TheArchangel:
How can a man speak for a woman?


You say women are very emotional and have sex with emotions attached?.....well ......where does this analysis placed the rungirls and the prostitutes or are they not women.?
Women enjoys sex much more than men, it is just the society that made it seem otherwise.

The write up included some percentage, this means it is not a generalization.

The average woman is emotional while the average man is lustrous. This doesn't mean momen are not lustrous na men are not emotional. These are just behavioral tendancies and i quite agree with the research.

I have a friend who cheats on daily basis with different girls but he still loves and respect his wife. Everything he does for a girl he sleeps with, he makes sure his wife enjoys twice that. It takes a heartless woman to do what this guy is doing. The kind of woman that could kill her husband. These kind of women are few.

This write up is one bs. It is nothing except just to appeal to man's emotions.

YelloweWest:

But I just gave her money!! More money than she will ever be able to make on the streets!!!

It's not about the money. Its the trill!! The excitment of being with a new man everyday! You think some women dont enjoy that kind of stuff??
You think it's only men who are excited about new pusssy??
Are u even aware that women enjoy sex more than men??
Dude u have a whole lot of learning to do about women.
I advise u to read about the sexuality of a women written by a WOMAN!!

First of all, are you a man or a woman? Secondly, yes, I do know for a fact that "most" women enjoy sex more than men.

About you just giving her all the money in the world, she most definitely won't go out the next day, she will go out to get another man when the money starts being to reduce. And if she goes out the next day (which is unlikely), she will be looking for a man that can give her more than that 100 million. Trust me, most prostitutes don't enjoy sex with their customers the way you think they do. Only the money they receive for the sex makes them happy. That is why they turn to monsters if you try to shortchange them after their services. We have seen that happen many times with stories that make nairaland front page.

And about you asking me to read about women. What do I need theory for when I have a wealth of experience? I once lived with two runs girls for 2 years. I have had multiple partners. Trust me, I know how women think.

DeepSight:


Whats wrong with you. Are you so dimwitted you cannot see that exactly the same can and in fact does happen to married men with a female lover outside the marriage? ? ? ? ? ? ?

Why do you see things only from the male perspective, that is just dumb.

Female lover outside marriage might not Carry the same weight as you suggested especially in African setting that permits a man for more than one wife if he can afford to take care of them

So he can basically bring in home the one he is cheating with rather than terminating or running away from his first marriage which is not applicable to women
.

adanny01:


The write up included some percentage, this means it is not a generalization.

The average woman is emotional while the average man is lustrous. This doesn't mean momen are not lustrous na men are not emotional. These are just behavioral tendancies and i quite agree with the research.

I have a friend who cheats on daily basis with different girls but he still loves and respect his wife. Everything he does for a girl he sleeps with, he makes sure his wife enjoys twice that. It takes a heartless woman to do what this guy is doing. The kind of woman that could kill her husband. These kind of women are few.

Bros do you know there are cultures in some parts of the world were women are allowed the liberty to have multiple partner, and in such situations can not be regarded as more emotional than men? The illusion that women are more emotional than men is created by our society. As a guy vow to your self that you will never cheat and stick to one woman and see if you won't get emotional. The society has force one woman to one man, but it allows a man to many women

QueenMarvella:
I dont cheat

Say God

Vutseck:


Female lover outside marriage might not Carry the same weight as you suggested especially in African setting that permits a man for more than one wife if he can afford to take care of them

So he can basically bring in home the one he is cheating with rather than terminating or running away from his first marriage which is not applicable to women
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Yeah sure, what could I have expected from an ignorant, illiterate, unexposed, antediluvian, ape-like, misogynistic, ill-cultured vulture such as you who is not worth more than the sweat from the balls of an orangutan.

Get lost, pervert.

2dice01:
Say God

Today is Sunday na
No lemme disturb God

QueenMarvella:




Today is Sunday na
No lemme disturb God

What does Sunday have to do with God?

I remember during my NYSC days, I met this fellow corper who was in a serious relationship, so she made me believe. 3 months into service year, I was able to break her away from her Bobo, who use to travel about 200 km to her every weekend, bringing money and provisions and all that for her. The next time she saw him after I inserted my SIM card, a big quarrel ensued between them... and I heard them shouting at each other from my room which was not very far away from hers. The guy was revolving between barking, crying, pleading, threatening, laughing and I could not understand him. He was almost going crazy, but she was firm, stating she is tired of their relationship, bla bla bla, giving ridiculous excuses.

When I asked her that evening what all that drama was for, she told me something I will never forget in my life, that-

IF A WOMAN WHO LOVES YOU 100% FALLS FOR SOMEONE ELSE AND THAT PERSON INSERTS HIS SIM CARD, THE LOVE THAT WOMAN HAS FOR YOU WILL REDUCE TO 50%... BUT IF A WOMAN LOVED YOU BETWEEN 50% TO 75% AND ANOTHER GUY SLEEPS WITH HER, THAT LOVE WILL GO STRAIGHT TO 0%.

She finally told me that since I slept with her, she hates to think she ever dated her (now ex ) boyfriend... and she just realized she never loved him.

FEAR WOMEN!!!!

Blakjewelry:

Bros do you know there are cultures in some parts of the world were women are allowed the liberty to have multiple partner, and in such situations can not be regarded as more emotional than men? The illusion that women are more emotional than men is created by our society. As a guy vow to your self that you will never cheat and stick to one woman and see if you won't get emotional. The society has force one woman to one man, but it allows a man to many women

Christianity has forced one man to one man too but does not allow a man to many women.

The problem i see is gender inequality which God himself created. The Bible has records of men of God marrying more than one wife but has non on women. It is not our society that created this difference, its been so since the beginning of time.

When you go to a funeral, how many men do you see crying vs women crying.

Women are more emotional to men, its a fact of nature not just a societal gender inequality.

That's true bro.

NwaAmaikpe:



Misogyny everywhere on this write up.

This is just a myth which I have proven as untrue.
Papa Ramota's business started flourishing after his wife started sleeping with me.

Men have handed this myth down from generation to generation and ignorant women have accepted it.

The true reason behind this grand deception is to instill fear in wives and deter them from cheating or paying back a cheating husband in his own coin.


NOTE
The only time a cheating wife can kill you is if she goes out and contracts a killer disease or an STI.

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I'm so disappointed with the rating of your IQ (0.5%). You are indeed son of your tribe with your deficiency in thinking. I blame your parent for your improper upbringing.

Flashh:
You're talking offpoint to the thread.

This is all about "wife", who needs to be submissive to her husband, without distributing her body to other men. Not talking about women you aren't married to.

And the man should love his wife and that includes faithfulness to her and her only.

This is the way of an adulterous woman...she wipes her mouth and says I have done nothing wrong - Proverbs

This is extremely true

This is maybe a bit off the thread. The astounding truth is that women enjoy s€x at least twice better than men. It took me almost two years of an active s€x life to know this. Since then, my mentality changed...I do the forming while she does the chasing. If she doesn't chase real hard, she would definitely lose me. Afterall, she is going to gain more than me when we hit the sack.

Lemme narrate a little situation. When I was a bit young, irresponsible and wayward, I once went to a brothel to cool off. By then, My gf and I were having issues, and I was just doing everything to get over her before things would get real bad. On getting there, I picked my choice and we did our thing.

Next thing, the girl brought her phone and asked for my digits, which I supplied. Before long, you might find it hard to believe- this prostitute girl would call to ask after me, with silly questions like "Have you eaten?", "What are you doing?" and "I miss you" forming our convo. I'm not the call type, so this stuffs would normally bore me. And they did. I even missed her calls on purpose.

That's not all. One day, when the n!gger was Hot, I just called her to schedule a till-day break moment with her. She obliged. And it was one of those kinky days that I won't forget in a hurry. But the funniest part is this-- she did not charge me any fixed price. All the while, I expected to hear her talk about her money. She never did.

So, in the morning, after all said and done, I looked into her eyes and asked her her price. I was seriously expecting an opportunist to have a field day when I asked this. But she surprised me more. She told me she would collect whatever I gave her. I didn't believe her. I tested her with #1,000 first. She collected and put in her bag. Finally, we left my place. When we got to where we would part ways, I gave her an unexpected 2k to add to what she had. She thanked me, kissed and waved goodbye. And till today, she calls me thrice or more what I call her. My close pals used to tease me that I would soon be bewitched into marrying her.

I'm sorry for the epistle, but I wanted to share a lesson: Guys, pull yourselves together and learn to control your lusts. S€x is overrated. Focus on grander projects. If the ladies are the ones who enjoy more during the act, then they should be the ones doing the wooing. Make una stop to dey behave like !d!ots abeg. And for those who send pms to ladies they have never seen, una dey shame me. A little more self-control, and your life would be easier than now.

adanny01:


Christianity has forced one man to one man too but does not allow a man to many women.

The problem i see is gender inequality which God himself created. The Bible has records of men of God marrying more than one wife but has non on women. It is not our society that created this difference, its been so since the beginning of time.

When you go to a funeral, how many men do you see crying vs women crying.

Women are more emotional to men, its a fact of nature not just a societal gender inequality.

You don't have to use the Bible as yardstick since there are other religions and their beliefs. I have seen a place in China were it is their culture for girls of the ripe age to pick any man of her choice, even if she gets pregnant her family owns the child and she can have any man wants and there is nothing wrong with it. And on the issue of women crying at burial place, trust me, when you lost your love ones you whether a man or a woman will want to cry your eyes out, but the society expect you to hold your self as a man, I am speaking from experience

If you don't satisfy your wife sexually, some might not cheat on you but will lose interest during intercourse with you. Only downing to please you

QueenMarvella:




Today is Sunday na
No lemme disturb God

hehehe

I said say God

You did already in your sentence

Exactly what i wanted you to type

So in other words men don't have a reason to cheat, they just do it for the fun?, in your own words "to burn sexual urge ",which their wives can't quench alone cos it's too much and will need him inserting his dick in random pussies to quench it?and I guess when you are hungry you can also eat anything ?.
Please what truth? ,cos I know alot of people don't even know what love means so they use it so loosely just like the writer. Now let me ask, do you love yourself?, i assume your answer will be yes, can you in all honesty say you love someone else with that same way you love yourself?, and not because some hormones in your body can't seem to make you think straight, cos it seems love has been emotionalised in this century,so when you are angry the love disappears,when you are horney the love disappears.
And you think married men don't do same?, hahahaha, wake up, I know many married men who live double lives just for pussy, one I met just got married four months prior to when we met and he was claiming bachelor, thank God for facebook, my instincts told me to search for him. I can tell you of many other cases I know. Now can you tell me that a man who can go that length to deny his wife and child is sane?.
When a writer now wants to base the consequences of cheating on gender then it spells doom for the institution called marriage on which fundamentals such as faithfulness,loyalty, responsibilities and love etc is built

kay29000:


The truth is bitter, and because of the emotional nature of most women, you will never believe this post, but it has a lot of truth to it.

You say how did he know how women behave when he is not a woman. Are human beings Lions? Are we goats? Are we whales? But we know how all these animals behave from close observation over periods of time. The man that wrote that posts is a psychologist, so he must have done some research before saying all that.

Asking if you can love someone and still go ahead hurting them... Men don't see sex the way women see it. Most see it as just a way to get rid of that burning sexual urge. It can be described as how someone just wants to eat when hungry. After eating, does that person cuddle the yam he ate? Or just walks away to do other things.

Let me tell you a short story. Early this year, I met a girl on nairaland, and we started chatting, till over a couple of weeks, we kind of developed feelings for each other. When she came to my house, we had sex. Later that day, I found out she was married. I called to blast her on the phone for deceiving me and making me like her without telling me she was married. She then apologized and said she really liked me and that I wouldn't have wanted to be her friend if I had known she was married. She later asked if I would marry her if she left her husband. The husband doesn't give her attention and is never around. You think that kind of woman can't kill her husband?

frenzyduchess:
So in other words men don't have a reason to cheat, they just do it for the fun?, in your own words "to burn sexual urge ",which their wives can't quench alone cos it's too much and will need him inserting his dick in random pussies to quench it?and I guess when you are hungry you can also eat anything ?.
Please what truth? ,cos I know alot of people don't even know what love means so they use it so loosely just like the writer. Now let me ask, do you love yourself?, i assume your answer will be yes, can you in all honesty say you love someone else with that same way you love yourself?, and not because some hormones in your body can't seem to make you think straight, cos it seems love have been emotionalised in this century,so when you are angry the love disappears,when you are horney the love disappears.
And you think married men don't do same?, hahahaha, wake up, I know many married men who live double lives just for pussy, one I met just got married four months prior to when we met and he was claiming bachelor, thank God for facebook, my instincts told me to search for him. I can tell you of many other cases I know. Now can you tell me that a man who can go that length to deny his wife and child is sane?.
When a writer now wants to base the consequences of cheating on gender then it spells doom for the institution called marriage on which fundamentals such as faithfulness,loyalty, responsibilities and love etc is built

They are just trying to appeal to their emotions and justify cheating of men. Who said men don't attach emotions to who they cheat with?
Men that will leave their wives and go spend days with the girl? Some will marry the girl sef. If that's not emotional attachment, I don't know what it.

Blakjewelry:

You don't have to use the Bible as yardstick since there are other religions and their beliefs. I have seen a place in China were it is their culture for girls of the ripe age to pick any man of her choice, even if she gets pregnant her family owns the child and she can have any man wants and there is nothing wrong with it. And on the issue of women crying at burial place, trust me, when you lost your love ones you whether a man or a woman will want to cry your eyes out, but the society expect you to hold your self as a man, I am speaking from experience

Tell me what percentage of that culture is in the entire world. Do they constitute 1% of the population of the world?

To be able to generalize, tell me they are 90% of all the world population.

He is trying to justify the cheating man in a subtle way that only sane minds will be able to pick out. He is giving men who lack self-control a soft landing and trying to shift the consequences of adultery to a gender perspective,there by leaving mysgonist to a large feast while ignoring the subconscious effect it will have on both men and women .

ivolt:


The author is trying to separate love from loyalty, empathy
and responsibility, thus rendering the word empty and meaningless.

The author is sad that not all men cheat and again,
not every cheating man is proud of his action.

The aim of this article is to encourage marriage infidelity
and make cheating seem normal.

But the unintended consequence of this myopic article
is that women will also be turned into proud cheats which
will, in turn, derail the purpose of marriage.

There is a stigma attached to cheating men and women
in most societies, so these articles hope to change such
attitude by legitimizing irresponsibility.

kay29000:


First of all, are you a man or a woman? Secondly, yes, I do know for a fact that "most" women enjoy sex more than men.

About you just giving her all the money in the world, she most definitely won't go out the next day, she will go out to get another man when the money starts being to reduce. And if she goes out the next day (which is unlikely), she will be looking for a man that can give her more than that 100 million. Trust me, most prostitutes don't enjoy sex with their customers the way you think they do. Only the money they receive for the sex makes them happy. That is why they turn to monsters if you try to shortchange them after their services. We have seen that happen many times with stories that make nairaland front page.

And about you asking me to read about women. What do I need theory for when I have a wealth of experience? I once lived with two runs girls for 2 years. I have had multiple partners. Trust me, I know how women think.

You don't know how women think.
And I never said prostitutes enjoy the act of sex. I said it's the trill of advertising themselves and being with a new guy. It may not be the actual sex they enjoy...
There's a whole process from the moment a prostitute makes eye contact with a potential customer to actual intercourse.

Vutseck:


from cheating for money she discovers other areas her partner has falling short
.

why do you think they always want you to drop something after fucking them, once your pocket dry, their emotions move to another guy with fil pocket, why do you think they lust after Davido and see him as cute when he wasn't among top 10 cute artist....i currently start spending recently and already Bleep 3 girls on my own street alone

Mmmy:
This has to be the single dumbest thing i have ever read in my life and one of the compounding reasons i probably will not marry a Nigerian man. The effrontery, pretence and downright insult on women especially the first paragraph which baselessly and cruelly states that only an unfaithful woman can divorce her husband who cheats on her but a "faithful wife" should just take it until her starts physically beating her. I highly doubt you are a psychologist and if you are, please resign as you obviously have extreme biases. Cheating breaks trust and without trust, the marriage could crumble and is enough reason for a divorce.

Study was done in USA, by a USA professor and psychologist.
But somehow you have directed your frustration to Nigerian men

poshpimkiey:
The post is baseless, lacking any fact, research or perspective. Very misogynistic and myopic,

e pain am

QueenMarvella:
I dont cheat

ah, I see

They could be right, it could probably not be emotions but a sickness, you drop #500 for your wife for soup, go out and spend more than 20k for pussy, is that man not sick?.until we all realise that just like drug addiction there is sex addiction(which is a psychological disorder)
we will keep believing that it is a normal human behavior to display traits between the border line of a human and animal. Cos you can't act like pussy is the oxygen you need to stay alive and still think you are sane.
The writer subtly portrayed cheating men as normal and gave them a soft landing, if you even check the kind of people that are blind to the underlying consequences of this write up you will have an idea of the type of man the writer is

pocohantas:


They are just trying to appeal to their emotions and justify cheating of men. Who said men don't attach emotions to who they cheat with?
Men that will leave their wives and go spend days with the girl? Some will marry the girl sef. If that's not emotional attachment, I don't know what it.

YelloweWest:

You don't know how women think.
And I never said prostitutes enjoy the act of sex. I said it's the trill of advertising themselves and being with a new guy. It may not be the actual sex they enjoy...
There's a whole process from the moment a prostitute makes eye contact with a potential customer to actual intercourse.

You are concluding I don't know how women think when you don't even know me. Yet, you are describing how prostitutes think with such precision, and yet you are not a prostitute.

frenzyduchess:
They could be right, it could probably not be emotions but a sickness, you drop #500 for your wife for soup, go out and spend more than 20k for pussy, is that man not sick?.until we all realise that just like drug addiction there is sex addiction(which is a psychological disorder)
we will keep believing that it is a normal human behavior to display traits between the border line of a human and animal. Cos you can't act like pussy is the oxygen you need to stay alive and still think you are sane.
The writer subtly portrayed cheating men as normal and gave them a soft landing, if you even check the kind of people that are blind to the underlying consequences of this write up you will have an idea of the type of man the writer is

LOl. If this whole write up makes them happy, then let them be happy. It doesn't change the reality that lots of married women also cheat for the thrill and so many other reasons.

Monogamy is not easy abeg