Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

He isn't attracted to you and just wants to hit it. He doesn't love you and I hope he doesn't brag about it to his friends. Finally, your husband finds out, he divorces you and this so-called young athletic brother wouldn't want to be a with a woman with kids. You will end up alone. Be Awoke Sis

This story looks fabricated

I have this belief that there is a special kind of punishment and curse for adulterers, a curse that not only affects them, but also their family, and I know this belief is more like a caution to me when I eventually get married.

sisisioge:


I should just send this to someone I know! A huge age difference eventually turns out to be a big deal once a woman attains the level the older guy could afford her. In the next 12yrs,Regina Daniels would be a lovely 31yrs old rich hot chick while her husband would be an old man who wouldn't be able to please her at 71yrs! Anything above 5yrs is plentiful fa.
That's why you missed the young body.

As for your husband, he will find our soon enough and divorce you. You kuku do not find him sexually attractive before and what's the use of a marriage without sexual attraction? Good luck.

Spot on! I use to say this to people, everyone thinks I'm childish. "If you spend enough time with a Guy & you don't naturally feel like Fvcking him, he ain't the one". Irrespective of whether it is a no-sex relationship or not, once the thought never comes in. Bye!

There is this line I read upto 10 times, Chaiii the thing sweet me die.

Marbella003:

sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong.

I can bet my 1 month salary on it that she will go back for Round 2, Round 3 even 4. Usually at 7 is where It stops, as my Pastor use to say, 7 is the number of perfection.

BiggyB242:

He isn't attracted to you, he just wants to hit it. He doesn't love you, just hope he doesn't brag about it to his friends because that's what guys of his age do. T[b]hen your husband finally finds out, he divorces you and this so-called young athletic brother wouldn't want to be a with a woman with kids.[/b] Finally, you will end up alone. Be Awoke Sis

How is the husband going to find out if she doesn't say anything?

Biglittlelois:
I have this belief that there is a special kind of punishment and curse for adulterers, a curse that not only affects them, but also their family, and I know this belief is more like a caution to me when I eventually get married.

I don't like what I hate! What do you hope to achieve by posting this here?

This woman, Marbella003, is at least honest and good intentioned though she fell to sexual temptation, so let's cut her some slack please. She's already feeling guilty and haunted by her action though weak in the face of the temptation she is facing which is why she came here for advice. Please let's not add to her pain.

The Pharisees and the crucify-her gang should park one side abeg. She asked for help and advice not mobbing.

Nobody holy pass.

He/she that is without sin should cast the first stone. Marbella003, go home and sin no more. That's what Jesus told a woman caught in the act.

Ask God for mercy and strength. Forgive yourself too and get close to God.

See a good sex therapist on your sexual issues with your husband. There must be a middle ground.

Best wishes.

Your love for adventure and fun will definitely lead you to more sexual explorations.

You haven't even started adultery yet. You're still rehearsing. I can place a bet on this, you would sleep with at least 5 guys before the end of 2019. Just keep calm and prepare yourself for a divorce.

No ONE man can satisfy a fun loving adventurous woman (sexually or not). The single ones cope since they have the privilege of jumping from one man to another, but the married ones? It's the most difficult task ever.

Your man isn't the problem here. If e like, make e relocate go gym centre, your adventurous lifestyle will never be satisfied.

zeb04:
now you know how women feel when the table turns.

By the way, madam forgive yourself and move on. Focus on your marriage and avoid your colleague , whichever way possible.

It's mentally not the same feeling with women at all, emphasis on Not at all, you can argue this all day long. Polygamous marriages have been fine for families without Women complaining for decades but a Man cannot stand this thought of another Man climbing his Wife.

He'd rather hang himself & die.

Chubhie:

It was more than 10 mins. It was glorious with lots of tossing about.

Ah, this is a very simple situation.
In the same way you cheated on your husband with your colleague from work, you can easily uncheat on him.
Too much sense will not kill me.

Biglittlelois:
I have this belief that there is a special kind of punishment and curse for adulterers, a curse that not only affects them, but also their family, and I know this belief is more like a caution to me when I eventually get married.

marry who u love and dere will be no nid to cheat

If you are not attracted to him physically why did you marry him in the first place? Its wrong for you to marry someone because of similar interests. That sounds to me like you married your 'penpal' instead of the lover or man of your dreams.

I am judging you because you put yourself in this position for whatever reasons you did and you have now found that you can't live with the consequence of your decisions.

Madam, for the fact you still want more of the glorious sex kept me dumbfounded. You aren't really satisfied yet, you are gonna be satisfied when everything backfires.
I'm sorry, but you have no regret now.

Chubhie:

She wants a taste of both worlds. She would eventually raise above the guilt and be unleashed.

Unleashed to do...?

Marbella003, the road to destruction is paved with pleasure. Many have sacrificed their destinies on the altar of sex.

Everything is all in your head. It begins in your head, moves to your heart before transmitting to your loins. Sometimes they occur simultaneously, but one is stronger than the other. It is also said that our conscience is God's silent voice whispering in our hearts. The fact that your conscience is rebuking you shows what you're doing is very wrong. Continue on this path and it will end very badly for you.

Your lust for your colleague is in your head. KILL IT. Make your husband your stud, whether your body likes it or not because we control our bodies.

You also need to rededicate yourself back to God because you're straying far from Him.

We are polygamous in nature.

Go with the flow.

Evtspez:
Getting more reasons why I won't marry

If you knew your conscience will hunt you like you described why cheat on your hubby? You should have analyse the long term effect of your actions instead of the 10minutes of pleasure.

Anyways, forgive yourself and turn a new leaf. Love you husband unconditionally and advice him to visit the gym occasionally
Cheers.

That won't work, she is sexually attracted to his colleague at work because he is younger.

So, your advice should be "Tell your husband to reduce his age".

Well her type of woman is very dangerous, she is sexually weak. She ll always give you a reason to cheat. She can even put the blame on the company for employing the guy.

Love is no longer enough, the person must be sexually attractive ....This is just the definition of LUST

After like 7 rounds both of you will get tired of each other, the sex....I ve been there before

Octopusssy:

Unleashed to do...?

To pursue the unlimited pleasures of her downstream sector

olashas:

See your shinning white teeth. Happy new month.

Chubhie:

To pursue the unlimited pleasures of her downstream sector

You're encouraging debauchery.

Octopusssy:

You're encouraging debauchery.

I'm a strong believer of freedom/freewill. She's old enough to handle any fallouts

Chubhie:

I'm a strong believer of freedom/freewill. She's old enough to handle any fallouts

Wisdom does not lie in age alone. It also can be exercised by following good counsel which she is getting here.

Octopusssy:

Wisdom does not lie in age alone. It also can be exercised by following good counsel which she is getting here.

Perhaps, good counsel would be adhered if she first burns out some of those fire in her downstream sector. I don't like good counsel going to waste

cococandy:
We are polygamous in nature.

Go with the flow.

hmmmn so u tryna tell me your doing what she's doing

truthsayer009:


Spot on! I use to say this to people, everyone thinks I'm childish. "If you spend enough time with a Guy & you don't naturally feel like Fvcking him, he ain't the one". Irrespective of whether it is a no-sex relationship or not, once the thought never comes in. Bye!

There is this line I read upto 10 times, Chaiii the thing sweet me die.


I can bet my 1 month salary on it that she will go back for Round 2, Round 3 even 4. Usually at 7 is where It stops, as my Pastor use to say, 7 is the number of perfection.

Hahahahahaha!

Acidosis:
Your love for adventure and fun will definitely lead you to more sexual explorations.

You haven't even started adultery yet. You're still rehearsing. I can place a bet on this, you would sleep with at least 5 guys before the end of 2019. Just keep calm and prepare yourself for a divorce.

No ONE man can satisfy a fun loving adventurous woman (sexually or not). The single ones cope since they have the privilege of jumping from one man to another, but the married ones? It's the most difficult task ever.

Your man isn't the problem here. If e like, make e relocate go gym centre, your adventurous lifestyle will never be satisfied.

Hmmmm.

For all we know, she might have married a virgin.

The problem is the age gap.

truthsayer009:


It's mentally not the same feeling with women at all, emphasis on Not at all, you can argue this all day long. Polygamous marriages have been fine for families without Women complaining for decades but a Man cannot stand this thought of another Man climbing his Wife.

He'd rather hang himself & die.

Are you a transgender man?

You know how you feel like killing your boss but restraining yourself because the next paycheck is coming from there?

That is it is for those women.

meobizy:
Ah, this is a very simple situation.
In the same way you cheated on your husband with your colleague from work, you can easily uncheat on him.
Too much will not kill me.

Too much sense abi?

MrBrownJay1:
You have to be honest with WHO YOU ARE... Aka a betrayer of trust, a woman lacking virtue and integrity. And the earliest you accept that, the better it will be for BOTH of you. Why waste time pretending to be who you are not, pretending to live a life that ain't you. What you need is right there at work....so the choice is yours: be miserable for the rest of your life OR be honest and free yourself from this charade you call marriage.

I won't even dwell on how I would feel if I was that man and getting to find out the above by myself...

I know people are judgemental.I l know people can give wrong advice because they don't know the true story.But I believe seeking advice helps at times with depressed and suicidal thoughts.

A promiscuous bitch that's what you are.