xendra:
you can't blame ladies for that because there's no way to tell the good from the bad in the beginning, unless you first have to take a risk. and this days even the "good" play by the "bad's" rules and you can't tell the difference. it's too risky.

so who should we blame?

One thing people fail to realize about sport betting is that the owner of the betting company keep gaining and raking millions into there account everyday.I regretted the day I ventured into this so called sport betting because is a venture of no returns.The most tempting about this shit called sport bet is that u will always try everyday to win ur hard earned money u lost in ur previous stakings but to no avail.

Is not as if there's no good guys out there.. Its just unfortunate the guy is a foolish guy.. U can still trust.. But use ur head.

Divay22:

If she was your sister, what would you have done?

Glad to inform you that this stvpid question has been filed under 'inconsequentials'. Have a nice day!

Blackfyre:


Damn woman!!! You dey burst my head!!!!

I was just about to emboldened the part before i saw you edited, "are you submissive as his woman".

You nailed everything perfectly! By the power of the almighty God, you will end up with the right man from God to you. You will never miss it IJN, Amen!

Na so.

xendra:
tcheww stupid fool. so you think you av arrived like that? not struggling my foot, everyone claims king on NL. keep sleeping at home then

mtchewww see face sef, like rat when stay house wen food no dey.

But From The Way Am Seeing You,your Bad Character Would Only End Your Life As Those Mamas Whom Remain Prostitutes Till Old Age,unable To Marry Anyone,cos Of Your Bad Life. Continuel...

mechanics:
easy, not here to insult.

That is not my business durrh

zainmaxwell:
seem like you live a do me I do u life

you mean paying back abi

zainmaxwell:
I meant If you treat me right I will do u well

I feel you bro.

Blackfyre:

Never mind.

lol, you don tire abi

mechanics:
Na so.

You no feel am?

Blackfyre:

You no feel am?

Lolz, how you know?

mikolo80:
nope it is what is
If you're worth more to him than kpekus he won't treat you like that. Fact.

Mikolo80 . we have crossed path again . lol . This time agian i be to differ. This is what happens . many people who won bets in Nigeria don't always find meaningful things to do with it other than thrift spending. The guy in question just want to live large quickly but what perplexes me is why he didn't contact his girlfriend or tell her about it. I will say the guy was carried away and their is a saying that you know a man's true character when he has hit money
cc Missali Missali

bitchcrafts:
That is not my business durrh

just take it easy bro.

mechanics:
just take it easy bro.

Thank you for your unsolicited advice okay, have a nice day!

mechanics:
Lolz, how you know?

Why you no feel am?

The way you take reply na

Missali:


I believed that a wise person has the ability to make use of funds wisely if given the opportunity, I thought wrong.
It's indeed a blessing.

have you ever seen a bet player on forbes list. The lady attracted to best fit..." a gambler". He just "gambled" . Too.

Cladez:
Money that Alabi would still collect back is that one money.

NOTE: only punters would understand the statement above

Lol. That Alabi don do me strong thing. I punt no more.

Incrizz:


Lol...I saw a write up by Safia on front page. Nice.
But what I feel she doesn't get is this,
If it's true that men love financially independent women, then, men love it more that their financially independent women depend on them!
(Try not to get confused)
When a lady understands this, her life in a relationship may be easier.

Whether a man is poor or rich, he wants to be the man in the relationship. Financially.
There are exceptions.
Its better you show appreciation for his "crumbs" than take over the relationship financially.
Don't get me wrong, there are times to be kind and all that..

The males harping on a woman's financial independence on nairaland i feel are those who are only too painfully aware of poverty. Or who are broke.
On a general note, men don't care if a woman has money or not. Are you submissive as his woman?

Most financially stable guys with unskewed mindset about money push for a wholesome development of their women rather than just focusing on her financial development.

Inspite of your sarcasm I agree wholeheartedly with your points, especially the whole men loving financially independent women to 'depend'on them and women been enjoined to appreciate whatever crumbs he can afford. That's just how we're wired, just like every woman desires to be cherished which usually manifests in the form of gift giving etc. No matter how rich a girl is, getting a gift from a guy she truly loves makes her feel all mushy on the inside.
Concerning men wanting financially stable women, its not so much that we want to eat her money, people (male and female) are drawn to successful people (not wealthy). I'd be more fascinated with an orphan who swept the streets until she saved enough money to start a business than a billionaires daughter who can't do anything (not that all children of rich people are lazy). So you see its not about how much or how little she has, its about how she was able to combine hard work, discipline and industriousness to make something of her life, as opposed to making a living as a slay queen who uses her sexuality to get money from all sorts of men.

Jethrolite:
Missali

It is really hard to see a person who can write for so long on nairaland and be coherent with proper English. What I can tell you is your ex never made it, N1m is not money in Nigeria of today, also you shouldn't hope the prosperity of a loved one will rub off on you.

The typical Nigerian is deceitful and will exploit whoever is involved in any form of dealings with them.

You are smart, I urge you to work out your own prosperity to afford you the life of your dreams. Achieving that life should be dependent on you and you alone.

Speak for yourself. Don’t say the typical Nigerian. All this useless and senseless talk is what makes people abroad look on Nigerians with suspicion. You may be fraudulent and deceptive. I am not. Blame your own moral upbringing.

Its quite sad, but I'd say you move on. Try as much as you can to ignore all the babies in the forum. You did everything right if we are to go by your story. Be as it may, learn from it cos it just made you wiser, smarter and a better fellow. Good luck in your future endeavors .

Truth is no man will necessarily stay glue to you simply because you were there for him when he was broke, most of them are just looking for easy way out and as soon as they made it, they feel you are not good enough for then, unfortunately, most ladies don't ever learn or they learn the hard way.
move on and forget his sorry ass, let him go and look for all his friends that helped him finish the money, na now him remember say u be good girl, nonsense

Hope you dropped his stupid ass like a sack of hot potatoes? @op

Missali:


I believed that a wise person has the ability to make use of funds wisely if given the opportunity, I thought wrong.
It's indeed a blessing.

Hi Missali. Ur story strikes me personally. Is this ur personal story ma?

My dear thank God for your life. Next time look for a Man that is working atleast from 150k and above. Don't ever in your life date a broke ass no job having guy again . You are no longer in secondary school.
Brokeness can be infectious my dear it kills dream. Forget all that crap about sticking to one broke guy, if you are going to stick by a guy stick with one who that can pay his bills and even yours too and it can only get better from there. No mean say make you no hustle your own too o. But find a Man that can take care of you that's his duty. Good riddance to him he just touched 1million and he is doing fala folo upandan.So this 2018 look for a real man not some mosquito boys.
And btw most of the ones criticizing you are the kind of mosquito boys I am warning you about. Don't even approach them with a 10 foot pole. A word is enough for the wise.

Missali:
One of the qualities men look out out for in a woman is the ability for her to stay true by him during trying times and a woman who cannot do that is termed a non wife material and slay Queen at best and at worst, a gold digger.
It is believed that when a woman supports her man and he comes to, in turn he will respect her and share responsibilities as he should but often times, this is not the case.

Many at times we have heard experiences from family, friends, colleagues or even gone through it.
Here's mine: I had this boyfriend that was struggling in every sense of the word. We kept on despite his financial shortcomings and I would travel a long distance to see him knowing fully well that the trip expenses and all that came with it were on me. I did not hesitate to oblige favours that I could give and ensured I went out with him during his jobs just to give that moral support.

Things seemed to be going on well until the day I was sitting with some friends and one of them asked how I was enjoying with my boyfriend. I responded with a light laugh and he asked "now that your guy has made it, what is the way forward?"

Me: Made it how?
Guy: Your guy hit over one million in that online betting promo.
Me: Yes yes, it's not easy... Such an unexpected favour at a time like this.

I pretended to be aware and happy but I wasn't myself till the end of the day. Everybody knew the good news except me.
One week, two weeks, one month passed and I got no call from my estranged boyfriend to even tell me what had happened. I refused to call too.

I heard news about how he had become the man about town, declaring free drinks for people he met at our street bars, dashing money to those who came to celebrate with him etc. Whenever someone who knew us sighted me they asked, "are you not M's girlfriend?" and I mumbled any answer that came to mind.
Months later I got a call from him begging to see Me. After many refusals, I decided we meet. He went on his knees apologising, saying he knew I was aware of all that had happened but was too ashamed to contact me. He went on about how he rented an apartment for one girl, was giving out money with reckless abandon, purchased an expensive mobile phone which he ended up selling at an abysmally low price (due to hardship) and how he was popping bottles at bars et al.

The length and breadth of the story was that the money was all gone. The business idea we had brainstormed he made no use of the money to invest. All his friends and girlfriends had left him for good and he felt lonely, he remembered the one who stood by him sincerely.

At the moment he had not a penny, with an empty stomach and looking for a way to get a small job. I could tell he was miserable from his looks alone. If only he had the right company who would have advised him at such a critical time, he'd never have had to go hungry again. I took him to a restaurant and we had a nice meal. He called me a good girl, a loving friend, a confidant blah blah blah.

Ladies, they will come at you with twisted words tell you they want a good woman, a patient woman, a supportive woman etc. Some will even tell you that they can never respect a woman who does not struggle with them. Do not fall for it. Most times, what they want is someone to take their excesses while they move on to cast their net elsewhere. For tens of stories about men who stick by their women when the going got smooth, there are hundreds of untold stories about men who looked the other way.

Playing the supportive role is the case of it may work and it may not. It is not stated anywhere that after standing by him and he leaves for another woman, he will be mobbed. You will simply be remembered as 'the one who once was', that's all.

It is a case of driving into a place with the words "cars parked at owner's risk." Nobody will tell you not to park your car but you hold yourself liable should anything happen to it. Hence, stand by your man at owner's risk.

BS.
SHOW ME YOUR BOYFRIEND AND I WILL TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE.
Madam you are simply clueless. Thank you

Forget these I stood by you shit... If some of these broke guys tell you what they actually go through with their gfs, how they have to say sorry even when she errs, how they have to overly pamper her just because they are insufficient as regards sorting some of her financial needs.

Lol
Some of these guys aren't even in relationships anymore, they just want to make the money and punish these girls for the I'll treatments they received while they were broke

bobochem:
One thing people fail to realize about sport betting is that the owner of the betting company keep gaining and raking millions into there account everyday.I regretted the day I ventured into this so called sport betting because is a venture of no returns.The most tempting about this shit called sport bet is that u will always try everyday to win ur hard earned money u lost in ur previous stakings but to no avail.

Guy the idiot won millions and decided to lead a reckless life! Is it Alabi that forced him to rent a house for a lady and club everyday? That you've not won doesn't mean others ain't winning.

mikolo80:
nope it is what is
If you're worth more to him than kpekus he won't treat you like that. Fact.

Shut up and let people who have things to say fill space. Just spewing trash, kpekus brain. where is the my 200 naira so that you can goan buy sense.

mechanics:
so who should we blame?

the good guy who also want to look like bad guys ?

seems like you are following the thread from page to page

A lady drops a one sided sorry story and you see e- sympathizers everywhere...
If a guy talks about his- you hear, you were a mugu, you did not do this or that...
Theses nonsense should end in 2018