francesAlex:
If u want ladies that won't ask u for anything, then you have to date independent ladies but don't complain of age difference or p.....y widening, not all sha u might b lucky, independent ladies are mostly older women that have achieved everything but are single, they just need someone to settle down with

Those kind of ladies later become a tiger after marriage.

franchasng:
if what u typed is true, you must be a Yahoo boy

Only Yahoo guys act in the manner u described in your comment and they don't go far financially. 20 - 30yrs later, they are either broke going about bars telling stories of how they used to be very rich or they are in their village drinking palm wine with grandpas, pls change your mindset, even Mark Zuckerberg don't spend like that on Priscilla Chan his wife. Be careful of what u wish for in life

the dating site ?

Elder001:


you always say shits..
Nobody will complain if the giving is reciprocal or the demands aren't too much.

what you just said up there.. is the man the only one that'll provide for the kids?? abi which man wan marry full time jobless housewife?

Nobody is jobless bro at least not someone willing to contribute in anyway we know how to condemn in this country more than lift up that’s why we are like this as a nation?

Men learn compassion that is where great wealth lies not fraud when you really love someone you are there’s for them but also they understand your
Situation

Bitterness is real and nowadays because of overstrict dads men always say shit but brother it’s only your observation others don’t agree don’t expect me to be leaving my house everyday to look for money but believe I will have a home office where’s money will find me

Youngjohnosas:
most girls can b annoying I once dated a lady dat almost turned me to a maga.we were primary school mates we met again in d university. she was dis church girl and I was into her cos I thought she was familiar with me.I ignored d advice of frnds who told me beware of DAT babe I thought dere were envious of me but little did I knw I was in for a shocker. her philosophy was simply make ur girl happy, treat her like a Queen, irrespective of your financial status. at first I was rly enjoying it later I knew I had to run for my life. d most annoying part i stopped watching sound city because of her.she was always like baby pls could u get DAT jean d fair lady on d video is putting on.next minute d white top d other lady is putting on.I was just a young man trying to survive with little support in school. I had to step down from my position.

i don die.........i laff so tey my phone fall from my hand

Rosay15:
Bt dere is sumtin I don't understand in we ladies.. If u are dating guy does it mean u shd put all ur burden on him... Cus I dnt get.. Some ladies now turn relationship to buz center.. Issokay

I had a girlfriend then, that will even tell me if I can't give her money then why are we dating ?? I go just weak

sorry bro, u might be d reason for your prob, maybe u ar d type dat like bragging of ur wealth in there presence.

Rosay15:
Bt dere is sumtin I don't understand in we ladies.. If u are dating guy does it mean u shd put all ur burden on him... Cus I dnt get.. Some ladies now turn relationship to buz center.. Issokay

My dear, I won't be surprised if the matter is raised one day at the National Assembly. Lol.

Some ladies are just so financially demanding, and care less about how the man makes his money or how much he earns.

That explains why so many of them get treated without an iota of respect. A productive and supportive woman is always a delight to her man.

On the other hand, the manipulative tendency of some men is what drives them into these incredibly dependent women, away from those that are independent.

Humility017:

it has stopped....oooo

The matter Dey tiring ooo!!! Imagine a gal asking for hair and point n' kill money over ideas n little financial assistance to the ideas that will fetch her more money n give her sense of financial independence.

Elder001:


yes..
I'm tired of seeing all these kinda topics
if a lady demands for money say no or tell her you don't have..
are they forcing the money from your pockets?

tell them you don't have money to give or no.. shikena

all these wailing are becoming childish.. there are independent ladies out there but you guys prefer broke dependent ladies and later y'all will start complaining on nairaland.

Abeg help me tell amm, all these weak guys dey weak me...

yabas:
Honestly I dont even know where to start. I am tired of supporting girls financially. Since I started dating women, I cant say I have been lucky. Its always buy me this and buy me that. Phone, laptop, recharge cards, dash me, transport etc, I have done it all. Though when I recently started complaining, my close friend told me that he has also been doing same but didnt want to let guys know so that people will not laugh at him.

After all the expenditure, u still break up with them when you get tired of the demands. Does it mean that MAJORITY of Nigerian girls use guys for money? Or is it just me.

I seriously need a gf that will not ask me for anything. Some of my friends will tell you how they have dated one or two wonderful girls that dont demand for anything but not me, I cant point to any girl that I have dated, that I didnt spend money on.

Guys I honestly want to know if this is a general problem or is it just me. ALWAYS meeting poor women, even now that I am looking for a wife, still meeting heavy demanders that I cant settle with. GOD HELP ME OUT. AMEN.

Nice to know I am not alone in this quagmire. I am not even saying don't ask me for anything, just be reasonable and try and provide the basics, i will invariably play my role as a guy. I should recharge your phones by choice, i should transfer hair money by choice, i should suggest wardrobe makeover, but don't bring everything everyday to my table, i am not your dad for petes sake. Even transport money to come and collect other items? It gets to be annoying and embarrassing honestly

arki:
the truth is DAT u HV not come across the one that truly loves u. One way to find out if a girl loves u is DAT she will find it difficult to request anything from u, even when she does, it won't be something that will cost u much. A girl that truly loves u will try to build u. Except if u caused by showing d girls u HV met that u can buy d whole of Nigeria

...e go still get anoda nigga wey pay here bills.hang her on top fan wit sum Gud fffuckin

Elder001:



90% of Nigerian ladies are like that ...


stop dating dependent ladies okay?.. there are many independent ladies everywhere.

Independent ladies have their own wahala, they won't respect you.

hardbody:


Nice to know I am not alone in this quagmire. I am not even saying don't ask me for anything, just be reasonable and try and provide the basics, i will invariably play my role as a guy. I should recharge your phones by choice, i should transfer hair money by choice, i should suggest wardrobe makeover, but don't bring everything everyday to my table, i am not your dad for petes sake. Even transport money to come and collect other items? It gets to be annoying and embarrassing honestly

I'm sorry to say but Nigerian relationships are transactional. The love they show you is directly proportional to the money you give them.

My advice, look for a maid that is of marriage age and marry. They will show you more love than all these spoilt brats and demand less from you.

londoner:


Not true, so called 'ugly girls' still demand to be bought for because it's become a culture and expected thing.

I woman that respects herself and knows her value will actually be offended that a man thinks she can be bought. It's how you see yourself that will dictate how you navigate the dating world. It's also culture, if you are using a man for his money gift and exchange for your time or body you're either an escort or a prostitute. The man that is giving is the 'john' , customer or client.

Nigerian men need to learn to attract women with WHO THEY ARE and not WHAT THEY HAVE because they are hiding behind material gifts.

If a guy approaches me with what he has or what he earns, he is automatically cancelled because that's an insecure individual and 'ain't nobody gat time fo' dat'.

Hmm u have a point. How can a young man that has no car and underpaid approach a independent lady with all the comfortable things of life: clean car, superb accommodation, good job etc

yabas:
Honestly I dont even know where to start. I am tired of supporting girls financially. Since I started dating women, I cant say I have been lucky. Its always buy me this and buy me that. Phone, laptop, recharge cards, dash me, transport etc, I have done it all. Though when I recently started complaining, my close friend told me that he has also been doing same but didnt want to let guys know so that people will not laugh at him.

After all the expenditure, u still break up with them when you get tired of the demands. Does it mean that MAJORITY of Nigerian girls use guys for money? Or is it just me.

I seriously need a gf that will not ask me for anything. Some of my friends will tell you how they have dated one or two wonderful girls that dont demand for anything but not me, I cant point to any girl that I have dated, that I didnt spend money on.

Guys I honestly want to know if this is a general problem or is it just me. ALWAYS meeting poor women, even now that I am looking for a wife, still meeting heavy demanders that I cant settle with. GOD HELP ME OUT. AMEN.

Go and date ladies that are independent

Elder001:



you lie. try dating working class ladies that are above 27/28 years old.
They won't make unnecessary demands from you.

the problem with you guys is; the preference for young girls"
you guys should note that these young girls are still dependent and many are from poor homes.

Brother try not to be too smart, working class ladies that are 28 and above that do not demand are desperate and they just don't want to lose their man and that's y they pretend not to be dependent. Even you as a man, it gets to a point if she doesn't ask, you will be bothered... let's be honest with ourselves, it's when it becomes excessive that's when it's a problem.

Elder001:



Yes.. you're right to a very large degree but there are still ladies out there that aren't parasitic.

Especially ladies in state capitals..

I used to have this same perspective of yours till I upgraded to matured 28+ ladies and finally my fiancé.

Ladies above 28years are more focused and more responsible.
they've many things to offer in relationships.. only few demand unnecessarily.

No be fiancé you call am, Oga Marry first and see the change in her... Marry her first, I hope you don't come here and cry foul

modernWays:
I detest guys who usually complains of spending on girls or being taking for maga. A sensible guy will cut his coat according to his size, there should be a retracement point while dealing with women because all of them do demands in one way or the other.

For that guy shouting "28yrs old upward, independent working class bla bla" just pray you find the one that is desperate for marriage. By the time she drop atomic bomb of bill like 300k at once, you will know they can consume what a broke young lady can demand for two years at once.

Do you know how much these working class independent ladies spent on Aso ebi, their hairs, shoes, bags, makeup etc alone? They might not be asking you for anything until it is time to pay their rent, send money to their mums, pay school fees of their sibblings etc. This is one of the reason you hardly see working class rich women dating or marry broke guys.

Just be smart and spend what will not ruin you down financially, that is all.

I'm telling you, he is just making mouth... maybe the said lady is just pretending until he marries her and then she will reveal her true colors. Abi he want to tell me he knows when she's pretending? Dem nor dey brag for woman issues Cs we can pretend for Africa. Me I work but I still need my man to give me sometimes when i ask. It's when it becomes excessive that's when it's bad

oglalasioux:


Where do you think your 94% parasitic Nigerian ladies are working? Has it occurred to you that ladies hold better jobs in Nigeria than guys? So you think ladies from wealthy homes don't demand? Your replys are beginning to sound plastic. I'm beginning to doubt your claims.

Leave this Oga oo, he will soon enter one chance... see what he sed, look for ladies that are working in multinationals, really? Are you trying to run Away from responsibilities? I pity you, I don tell you, marry first then you will know . The transmission u will receive ehn, u will need transfusion

itsmeurLady:


I'm telling you, he is just making mouth... maybe the said lady is just pretending until he marries her and then she will reveal her true colors. Abi he want to tell me he knows when she's pretending? Dem nor dey brag for woman issues Cs we can pretend for Africa. Me I work but I still need my man to give me sometimes when i ask. It's when it becomes excessive that's when it's bad

Wait, what work do you do that you still feel the need to demand? Filling Station attendant?
Did your parents not teach you that it is wrong to beg and harass people for money? Why are you not content this girl?

ModelX:

Wait, what work do you do that you still feel the need to demand? Filling Station attendant?
Did your parents not teach you that it is wrong to beg and harass people for money? Why are you not content this girl?

Ahahah...they thought me not to beg and harass people but are you people and if I address you as people to my friends and family, will you be happy?

Dis one na one chance o

sisisioge:
Haaa! You bought laptop too? Biko date me before you throw in the towel. Baby I need a laptop

ModelX:

Wait, what work do you do that you still feel the need to demand? Filling Station attendant?
Did your parents not teach you that it is wrong to beg and harass people for money? Why are you not content this girl?

At least na work, which 1 is ur gf doing? All u ppl kno how to do is attack ladies, don't go and work. If I don't work u will call me lazy, now that I am working u say na filling station attendant. Smh so ppl that do it are not human beings, May God help you. First of all, before u attack me, Go and ask your Mom if she never demanded anything from your father before he married her. Then if she says no, you can come back and attack me! That's why marriages don't last these days because u ppl make small problems big, and big problems small.

These uneducated small girls can be so irritating.
Begone!

Chukapage:
A random bitch and A mans children are on two different levels!!

Maybe you wife is a bitch or your sisters and their generation but not today’s women ./.

I will never date a girl who can't afford to make her hair without informing me the boyfriend! Such a girl is jobless and a means to downfall,don't plan your downfall guys.. I am not saying don't spend on your girl, but if you are dating a girl that can't afford the basic necessities of life for herself alone and you aren't planning on marrying her? You are wasting your time and sperm.

same tin happen to me,this girl like to demand like say she never see money before...

Some Old fashioned Boys are here busy Claiming Class giving attention to irrelevant issues

Guy stop bragging wit ur fat bank account while chatting with ladies

itsmeurLady:


At least na work, which 1 is ur gf doing? All u ppl kno how to do is attack ladies, don't go and work. If I don't work u will call me lazy, now that I am working u say na filling station attendant. Smh so ppl that do it are not human beings, May God help you. First of all, before u attack me, Go and ask your Mom if she never demanded anything from your father before he married her. Then if she says no, you can come back and attack me! That's why marriages don't last these days because u ppl make small problems big, and big problems small.

No one's about to get married to your fake dependent asș anyway. Not anytime soon.
Working class indeed. Pretentious lot.

thedio:
Guy stop bragging wit ur fat bank account while chatting with ladies

thank you o, they'll come here and be asking questions as if we're there when they were bragging about how much they have in their account... Shebi you know women love money but my own lady don't have time to ask for money because I'll calculate the time spent in asking and the time you'll reply and you know time is precious