Our ancestors did it...still being done & will probably continue...sha if U need answers,U can start by digging ya ancestors up & ask 'em... silly babe

What kain of stupid question is this.

All times l wonder why some people will wake up and start to misbehave.

I know some ignorant folks especially women all began to say its only in Africa such thing happen.

But if l may ask, why do Husband have to take care if his wife financial needs after marriage?.

Feminist you go it wrong this time.

Mind you changing of name is different from addition of name.

I rilly don't know

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women are bound to be so

What about Dangote isabella

TheUpsetGirl:
It still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda

Is a ode.

TheUpsetGirl:



that's very demeaning, changing your entire identity because of marriage

Do you even need to marry at all. Why crave for a dick of a man?

just Lolling

Changing of maiden name was a British culture which has been adopted by a large segment of the
world's populace. It has nothing to do with bride price as some ignorant people are suggesting.

swiz123:
Because the sad reality is that, a woman is beneath her husband. A woman is also nothing without a husband.

But since you have been silly enough to ask this question, why not ask yourself why the child you bore has your husband's name too.

LMAO savage!

TheUpsetGirl:
It still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda

I will keep on condemning this tradition. I don't know those that brought this idea. Women should keep bearing their father's name. A woman still has right in her father's house, whether married or not. Women aren't slave that you buy off.

Some people still retain their Father's name, eg Susan Philips Peters.
I happily changed mine not because I'm not proud of Pop's name, but because I'm crazy about hubby and always loved to be referred to as 'Mrs his name' .

swiz123:
Because the sad reality is that, a woman is beneath her husband. A woman is also nothing without a husband.

But since you have been silly enough to ask this question, why not ask yourself why the child you bore has your husband's name too.

A Woman is never beneath her husband. They're both humans that found love and mutually decided to start a family. As partners.

swiz123:
Because the sad reality is that, a woman is beneath her husband. A woman is also nothing without a husband.

But since you have been silly enough to ask this question, why not ask yourself why the child you bore has your husband's name too.

I think you are very silly for your last statement, her questions are not silly if you are ignorant,
you step aside and let those who know teach you instead of pretending to be smart using straw man argument.

Go ask ur mother,why she dey answers ur father name,and why u mumu,dey answer ur father name for school?,mumu go to school.

I believe women should double-barrel their surnames after getting married

example: miss bimpe ademola is getting married to mr babatunde.....she then bear Mrs Ademola-babatunde after getting married

DeadRat:
All These Feminists, always Coming To Ask Stupid Question...

Leave her lol Her divorce letter is doing press up waiting for her to get married

Hmmm why not add both names together ....it will pay you on the long run Isabella Peter-Philips not bad to me sounds like a royal you know? Meanwhile all these feminists crap is getting to me joooor.

We are being enslaved by the feminists any more than they think they're helping us. We should not begin to see the male sex (or anything involving the male sex) as an enemy ....they are not! We should learn to accommodate them and chose what is good for us.

The issue of change in name after marriage is a decision left at the discretion of the couple although during submission of some official documentations, you may have to go at length to prove you two are married. Most times, change of name is the best and concrete proof to that.

TheUpsetGirl:
It still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda

XhosaNostra:
Lol, that's better, in my culture, they give you a new name altogether. You'll no longer even be "Isabella", you'll be "Lorraine"

They say it's because marriage is a new identity. Whatever you did under your "old name", is now put behind you, including the name itself. You're turning on a new page as a new being, someone's wife. It's always funny watching new brides when they're still coming to terms with their new given names. You'll be calling them & they won't respond because they still haven't gotten used to them.

The new names are usually nice & meaning though.

That is bad. It is like killing her identity. Some traditions don't even allow women to inherit properties of their parents.

Ask your parents

TheUpsetGirl:
It still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda

Gaddafithe2nd:

I will keep on condemning this tradition. I don't know those that brought this idea. Women should keep bearing their father's name. A woman still has right in her father's house, whether married or not. Women aren't slave that you buy off.

Clap for yourself.
Why not women should keep their mother's name and the men their father's

Gaddafithe2nd:

I will keep on condemning this tradition. I don't know those that brought this idea. Women should keep bearing their father's name. A woman still has right in her father's house, whether married or not. Women aren't slave that you buy off.

Stop this nonsense! Why would a woman still bear her fathers name after HER FATHER HAS GIVEN HER AWAY TO ANOTHER MAN?

do you reason at all? She is now joined to another and often times even her father CANNOT overrule what her husband says. She has now submitted herself to a new authority different from her fathers own and if she is wise, she would see the new authority as higher than that of her father and if her father is wise he would respect her new found authority.

Does the father sleep with her? No
Does her husband sleep with her? Yes
Does she have kids for her father? No
Does she have kids for her husband? Yes
Can she be naked before he father? No
Can she be naked before her husband? Yes

And the list goes on.

You need to start thinking instead of just talking.
A woman isn't a slave in her husband's house. She is a PARTNER. A partner who respects and holds high the opinions and words of the major share holder (her husband).

Well, I'm not changing Mine.
I'd only Compromise and hyphenate Albeit still bearing my Surname if they're relations with bill gates Or Oprah Winfrey


Other than that?
I'm keeping my Surname. I love my family's name and wouldn't trade it for Another's.

marunga:
you must stay upset forever. bringing useless topics. Devil's agent

Very very useless topic walahi! When I first saw the topic headline all I saw was "USELESS" waste of precious time

What a question! Do you even know the meaning of "mrs"? Can you use "mrs" before your maiden name?

TheUpsetGirl:
It still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda

. Go to national assembly to protest and also protest why is it that man pay dowry and bride price instead of the woman. Why do man contribute 90% to wedding and woman 10% on the ground that it is the man that is getting married. Also ask why husband and wife should bear different surname in a document or when travelling out. Maybe you have to carry your marriage certificate about to prove that he is your husband because of different surname.

Nigeria practisce a patrilineal form of family and we have not been able to look beyond cultures and traditions. Ghana practisce the matrilineal system.so i just think it's a culture thing

It depends, in this part of the world we mostly adopt the british culture where a woman changes her name thus from maiden surname to married surname and this was brought about through customary wedding-court wedding.

In islam the woman doesn't remove her surname but it's different now because times are evolving. Buhari's daughter is Zahra Buhari-Indinmi; the TVC presenter is Nyma Akashat-Zibril etc

Look at how married women are not getting jobs, a woman told me she cannot employ a married woman to work for her, someone said when she newly got married her boss told her to pause on childbearing, she had to resign. I have female friends that do not bother changing their surname so as not to raise a flag in their career.

Gaddafithe2nd:

That is bad. It is like killing her identity. Some traditions don't even allow women to inherit properties of their parents.

Well personally, I don't see it as killing her identity because a name is just a name. It's similar to terms of endearments like "Sweetheart" etc. Your in-laws give you this beautiful new name that they will call you by, nothing else is taken away. You just have to respond to it in the same way you respond to someone you love when they call you "Bae", which is also not your birth name, btw. You're not required to officially alter your identity by adding the name to your state documents or anything like that. It's just a name that they give you to welcome you into their family.

butterflylion:


Stop this nonsense! Why would a woman still bear her fathers name after HER FATHER HAS GIVEN HER AWAY TO ANOTHER MAN?

do you reason at all? She is now joined to another and often times even her father CANNOT overrule what her husband says. She has now submitted herself to a new authority different from her fathers own and if she is wise, she would see the new authority as higher than that of her father and if her father is wise he would respect her new found authority.

Does the father sleep with her? No
Does her husband sleep with her? Yes
Does she have kids for her father? No
Does she have kids for her husband? Yes
Can she be naked before he father? No
Can she be naked before her husband? Yes

And the list goes on.

You need to start thinking instead of just talking.
A woman isn't a slave in her husband's house. She is a PARTNER. A partner who respects and holds high the opinions and words of the major share holder (her husband).

Mr. man you are the one that need to think. How much is the price men paid compared what the father had spent on her daughter? Handing her over means she should for get her root. Please, change this archaic mentality. In the first place, who brought the useless idea if not men to subjugate women. So, if a woman should marry 3 times in her life, she will keep going to court to change her name. Waste of time and resource. Every man or woman should bear his/her father's name

TheUpsetGirl:
It still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda

First of all ask why you need a surname at all. surname did not even exist in England until 1066 When the Normans/French introduced it. We in English speaking countries follow English pattern.

Traditionally in most parts of Nigeria, a bride marries into a NEW FAMILY. That is why a lady is given to both her husband & parents-in-law to look after. She gets a new family and the names goes with it. Previously you will go live in a big family house with several unmarried sisters-in-law, brothers-in-law and their wives, etc.

Your new family had the duty to look after you as a new daughter. And kids you will bear. So taking a new surname (that your kids will bear anyway) seems a small price to pay. Women your own blood brothers will marry will bear your maiden surname too.

Now we all have the right to challenge tradition, after all everything evolves.

But you cannot continue to accept the roles of the man such as "main provider" for the family while doing away with the traditional things women have to do. Bride Price & marriage list should also be ditched.

Heck, we might as well forget about marriage. Since tradition is now irritating to some. Just have kids with a guy and retain your precious surname.

Davido, Whizkid and others are already pioneering that approach.

Gaddafithe2nd:

Mr. man you are the one that need to think. How much is the price men paid compared what the father had spent on her daughter? Handing her over means she should for get her root. Please, change this archaic mentality. In the first place, who brought the useless idea if not men to subjugate women. So, if a woman should marry 3 times in her life, she will keep going to court to change her name. Waste of time and resource. Every man or woman should bear his/her father's name

It's not about the price paid. That price is A GESTURE. Her father knows she cannot be bought but surely cannot be expected to have her live with him when she wishes to live with another.

Change of name does not mean one forgets her roots. Change of location cannot even make that happen too.

Forgeting of ones roots only happens when one completely cuts off from one's parents, relatives etc.

Even the black Americans who did this are rediscovering their roots today. You are the one actually being archaic and myopic to say the least.

If I love my daughter and she loves me back why would a change of name change her love for me?

Think and don't just talk.