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Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Saintsquare(m): 12:39pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
I'm not surprised at the ladies really cos this is what most of them do,place a good guy on no sex relationship then spread there legs for idiots. 10 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by moneyhungry(m): 12:39pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
If I were you I'll walk away bro. That doubt will fvck with your mind for a long time, and probably ruin it all in the long run. A lady who really loves you would make it all easy, not complicated. Use your fvcking head!. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by NoToPile: 12:40pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
forzarush: Thank you. See them huffing and puffing coz of sex na wa oo Op I repeat the problem you have with this girl is sex and she is very smart to say no till marriage. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by jayloms: 12:40pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
lovelygurl: Nah! He only ------ d relative! So, darling, you go back and read |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by kullozone(m): 12:41pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
lovelygurl: All these "girls" are just replying without brain and alot of emotion. Just look at what this one wrote.... You're on the girl's side just because you're a girl like her, period! What a repulsive reply. 10 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by njimezz(m): 12:42pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Brother, you should be happy she did by telling you, that is showed that she loves you so dear, coz every girl has but do u refer to know after marriage which will be devastating. The question is her womb is still intact and probably her stil birth may be a mistake. Please don't listen what people will say just follow ur heart, she has confessed to you and you still love her, it shows that she will not hid any thing to you or did you prefer the one that appears like a saint at the end, you find out that 2 of ur children are not urs which one do u prefer brooooo 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by loswhite(m): 12:42pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:never fall for that scam no sex before marriage.... I am telling u from experience 3 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
kullozone: How childish and dumb of you |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by saasala(m): 12:43pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
lovelygurl: Who is this one calling o boy Am I your mate? |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by moneyhungry(m): 12:44pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
pocohantas:you're smart. 100% correct. 2 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by loswhite(m): 12:44pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:mugu 1 |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 12:44pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
This sex thing strong o Everyone seems to be thinking and talking and getting high on sex these days |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by fumiswtpusy(f): 12:45pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
lovelygurl:Because tribes affect us. More than you think. The behaviour of a biafran is diffrent from oduduwa and the northern illiterates. Before you will sleep with a biafran girl ss and se. She will know what she stands to gain,but a. Yoruba girl can sleep with you because of even groundnut. I am a yoruba girl and I know what I am saying. They call me fumi the first neat,brave and truthful Yoruba girl. 2 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by mctfopt: 12:46pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Frankyboy1: I owe you one bottle. Damn. You nailed it! 2 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nobody: 12:47pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
fumiswtpusy: Lmfao! Whaaat?! So many different personalities on nl |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
saasala: Grandpa, This is not how someone who wants to be worthy of respect talks saasala: |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by robosky02(m): 12:52pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Oyindidi: teacher, tell us more |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by rman: 12:56pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Frankyboy1: 1,000,000 LIKES! BULLS EYE! Nerdg 2 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by saasala(m): 12:56pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
lovelygurl: How else would I talk? If this dude was your brother, would you allow him marry a woman who thought he is not worthy of her body and refused him access to the cookies on several occasions, only for her to go fvck numerous d1cks somewhere, came back and still forming saint, still refusing the guy access to her body after she has had a miscarriage? |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Ukalejohn(m): 12:56pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
this is a two way thing 1.Either she's testing you to see how you'd reach or 2.she's a bi....tch |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Stallione(m): 12:58pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
madridguy:Lol,as if we had desame tin on our minds |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nobody: 1:00pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
saasala: He is not better than her in any way. You think she has not heard of how he goes around scratching every hole like a garbage man. It's either she's scared of being dumped afterwards or doesn't want to have sex before marriage, after the stillbirth issue. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Stallione(m): 1:01pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:On a 2nd taught,i think so,but ask her for sex b4 u conclude ur marriage plans first,lets see how u'l feel,if it feels good,go on my brother. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by bukas15(m): 1:02pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:op you deserve to be flogged. First of all, u cheated on her, commited an arbortion, nd you stil have the effontry to judge her. She got pregnant because the man was willing to marry her,if nt dt her famili objected. So u commited more sin than her nd desrve to be anged |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Badgers14: 1:03pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
lovelygurl: You are still missing the point.. From your comments you sound a bit biased.. Maybe defending the lady in question. Well, your opinion tho. But..... Op was simply worried about why the girl denied him sex and was having sex with other people. If the girl wanted to keep herself until marriage that's a different issue but this wasn't the case here... Didn't she like the op enough to have sex with him? Was he not good enough for her? What qUalities does the other guys posses that op lacked that made her have sex with them but not with Op. I think this is the puzzle op is trying to solve. 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by MissRaine69(f): 1:04pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Neither of you is perfect. You did pretty much the same thing but to someone else's daughter. Don't be a hypercrite and get upset over the situation as you are no better with your indiscretions I am sure you have had many. Hers is not a deep dark secret it was known its just the man's family where a hinderance. If they had not objected she would have been someone else's wife and not in your life. She was wrong to take the stance she did regarding sex but mistakes where made now what? No one comes without baggage even virgins. It's not for us to tell you marry her or not. Can you live with her past that's what's this is all about she also has to accept yours. If you still feel aggrieved about the sex thing then it's best you part. It's all or nothing. If you can move on from this then do so but you sir are in no position to be throwing stones at glass houses, as you are in one big glass house yourself. 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by cyberguy72(m): 1:05pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:Yes she's desperate for marriage.Plz look somewhere else for a partner,after spreading her legs for some many other guys(meanwhile denying you that genuinely loved her)My guy just chop ur own and waka |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by ogahug: 1:05pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
[quote author=Nerdg post=58705698]She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months. The background. I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up. We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again. We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives. The issue: I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind. Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it. Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that. Note, we haven't had sex till now. About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it. Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month. I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned. Please should I still go on with this marriage? somewhere Her getting pregnant must have been a regrettable mistake. However, she was courageous to keep the pregnancy though she suffered a still birth. Guy, if you love her and you are at home with her virtues, then go for her and marry her without any delay. She has just scored 'A' in sincerity which is very good. I sincerely commend her for refusing you sex when you made advances on her because if she had yielded you would have impregnated her, aborted the baby and dumped her. You are only considering her now because she looks chaste. Maybe God actually allowed all that passed to make her available for you today. If you leave, then you will go and look for another angel somewhere else |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Sanchez01: 1:09pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
YelloweWest:I hate sharing opinions on issues as this but I could not just resist seeing your post. All you wrote are assumptions and you somehow found a way to make it look good to the point that you asked him to go ahead and marry her. I totally disagree. 1. Sex was always an issue with them and led to break up on several occasions. Possible Meaning: Her moral compass must be golden or perhaps she never really lived the dude and never found him sexually attractive. 2. She dated her campus boyfriend for four years BUT got pregnant for ANOTHER. Note the 'ANOTHER' is neither the OP nor the campus boyfriend whom she dated while in school, assuming her course is a four year course. Possible Meaning: There is no way I would believe she dated her campus love for four years without having sex with him. 3. She got pregnant for another man and made up her mind to keep it against her parents wishes. Sadly, she lost it 7 months after. Meaning: This is the man she loves. A lady could do something crazy that would beat one's imagination for just that one dude and you would get to wonder why. The answer is simple. The man is definitely the only one person her life revolves around. How about we also ask why she never continued with the man after she lost the baby? My submission: Attraction of all forms matter in relationship. She never really loved the OP was never attracted to him. For reasons, I believe it is safe to say nothing has changed. She strikes me as one of these ladies who prioritise marriage as the ultimate and would not be bothered to settle down immediately. The red flag here is that she would likely bring the 'no sex' form forward to be filled like she did in the past while she didn't waste time in giving others. The OP was never really a back up plan even. He is the next available bus she could hop into. 6 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Sterope(f): 1:09pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Don't mind the people defending him. That was why I ignored them. Amberon11: 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by ogahug: 1:10pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg: Her getting pregnant must have been a regrettable mistake to her. However, she was courageous to keep the pregnancy though she suffered a still birth. Guy, if you love her and you are at home with her virtues, then go for her and marry her without any delay. She has just scored 'A' in sincerity which is very good. I sincerely commend her for refusing you sex when you made advances on her because if she had yielded you would have impregnated her, aborted the baby and dumped her. You are only considering her now because she looks chaste. Maybe God actually allowed all that passed to make her available for you today. If you leave, then you will go and look for another Angel somewhere else. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by cyberguy72(m): 1:10pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
NoToPile:But she has been giving it to other guys na. |
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