| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by colonel007(m): 8:19pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Op, how old is ur prospective wife  |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Yemea1: 8:19pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me I don't think she is ripe for marriage because marriage is an institution for two people start and setup meaning just you and I. So what you decisions. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by kelvo585: 8:21pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Pls rethink b4 going Into that marriage. Don't marry out of what people will say. If that's the kind of marriage you wish for,? go ahead. But if not, you beta start running b4 it will b 2 late. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Phi001(m): 8:21pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
I'm willing to bet that a large portion of the people giving advice have not married...
Me, I'm just here to read comments... |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by bravehost4u(m): 8:22pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Richy4:
You did what u feel was right @ that moment...
Your sister inlaw was a classy young woman too I must say, she left when she was supposed to..Maybe She never knew her coming will be a problem,maybe she felt her sister will sort u out...But she got it wrong.. Some ladies would have stayed even when they knew they were not welcomed..
If u have a younger bro, or Sis, just expect a cold welcome from your wife anytime they step into your house..it will never be forgotten...
U mistakenly broke an unwritten code that most women held with high esteem especially from the Eastern part of Nigeria....They always want to show that they are comfortable in their husband's house and their relatives are welcome to stay for sometime..I guess that was why she was mad @ u
Just say u were sorry bro.. with a peace offering like earring, or perfume etc.
U. Will live long. Such wisdom |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by sddiamond: 8:23pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this?
1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house?
Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up.
Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup
Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer
Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace! 
Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here.
In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!!
Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh
She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation.
Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults.
If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example.
Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante.
Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog.
Good luck o.
By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework.
God bless you, let's call a spade a spade the guy is at fault here and should grow up. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by gidjah(m): 8:24pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
husband and wife matter can really bring out the foolishness in one, you would begin to wonder atimes,"n.a. me be ds"??!!! 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by ExInferis(m): 8:25pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me Two words: Leave her. She already has no respect for you, and a husband is not a man without respect. Dump her fukking ass and get someone else. And be quick about it. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nov6(m): 8:25pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Richy4:
You did what u feel was right @ that moment...
Your sister inlaw was a classy young woman too I must say, she left when she was supposed to..Maybe She never knew her coming will be a problem,maybe she felt her sister will sort u out...But she got it wrong.. Some ladies would have stayed even when they knew they were not welcomed..
If u have a younger bro, or Sis, just expect a cold welcome from your wife anytime they step into your house..it will never be forgotten...
U mistakenly broke an unwritten code that most women held with high esteem especially from the Eastern part of Nigeria....They always want to show that they are comfortable in their husband's house and their relatives are welcome to stay for sometime..I guess that was why she was mad @ u
Just say u were sorry bro.. with a peace offering like earring, or perfume etc.
walahi you have sense this boi |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Ichietome: 8:27pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this?
1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house?
Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up.
Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup
Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer
Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace!
Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here.
In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!!
Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh
She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation.
Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults.
If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example.
Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante.
Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog.
Good luck o.
By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework.
Shut up Just shut up |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by sddiamond: 8:29pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
jashar:
you're not yet married.
you're living together.
your 'future sister-in-law' even had the effrontery to pack load and come stay with you guys.
her parents know you're not yet married and they let another child of theirs come and live with you.
there's a young child also living with you and getting certain impressions.
Na wa ooo... who told you that they're not married? na must say person go do church wedding? Once you don pay dowry, my brother you've married says the bible. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nov6(m): 8:31pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this?
1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house?
Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up.
Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup
Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer
Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace!
Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here.
In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!!
Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh
She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation.
Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults.
If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example.
Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante.
Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog.
Good luck o.
By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework.
another person with plenty sense.... I really enjoyed reading your comment,man. You have just said it all... It is finished,nothing for me to add |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Gourdoinc(m): 8:34pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Nma27:
Only a woman you are in love with can bother you Where did you get that from biko it's true Na. a penny u don't care about can't ever bother you. love breeds weakness. the moment you are in love you automatically become weak. guess I am teaching ya |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Gourdoinc(m): 8:36pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
[quote author=Aleora post=59088625][/quote] why and how will he regret it. break it down for me |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by delors(m): 8:36pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me You know bro, I think u were wrong. I see u emphasized 6k which u used to get the gas...thats burnt u to scold ur cousin that way. I'm just placing myself in ur shoes, I wouldn't scold my cousin. I'd rather just go, 'Oh wow. Next time just use the electric kettle. It's faster." No anger. No annoyance. Say it nicely and carry face. U want to ruin ur urself because of 6k gas abi? Unless there are other things about ur wife I think u over reacted and u should apologise to her. It will be hard for her fam to like u this way and when that happens, ur marriage will last a day longer than Tontoh Dikeh's. On the other hand, ur wife needs to learn to control her anger and how she talks to u. U must have seen this all the while u were dating and still went warhead with marriage plans so to say u want to cancel the wedding now will be ur biggest undoing. Apologise to her. Get her a gift. Then travel to ur sister in-laws camp and give her a surprise. And apologise to her as well in a mature way. Give her a hug. Crack jokes about her sneaking out of camp etc. Love, understanding and forgiveness conquer all. Act like a man. Peace. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by nemadfsyahooc: 8:37pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Retrace ur steps back fast if u want to live long. author=Plankton2017 post=59013212]Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me[/quote] |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Donjazzy12(m): 8:37pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me Divorce her now! Or else , regret it for the rest of your life. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by gaventa: 8:37pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Is your Wife from Anambra? |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by goodmorning40: 8:41pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Op ur at fault
U are the type that will carry tape rule to measure out portion of yam to be cooked
Kitchen matters are ur wife affairs when u saw the pots of water u should have quietly gone to ur wife to talk about it and let her do the scolding to ur cousin 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by ifyokwu(f): 8:42pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this?
1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house?
Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up.
Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup
Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer
Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace!
Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here.
In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!!
Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh
She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation.
Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults.
If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example.
Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante.
Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog.
Good luck o.
By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework.
this is the best advice so far, I was actually angry after reading op message but with dis advice, I have learn to relax nd think about an issue before reacting to it. Kudos to u |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by livinglove(m): 8:44pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
My brother, you need to learn that women own the house if peace must reign.
If you like pay 1m for rent, or work so hard to build the house, na them get the house.
I didnt like the fact that u allowed that to happen.
You could have calmed down n get to the bottom of the whole issue.
It is even possible that your wife didnt support her sister coming or she might not even be aware.
Wisdom is profitable to direct bro.
See, the rule that applies to marriage A will not be applicable to B.
You must learn how to deal with issues like that because you wont be informed b4 things happen all the time.
And if you have to live peacefully in your marriage, you must welcome your inlaws anytime.
Forget what people say about no one can come unless invited.
To me, you need to apologise to your wife if you truly love her.
You took a wrong approach to solving the issue.
You should have even called the sister in law to ask her what happened because whether you like it or not, she has became your sister.
If your sister comes to the house without telling you , will
you send her out without knowing what happened.
It is not about who is the Lord of the house or not.
It could even be a test to you.
Let me stop here.....
Please beg her in my own opinion. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Apina(m): 8:45pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me My brother, I'm not trying to be negative but the truth is, u might never know or have peace of mind if u go ahead with this trap u are trying to freely with ur two eyes wide open fall into. U owe Urself happiness first before any stranger u feel u might offend if u choose not to go through with it, they will be the same people to point fingers when it all goes sour. It's a slap on ur face to have asked her sister to come to ur house without ur permission, if she cannot respect u on something as minute as this what will happen when u officially marry her; perhaps bring in her entire family without ur consent or even not need ur permission either to go out or stay outside ur home. If she cannot listen to u or take to ur words before marriage, do u think she will ever listen to u after? |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by fof1: 8:46pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me PLS PUT UR MARRIAGE ON HOLD AND REASSESS UR SUITABILITY SINCE NEW EVIDENCE OF INCOMPATABILITY IS SHOWING UP. WOMEN ARE A BIG PROBLEMS TO HUMANITY. ONLY GOD TRULY KNOWS D VERY HEART OF A WOMAN. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by bigtt76(f): 8:52pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Sad but the truth is why marriage counsellors advise couples to live in a room and parlour arrangement so as to discourage family members always visiting to stay. It breeds discontentment. Apologize to your wife even though you're wrong and let peace reign. Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Pedrocross4568(m): 8:52pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Pidgin2:
OP, you are mean mean as in how? |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by shoboy9: 8:53pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Bros, run for your life!
This kind of stuff has happened to many. Today they are wife beaters with only regret as dividend of marriage. But their case is better than yours because they are already married. She is already like this before marriage, i shudder to think what you will face if you tie the knot. If you think you cant live without her or feel obligated, give her space and postpone the wedding. Tell her your concerns and see if she will change or just fake something so she can have someone to provide for her. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Intrepid01(m): 8:53pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Jahblessme:
Gosh!! where do i start from What kind of local story is this?
1. Your wife should have discussed with you first before her sister visited you both-she was very wrong but everything after that made you look so petty.You were counting water used to bathe and asking your cousin helper to report to you first? If she wants to eat eggs will that also be reported to you?Do you also measure yam with ruler in your house?
Your actions have sown a very bad seed - belittling your SIL & your wife.I do not blame your wife for being very angry but she should have cooled off first and expressed her annoyance to you without flaring up.
Just a quick question OP,if your sister visits and your wife tells your little cousin to report to her first before doing anything she asks for nko?How would that sit with you?Just know your wife will never forget,be ready for your siblings to recieve the same hot soup
Yes,you should have been told before her sis landed ,but the deed had already been done.You should have controlled yourself instead of acting like a miserable being.What did your SIL do wrong?she probably thought she was coming to visit human beings who would treat her well not knowing her husband is a hot water measurer
Best approach would have been to discuss the issue with your spouse quietly.See disgrace!
Your wife raised her voice,you raised your own too,asked her to leave your room.'Yoour Room'??!!! i thought you both are married? I cant even believe what i'm reading here.
In the same sentence you talked about not wanting to be a woman beater.I do not see any reason why beating should come into this abi you normally beat or you were raised by a beater?Violence should not be an option.ah ahhh!!!
Both of you displayed shameful behavior and i don't blame your SIL for leaving,you disgraced her infront of your cousin helper,you disgraced your wife,your wife as disgraced you & you have made her feel unwelcome. Tueh
She will go and tell the story to family members who already don't like you and you will officially enter hate list with tattered reputation.
Please do the world a favour and delay this wedding till you both learn to behave like adults.
If you want to be the leader of your home you must learn to conduct yourself with dignity and self respect.You have to lead by example.
Discussions can be had without raising of voices.If your wife starts to shout,tell her you won't listen till she calms down and addresses you like an adult.I also expect her to do the same to you.That way you both will learn to trust each other and start building your little unit,she will also stop seeing the need to tell every little deed to her family as you will become her best friend and confidante.
Normally you should be in honeymoon phase but you people are already acting like cat and dog.
Good luck o.
By the way the way you worded little cousin and 2 big pots are you trying to imply that the girl is too little to do chores in general or specifically chores for SIL? If she is little,ideally she shouldn't be in your home doing housework.
Take it from me; your comment radiates intelligence. You should be a counsellor. May God continue to bless your wisdom.....O God my father, bless me with wisdom and intelligence like that of King Solomon IJN. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by bolrew: 8:57pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Run for your dear life my brother... |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by YelloweWest: 8:59pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me The success in every home is when both husband and wife know their jurisdiction and play their part accordingly. Op u are a man. Learn to over look things that pertains to kitchen matter. It was wrong of you to instruct ur cousin to inform you first if your sister in-law wants anything. U could simply have told her next time she should use electric kettle instead of gas. Be a man and remove ur eye from women matter. For a happy home. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by Nobody: 9:00pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Gourdoinc:
it's true Na. a penny u don't care about can't ever bother you. love breeds weakness. the moment you are in love you automatically become weak. guess I am teaching ya Woman never frustrate you before. I disagree with u. Unless you both are separated, fine. But a woman can give u hell when u both are under d same roof... This has nofin to do with love. |
| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by praiz01: 9:01pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Plankton2017:
Good day fellow NL,
Please judge this case. Last week thursday my sister inlaw visited me and my wife from NYSC camp. I was shocked when I welcomed her because it was no ordinary visit. she came with a full ghana must go. We greeted and I got to know that she escaped from camp due to the tough tasks on camp. My wife never told me her sister was coming to stay. We have lived amicably till yesterday.
My lil cuzin that stays and helps us with chores was mandated by her to cook 2 big pots of water for her to bath. I scolded my cousin and told her why didnt she use the electric kettle so as to save gas which we just replaced with 6k. I now gave her a warning that whatever my inlaw wants that she should ask me 1st. I even got to know that my wife lied to me that her parents knew she left camp. My wife heard our conversation and started antagonizing me that why did I tell my cuz to always ask me b4 she obeys her sister. she was shouting at the top of her voice even my inlaw could hear. This angered me and I shouted back and told her to leave my room. she continued shouting and even slept in the sitting room as I slept alone.
This afternoon while working on my computer for hours I came out of the room only to find out my sister in law has packed her things back to her NYSC camp without telling me but my wife knows....I am slatted to officially do my white wedding next saturday. I just feel down because we quarell too much and my wife talks in a domineering way. I have warned her about it and I do not want to turn a woman beater. Any quarell we have she tells her parents and siblings which make them never free with me and act cold towards me. Damn it! pls advice me 1 Like 
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| Re: My Wife's Sister Sneaked Out Of NYSC Camp & Came Into Our House, This Happened by YelloweWest: 9:02pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
Pidgin2:
OP, you are mean Very mean and immature. What business dose I man have with kitchen matters  2 Likes |
