nahzyla:

Its really not about entitlement. If you love and care for your family you would help them when they need you. He is not under obligation to help which is true but his actions potray a lack of affection in his heart towards his mom/siblings. Why can't he just explain that he is under the strain of catering for his wife and kids instead of calling everytimeto brag about his wealth?

Manboyoo:


I am very sure you are not close to your family

Femsyn:
Duduade made an unpopular, but valid point. Yes, he doesn't owe them anything, but the extent the op is portraying is suspicious.

Let's face it. Even if it isn't an entitlement thing, it shouldn't be as bad as not supporting a struggling immediate family.

Unlike many of us on this platform, I believe some Nollywood stories, especially Yoruba movies and I've seen this script played out before.

Reasonabledoubt:



On the contrary, my family and I are very close.

I have seen first hand, how carrying family problem on one person’s head can practically ruin your life.

The person won’t progress past that stage, because you keep giving, the problems never stop coming.

As I said. The Op’s Sibling doesn’t owe him shit.
AIp should stop bitching and go make money, since it’s so easy.

If you all keep eating from him, how will he progress?

amprat:

nollywood story /script, not at all, I wish I could just drop his details here or call witnesses, all this so called saint and brethren in the church, head of excellent men and choir coordinators, respected in the church and stuff, we don't understand the guy that's the reason am asking questions here, Especially if there are ppl that also do this on this platform maybe they can tell us their reasons like @reasonable doubt who believes he owes nobody anything. I just wonder if he understands that his mum could have decided to drop him off in an orphanage, at a refuse dump or even flash him down the toilet, but everyone to his own, it is his own opinion.

Jman06:
This is the mistake many people make. Always quick to accuse the man's wife of turning him against his family, forgetting that many men are selfish and don't want to help others.

Evacroft:
I disagree with the believe that spouses turn ur heart against ur own family,its just what u accepted. He is not doing the right thing towards his parents ,siblings can deal wiv there own life ,but u owe parents alot.

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

Khonifer:
I think it might be to your benefit, your sibling is simply training you to be as independent as possible.

amprat:

I would have agreed with you if he was taking care of his mother or if anyone calls for help except the last child and mother that keeps hoping and hoodwinked with mother's love, he is the one that calls out of the blues trying to know what is happening to everyone and their future plans like a monitoring spirit,and making promises he never keeps, like you need to change your job, I have contacts or you should further abroad I can sponsor it, or you should work on your talent I'll talk to someone people, blah blah blah

Reasonabledoubt:


His siblings should go and hustle, and remove their eye from another person ‘s money.

amprat:

I would have agreed with you if he was taking care of his mother at least and I would have agreed If we call him for help, but he is the one that just suddenly calls out of the blues,asking questions about how far you've gone in life like a monitoring spirit, then starts making promises you didn't ask for, like I'll get you another job, I have the connections, you should develop your talents I'll talk to someone blah blah blah .

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

And people liked this rubbish.Some like you can use your siblings and parent for rituals.Those with this mentality has such trait

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

Manboyoo:


I am very sure you are not close to your family

amprat:

I would have agreed with you if he was taking care of his mother at least and I would have agreed If we call him for help, but he is the one that just suddenly calls out of the blues,asking questions about how far you've gone in life like a monitoring spirit, then starts making promises you didn't ask for, like I'll get you another job, I have the connections, you should develop your talents I'll talk to someone blah blah blah .

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

VictorRomanov:



For your mind now u dey talk sense. Leave the siblings aside, who's gonna take care of the mom when she's old. We don't have functional old people's homes in Nigeria, so children take care of their parents till they die. Person like you go like make ur papa and mama live like destitutes cos of say no be ur responsibility to take care of them.

mastermaestro:


If I caught that dude, this is what I'd do to him. He is a mean monster!