My op,
I will not be callus and tell you to get married and have children.
It's not an easy task,but this feat has chosen to be worth it.
It's your choice and don't feel pressured to do otherwise.
Your decision takes bravery. Although being anachronistically minded I do not accept your reason.
We do not live knowing the end of the week or even the day but we still live the life.
Peradventure someone pressures you to marriage have only one child pls.
Na God I take beg Yuh.
Your money issue and the likes will improve or diminish based on the choices you make.
You can make conscious effort to improve your income to support a family.
Still on still let it be your choice..
Marriage is for those that find a wife

dude..... it's normal because u are broke. and maybe stingy and selfish at same time

I can tell you the company of a lady that you connect on physical, financial and spiritual level is heaven.

There are still ladies out there who are crazy about PS or XBOX and can game all day with you, watch soccer and discuss the tactical systems on play.

Your task is not to spend energy and resources attempting to find her.

Focus on yourself selfishly and build the life that makes you happy. I've heard some kepu kepu about being lonely and depressed making the rounds. Personally, when I decide to be alone, 24hrs seems not enough.

You are a practical guy and have adopted the tactical system that best suits you presently. I salute you!

Try and also design a tactical system of what your ideal family life should look like when you finally have a good job and the right woman for execution.

Mourinho has taught me to always use a tactical system favorable to a Given regardless of how you feel or what people think.

Hell is your wife if you make the wrong choice.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

You need to visit a psychiatric hospital.

There is no guarantee for that. Your wife may die just before you retire into old age. She may also divorce you at old age, if you fall sick or end up not having money.

divinelove:


With a wife u will be better off

caprini1:
Sometimes when both couples are not right and children comes,they some how become the missing link. Or what I call the gum that glues couples together.

Children would never gum couples together, it's a misconception.........

Bringing up children is an expensive business, and if they are already at a battle without kids, they would be at war with kids.....

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Akuko.

By the time you clock 30, this orientation will change.


Trust me.

My op,
I will not be callus and tell you to get married and have children.
It's not an easy task,but this feat has chosen to be worth it.
It's your choice and don't feel pressured to do otherwise.
Your decision takes bravery. Although being anachronistically minded I do not accept your reason.
We do not live knowing the end of the week or even the day but we still live the life.
Peradventure someone pressures you to marriage have only one child pls.
Na God I take beg Yuh.
Your money issue and the likes will improve or diminish based on the choices you make.
You can make conscious effort to improve your income to support a family.
Still on still let it be your choice..
Marriage is for those that find a wife
Also try listening to
Inthinking out loud by ed Sheeran

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Another muturu sighted

marttol:
SNOOPDOG

BABA AJA

Anyways, make una laff small



1.Girls of today will Never apologize when they're wrong,they just sleep naked by your side.My brother you will end up apologizing.


2.Any Girl reading this...by the end of this year, you will get pregnant...if you insult me..it will be twins.


3.*A guy posted a status:My dick is my life. His ex commented: Your life is too short*

4.Why do visitors always pretend to be focused on TV or WhatsApp when you are bringing food

5.Tramadol can make u stare at your father for 30mins and be like "Have we met before? "

6...
*HOW TO STEAL A CHICKEN*

1. Survey the area for about 1 week.

2. On the day of operation, wear an oversized shirt.

3. Be at the place between 11am to 2:30pm. At this time of the day, the owners will be gone to work or be indoor. The chicken will be playing outside happily.

4. Walk at the edge of the street and let the chicken walk freely at the centre, [its more easy if you are in the village]

5. This is where you make the grand move.

6. Dive like a goalkeeper and grab the chicken by the head. Quickly fold the head into the feathers and put it inside your oversized shirt.

7. Move on as if nothing happened. No
looking back.

*THANK-ME- LATER.*
How to steal a cow is next

7.The most respected pple in a wedding ceremony is those sharing food.... i can greet them 5 times


8.Stop pronouncing God as Guard! that's the reason why your prayers don't get answered, they go straight to security companies.


If you laff... Oya like my post, if you say I'm stupid, like my post too...

Respect bruv.

namet:
There is no guarantee for that. Your wife may die just before you retire into old age. She may also divorce you at old age, if you fall sick or end up not having money.

If u lose your wife u marry another, stop looking for excuses. U can't afford not to have a wife at old age bc loneliness will kill u

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

you already know what your problem is, POVERTY. YOU HAVE A POVERTY MENTALITY. You are thinking too much on what you'll spend. Think more on what you plan to achieve in life and how to make it actionable, then sell this to one beautiful girl. You will be surprise how things will go.

franchasng:
calm down bro, I myself I am single, I didn't castigate op's choice of life, I only used my current situation and imagining what it would be like when aged to advice him. It is not a must he must take my advice or suggestion.

He is not alone, I made that clear in my post. I know a lot of guys that feel same way like the op. Myself if not for the desire to have kids in wedlock, I don't really fancy marriage much, maybe because I haven't met any lady that gets me fantasizing getting married, just maybe...so don't attack me, I think we are almost on the same page.

But then if we must face reality as people living in Nigeria, we don't have aged people homes or facilities where one can retire to when old age comes knocking. So can u imagine how the life of a Nigerian man without a wife, without a kid would be at old age

No matter how rich he is, it won't be funny for him. House helps and maids can fail you and turn to monsters once they see that u are old and have no child or wife....

Oga your own very wife could maltreatment you at old age........even your own children, your employee, your nurse....
Go and look at the number of men abandoned by their wives in old age, that's why many succumb to death from the slightest of illness. So having wife and children is no guarantee.

adetoroamos:
its normal bro, having the same issue.

That is not normal.

You don't replace human feelings with animals. Have you ever seeming a goat meting with dog or a cat meting with sheep. What is happening to you is not natural. Perhaps your economic situation is also aggravating your crisis. I will suggest first you see a medical doctor for assessment and advise, secondly if you are a (church goer) you need to approach a church that preahes EXPERIENTIAL BORN AGAIN to guide you on how to be reconciled with God.

I strongly BV recommend the second option. Please note the emphasis on experience, not mental acceptance of Christ as Lord and Saviour. When you pray in repentance , confessing all your sins in deep contrition ,telling God that if he should save you, you will run away from sin, to a point when a joy of heaven will drop into your heart, all those inordinate feeling will go, and you won't be given to a reprobate mind to do things that are not natural or convenient.

It is not normal for you judging from your story of having girls in your life before. You are only running away from taking responsibilities as a real man. You have a problem that will catch up with you one day and you will regret continuing in that part

TEYA:

You are young now and strong. You are surrounded by friends. You have the strength to carry out every task you like. But one day, you will be old and feeble and alone. You will watch your married friends play with their grand kids and travel from time to time to visit their children and grand children while you will be stuck to your dogs. You will wish to change things but it will be too late. It is no too late to make the right choice now. There is a love that dogs cannot offer.

You talk as if every parents benefit this, have you seen where religious children accuse thier parents of witchcraft and careless about thier parents?

marvelli:
Marriage is not for everyone but in your case, I think its more lack of money that's holding you back. Just look at your list of monetary complaints.

You have a high level of comprehension and I love you for that. Well said dear *kisses

It's okay imo. But are you close to God thru christ? Will you be able to control yourself from lusting since you won't get married? If you can do this, no p. But if you cannot get married ASAP

Y no likes from pages 5 and above?? even though I know it's not related in any way to d topic...... Back to d matter.... I think people really need to know WHAT TRUE MARRIAGE IS!!! WHAT U SHUD EXPECT FROM IT!!! ESP IN NIGERIA!!!! Same goes with being single!!!! Then choose for urself the one dat suites ur lifestyle best!!!!!

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

I think is lack of money making you to talk like this. At old age bro u will need somebody by your side. I will advise you marry a woman that will understand you and can contribute positively to the well being of the family. That will not depend on you either..when it comes to monetary aspects.

My say though....

Yes It's. U are very OK. Enjoy your life

I don't like marriage and i hate to have kids but my reasons are not like yours. I have issues with your reasons of not wanting to marry and have kids. Sounds like fear of responsibility. When I was younger, I used to say I'll never marry nor have kids unless I've made lots of investment and businesses having my houses and cars not just liquid cash. I mean I'll marry only when I'm wealthy and rich. But with time, the idea of marriage and having babies start becoming less appealing even when I know I'm on the right part to becoming rich. I just feel like this world is an unfair place. Very harsh and ruthless to so many people. Why would I bring someone into this lion-kill-lamb kind of world? It breaks my heart to see people suffer and I happen to be someone that has access to some information people don't have. Seeing things happening in this world makes me scared to bring someone to this word no matter how much money I have to secure his future

And it breaks my heart most that majority of people marry for selfish reasons. Most of them things that don't even make sense like who to answer their name and keep their lineage going as if the dead knows if their name is still being answered or not.

mhd5757:

Kutumar Ubanka!!

j




You see ya life

Well I always tell those who cares to listen especially my parents that it is not everybody that will marry and at the same time it is not everybody that will have children of their own. The earlier we start to realize and accept it, the better it will be. My family understand that part of me now. No pressures...

I am very normal. I have never thought or wish to marry. I have never in my life envy married people. My two younger ones are married and I'm very much happy for them. That's what they want but for me, reverse is the case. I don't attend marriage seminars. Everyone knows that I'm not interested in anything called marriage. All I have ever craved for is a companion in a best friend.
I don't love dogs or any pets. I love to have just a child of my own but not husband. I'm not interested in tying down my life. I want to be emotionally free...

So one's decision not to marry is very much normal to me. What matter most to me is happiness. Do what makes you have rest of mind and happiness. Be Happy!

Dyt:
Whatever makes you happy

But trust me
These will change

However
Enjoy how you feel

I'm always seeing your moniker commenting on stuff like this!!

True talk dyt!
I've always been thinking like him too years back, but bit anymore, each time I see any pre wedding pics I get obsessed!
tieing the knot anytime soon !

mhd5757:

Ofcource I do but I'm not dependant on it like others, I can stay for long periods of time without having any intercourse.

[b]I doubt if you will not regret having kids in the future. That time you could be walking with three legs [. You know what I mean! Having kids is not a priority anyway as you can easily adopt one. /b]

How old is this guy? It's my first question. When I was 18 - 24 I gave no thought about marriage because I wasn't expected to at the time. At 25 - 29 people were giving me the side eye not caring I had no employment. A few of my friends were getting married but I didn't care so much.

At 30+ the pinch has come. Peer pressure is manifesting. My parents, grand parents and their friends are now making it obvious from their every action that I need a spouse of mine. Girls I meet outside now build imaginary futures featuring me and three - six children of their choice. My good friends are married and acquiantances are celebrating the birth of their second children. It's hell to an extent. My former stance of not getting married is now a liberal one of when I get a good job, house and savings.

For all I know OP is probably 24 to 26. Give him a few more years. As the years roll by so will his stance start loosening. Humans change, it's a given constant.

mhd5757:

Hell no! So that she will be eating all my money ba?

I dont subscribe to picking prostitutes it's a bad lifestyles I'd rather u got a gal or babymama, and ur kids u dont want them to eat ur money too? Besides not every gal is intrested in ur money look and who's independent then. U can find such

business4all:
Is not getting married an assurance for anything too? Why not the op kuku end his own life since there is no assurance for anything in life? You don’t live life by that. If we do, no one will lift a finger to achieve anything.

Life is all about choices man. Like me I ain't gonna get married, not for OP reason but I found out am happy alone. I'm not religious as I'm Agnostic and most relationship in Nigeria are hold based on Religious ethics, how pathetic. Better to live alone which makes me happy than to be miserably married and lonely. I have been in a relationship and I always feel lonely in it but never felt lonely alone when I ain't in it.

Marriage is not for everyone and its not an achievement. Religion has made most believe they are nothing without being married. Even your religion foreman like Jesus had to stay out of marriage so he can fulfill his life purpose, he could have gotten married if he wanted to but marriage wasn't meant for him because its not align to his real purpose in life.

Life is all about fulfillment than setting an achievement based on societal standards.

Takeproft:
I don't like marriage and i hate to have kids but my reasons are not like yours. I have issues with your reasons of not wanting to marry and have kids. Sounds like fear of responsibility. When I was younger, I used to say I'll never marry nor have kids unless I've made lots of investment and businesses having my houses and cars not just liquid cash. I mean I'll marry only when I'm wealthy and rich. But with time, the idea of marriage and having babies start becoming less appealing even when I know I'm on the right part to becoming rich. I just feel like this world is an unfair place. Very harsh and ruthless to so many people. Why would I bring someone into this lion-kill-lamb kind of world? It breaks my heart to see people suffer and I happen to be someone that has access to some information people don't have. Seeing things happening in this world makes me scared to bring someone to this word no matter how much money I have to secure his future

And it breaks my heart most that majority of people marry for selfish reasons. Most of them things that don't even make sense like who to answer their name and keep their lineage going as if the dead knows if their name is still being answered or not.

People can be really selfish, imagine people saying they want to have kid so that someone can take care of them when they get hold when the fact is that I have seen so many wives turn their husband from taking care of their mother which is so rampant these days, we live in a cruel world man and its really really cruel bringing a child in it.