Why didn't you want your in-laws to know you had a child outside wedlock?, cos they will not allow you marry their daughter? And the favour you were to get from them would have stopped? . The fact that you are an absentee father tells alot about your character

Two of u guys need deliverence.......

delishpot:


Better a deranged fowl than a dead dog like you. Karma visits your kind because you clearly have an evil mind.

Clap for yourself. She thinks she can 'buy' a husband. May your future wife 'buy' you while you lick her arse and that of your in-laws in appreciation. Let her tell us what she did to her womb. Always trying to play the victims.

delishpot:


Better a deranged fowl than a dead dog like you. Karma visits your kind because you clearly have an evil mind.

I can see your talent is knowing people's state of mind. I wish your father could see your post here...would just confirm his initial fears.

OP.. it's people like you that turn sweet souls into wicked souls.. let me analyze it for you.
First, you impregnated a lady, she gave birth to YOUR baby, you left her and married another.. probably you found fault in her, if not.. what stopped you from marrying her for the sake of your child. You even kept it a secret.. oh. you are ashamed of them? The abandonment is enough to lay a curse on you and your generation and now your wife is suffering the FATE with you.

Secondly.. you keep lamenting about how your wife shouts and nags, threatening to leave you and so on. The poor woman is reacting to what ever ILL actions you are putting on. Naturally ,a woman is prone to nag, it's a show of concern, it's left for you to find out the fault and fix it but no.... you jumped into conclusion that she is a bad woman, all of a sudden you remembered your baby mama and child. What sort of man a you?you even mentioned that you were warned about her, that mbaise women are bla bla bla... are you OK?. you are so unbelievable. You are the child here not her. you are a selfish man and you think you can eat your cake and still have it. You think the whole world revolves around you. what makes you think that getting back to your ex, will end your problems?, you will be adding more curses on your head, for those miscarriages your wife suffered

And lastly, the pains of evacuating the remains of a miscarried foetos is a pain out of this world and she went through it nine times,and you think it's an easy ordeal. That alone is supposed to make you show more concern,care and love towards her but you didn't, you told her you are tried of hearing it, as if she caused the misscarrges. probably all that pushed her to being a nag and acting out.. like l said you are so so damn selfish and wicked. its people like you that turn cats into lions.
Fix your marriage, unite with your daughter, ask for forgiveness from your baby mama, let her genuinely forgive you and maybe ,if she does, you will start seeing changes in your marriage. You are the problem here sir and not your wife
Thank you

This op smokes too much weed. Please, stop smoking what your brain cannot carry. If you cannot handle a woman, keep your prick in check.

emperormossad:

Clap for yourself. She thinks she can 'buy' a husband. May your future wife 'buy' you while you lick her arse and that of your in-laws in appreciation. Let her tell us what she did to her womb. Always trying to play the victims.

Mumu, how does that link to her womb? I don't have to surffer like you in your marriage na, I am not the type that will call my woman "washed up womb" because she has misscarriage. If she is bad she is bad and we deal with her bad character but I will not stoop so low to call her washed up womb. I don't roll dirty like you.

akpunda86:
What genesis genesis is that she has a loud voice and when she shouts irritates and pass me off.

I have a child out of wedlock is a secret between. She and i.i don't want no third party.but now her whole family knows,cool she will see more of kids out of wedlock.i just want her out of my life. I'm fed up

this is where you are getting it wrong

Don't hide your child
Let her always visit you
Support your wife
Talk to her about how you feel
Tell her not to involve family again
Appologize for trying to make d child a secret
Learn to appologize even when you are wrong or even right
Give your marriage another chance


It seems your mind is made up
But
Give love another chance

I'll start by saying you're an irresponsible father

How can you openly say you've not seen your own daughter for five good years,I guess you don't want to be a part of her life cuz you're not married to her mom .Be a man and do the right thing op

emperormossad:

I can see your talent is knowing people's state of mind. I wish your father could see your post here...would just confirm his initial fears.

But your father would be proud of you calling me a deranged fowl tho and calling a woman who experienced 9 miscarriages washed womb?

I am even afraid to marry
With all we see and read these days

vcente:
guy, be a man. stop acting like a kid, that rants online

Is better than designing her face though

akpunda86:
I had a child out of wedlock and when i met my wife, I told her and the mum and they said okay, five years into our marriage my wife told the sister, in fact all my secrets with my wife, the sister knows.

Not that she did it in private but made a call to her in my presence, was my life secret with her but now her whole family knows, even if they know bf, no problem but now making me to know they know, I just hate her.

The love i had for her died immediately, I see more as a room mate now as she irritates me, our kid just bond between us.

What happened......what is cause of problem, it's a pity but she has had 9 miscarriages and i told her I'm tired of hearing that news, well she flared up and said she be packing out, any small problem she packs her bag well i told her if she packs, i will go and bring my ex gf and daughter bk.

My marriage to her was a mistake, I'm just hating her everyday cos the worst i hate is my in-laws meddling in my affairs, Am i the first guy to have a kid out of wedlock, then why she threatening me.

For five years I have not seen my daughter but now i will, if my wife wants to go, she is free to go.

Oga mi, ur english is terrible. sombori cannot even understand where youre coming from, wich road you are takin and wher youre going. Pls edit dis abeg

elantraceey:
The rate at which love turn into hate in split seconds these days is amazing.


So you mean you didn't know she nags alot before you married her? She didn't show any disapproval of your child before you guys tied the knot? Did all this just start now?



Please you and your wife needs a counselor and you both are just perfect for each other, immature adults. There's little or nothing nl can do for you.

pls how old are u?ur comment is so stupid

ikechizoba:
OP.. it's people like you that turn sweet souls into wicked souls.. let me analyze it for you.
First, you impregnated a lady, she gave birth to YOUR baby, you left her and married another.. probably you found fault in her, if not.. what stopped you from marrying her for the sake of your child. You even kept it a secret.. oh. you are ashamed of them? The abandonment is enough to lay a curse on you and your generation and now your wife is suffering the FATE with you.

Secondly.. you keep lamenting about how your wife shouts and nags, threatening to leave you and so on. The poor woman is reacting to what ever ILL actions you are putting on. Naturally ,a woman is prone to nag, it's a show of concern, it's left for you to find out the fault and fix it but no.... you jumped into conclusion that she is a bad woman, all of a sudden you remembered your baby mama and child. What sort of man a you?you even mentioned that you were warned about her, that mbaise women are bla bla bla... are you OK?. you are so unbelievable. You are the child here not her. you are a selfish man and you think you can eat your cake and still have it. You think the whole world revolves around you. what makes you think that getting back to your ex, will end your problems?, you will be adding more curses on your head, for those miscarriages your wife suffered

And lastly, the pains of evacuating the remains of a miscarried foetos is a pain out of this world and she went through it nine times,and you think it's an easy ordeal. That alone is supposed to make you show more concern,care and love towards her but you didn't, you told her you are tried of hearing it, as if she caused the misscarrges. probably all that pushed her to being a nag and acting out.. like l said you are so so damn selfish and wicked. its people like you that turn cats into lions.
Fix your marriage, unite with your daughter, ask for forgiveness from your baby mama, let her genuinely forgive you and maybe ,if she does, you will start seeing changes in your marriage. You are the problem here sir and not your wife
Thank you

If all the crap he is spewing here is true, which I doubt, then op is a real devil. Not seeing his baby for five years is enough to earn him a curse.

LadySarah:


Hello dear,you can still work it out.listen very well.your wife is depressed and needs comfort,she needs to know that the man she married is still there.how can you tell her that you are tired of hearing she had a miscarriage,are you aware that some women have lost their lives and sanity because of one miscarriage let alone 9.Do you know what foeceful delivery is;pushing out a dead baby or evacuating the remains?

Go back and apologise to her,also tell her you will bring your other daughter to get to know his sibling.Theres no shame in having a child outside and you shouldnt have kept it a secret.
secondly,sit her down and tell her that whatever you happens within stays within...show her love,buy her gifts,you guys pray about it and top it with some romance.just fr a week and see the results.

I been think say na BigSarah type this thing I for say which time she get sense like this.

buchi4us:
take it easy bro. STOP threatening her with bringing in ur gf she might just kill you before she packs out. she need deliverance from spirit world and get in touch with ur baby and know how to take care of her if truly she's ur DNA. But give ur life to God there are many sides of the coin

Exactly
I just wanna believe op didn't sent the link

akpunda86:
Mbaise girls. I was warned.i must comment she is a good. Cook,a gud house. Wife but irritable. Nagger and her loud voice passes me off,not like that when we started. Other. Wise would have thrown her off.looking at her now passes me off.

I'm tired. Of her pleadings same for five years.

Well you have tried an mbaise girl, that is a disgruntled and moronic statement from your dusty blunt brain. Where u the only person that has married from that base? You don't even deserve a woman, you deserve an ape as a wife. After all the miscarriages which your rusty testes has failed to make a mark all you do is to blame her of your woes and lack of vitality to pregnant her. Now the World has heard your cry, go bring back that lady that has tied her to your village shrine from getting a baby. You have bn played but its late to tell you!!

There are two sides of every story.. Op you said you are tired of her... When you were saying your marriage vows.. Did u say for better for worse.. You think that is just mere words.. My dear rethink.. The fact that u came online to rant makes u the same as your wife who called her people to share the news. I bet u should be in your 30s and should act mature.. Both of you should settle things together.. And please stop that mbaise thing... Because no one chose his or her tribe, state or town when coming into this world.

Men be ranting more than women these days .

How long do you think you can keep your child a secret ? that truth must surely come to light someday Mr man ,so deal with it .

From all your rants here its cristal clear the kind of husband you are .

you've publicly passed judgment on yourself as the bad egg by your post .

your wife is hereby cleared of all accusations u leveled against her

Wish I could give you a thousand likes for this comment

delishpot:


Mumu, how does that link to her womb? I don't have to surffer like you in your marriage na, I am not the type that will call my woman washed womb because she has misscarriage. If she is bad she is bad and we deal with her bad character but I will not stoop so low to call her washed womb. I don't roll dirty like you.

delishpot:


But your father would be proud of you calling me a deranged fowl tho and calling a woman who experienced 9 miscarriages washed womb?

You need a soothsayer to tell you it's washed up? Ok tell me...why has she had 9? 9!!! Enlighten me.

Foolish man.

Wow, this is strong and at the same time deep.I am really at a loss as to what to pen down with regards to this marriage situation! Therefore, I will tread carefully, and be objective but will ask out of curiosity the reason you married your wife. This is because from a few experiences, I have come to know that when a situation not predicted arises, it is time to check the foundation or go back to the drawing board to see how the loopholes came about!

IhateInjustice:



You said two men claimed to be the father of the child, how are you sure that child is yours, have you done paternity test? I'm sure your desperation for a child is making you to hate your wife if not why considering your ex girlfriend now, you left her for a reason. Instead of loving and standing by your wife, you want to get back to your ex that cheated on you when you were dating her, you think she is more trustworthy than your wife?. If the daughter is truly yours, take care of her very well

fathers of his wife the bride

Some people for NL go like one comment wry support wry make sense. Them go scroll go down go like another comment again Weymouth dey against the first one they first liked. Indecision.

Alexus23:

If all the crap he is spewing here is true, which I doubt, then op is a real devil. Not seeing his baby for five years is enough to earn him a curse.

lmagine o? and he was seriously hiding it... who does that? only a selfish and wicked man. He was even talking about going back to hid ex,as if she will just opened her arms and embrace him after leaving them for 5whole years,,
more like returning to his vomitt, cause that's what he sees them as.

Engr1:
Two of u guys need deliverence.......

PairedDouble of them needs deliverance!!

delishpot:


Mumu, how does that link to her womb? I don't have to surffer like you in your marriage na, I am not the type that will call my woman "washed womb" because she has misscarriage. If she is bad she is bad and we deal with her bad character but I will not stoop so low to call her washed womb. I don't roll dirty like you.

Who gives a hoot about how you roll? Who you epp Keep encouraging your babe to have multiple abortions. Karma will visit you like it has visited her. Washed up womb gang coming here to form nonsense.

RETIREDMUMU:
just dump her sorry ass

she says every inch of ur secret with ur inlaw and u call that one wife


just go Bring back your first love with her daughter and kick that one out of ur life

Na advice u give him.so?

why didn't he marry the ex in the first place?

the guy himself get problem, the wife sef na problem square.

op types like a kid.

you sef...


I wantu sleep

emperormossad:

You need a soothsayer to tell you it's washed up? Ok tell me...why has she had 9? 9!!! Enlighten me.

Maybe she has fibroid which prevents implantation or hormonal imbalance such as progesterone problem which causes the body not to recognise the implanted embryo or his semen is not healthy or some other medical condition. Have you not seen a virgin having difficulty conceiving?

why would a sane man hide his kid because of marriage. you impregnated your girlfriend and probably refused to marry her,perhaps you thought she wasn't good enough for you. now you have married another lady, u want people to sympathize with you, did u think about nemesis when you dumped that lady? you couldn't even visit your daughter for good six years. smh