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Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Ranchhoddas: 7:39pm On Mar 07, 2018 |
Charris2284:A 25-year old Nigerian male hospitalized for high blood pressure because of a failed online relationship? Ma'am you've been scammed! 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Charris2284: 7:49pm On Mar 07, 2018 |
Ranchhoddas: He's about to be 28. My brother actually was in his 20s when he was diagnosed with very high blood pressure. And yea, my brother has been hospitalized for a failing marriage, amongst other things. So I do know it is possible. But, I also understand that it could be a fabrication. He's a little overweight. So it isnt like he is the EPITOME of health. It seemed believeable especially when I was hearing from his family. I will say interestingly enough, after I had been talking to his cousin who had initially contacted me about his condition, once he found out she messaged me to tell me of his hospitalization, he insisted that I stopped talking to her. When I asked why, he told me that some of his people's do not necessarily have good intentions and he doesnt want me or him to be badgered with money requests. Being that Ive had some not-so-honest relatives myself, I kinda related to it? 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Tolax17: 8:21pm On Mar 07, 2018 |
Charris2284: Hey sorry about the whole drama. That guy is a flirt from your write up. A chronic unrepentant cheat. He doesn't love you. I think just because you're American and you're financially ok, he sees you has an opportunity to upgrade himself. He's just using you. No food for lazy man. I know nigeria is getting difficult daily to live in, coupled with mass unemployment, he's not ashamed to be collecting from you, a grown man, an adult. Chai. You're just a maga. Easily fooled by " i love you" What has he given you?. But, here you're, giving him money and he spend it running after everything under skirts, busy flirting around. Joblessness. He hasn't even achieved anything with all you sent him Regarding your your appearance, you're very perfect, charming, sweet. Nothing wrong with your appearance. You're not even fat. Stop comparing yourself with others n getting mad at yourself. Forget the past, the oldest way of learning is through mistake. You will still find love. We still have some good nigerian's. Becareful, the heart of men are treacherous, who can see it? 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Tolax17: 8:33pm On Mar 07, 2018 |
Charris2284: Pure scam, an hoax. You 've being blinded by love. You weak, easily deceived Do you expect him to feel happy when his sources of financial resources n hope for greener pastures is terminated? Sooner, I might stop wasting my advice. Soonest you will be heart broken you will come back here, think we would sympathise with you, We won't. A word they say is enough for the wise. You're weak, too easy to be brainwashed and easily manipulated like a toy. |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Ranchhoddas: 8:46pm On Mar 07, 2018 |
Charris2284:He's good I must give that to him. You also seem determined to prove you've not being deceived. I leave you to find out the hard way. Good luck!!! |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Nobody: 10:07pm On Mar 07, 2018 |
Charris2284: Even though from what you wrote he doesn't sound all cheat-free, I can tell one thing you really do love him. I'd suggest you get a way to come to Nigeria and do the marriage instead, it would be easier granting you a visa to come over here than him getting one to mover over to the US. As for the many negative comments here, I guess that's one of the reasons he wouldn't have loved you discussing with other Nigerians, Even though they might have a point little jealousy might be attached to it. I do hope you find true love with him and get to meet him sooner. Ciao 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Tolax17: 10:26pm On Mar 07, 2018 |
Alki: Nonsense, he's milking her emotonally by being a cheat n heart breaker as well as, financially, you're talking about marriage. She love him, but the guys motive is questionable. Put yourself in her shoe, would you liked to be scammed? 2 Likes |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Charris2284: 12:33am On Mar 08, 2018 |
I honestly can see it with both sides. There's a part of me that keeps saying "what if this is all just pretend" and then there's also that part of me the empathizes with him and have so much emotional investment with him. I'm going to cut off any financial support. I've basically already done that but every now and again, I've been known to send him $30 USD here or there for miscellaneous stuff. But I'm gonna have to just stick to it and no longer send anything. And I've already told him that and he agreed. I also requested that he buy and send me a ring if he is serious about being engaged. He said he wanted to wait to give it to me in person, but I told him I can't blindly walk into an engagement without one. He also agreed to that. So...we will see how it goes. I really do have a lot of time invested in him and in his life (if it is his life that he's shown me). He knows that if the flirting and/or cheating continues, I will not hesitate to return the favor and then leave. I'm not gonna sit here and be celibate and played, while he is out on the town with some chick. I've got a line waiting outside the door. So if he doesnt make sure his own door is secured with a lock, my door will open, as well. |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Nobody: 3:27am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Tolax17: Beautifully, beautifully stated.....and if u are a male....kudos to u. 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Nobody: 3:45am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Charris2284: Hi Miss, I've been reading your post...and can truly feel your pain. You seem to really love this guy. Wow....there's just so much wrong with this picture I want to say so much to you...but I've been pleasantly surprised at the advice that the Nigerians are giving to u... I have yet to give a dime or product to any guy that I've met on N.L....although I have been asked multiple times. I have been called names because of my refusal...but guess what? I have to be as wise as a serpent and as harm-less as a dove.. I'm not a sugar-momma...never been one...and never will be one. I totally understand u wanting to help him...and you seem to have fallen in love with him...but heed the advice given here. I usually am generous...but this situation is totally different. You don't know people online...or in another country. You have to proceed with caution and with time, they have to prove themselves sincere and honest. If they don't want to do that, then they need to move on. All Nigerians aren't bad..as I have met some nice ones on this site...but boy oh boy...I have dealt with the other side too. U say u haven't given much money...but all of that money that u listed adds up... The one guy said it right that a "man should NOT be asking u for money"....period. I welcome the name-calling...cause I was cautioned as well...and I tend to continue my stance. I prayerfully hope that the truth is revealed an du can have peace........ P.S. Don't degrade yourself...you are one man's dream and that's all you need. Have some self-esteem...cause you are beautiful on the outside...and seem to be the same on the inside 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Tolax17: 6:54am On Mar 08, 2018 |
MsNgo40:Thanks ma I am man though we need to be honest with others Oyinbo wey no sabi anything The guy dey chop free money she dey talk love. Unfortunately, love still never clear from her eyes Soon to become maga + mugu= dondy 2 Likes |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by akeentech(m): 8:03am On Mar 08, 2018 |
I can't believe I read the whole story. I wish the both of you goodluck 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Nobody: 8:47am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Tolax17: I won't love that. Why I'm talking like this is because my friend also had a relationship like this. The woman started add his friends and some where giving negative reviews and all sort of things. In the end she had to come over to Nigeria and everything went well. Cc Charris2284 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Nobody: 8:51am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Charris2284: If you come to Nigeria and he acts all funny you are free to dump him, until then I'd advice you come here first before further actions are taken. 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by suco01(m): 12:41pm On Mar 08, 2018 |
I don't truly know what to say cos someone is reporting and that same person is defending... madam do yourself a favour by moving on. this life no get duplicate, use ur life to the fullest. 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Charris2284: 1:53pm On Mar 08, 2018 |
I really do appreciate all of the feedback, opinions and advice, regardless of stance. Thank you all for taking time to provide input and also kind words. I pray for the best, but expect the worst, if that makes sense. |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by InfernoNig: 8:27pm On Mar 08, 2018 |
Sure. Best of grace Charris2284: 1 Like |
Re: Cheating Or Just Innocent Conversation? by Fai69: 2:50am On Apr 07, 2018 |
Charris2284: This sounds like the same guy I was dating |
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