wife? And your mom bore the burden without lashing out at your dad? I beg tell me another story

freshvine:


You're a bitter woman. Your husband must be suffering emotionally... don't tell me he's a rare specie drop from heaven

TinaAnita:



Amadioha machie gi nti.. Onye iberibe

kaziblake:
Yea type it biko

bayulll011:


with this mentality I can only say expect more home breaking up,I mean what's wrong with ladies these days is that they are from irresponsible home or the mother's are not doing their job of training their daughters If am the man I promise I will walk out of that marriage as soon I find my feet if u can't love me during my hard days u don't deserve to eat my money when am made shikenna

yungmill:


My mother catered for the house for 2 years when my dad lost his job and heaven did not fall and we the four kids of which am the last did not know until some years back and I don't remember seeing my mother insulting my father in anyway and life went on yes my dad was jobless though he did odd jobs to get back on his feet. So stop this your mentality ask your mother how she suffered with your father you will be shocked all you fair weather ladies of this generation

yungmill:


So you are saying the husband should go out all day and hustle while the wife is probably a house wife or runs a favorably time job which gives her time then he should come home and clean after her while she watches Telemundo when it's not even during the free weekends ladies and double standards

If you want to know why she should humble herself and submit to the man use your Bible it contains the answer you seek

I weak for una very soon you will ask why men don't breastfeed babies

CapitalCee:


Women eeh most of you are snakes. The 50/50 I even mean is not when the going gets tough. Even when I am earning good, my wife MUST share in the upkeep, unless she is not working. I will open a business for her, but I will be the de facto CEO of that business as I will always come around when I not working to participate. About the chores, we have no girl in our family so we boys do everything from cooking to cleaning to washing etc, I cook for my woman and clean the house whenever I have time most men prepare kids for school and do the school run .So that's not an issue. Even if the going is not going tough, I won't shoulder ALL the family bills myself while the women keeps her money no matter how small to herself. Mbanu!