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Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Jman06(m): 1:22pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Divorce her and save yourself from the agony of having to put up with a lady who goes about sharing her coochie. Once a cheat is always a cheat and don't even think that she'll change. She would get smarter instead! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Toeyean1507(f): 1:24pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Femsyn:Your mathematics might be wrong! What if they got married jan,feb or even march? |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 1:52pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
FloraEC: Why are you interested in my marital status? Do married men in your family take back cheating wives? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Femsyn(m): 1:54pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Toeyean1507: That's why I used the words "assume", "perhaps". Because I might be wrong or right. Same way the OP has pointed out the wife is a year older. OK? |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by FloraEC(f): 2:01pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Elder001:Thanks for answering The Op marital problem is none of my biz cos he'll still do what he wants to. As for your question, still none of my biz |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 2:24pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Acidosis:I will laminate this post 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Shirer(m): 2:31pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
realtalk19:That is why it is his prerogative to choose the way he reacts in the end. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 2:37pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
@bold, Really? You must be blind. Maybe you should note the commenters on this thread and see exactly what they say when a woman comes crying that her husband is cheating on her. Even if he brings the other woman or women home, she is still made to feel like an terrible person for not being happy about it. Why do you think my middle name is “evil feminist” ? Because I dared to give the same advice to women that the hypocritical men are giving their fellow man on this thread. When you say “no sane man will take back a cheating wife” you’ve basically made my point because I’m pretty sure you will never say “no sane woman should take back a cheating husband”. If that’s not psychosocial conditioning that forces women to accept the same crap that makes all of you cringe, I don’t know what it is. As for OP, I have no advice for you. I usually have no sympathy for men who get cheated on. Sorry it’s not your fault. It’s how the world is now. On the bright side. The man your wife slept with is probably married as well. Men have the right to be polygamous and he’s just exercising his right. I hope you feel better with time. It takes time. Elder001: 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by realtalk19: 2:38pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
LadySarah: Ladysarah you don't need to raise nerves on top the matter. It's just an opinion ok. If this same man decides not to divorce but makes marriage hell for her nko, she should endure abi? U at being sentimental abeg. If it's you will u let go? Be sincere except if u don't av any other means of survival or u ar relly enduring. Nne it's my opinion and I talk from a realistic point of view. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 2:38pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
MarijuanaLORD: Here they come. Elder001 |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by realtalk19: 2:39pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
LadySarah: Gbam! U have spoken |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Best1708(f): 2:42pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
This is so pathetic, not like she's suffering but it's in her already.A leopard will never change its colour.The only thing that can change her is if she genuinely gives her life to Christ. A man can still cheat(even though it's very bad too) but a woman that respect her children and husband won't try such.Even if you're not satisfying her sexually,she ought to mould you to her taste.Try and know who you're dating don't rush into marriage, I'm sure there is gonna be some warning signals you ignored then coz you've loved up or she's carrying your baby already.Use your head please cox this is a serious matter and God shall lead you right. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Best1708(f): 2:47pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Taylor430:It is well with your soul,i really feel for you.God will lead you right and guide you in the decisions to make. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by eyinjuege: 3:35pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
LadySarah: You have made a lot of sense, especially when you mentioned 80% of husband's are cheats and are being forgiven daily. You are actually right. I just worry for this repeated STI the OP has been treating. OP, please if you chose the path of forgiveness, both you and your wife need to go and do tests for STIs including HIV, and make sure you're both treated for STI. She may not even know she has one. Pls, make sure you are always using condom o. Another thing is, the wife may be tired of the marriage, and may no longer want the OP. OP, I really wish your family the best regardless of your decision 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 3:46pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
cococandy: Not trying to sound sentimental but men don't attach much emotional importance to sex but women do. A man fvcks because he wants to not necessarily because he has affection for the woman but most times a woman only fvcks when she has affection. You also can't hold Nigerian men to the same standard because they suffer a lot just to provide for the family, I don't think any family relative will advise you to jeopardize what the man has to offer because he cheated. But, I repeat "no sane man will take back a cheating wife". If a woman cheats on her husband and he takes her back note that the following is at play; The woman is the breadwinner The man doesn't have sense The man is a sissy. Dear Coco, it's time you accept the truth. Women are hypergamous in nature and you don't see men complaining neither can they do anything to stop it but why can't you women just accept men as polygamous? I'm not in anyway justifying cheating by men though. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 4:10pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
And here comes the bullshit again. 1) tell women how they feel about sex. Even though you’ve never been a woman before. how about those times I just wanted to have sex for sex itself. Oh wait That can’t be right. Elder says as a woman, that’s not possible. 2) imply that women don’t provide for their families despite evidence that many women of reproductive age in Nigeria work and provide for the homes when married. So the provider has earned the right to cheat? I’m just repeating your words. “We can’t hold them to the same standards because they work hard to provide”. So women who contribute financially to the home can cheat then. Okay got it. 3) tell coco to accept the truth as defined by elder001. So even if I have just plain no-strings-attached sexual feelings for a man who isn’t married to me, I’m supposed to decide I’m emotionally tied to him because elder says that’s the truth about women. If I know women who make money and support their families, I’m supposed to disregard their contributions because elder only thinks men work hard to provide for their homes not women. See I’ve done this useless back and forth for years on nairaland and I know how it ends. That’s why I don’t bother anymore. And I don’t sympathize with any of you who gets cheated on. Because you are mostly the same at your core. You all claim not to endorse male infidelity but your words say the opposite. (like you made a point to tell me) after making a long list of why men should get a free pass to cheat. So even if you get cheated on and made to raise another man’s kids, I have zero sympathy. The only thing I can tell you is that men sleep women (at least the majority do). So while y’all are sleeping around, you’re sharing your women. It’s inevitable. There are only so many women, and men are even more in number. You can’t cheat without sharing. We can’t accept your polygamous nature the same way you can’t accept our polygamous nature. Because we are also humans like you guys and hurt the same way when we are betrayed. Don’t get mad about it. Elder001: 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 4:10pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Elder001: See, don't bother quoting these stupid ladies with thick akamu for a brain. They are many in this thread so avoid them. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 4:15pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
MarijuanaLORD: You must have been living under a rock my guy. Do you know how many first borns are bastards? It has always been like so. Welcome to the real world, now take a seat. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 4:16pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Elder001: I think they do, that's what she's trying to say Akamu brain people Nonsense |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 4:24pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
cococandy: Such an emotional outburst! The truth hurts but you'll have to deal with it. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by MarijuanaLORD: 4:29pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
greyham:You are right man but shit has gotten worse compared to before Seriously women can be heartless attimes, to me the worst thing that can happen to any man is to father another mans child, the love, time and everything LOrd knows i fit commit murder for this kinda stuff Anyways Thank God for DNA |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by MarijuanaLORD: 4:31pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Elder001:100% True man |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 4:35pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Elder001: And there comes the final pointless rejoinder about emotions when there’s nothing more meaningful to say. Not like any of the others posts have been meaningful anyway. Your posts haven’t been emotional? I guess not. You have been most logical and factual. Mine was definitely emotional because I’m a woman. Well I’m dealing with “the truth” the same way OP is dealing with the truth and many of you are also dealing with the truth without even knowing it. Good job raising those kids that y’all are planting in each other’s homes 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 4:39pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
cococandy: Your point exactly is because women don't leave most times when men cheat ,men should also take back cheating wives? Something for you, nothing hurts a man more than another man fvcking his wife. Even in a relationship, nothing hurts more than your gf being fvcked by another man. Even if a man is a serial cheater he can't take it if his wife cheats that's just the way things are wired and you can't change it. I'm sure you won't advice your brother to take back a cheating wife. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 4:49pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Elder001:I have no opinion about that. People should do what they want. I’m saying I don’t have sympathy for them when they are cheated on. Not wasting my data to sympathize with someone who would justify such actions if he were on the other end. Something for you, nothing hurts a man more than another man fvcking his wife. Even in a relationship, nothing hurts more than your gf being fvcked by another man.Same with women. Except that men like you keep belittling their humanity by telling them their pain is illegitimate. You paint them bad for having and expressing the same amount of hurt you show when betrayed. The most effective tool of oppressor is to dehumanize the oppressed. That way they can feel good about doing whatever they want without their conscience pricking them. Telling yourselves that men hurt more when cheated on makes you feel good about cheating because you don’t believe it hurts women as much. Even if a man is a serial cheater he can't take it if his wife cheats that's just the way things are wired and you can't change it. Astounding hypocrisy seasoned with the ever authoritarian statement on how things are and why they should be accepted that way. Unfortunately for you, everything around you keeps proving you wrong. Yet you’re here grasping at straws. And mansplaining to those who care to listen why your opinions are final. Keep trying. Someone will believe you someday Even you won't advice your brother to take back a cheating wife. If he’s a cheat, then he better take her back and shut the hell up. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Daeylar(f): 4:52pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Cococandy please how did your middle name come to be "evil feminist"? Can I get the story? please? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Daeylar(f): 4:53pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
tabithababy: Una Don start |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Nobody: 4:56pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
cococandy: You'll log out and face reality. K. |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by 48noble(m): 4:57pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Taylor430: the time u both agreed to marry no one was there...now that u have serious trust issues...I suggest u bring that cheating brat to a round table with u and make her accept a new deal because of the child. make her understand d following terms clearly.. !. u can never trust her again. 2. she has to leave your house to give you time to heal(quiet separation) she can go with d child if d child wants to follow her... 3. She is never to near u or ur house without ur permission. this arrangement is to be held until ur child starts secondary SCH. then u guys will now official discuss divorce. ur daughter being in school Dormitory makes it a lot easier for u. GC. never live under d same roof with an adulterous wife... most women think with d pussy and always protects their good dic.k against all odds. ask her why? she will tell u,' I love him'. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 4:58pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Daeylar: Lol. I can’t even narrate the genesis. I was just very vocal about the BS on this forum for the longest time. So, any time someone had something to say about “those evil feminists”, Coco always got the first mention. And any lady who agrees with me was part of the coven of witches. The non-virtuous women who didn’t preach for women to wear red pant and bra and lay down to get trampled in order to keep a man. Got so many inbox threats. oh my Anyway long time sha. I guess the less active you’re, the less you come across BS. That’s sort of reduced now. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by cococandy(f): 4:59pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
Elder001:the reality that many men aren’t fathers of their kids? I know 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Had An Affair!! by Daeylar(f): 5:03pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
cococandy: Lmao lol The way they rant and rave against feminist you would think feminists are evil demons, ask them the issues they have against feminist now and they can't even say a reasonable thing. Got so many inbox threats. oh my They took it that far? Wow Anyway long time sha. I guess the less active you’re, the less you come across BS. That’s sort of reduced now. That name is just so funny. Lol, sorry dear. Thank ya |
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