MariaLavina:
This isn't only inferiority complex is at play here. Nigerian men a control freaks. Most want to be relied on, looked up to, needed and most importantly be in charge. They practically want to be worshipped and their egos messaged.Before civilization men have more financial opportunities than women so they use this to their advantage to gain control. The story has changed, women are getting more financially empowered, they are breaking free while Men lose their grips on control.

A typical Nigerian man sees himself as a provider in a relationship, if that is taken away he is completely useless. Only Men , who understand what relationship is all about, men who can be romantically creative, Who knows best on emotional investment than financial investment can date an independent lady. Sadly we are low on these men.

jesmond3945:
Op stop watching a lot of telemundo it would do you no good. Women don't care about men. If not for money and sexual satisfaction most women wouldn't care. So welcome to the real world.

princfred:
One will be tempted to believe he was high on stupid or ignorance when he wrote the post but actually you must have understood him better, the guy is high on Telemundo and African magic.

babyfaceafrica:
hmm...it's not that straightforward

Wilfredpat22:
Money makes a man attractive to us and he gets our pussy for compensation

MariaLavina:
I don't get you.

babyfaceafrica:
lies...ask Lara what attracted her to oshiomole?...have you seen the alafin of Oyo wives?..any day any time most ladies will take a rich ugly married man to a fine single poor boy.


my advice..make money. na dem go rush you

princfred:
E reach to lol for if not thats its not a fine thing like that. That was just capturing reality.

MariaLavina:
Well life is full of different people with different ideas. To some broke ass lazy and dependent pests women like we have seen on this thread, It is true.
While to some made, independent women with integrity it isn't true.

Sadly the percentage of the latter is reducing at a very high rate.

Wilfredpat22:
Money makes a man attractive to us and he gets our pussy for compensation

gentlegenius:

Pathetic...
I used to see you as a responsible person on Nairaland, but you just proved me wrong with this insult.
So, because we had differing opinions here you had to resort to insults just because I didn't subscribe to your opinion... What do you take yourself for? 'Madam know it all'?
You forgot that this is a public forum, and other people are observing what we do here
Anyway, thanks for proving to us who you really are. Forgive me for making the mistake of debating issues with someone like you. It will never happen again.
If you still have time to continue insulting me, then go ahead, but you won't get my attention anymore.

kollinzgee:
bro u are right .money is the only way guys with low self esteem attract women (nice guys) they don't know women are more mysterious than they think. I av a friend here I'm far richer than him but he get girls more than I do. if u become rich u are going to attract people both male and females but 90% of them are fake. the most attractive force a man can have is his confidence and masculinity .i learnt this from my friend and it's working for me I just improved my self confidence now I have a girlfriend Am not even spending much on her. this is the fact the world will present itself to based onthe way u see it all these guys we no fit even walk up to a girl and talk to her without fear go dey say only money go get Girl Wat if the girl is a rich man daughter how will u get her?

nikeballing:
It does,this op is a broke fellow

kunleweb:



You're balling

nikeballing:


Yes ooo,I am a baller

princfred:
One will be tempted to believe he was high on stupid or ignorance when he wrote the post

gentlegenius:

You are right... I was stupid and ignorant while you guys are the wise ones. But honestly speaking, all the 'wise comments' you guys are making here had exposed something important to me. I have known a few 'wise' guys like you in real life. One is my very close relative. This man never learned anything about women including how to approach a woman. He spent all his youthful years pursuing money because he believed money can bring different kinds of women to him without him making any effort to get them. Of course he achieved his aim, and women were flocking around him, but 99% of them were serious goal diggers. He didn't realize his mistake until he chose one of them to marry. This man was working with an oil company in Rivers State. Sometimes, he goes to work offshore and return back after two weeks. He provided everything necessary to make his wife live happily and comfortable. But The wife suddenly realize that money and wealth is not the only thing a woman want from a man. She learnt this when it was too late for her to change her husband's working schedule.
The husband who thought money was everything to women also learn the hard way when his wife started sleeping around with men, including even their driver and houseboy. When it becomes unbearable, the man returned the wife to her parents and took care of two young children all alone, even though he wasn't sure if they were actually his children. This man lives a shattered and unhappy life thereafter despite all his money.
I also remember a man I worked in the same company with during my IT. The company later fold up due to poor management by the Russian owners. This man lost his job and a few months later, his wife left him to marry another man who had money. This guy later suffered from stroke, died and was buried last year.
Now the bottom line is this... IF MONEY IS THE ONLY THING YOU HAD TO OFFER, THEN YOU MUST PRAY THAT YOU DON'T RUN OUT OF IT, AND PRAY ALSO THAT YOUR WOMAN DOESN'T FIND A MAN THAT HAS MORE MONEY THAN YOU OR HAVE MORE TO OFFER HER THAN JUST MONEY.
Don't be deceived by all these goal diggers who came here to claim that money is all they want from men.
If you still insist that I am stupid and ignorant to share these experiences, then my prayer is that you make money and marry one of these goal diggers who got attracted to your money, so that you'll learn the hard way that money is not the only thing women want from men.

gentlegenius:

You are right... I was stupid and ignorant while you guys are the wise ones. But honestly speaking, all the 'wise comments' you guys are making here had exposed something important to me. I have known a few 'wise' guys like you in real life. One is my very close relative. This man never learned anything about women including how to approach a woman. He spent all his youthful years pursuing money because he believed money can bring different kinds of women to him without him making any effort to get them. Of course he achieved his aim, and women were flocking around him, but 99% of them were serious goal diggers. He didn't realize his mistake until he chose one of them to marry. This man was working with an oil company in Rivers State. Sometimes, he goes to work offshore and return back after two weeks. He provided everything necessary to make his wife live happily and comfortable. But The wife suddenly realize that money and wealth is not the only thing a woman want from a man. She learnt this when it was too late for her to change her husband's working schedule.
The husband who thought money was everything to women also learn the hard way when his wife started sleeping around with men, including even their driver and houseboy. When it becomes unbearable, the man returned the wife to her parents and took care of two young children all alone, even though he wasn't sure if they were actually his children. This man lives a shattered and unhappy life thereafter despite all his money.
I also remember a man I worked in the same company with during my IT. The company later fold up due to poor management by the Russian owners. This man lost his job and a few months later, his wife left him to marry another man who had money. This guy later suffered from stroke, died and was buried last year.
Now the bottom line is this... IF MONEY IS THE ONLY THING YOU HAD TO OFFER, THEN YOU MUST PRAY THAT YOU DON'T RUN OUT OF IT, AND PRAY ALSO THAT YOUR WOMAN DOESN'T FIND A MAN THAT HAS MORE MONEY THAN YOU OR HAVE MORE TO OFFER HER THAN JUST MONEY.
Don't be deceived by all these goal diggers who came here to claim that money is all they want from men.
If you still insist that I am stupid and ignorant to share these experiences, then my prayer is that you make money and marry one of these goal diggers who got attracted to your money, so that you'll learn the hard way that money is not the only thing women want from men.

gentlegenius:
I have noticed strange ideas and beliefs here on Nairaland, but more strange to me is the misconception some guys seems to develop about women recently... If you check some threads here that has something to do with how men can attract women or what women find attractive in men, you'll see lots of comments that goes this way: 'Make money... Make more and more money, then women will follow you'. The funny thing is that such comments are only coming from guys, not the women themselves. Many guys seems to believe that the aroma of money is the only thing women perceive, so the more you get money, the more women will perch on you like flies on shit.
But this is a completely wrong believe. Attraction has little or nothing to do with money and material things. Women like money, no doubt about that, but what women find attractive in men is far from money. Apart from looks, which really doesn't mean much to most ladies, there are some key character traits that draws women to men. If you focus only on making money and showing it off, without developing these key character traits, women will only follow your money and not you. They'll only be attracted to your money and not to you. Take note of this. Though they can give you sex, pretend to love you, and some will even get so desperate to marry you, but all these is not because they find your attractive; It's simply because they find your money attractive. The moment you run out of money, or maybe you just stop spending it on them, they will drop you like a piece of hot iron.
I have seen a few guys who doesn't have money, yet beautiful ladies still get naturally attracted to them. This is because they are the REAL men that women don't joke with because they are not easy to come by.
Though money is good to have, but If all you do is make money and enjoy the attention women give you, then be rest assured that any woman that comes to you because of your money must have had a real guy somewhere that she naturally finds attractive, and most of the money she'll collect from you will end up in that guy's pocket. She doesn't care about you, except in pretence to get what she wants, but she passionately care about the other guy (who may not even have money). So at the end of each relationship you had with them, you'll discover that you were the greatest fool. It's high time you stop fooling yourself around, believing that money is the only thing that will make you attractive to women. If money is the only thing you have to offer, even when you get married, the marriage will only last as long as your money last.

Money is just like beauty... If all a woman has to offer is her beauty, then she'll only attract men who comes to her due to LUST and not LOVE... All they want from her is her body, not her company. She might think guys are rushing her but the truth is that they are actually rushing those features on her body that provoke their LUST. They only find those features attractive and not her, so they are there to enjoy those things while they last.

Conclusion: Money & Beauty are good to have, but they are two things that has little or nothing to do with love and attraction.
So find out and develop those important qualities that can make you naturally attractive and irresistible to the opposite sex.

WORDWORLD:
Gentilegenius, you don't have to sweat this out.

There is no arguing that 'MOST WOMEN' are attracted to the superficiality of the surface. 'HOW MUCH MONEY DOES HE HAVE' without looking beneath this surface as to SUBSTANCE.

INDEED MOST WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO THE SIZE OF A GUY'S BANK ACCOUNT THAN TO THE SIZE OF HIS DING-DONG OR SENSE OF HUMOUR OR INTELLIGENCE.

Only a few look beyond the surface. Perhaps your girlfriend is one of this few, Hence your judgement. Yet those women who choose money above all else are not living in denial of our reality. Which is the importance of money in human affairs.

Of course most women are attracted to money. It's so simple as A, B, C. It's been so ever since. It's not a bypass of a woman's humanity except if despite what lies beneath the surface which may be detrimental, she still chooses to be with that person.

The easiest way to make women flock around you like flies unto a fresh sh!t in a latrine is to have money.

ITS NOT A MISCONCEPTION. So, tell us how poor are you that your girl left a rich man for you?

DO YOU BEG AROUND THE STREETS WITH PLATE IN HAND?

I want to believe that you are comfortable.

And I also believe if you are as poor as moving from one place to another begging for food, in tattered cloths, without an envisaged bright future even if you are the most intelligent guy in this world, full of humour. Very most likely, your present girlfriend will want to have nothing to do with you and so is the same with MOST LADIES.

What you have written applies only to a few ladies with priorities beyond the superficiality of the surface and indeed these ladies are not that many.

Who fine boy help without money for pocket.

kunleweb:




A man only needs a good game to win a woman, all your comments are spot on. At the moment, i've got a manager in a firm on my matter , not just her, oh by the way she's damn hot and modelled for a telecom company, i have six around me at the moment, and guess what i didn't need to flash a coin. I just bring my attitude and game on and that's it. So, values, principles, morals, ethics, work ethics, diction, grammar, look, beliefs, I.Q. , intelligence, future, persona, charisma, upkeep, maintenance, carriage is all that's need to win any woman, add money to it adn you'll have an explosion

Wilfredpat22:
Money makes a man attractive to us and he gets our pussy for compensation

gentlegenius:
I have noticed strange ideas and beliefs here on Nairaland, but more strange to me is the misconception some guys seems to develop about women recently... If you check some threads here that has something to do with how men can attract women or what women find attractive in men, you'll see lots of comments that goes this way: 'Make money... Make more and more money, then women will follow you'. The funny thing is that such comments are only coming from guys, not the women themselves. Many guys seems to believe that the aroma of money is the only thing women perceive, so the more you get money, the more women will perch on you like flies on shit.
But this is a completely wrong believe. Attraction has little or nothing to do with money and material things. Women like money, no doubt about that, but what women find attractive in men is far from money. Apart from looks, which really doesn't mean much to most ladies, there are some key character traits that draws women to men. If you focus only on making money and showing it off, without developing these key character traits, women will only follow your money and not you. They'll only be attracted to your money and not to you. Take note of this. Though they can give you sex, pretend to love you, and some will even get so desperate to marry you, but all these is not because they find your attractive; It's simply because they find your money attractive. The moment you run out of money, or maybe you just stop spending it on them, they will drop you like a piece of hot iron.
I have seen a few guys who doesn't have money, yet beautiful ladies still get naturally attracted to them. This is because they are the REAL men that women don't joke with because they are not easy to come by.
Though money is good to have, but If all you do is make money and enjoy the attention women give you, then be rest assured that any woman that comes to you because of your money must have had a real guy somewhere that she naturally finds attractive, and most of the money she'll collect from you will end up in that guy's pocket. She doesn't care about you, except in pretence to get what she wants, but she passionately care about the other guy (who may not even have money). So at the end of each relationship you had with them, you'll discover that you were the greatest fool. It's high time you stop fooling yourself around, believing that money is the only thing that will make you attractive to women. If money is the only thing you have to offer, even when you get married, the marriage will only last as long as your money last.

Money is just like beauty... If all a woman has to offer is her beauty, then she'll only attract men who comes to her due to LUST and not LOVE... All they want from her is her body, not her company. She might think guys are rushing her but the truth is that they are actually rushing those features on her body that provoke their LUST. They only find those features attractive and not her, so they are there to enjoy those things while they last.

Conclusion: Money & Beauty are good to have, but they are two things that has little or nothing to do with love and attraction.
So find out and develop those important qualities that can make you naturally attractive and irresistible to the opposite sex.

Wilfredpat22:
Money makes a man attractive to us and he gets our pussy for compensation

gentlegenius:

Hmmm... Finally someone has understood my point.
I wish you all the best in your exploration.