emperormossad:

Who gives a hoot about how you roll? Who you epp Keep encouraging your babe to have multiple abortions. Karma will visit you like it has visited her. Washed up womb gang coming here to form nonsense.

You just blabbing up and down did you hear that she aborted? That is the problem I have with your comment in the first place.

delishpot:


You just blabbing up and down did you hear that she aborted? That is the problem I have with your comment in the first place.

Do you need to be told? Use your brain. That tool has a function.
Emm...please stop masturbating on my mentions.

emperormossad:

Do you need to be told? Use your brain. That tool has a function.
Emm...please stop masturbating on my mentions.

If I want masturbate on your mention, I no go fit cum sef. È no Make sense.

akpunda86:
What genesis genesis is that she has a loud voice and when she shouts irritates and pass me off.

I have a child out of wedlock is a secret between. She and i.i don't want no third party.but now her whole family knows,cool she will see more of kids out of wedlock.i just want her out of my life. I'm fed up

Very funny guy.
She should not tell her family that you have a child? Who should she tell?
Am sure you did something that provoked her.
So oga,what did you do to her?

The mistake she made was ever accepting not to tell them .

delishpot:


If I want masturbate on your mention, I no go fit cum sef. È no Make sense.

[color=#006600][/color]. Bros sombori cannot play with you again. Lolz

i wrote this story when i was boiling,i have forgotten it and now nairaland bringing it up to front page,

Ok the ladies have all insulted me THANK YOU.Welli told my wife before marriage that i havea kid outside and i told the mum.just the two,but if the mum goes ahead and tells the sistas and brodas,i dont know but my little daugter called me and my wife flamed up and said that its not only her that i have that i have many kids outside.

WELL SHE HAS APOLOGISED SINCE BUT AS ALWAYS WILL DO AGAIN ANODA ONE.ITs not her fault for the miscarriages but its painful and having physchological effects on me.

For the ladies that insulted meand are insulting me thank you,
for the men that understand thank u

for my wife i love her but her nagging irritates me

Thank u all hope she changes ,im too old for all her naggs,wanna liveand die in peace,thank u all.
my name is akpunda but her nagg makes me weak

akpunda86 update us now.. Have you guys settled

You sound highly immature op....whiny and all that

akpunda86:
I had a child out of wedlock and when i met my wife, I told her and the mum and they said okay, five years into our marriage my wife told the sister, in fact all my secrets with my wife, the sister knows.

Not that she did it in private but made a call to her in my presence, was my life secret with her but now her whole family knows, even if they know bf, no problem but now making me to know they know, I just hate her.

The love i had for her died immediately, I see more as a room mate now as she irritates me, our kid just bond between us.

What happened......what is cause of problem, it's a pity but she has had 9 miscarriages and i told her I'm tired of hearing that news, well she flared up and said she be packing out, any small problem she packs her bag well i told her if she packs, i will go and bring my ex gf and daughter bk.

My marriage to her was a mistake, I'm just hating her everyday cos the worst i hate is my in-laws meddling in my affairs, Am i the first guy to have a kid out of wedlock, then why she threatening me.

For five years I have not seen my daughter but now i will, if my wife wants to go, she is free to go.

First and foremost you owe your child financial, emotional and spiritual attention.(1 Timothy 5:8, Deuteronomy 6:6-9). You should never have abandoned your child. The white man says, " Love me, love my dog..

Your wife seems desperate to have a child and may be very insecure due to that affect. 9 miscarriages is highly demoralising and its time you opted for a fertility clinic. This is worsened by your being tired of this miscarriages. That is blaming it on her. This is cruel and insensitive and would leave heartbroken and angry.

Confess your love to her and promise to stand by her whether rain or shine. Remember, it is for better for worse. It is a vow you made before God! Read Eccl 5:4-6.

Next, tell her you want to have a relationship with your child.

That by neglecting her and even telling her to keep it a secret was a sin against God!(1 Timothy 5:. Anyway, any relationship should be properly balanced putting in the interest of your wife and the interest

I can counsel you for a small fee....and ur home will once again become heaven on earth


Call the number on my signature

KreativGenius:




You're a mature man. You're doing the same thing your wife did, in fact, yours in worse.This shouldn't be in public domain. Please delete this thread fast and deal with this privately please

Dude is a baby in an adult's body. I can't stand flippant men. Act and stop being loquacious.

akpunda86:
What genesis genesis is that she has a loud voice and when she shouts irritates and pass me off.

I have a child out of wedlock is a secret between. She and i.i don't want no third party.but now her whole family knows,cool she will see more of kids out of wedlock.i just want her out of my life. I'm fed up

please man up. I believe intervention of someone as a mediator will help between you guys, do not say such a thing like fed up with her. come to terms and also bring your first daughter to visit, they'll get to know each other and as a mother she might definitely love your child, and that might create as strong bond between you guys. please you need a counselor, and sincerely you need space and time to cool down.

Shut up! no big deal about ur love child.u hates her because of the several miscarriages... She probably told her family after she might have founds out d causes of her miscarriages.ur marriage needs God intervention

ikechizoba:
OP.. it's people like you that turn sweet souls into wicked souls.. let me analyze it for you.
First, you impregnated a lady, she gave birth to YOUR baby, you left her and married another.. probably you found fault in her, if not.. what stopped you from marrying her for the sake of your child. You even kept it a secret.. oh. you are ashamed of them? The abandonment is enough to lay a curse on you and your generation and now your wife is suffering the FATE with you.

Secondly.. you keep lamenting about how your wife shouts and nags, threatening to leave you and so on. The poor woman is reacting to what ever ILL actions you are putting on. Naturally ,a woman is prone to nag, it's a show of concern, it's left for you to find out the fault and fix it but no.... you jumped into conclusion that she is a bad woman, all of a sudden you remembered your baby mama and child. What sort of man a you?you even mentioned that you were warned about her, that mbaise women are bla bla bla... are you OK?. you are so unbelievable. You are the child here not her. you are a selfish man and you think you can eat your cake and still have it. You think the whole world revolves around you. what makes you think that getting back to your ex, will end your problems?, you will be adding more curses on your head, for those miscarriages your wife suffered

And lastly, the pains of evacuating the remains of a miscarried foetos is a pain out of this world and she went through it nine times,and you think it's an easy ordeal. That alone is supposed to make you show more concern,care and love towards her but you didn't, you told her you are tried of hearing it, as if she caused the misscarrges. probably all that pushed her to being a nag and acting out.. like l said you are so so damn selfish and wicked. its people like you that turn cats into lions.
Fix your marriage, unite with your daughter, ask for forgiveness from your baby mama, let her genuinely forgive you and maybe ,if she does, you will start seeing changes in your marriage. You are the problem here sir and not your wife
Thank you

thanks for this post,u just speak my mind

selfish man! dts wt you are. dt woman deserves better dn all ds ur nagging n ranting. a woman had miscarriage 9 times for u n u came here talking nonsense. U must be an idiot.

my guy u are curse the worst thin any man/woman can do is to hide his/her blood

akpunda86:
What genesis genesis is that she has a loud voice and when she shouts irritates and pass me off.

I have a child out of wedlock is a secret between. She and i.i don't want no third party.but now her whole family knows,cool she will see more of kids out of wedlock.i just want her out of my life. I'm fed up

seriously, you ain't sounding like a matured someborry.

I think the problem is you and not your wife.

OP,you fall our hand.You noh be correct guy at all.
First,the paternity of your first child dey in doubt.Because of am,dem stop the traditional marriage to your now baby mama.That means the moral status of your baby mama get k-leg.The same lady you dey disturb sey you wan bring back.
Secondly,you get the liver to ABANDON your child(make we just believe sey na your own o)for five good years.Oh boy,you get mind like Evans the Kidnapper o.
Wetin be secret sey you get pikin before you marry.You noh break Guinness Book of Record na.
I be dey think sey the secret na sey like 15 girls don do abortion for you before you marry.
Thirdly,you come Nairaland dey yab your wife about the miscarriages.Oh boy,dem suppose commot that John Thomas wen dey in between your legs.You noh fit to be man.
You fall our hand(Men).Who dey happy sey he wife get miscarriage.
Women tend to be stubborn sometimes,but as guy man,just overlook them and let them have their way.When dem don hit the brickwall, you go then tell them sey abi I tell you before.
You dey complain about she dey threaten to sack you.Bone that marra,we na human beings.She wan tell you sey she get small 'egba' too.
Guy,you need man up.Your brokos need to ripe well.
The headline of your post na sey she betray your trust.Of which,there is no secret.E just be like ostrich.No correct guy man go hide he pikin from his soon-to-be wife and in-laws.
I just dey observe you(through your comments)sey you don tire for the marriage.
The grass is always greener outside.
How you take sure sey your ex noh go do times 10.After all,some other guys come drag your pikin.
Marriage na work where you dey learn on the job.It has its own peculiarity.How e take work for you fit noh work for me.
But the bottom line is that you suppose love your wife.And that comes with tolerance and overlooking many things.
As for the in-laws marra,na to discuss the marra with her after normal Adam and Eve play for night.
Abeg,make plan to go Calabar Festival this December make you and your wifey do second honeymoon.

akpunda86:
Just answer me is it right. For a wife to divulge hubby secrets to an elderly sista.

I'm a consultant. To her uncle firm and she dry threaten me by placing prank calls. To her uncle.

We were advised to remove a dead foetus but my wife carried it for weeks and went with the sista to oyedepo.prayed for her still na me carry her go hospital. For evacuation. My words don't. Stand nd her family. But now her eye open,i want her to go she no gree.im tired of threats.

This got me! Your wife carried a dead foetus for weeks and was going for prayers with her sister, jesus ! Guy how easy do you think that is? Do you think she enjoys carrying a dead body inside her?? Do you at all understand that your wife is frustrated and desperate? (9 fucking miscarrages and you are here breathing fire, even the devil will do better) How do you try to support her? If you were supportive her sister wouldn't be the one standing by her but you! But since you don't play your role as a husband she then talks to the ones who stand by her, to the ones who play the husband role. And you sound like one who is already fucking his babymama, stop fuckn threatening her with the shit you did out of wedlock, the lust for your babymama is obvioulsy crashing your marriage, (who is sure she doesn't have a hand in your wife's predicament!) you just want to cheat in a big way. Its in you! I wish your wife would see this thread. You've got issues sir!

Billyonaire:


Hahahahahaha.

Did you read my laughter ? Well, you are funny. Because there is nothing to worry about and you have just destroyed your marriage just for the sake of your ego.

What the fucck is wrong with having kids whether in wedlock or out of wedlock since you guys have named marriage to be a wedlock ?

A woman has miscarried 9 times for you and you are not feeling guilt ? Can you even handle miscarriage once in your life without throwing tantrums ? You have virtually destroyed the woman and she is fed up. How can we tell that you are not fuccking your ex-girlfriend and mother of your child and this is making your brain soft.

Sit your asss down and be a man of the house and not some cry baby and know that a child is never a mistake whether in a marriage or outside marriage cos marriage a Human invention to maintain peaceful biological partnership but you can choose to be single and still make bodies for spirit to dwell on.

Call your wife and apologize for your weakness and let your child visit you once in a while. You must come to terms with the fact that you have a wonderful child and tell all friends and wife family that you had a child before marriage. I wonder why you hide your offspring for the sake of marriage, cos for me, a child is way up on the ladder of priority than marriage.

This is a fact you will learn as you become more intelligent than you are now. Your wife did nothing wrong in exposing your fatherhood, you are feeling sad cos your ego is leading you astray from being human to being what ever I can not describe. Which sane man will hide his own child for the sake of marriage.

You guys should stop being ignorant of laws of nature.

@ Billyonaire u have said it all nd I just hope this man will be able to read between d lines here

akpunda86:
I had a child out of wedlock and when i met my wife, I told her and the mum and they said okay, five years into our marriage my wife told the sister, in fact all my secrets with my wife, the sister knows.

Not that she did it in private but made a call to her in my presence, was my life secret with her but now her whole family knows, even if they know bf, no problem but now making me to know they know, I just hate her.

The love i had for her died immediately, I see more as a room mate now as she irritates me, our kid just bond between us.

What happened......what is cause of problem, it's a pity but she has had 9 miscarriages and i told her I'm tired of hearing that news, well she flared up and said she be packing out, any small problem she packs her bag well i told her if she packs, i will go and bring my ex gf and daughter bk.

My marriage to her was a mistake, I'm just hating her everyday cos the worst i hate is my in-laws meddling in my affairs, Am i the first guy to have a kid out of wedlock, then why she threatening me.

For five years I have not seen my daughter but now i will, if my wife wants to go, she is free to go.

All you guys and ladies in the house i think it will be better we either stop responding to this guys post or we tell him the bitter truth.he was wrong in the first place to have hidden the fact he had a child form his in-law except he was longing for something that he doesn't want us to know.this am saying based on the fact that the wife keeps threatening him that he will be sacked.
its possible in the first place that he has information he his not letting the whole house unto.
How can you as a father deprive your own flesh and blood that love she was entitled to for 5yrs. This i find difficult believing .seeing that he was claiming to bring back the wife and daughter he had not seen for 5yrs.
3. His attitude to the fact that your wife had miscarriages is absurd.this is enough ground for her to start behaving the way she does.
4. in our African settings it his possible for the wife to start believing there is more to her situation based on the fact that you had a woman outside that had giving birth.She had every right to inform her parents.
6.you have started threatening her that you will bring the supposed woman you have not seen in the past 5yrs into the house.Guy stop being clever by Half

nairaland will never help you. it is your cross carry it pls don't tell me as am carrying my own up n down. for the 9 miscarriage your wife is ogbanje.

akpunda86:
I had a child out of wedlock and when i met my wife, I told her and the mum and they said okay, five years into our marriage my wife told the sister, in fact all my secrets with my wife, the sister knows.

Not that she did it in private but made a call to her in my presence, was my life secret with her but now her whole family knows, even if they know bf, no problem but now making me to know they know, I just hate her.

The love i had for her died immediately, I see more as a room mate now as she irritates me, our kid just bond between us.

What happened......what is cause of problem, it's a pity but she has had 9 miscarriages and i told her I'm tired of hearing that news, well she flared up and said she be packing out, any small problem she packs her bag well i told her if she packs, i will go and bring my ex gf and daughter bk.

My marriage to her was a mistake, I'm just hating her everyday cos the worst i hate is my in-laws meddling in my affairs, Am i the first guy to have a kid out of wedlock, then why she threatening me.

For five years I have not seen my daughter but now i will, if my wife wants to go, she is free to go.

you are an idiotu... I mean idiotu. you don't deserve love in your life. you had a baby through another lady. spoiled her and made her a single suffering mother. bearing the burden of raising a child alone. Then you ran to get a chassis as wife. thinking that karma is a fairy tale

Now you denied the innocent child the joy of fatherhood. You lied to your in-laws, thinking it's a secret. I believe your family also isn't aware of this abandoned child and the mother.

You took a job through your wife's uncle, used her as a bait, to satisfy your greed as usual I believe, got her pregnant 9x and maltreated her till she had miscarriages. yes you did maltreat because it's ur karma that worked against her. And all you could say to her is that you don't want to hear that story again. to you it was a story, to her they were lives, her own children. But what do you know, you are happy because you have a baby out there in the waste bin and incenarator scraping for abandoned food to eat. Instead of looking for solutions and reassuring your wife, making her feel relieved you became a pain to her, like a typical idiotu that you are.

she spoke up and you became irritated, who knows what else you had done that's still a secret? How many children you have outside your matrimonial home?
How many times have you beaten her? she told her family and you flared up, now that you have told the whole world yourself who is going to spank you?

next you are threatening to go back to the gutter where you left your abandoned child and the mother to pick dem like pieces of rag. no feeling of guilt... you don't deserve to be called a man. you don't deserve to be given a chance to live, you don't deserve to have a child. you are an idiotu. A condom would have saved the world from harzards like you.

with your poverty (deduced from what you wrote) you are still this wicked, let's see how it all ends. I wish you give her d link to this post like you said, then be sure that she will leave you and your child too will someday be disappointed in you., already she is. but she will spit on your face someday, because you are an idiotu k

akpunda86:
at kreativegenuis im wearing the shoe knows where it pains me,My marrriage to her was a mistake,the Trust has been broken.whenever she says she wants to go,i pray she meant it only to be back and she there.

U abandoned ur kid for 5yrs U go wicked for real!

Ur wife had nine miscarriages in less than five years, n u av d guts to threaten her!

Una fit una selves

smithsydny:
this one strong ooo.. God help us oo

You are on point.

akpunda86:
There is a small firm im attached to that i got thru her uncle and any small squabble,she be calling the man,threatening she gonna sack me,at this point i told her to call the man,whether she called or not she is stupid,a woman of 32 years ,doing like a kid,a small thing she will be shouting with her voice,looking at her now and always irritates me as imsee my marriage to her as a mistake.

Marriage is a cross,but her own cross is too heavy for me to carry,a nagging woman irritates me.

Every day she wants to go,go so that ill be free,

ill send her this link so that she will follow and see comments.

Please handle this with care lest you end up in regrets.

akpunda86:
@dominuqe I never abandoned. My first daughter. And mum,she from uyo and I ibo,we did the. Tradional rites along. The line two men came out claiming to be the father and an order given for rites to stop,was a bad omen.long story sha.


Divorce a long procedure I just want her to go I'm tired of marriage.i was not lucky,ull die before my time

She is unlucky to have married an irrational being like you with bad luck.
A woman that have lost her babies 9 times in 5 years. She supported you by giving you links with her family member, that's who you are castigating in a public forum where you thought that people will take sides with you, because it is a man''s world.
Get out here men.
If it is in abroad she should be in therapy for her unbelievable losses. We commonize everything.
That woman is grieving and needs your love and support.
Go and settle your differences with your wife or you will carry a much worse curse.
You don't even have a concrete reason you want to leave your wife for.

akpunda86:
I had a child out of wedlock and when i met my wife, I told her and the mum and they said okay, five years into our marriage my wife told the sister, in fact all my secrets with my wife, the sister knows.

Not that she did it in private but made a call to her in my presence, was my life secret with her but now her whole family knows, even if they know bf, no problem but now making me to know they know, I just hate her.

The love i had for her died immediately, I see more as a room mate now as she irritates me, our kid just bond between us.

What happened......what is cause of problem, it's a pity but she has had 9 miscarriages and i told her I'm tired of hearing that news, well she flared up and said she be packing out, any small problem she packs her bag well i told her if she packs, i will go and bring my ex gf and daughter bk.

My marriage to her was a mistake, I'm just hating her everyday cos the worst i hate is my in-laws meddling in my affairs, Am i the first guy to have a kid out of wedlock, then why she threatening me.

For five years I have not seen my daughter but now i will, if my wife wants to go, she is free to go.

Ure just ranting. Why will u mock ur wife because she had miscarriages! U sud always encourage and not threaten her with ur ex gf and daughter.

Ure shameless am sorry to say and ure not a real man.

She took u and supported u wen u had no one, she knew u lived a reckless life by having a child out of wedlock yet stood by u.

This is her trying moment u sud support her too.

Go and love ur wife and give her all d supports she need.

Funny OP,....your wife only told her siblings about your child you registered out of wedlock But you are here telling the whole world everything as if you need our advice. From what I see in you,..your character is quite egocentric and mean,....there is no advice that you will listen to because you have already made a decision,...remember there is more hope for a fool than for a wise man that sees in his own eyes,...please call your wife and apologize of your childish character,..man up and take care of everything,...good luck

TheCabal:
Well, you caused it.

Why did you keep your child a secret? Now the woman exposed your secret , foolishly for revenge.

She has lost a husband, and you have gained two children.

The only winner I see here is you. You can now take care of your first child and second child in the open.

They can meet each other and understand that they have different mothers. Better for you, worse for your second baby mama.

I suggest you get separate rooms. Don't go for a divorce outrightly. You should seek for a divorce because it will be cheaper in the longrun.

Then marry a middle aged woman that can't have children or already has children .. just so that you don't die lonely

seeems u wanna complicated issues for the OP, divorcing/marrying anoda woman is totally out of it,,,

You are not a real man.