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Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by DavidEsq(m): 7:43am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Celepope:Eleyi gidi gan 2 Likes
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Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Nobody: 7:43am On Mar 25, 2018 |
After politicians nigerian parents are the nxt reason for our backwardness 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by deathwing(m): 7:45am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Ignore your parents for a bit. I grew up like this, and the instant I moved out, I nearly stopped speaking to them. Now they beg me to come visit at my own time. My younger sister would have been like you, but she has more mind, got a good job and now finds different excuses to not visit because they nearly babied her to death. They'll keep us inside and it's not like they'd even give us money. It's been months she last saw them. I have no regrets, what you sow is what you reap. They oveeprotected us for the first two decades of our lives, it's now time for us to show our independence for another two decades. Do yourself a favour and break out and become independent on your terms before they baby you to depression and eternal singlehoodor a bad marriage. You should have done this at 28 sef. Take your life back! Please not saying you should break contact with your parents o. Naturally, I don't miss people or have a compulsion to visit people, so it's natural for me to not call or visit my parents. I don't even have more than one friend I have ever visited because I like my privacy and peace too much. If I were the lovey dovey romantic time, I'd be visiting them more, but im not and they know this. 9 Likes |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Seahawk: 7:45am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Please move out ASAP. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by valentineuwakwe(m): 7:46am On Mar 25, 2018 |
my dear this is the plain truth..no more hear will advice you to disobey or insult your parents but they are your parent and only you know what to tell them.....the ones we can tell you to answer them might even offend you....well this is my own answer below; you are no longer at kid, you are 30 yrs or more and still in ur parents house as a lady....not in ur husband house n not in ur own apartment..dats bad..you hv to brace up...since you are working, move out..I said move out but expect some hesitations from them...tell them first n see what or how they will react. .certainly bad and with lots of shouts...but my dear, move out.... have a mother to daughter talk with ur mum n tell he ur dislikes n displeasure over their altitude....that way yoh hv made ur voice heard...if you still remain that way, my dear it will be heard to see a man to marry for they will even be the ones to choose for you.... call me let's talk more, I was once in your shoe..,08033559733 |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Martin0(m): 7:48am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Due to soaring rent prices, our perceived loneliness and the pressure to move in with that special someone, most of us will bypass that small window of time in our lives in which we can live on our own. To be clear: This means the only other thing breathing in your living room is either a plant, a pet... or both. While there are certainly pros to perpetually dwelling with another person, it is equally important (if not more) to learn to live on your own for an extended period of time. For one thing, you can finally face the fact that it is you creating the mess in the hallway. For another, you can finally clean it up without having to wear pants. See, you're still winning even without someone to blame it on. Living alone as a female doesn't mean you're The Spinster With A Million Cats. It means you're independent, self-sufficient and enjoying all the glorious things in the world that were previously unavailable to you when you with parents !!! 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Wagasigiungu(m): 7:48am On Mar 25, 2018 |
OvaSabi1: Pray tell, where is the thrash he is spewing? You say he should stop speaking for everybody, why are you speaking for all Nigerian parents and the black race while at the same time make absurd analogies and generalizations? You refer to Zuckerberg and Bill Gates, what percentage of successful school drop outs to they represent? You want to churn out statistics to corroborate your claim but your sample isn't in the least bit representative!!! We work with what is obtainable in our immediate environs. Let's not digress from the topic of discussion sha. P. S. I agree with you that there is a thin line between being possessive and being caring. We all need to be wary of this in all our daily encounters with our loved ones. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by eagleonearth(m): 7:52am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Wagasigiungu:the parents are doing the right thing in a wrong way. You don't monitor an adult, you rather advise and pray for the adult and wish them well. Some parents are the cause of the psychological malfunctions in the lives of their baby adults. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Nobody: 7:56am On Mar 25, 2018 |
No! you are not overreacting, parents can be Irritating some times, thinking that they know it all just because they are parents. Always trying to control ones life. My parent told a grown ass man like me to shave my hair, i told them to mind their own fuvking business!! But if you still live in your parents house and you don"t like their atitude towards you, move the fuvk out! find your own fuvking place! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by eph12(m): 7:56am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Sometimes if you don't stand your ground or tell your parents exactly how you feel they will never know. Stop keeping things without expressing yourself so they know what you don't want. You have to be stubborn until they realize you can make your own decisions. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Nobody: 7:56am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Desirae: I actually don't think there is anything wrong with that, this shows that they love & care about you. besides almost all the things you mentioned are normal, am already used to that sort of stuff already |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Espada10: 7:57am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Are you still a Virgin at 30? |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Wagasigiungu(m): 7:59am On Mar 25, 2018 |
gypsey: Way to go!!! Goes to show your level of maturity Mr grown-ass-man. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Nobody: 8:00am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Wagasigiungu:i think you will find that i don't need your approval, Anyway, anything else reasonable you would like to add? 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Wagasigiungu(m): 8:04am On Mar 25, 2018 |
adanny01: Succinctly put sir |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by ruggedtimi(m): 8:07am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Desirae:lol!! babe while you live with them, whenever they call ignore there calls and come back at your own time and don't even ask for their permission before you go out. Nothing go happen na only talk dem go talk. I did it to my own parents and now they are tired of asking where am I coming from especially my mum. Once I am stable financially , am out from their house. And I am much younger than you. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by correctguy101(m): 8:08am On Mar 25, 2018 |
emmasege: Desiree, please take note of the bolded and stop attaching your being unmarried yet to not going out enough or keeping late nights. You'll only succeed in putting the blame of your being unmarried on your parents which I'm sure can never be the case. And it'll breed contempt and hatred as you would flare up when your heart's filled with such harmful thoughts. Myself as a guy don't keep late nights except maybe I intend going for vigil in a club somewhere If you decide to leave, it's okay. and I don't find it strange for anyone guy or lady to still be living with their parents at any age. Since when does maturity, being responsible or becoming successful equate living alone in your own apartment? It's okay to live anywhere or with anybody as long as it's not toxic to your sanity. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by veraiyke(m): 8:11am On Mar 25, 2018 |
OhGeeBee: |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by olite93(m): 8:12am On Mar 25, 2018 |
I barely comment on stuffs like dis bt lemme talk... U despise ur folks, i pity u... We can choose our friends bt not family... Go on despise dem becos u feel u r gainfully employed and should have all d freedom in d world... Do as u like... Wen u move out you'll understand what i mean.... You think you don't need them..... Move out and understand..... |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by veraiyke(m): 8:12am On Mar 25, 2018 |
[quote author=OhGeeBee post=66115506] Sometimes we do some unpleasant things that we don't know it's affecting another folk negatively and until our attention is called to it. We won't know what we've done. You should have called their attention to it. Tell them how you feel and how it has been hurting To them you're still that 5yrs old little girl.[/quote I think this is the first step. Where there's no improvement then you can leave. Don't ever despise your parents. It may be your greatest undoing. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Aboguede(m): 8:15am On Mar 25, 2018 |
But sincerely, husbands don't really need to see in the night club to know you are single and I imagine you don't use private car but if you do, try limit it. Secondly... from statistics we know that people usually prefer to marry around them meaning from churches, work, school and extended family and we have been alive all while. I think there is more that meet meet the mind in your story and I think you are making the right decision. Sure some times it is good our partners don't know too much about us or seeing our family in us Rightly said... Ashawo change eh base owuh new one |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by emerged01(m): 8:15am On Mar 25, 2018 |
If you are done why are you here? What should we do now? It is your life! To each his own. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Genea(f): 8:25am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Akalia:lolxxx me wahala room mate, iffacatch you |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by justanie(f): 8:27am On Mar 25, 2018 |
babe your mental stability is everything. seek it. thanks all I can say. ciao. take care 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by jfkenny(m): 8:27am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Desirae:u need to hear my story. u ain't alone ..there are many suffering same. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by olawamide042(m): 8:29am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Wagasigiungu:That's a very good advice, And the funny thing is when she has a problem now she will run back to her parents... |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Nobody: 8:36am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Hmmm, this same thing happened to me and my siblings. I graduated at 25 and wrote in our year book under the future ambition column ' get a job, get married, get a second degree etc when my dad read it, he was mad and already thinking of marriage at 25!!!! But he got mArried at 24, my mum at 18!, when they were tongue lashing me I kept rebuking late marriage in Jesus name. I got mArried at 29, my elder sister is 39 now and unmarried, whenever she wants to share her pain, she blame it on my parent. Their last girl too is over 31 years old now not married. When I was planning marriage my mum said but I have not started my masters, I reminded her of what she read in my year book : get a job, get married, get a second degree etc. Heheheeheh, my case is just 'stronger than your enemies'. Set your life goals girl, be determined and work towards realising your goals. Move out prayerfully and be ready to say yes quickly. Be disciplined as you move. When I saw how my parent were over doing things, I changed my job search techniques, I went low to any job that comes will be an opportunity for me to leave home. A 30k job came and I left; don't go, the money is too small, no be me, I waka commot for house to accept the offer in a state that is 7 hours drive away. Now, I have no regrets. 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by blazerinno(m): 8:36am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Desirae:This is long overdue... Me dat finished school ends is 2016 moved out last year... Still on nysc but the earlier the better... You need to detach from parents so they won't be too fond of you... It helps when you get married... We all love our parents and can do anything for them but you just need to move out... There's a lot out there to enjoy out of Life than being nagged day in day out 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Pataricatering(f): 8:38am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Pipedreams:this is the one that annoys me the most ! Forcing your child to marry the girl parents prefer without thinking if the happiness of the child ! 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by omosefeeguaibor(f): 8:42am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Wow so there's someone out there too that is going through what I've been through. I can relate with this story, because I experienced similar fate, but let me tell you how I overcame mine. I love my Parent no doubt but I worked with my mind and made it up not to go back home after I graduate from school because, I knew already that if I had gone back, I had just sealed my future to confinement with them. so I took the initiative to allow myself stay back and find something doing, I also did not allow my parent make a choice on where I was going to serve for my NYSC, I tried not to call home to be dependent, I wanted them to know I could do without their interference. And has it been easy so far? The answer is no but has it been worth it ? By all means yes, plus I forgot to add that upon my decision to not going back home, I had it real tough. I was given a personal non grata at home i.e you're no longer welcome here. But today I may not be where I want to yet, but my decision has paid off, because I weaned myself off them, and they're used to not seeing me with them again. What I'm trying to say in essence is this, you don't have to despise them, rather take the bold step of leaving your comfort zone if you feel caged, you will never know what freedom is until you're out of it. Be ready to face the consequence of their wrath that will only last for a while, but don't worry they'll come around, if they see you're doing just fine. I hope I've been able to help here, I rest my case. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Wagasigiungu(m): 8:45am On Mar 25, 2018 |
gypsey: I can't bring myself to give a grown-ass-man like you approval. That would be tantamount to being disrespectful. I wouldn't want you to drag me in the mud. If you could address your parents in such manner, then who i be wey you no go finish me with "one blow, seven die". Lolz |
Re: I Am Beginning To Despise My Parents... Am I Overreacting? by Ambitionsway: 8:45am On Mar 25, 2018 |
Desirae: what people will say then you're not ready to move ahead. I don't think what anyone would say matters to the joy you're been deprived of. Honestly I think you made it come this far with your parent, my parents where very questioning but I had to sit them down and talk to them that was how I stop that been overprotective about me, though am a lot younger than you. LIFE IS ALL ABOUT DECISION. |
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