I am in my mid-thirties and still a virgin. My boyfriend of about 6 weeks has started asking for sex. What should I do? After all, I am not getting any younger, and he may be the one. Please advise. (Jane, Ife)



Congratulations sis. I’m glad that you have kept yourself up until now. Very few ladies can boast of chastity at this age. And for you to have remained chaste till now, it wouldn’t be wise to give your pearls to a riff raff, permit me to use that word. I learned years ago that true love waits. Whoever truly loves you shouldn’t ‘eat your fruit before harvest’. You’ve waited too long to give up now. On no account should you compromise your standard all because you want to please a boyfriend who doesn’t have your interest at heart. To prove his love, ask him how he would feel to learn that his favourite younger sister has been having sex with her boyfriend, not husband. Check his reaction; you can tell if he’s truthful and if he’s not. You’ll only be short-changing yourself to condescend so low as to throw away what you’ve been jealously guarding all these years because of a boyfriend who does not know your worth. Your virginity should be graciously guarded and presented to your husband after you’ve gotten wedded.

The Bible encourages us in 1 Corinthians 6: 18 to ‘flee from fornication’. Your body is the temple of God and for you to live maximally; you would have to obey His instructions. Like it is said, HIV is not written on the face, neither are other sexually transmitted diseases. In order to safeguard your life and future, I’ll advise you to stick to God’s commands. His commands are for our benefits and not for our destruction.

Please note that sex doesn’t bind or glue a relationship. What makes you think that once he’s had a taste of you, he wouldn’t elope in search of another naïve virgin? If he truly loves you, he’ll wait till you are both married to have sex, anything outside that would be foolhardy. Exercise a little more patience, and the man of your dreams will come your way and after you’re married, you can both enjoy sex without any fear or guilt. Sex in marriage is both pleasurable and pleasing to God whereas outside of marriage, it is not only inimical to the health of both parties but also attracts God’s punishment because it is a sin.

could you repeat the question please?

give him aboniki and porn mag

Wait ooo! Yo in ur mid Thirties & still a virgin. for how long do u wanna keep dis thing? if u deny ur bf sex, shey na me u go kon give? yo nt getting any younger anymore

OK

Mid thirties and still a virgin!!!...woman that's why you are been rejected!...sex is important in a relationship abeg...me I cannot buy untested product. #mbok

Aunty, are you a virgin ?

If you are 30+ and still a virgin, it means there is something really wrong with you that either makes you unattractive or you lack that human feeling to be with someone, either way you are a fail

"My body is the temple of God" dis is the sentence dey use to deceive their victims.. E get one gal wen I date, na her normal talk be dat...until one day I just vex ask her, "if ur body is the temple of God den what is my money?" Na dat day I break up wit her..

One reason I CANNOT date a religious girl. Before I marry any girl, she must suck my dick and do all the craziest things in the world with me.

Most of the religious folks are absolute hypocrites!

Sister do the needful. You cannot buy a phone and say u will not insert simcard...u know what to do

Haba. that's very wrong of him. I think u should also demand sex from him too. tit for tat

lelvin:
Sister do the needful. You cannot buy a phone and say u will not insert simcard...u know what to do

Same way u can't put a simcard in a phone you have not paid for.

Is this real? Sex is overrated... people hype it too much. Just get it over and done with. If you're not comfortable and he forces it, then walk away.

Lols...same way you shouldn't fancy a phone if you don't intend to insert a simcard. #Receive understanding

janefrancisca:
Same way u can't put a simcard in a phone you have not paid for.

janefrancisca:
Same way u can't put a simcard in a phone you have not paid for.

Umm!! Actually u can.... No offense, but u can choose to try a phone u would like to buy out, am sure one can negotiate that offer with the seller.. Eg: Abeg make I put my Sim test am whether e de get network...

lai Mohammed pupils

Abeg,let him realize DAT if he truly loves you, and not in ur assets, he should wait till marriage, and trust me sis,if he can't respect ur wish and he want dis thing by all cost,I can guarantee u 100% DAT after sleeping with u he will surely leave u, but d problem is u ladies are always deceived by sweet words,fake promise,u need to be at alert when with him,and I will advice u not to take anything even water in his house because he might try to make u sleep,so DAT he can have his way,never trust ur man who you are not yet married to,he can do anything to get u down even to the extent of rape,so don't give it to him,he is not yet ur husband and if he walks away,God will provide u better one,and GOD DAT has uphold u to this day will not let u fall.

Break up with him and move on with someone who respects and also has the same standards ( talking from experience).

Bleep d living day lite out of his brain and he will propose to u dat evening

Let me laugh first...haajajajahhjjanajajja in Igbo.... Ok..... Please is ur Pussy only to pee ? Let me tell u something,..,if u don't give him ur toto Bleep definitely he is going to look for someone that will offer d toto to him free of charge..




advice
Just give him ur pussy let him Bleep always

so dat ur pussy would not smell..let him lubricat ur pussy for u

Bleep is wht makes relationship last for long

I'm shocked....shallow minded comments... everywhere.....


if he can't wait then let him go... be patient let God lead u to someone who shares the same values with u

Hmmmmm
Talk him out or quit
Choice is urs

naijaboiy:

[color=#1980BC]I'm sure that is how she has been breaking up and moving on till she got to this stage of being 30 and single.

Madam some things have to change i'm sorry. Not everybody fancies that virginity thing anymore. Allow yourself have sex and make it part of a relationship, don't place your importance on it. If the relationship doesn't work out there are a million losses to count other than sex.

It should be part of a relationship activity just like going to the movies or cooking together. Not a basis for a relationship.[/color]

Who's is to say if she had made a sex part of her relationship she would have gotten married since eons.

Sir, some things have got to change you say, but not her standards or principles.
Sure not everyone fancies virginity anymore, hence the reason I emphasized on her getting into relationships with people of like minds.
Trust me they are out, for not everyone is doing it as we were forced to believe.

Forgive me, but to Compare sex to cooking or going to the Cinemas to someone like her is to trivialize it.

Mind you reason she is single is because most guys (not her) have made it the basis for a relationship, for if sex is just a part of the relationship (just like cooking together) like you reiterated and not the whole package, then why hasn't her relationship lasted?, after all it's just one omitted part out of all the other parts that makes up the whole components of a relationship. Removing just one part shouldn't hurt, right?

Most people don't cook together, nor do they go to the Cinemas( but are most likely into other activities) and they are still together.Considering that there are various activities you can engage in, in relationships, why is sexual activity a fixed and constant activity expected by most in a relationship?.

TANKDESTROYER:
I'm shocked....shallow minded comments... everywhere.....


if he can't wait then let him go... be patient let God lead u to someone who shares the same values with u

Thank you
I have walked the same path and it was easy, for you just need to move with men who have the same approach to dating as you do.
It may be rare, but they are everywhere.

naijaboiy:

Says who?

What if I just wanted to check if my sim was working in your own phone?

As far as av started using the phone, it is no longer new. Go alaba say u wan put simcard 4 phone wey u neva buy, den come back and tell me wetin ur eyes see.

lahit14:

Umm!! Actually u can.... No offense, but u can choose to try a phone u would like to buy out, am sure one can negotiate that offer with the seller.. Eg: Abeg make I put my Sim test am whether e de get network...

wen no b tokunbo phone u dey buy... bros take am easy o. New phones are sold in sealed cartons...u can only start changing sims wen u av bought it.

[quote author=Alphamale2017 post=58447371] Haba. that's very wrong of him. I think u should also demand sex from him too. tit for tat [/quote

I see what you did there ]

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lol . she gat make her own demand to balance the game

janefrancisca:
Same way u can't put a simcard in a phone you have not paid for.

non sequitor