CaptJeffry:
If you're rich, spend the money on your woman but don't be stupid about it.

To be frank, I see guys who complain about this kind of thing as struggling dudes and I will say this again; if you're a struggling dude, relationship shouldn't be your thing. Learn guys learn.

Baba every guy on nairaland isn't broke...
there are some people that even form broke on nairaland but are loaded in reality.

@emboldened... after making money shey my priority is to spend the money on a woman? the way you guys reason tho

sisisioge:
Haaa! You bought laptop too? Biko date me before you throw in the towel. Baby I need a laptop

ABEG STOP DISRESPECTING US, YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A TAX COLLECTOR COS YOU ARE A WOMAN.

yabas:


Lol, u'r not serious but I AM JUST TIRED OF THE CONSTANT DEMANDS

just that u dey follow runs girls too much plus girls still in school. Try and date a working class lady or a lady from a very rich background

Change who you relate with then

There are two simple, yet not so simple reasons, why you are having this problem:

1. You date girls that are easy to get. You don't CHALLENGE YOURSELF to go for girls who are above or within your own class. In other words, you concentrate on the low hanging fruits that are easy to pluck.

2. .......

You meet them because of the destiny you carry,keep helping them and stop complaining

yabas:
The reason why I opened this tread is to know if other guys are experiencing same.

I can relate bro. although not all of them are like this

in the olden days,demand by women was moderate but in recent times, modernism has increased the hunger and greed of the Nigerian woman. both old and young....my mums retirement monthly pension is twice higher than my salary but she still taxes me n my sibling just because na we turn to to take care if her....let me give u a clue as ti cure your problem.
first and foremost, u have been the cause of ur problem all these while. u have been the one spoiling these women n luring them with cash and by the time they get used to cash,u become second in the equation. money has taken over. therefore u have put yourself and the same miney you give to her in competition....
am sure u are just an average guy eho complement your looks and swagg with money and by so doing it tends to become part if u and also a way of life.
truth is mire than 95% of women u meet will be welcomed by this habbit of your. so the solution starts with u.
let me give u my little brothers fomulae to women that are fund of such demands.
1. before they complain. u start the complain
2. always let them know u are been owed salary for months but promise to give them wen it arrives even though u kniw u are jobbing them.
3.if u potray yourself as rich they will always deoend on u.
4. if u finally find the one u like to marry yiu have to be hinest with her about her bin independent. no hide am. if nashi,shevgo stay,if no beshi,allow her flee.
mire tips dey bro but manage this few I cant give u all for free.

HeyCorleone:


Not just ladies in a relationship.

This week alone 4 ladies messaged me on Facebook. 2 needed sub. The other 2 needed airtime.

Now these are ladies whom I have never had a conversation with ever. In fact one of them ignored my message since last year July.

I don't understand. Don't they have parents or close friends? Don't they have shame?

.. Those ones are hungry ladies cus I don't knw d reason y ladies will b asking any man for money or gift... Dere case get as e b..

Royaldave200:


Hi Rosay15

hello

dancok:
i need u in my life.

lol

Rosay15:
.. Those ones are hungry ladies cus I don't knw d reason y ladies will b asking any man for money or gift... Dere case get as e b..

lies make me hungry

who're you trying to impress?

zealblinks:

I can relate bro. although not all of them are like this

....

Elder001:


lmao... are you guys afraid of approaching working class ladies?

The kind of ladies you guys attract though..

working class my foot! working class ladies are the worst, in fact the more money Nigerian ladies earn, the more they demand from their man. its a shameful habit among our women and its what led guys into practicing hit and run to avoid huge spendings ahead

U probably got some things from them too. If you don't want them to demand from you then stop fucking them abi na ur sister toto u dey Bleep?

Elder001:


Guy.. go and date independent ladies
there are independent ladies everywhere

bros stop deceiving yourself. there is no independent single lady in Nigeria.

I think the best to date is young girls from rich family background. others are the same; working o, schooling, unemployed o, they all demand from their men

sisisioge:


Happy birthday... May God bless your years.

Amennnn

Elder001:



you lie. try dating working class ladies that are above 27/28 years old.
They won't make unnecessary demands from you.

the problem with you guys is; the preference for young girls"
you guys should note that these young girls are still dependent and many are from poor homes.

Bro, they won't make unnecessary demands at first cos majority are desperate to get married and don't wanna scare you away with that.

They are most humble, submissive, domesticated and what have you?

Just wait until you say 'I do' and you see the Oliver Twist in them come all out.

Men are their own problem. There is only one golden rule for me in relationship, " don't start what you can't continue, even if it's once in a while". Or simply put" don't start a champagne life with a lady to impress her and then return to beer life when the trophy is won".

Set the ground rules from the begining. Make am see how e be from the very beginning. Those that will stay will stay and those that will leave will leave.
After all nor be all shot wen messi play dey enter goal.

Men! We are our own problem.

Elder001:


35k na chicken change sha .. my wrist watch alone is 75k

but.. how many phones have you purchased for your sisters?

Does he f^¢K his sisters?

Humility017:

your question summed it up...
my mom and sisters who have been there for me all this while haven't got these kind I gifts from me... and one girl from somewhere will be aiming to reap where she never sow.

virtually most Nigeria ladies have this mentality.... you meet a girl barely a week she has start to ask you for money.

Don't ask her for s**x,she won't ask you for money.

yabas:
The reason why I opened this tread is to know if other guys are experiencing same.

Lol.. Even some of those saying naa, never I can't spend on a girl are doing so secretly

Elder001:


yes..
I'm tired of seeing all these kinda topics
if a lady demands for money say no or tell her you don't have..
are they forcing the money from your pockets?

tell them you don't have money to give or no.. shikena

all these wailing are becoming childish.. there are independent ladies out there but you guys prefer broke dependent ladies and later y'all will start complaining on nairaland.

sorry to say, i dont like people like u at all. your type are hypocrists, pretenders and talk talk no action.

The op raised a vital question and here u are making it seem like its not the normal in Nigeria.

For your info, Nigerian ladies living in UK and US where they have better work o, still do this same demanding from guys nonsense. it is a bad habit they have formed over time not because they lack money.

This is the reason why most relationships in Nigeria of today dont last; guys quit as soon as they get sex and target another girl, and the cycle continues.

If I give birth to a girl, I will warn her ahead right from when she approaches age 15.

it is shameful.

No matter how rich u are as a guy, it worries that your lady is always demanding for this and that, it makes u start to think twice

missyadorable:

Don't ask her for s**x,she won't ask you for money.

Not true.


...and even if a guy has better future plans for a girl he is dating, so because they had sex, she deserves to lay down all her financial needs on him

if so, then lots and lots of ladies should prepare to stay single for life cos guys are wising up daily, only some sissies still fall by marrying such ill mannered ladies in the name of bunkum love

sisisioge:
Haaa! You bought laptop too? Biko date me before you throw in the towel. Baby I need a laptop

Olosho

ruggedtimi:
just that u dey follow runs girls too much plus girls still in school. Try and date a working class lady or a lady from a very rich background

rich background yes most of them dont demand stupidly, working class no because they even demand more. the higher they earn, the higher their demand, they are that greedy. its a habit and kind of their innate belief though

nikkypearl:
yes they are,do not be deceived

Big head

Elder001:



Most ladies that are above 27years are more matured physically, emotionally and spiritually.

They are more sensible in handling relationships not all these childish girls.

Try dating a working class lady that is above 28 bro you'll enjoy the relationship.
not all are married.. just that they're more focused, they're not cheap .

most guys always complaining about girls demanding anyhow from them are dating young girls.
young girls don't have anything to offer in a relationship.
some even date university students and except them not to demand for money.. date matured ladies and you'll have peace of mind.

hmmm, u have a point but i want to categorically tell u that even working class ladies above 27yrs in Nigeria still demand this and that from their man. its a habit and kind of natural belief among Nigerian women that it is the responsibility of any man that have sex with them to pay or reward them for the sex. its in their mindset.

Only the ones born into rich family backgrounds from birth act differently because of their upbringing, school they attended, mingling with foreign girls from birth and strict advice from their rich parents on asking and accepting money from people

I don’t know how you want to be married but cannot provide for another without feeling somehow selfishness seems easy but the right one will meet you halfway at least men are a bit ungrateful lately some of you are not mentally ready but you want to settle down is this how you will abandon children when they ask you

Please if your not ready to give to the point where you are even insulted for it do not even bother

yabas:
Honestly I dont even know where to start. I am tired of supporting girls financially. Since I started dating women, I cant say I have been lucky. Its always buy me this and buy me that. Phone, laptop, recharge cards, dash me, transport etc, I have done it all. Though when I recently started complaining, my close friend told me that he has also been doing same but didnt want to let guys know so that people will not laugh at him.

After all the expenditure, u still break up with them when you get tired of the demands. Does it mean that MAJORITY of Nigerian girls use guys for money? Or is it just me.

I seriously need a gf that will not ask me for anything. Some of my friends will tell you how they have dated one or two wonderful girls that dont demand for anything but not me, I cant point to any girl that I have dated, that I didnt spend money on.

Guys I honestly want to know if this is a general problem or is it just me. ALWAYS meeting poor women, even now that I am looking for a wife, still meeting heavy demanders that I cant settle with. GOD HELP ME OUT. AMEN.

you only NOTICED that someone is POOR when you are actually POOR too.. if not, the GIVING anytime she ask will just be like akara and bread to you.. bIG up.. make more cash that she can't spend.. there will always be BEGGARS and there will always be GIVERS.. This two things can never end.. #ADOYii

yabas:
Honestly I dont even know where to start. I am tired of supporting girls financially. Since I started dating women, I cant say I have been lucky. Its always buy me this and buy me that. Phone, laptop, recharge cards, dash me, transport etc, I have done it all. Though when I recently started complaining, my close friend told me that he has also been doing same but didnt want to let guys know so that people will not laugh at him.

After all the expenditure, u still break up with them when you get tired of the demands. Does it mean that MAJORITY of Nigerian girls use guys for money? Or is it just me.

I seriously need a gf that will not ask me for anything. Some of my friends will tell you how they have dated one or two wonderful girls that dont demand for anything but not me, I cant point to any girl that I have dated, that I didnt spend money on.

Guys I honestly want to know if this is a general problem or is it just me. ALWAYS meeting poor women, even now that I am looking for a wife, still meeting heavy demanders that I cant settle with. GOD HELP ME OUT. AMEN.

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That what makes you a man,but given is part of the relationship but not constant given without reciprocal like given you surprise gift like boxers, perfume, wrist watch,T. shirt even with your money. Note with a focus and determined lady to excel in life with you.

Elder001:



90% of Nigerian ladies are like that ...


stop dating dependent ladies okay?.. there are many independent ladies everywhere.

isoriai. Also know that these so called independent ladies will not take your poo. It comes with aprice tag too.