mrblessed:
The overwhelming use of personal pronouns to describe your notion of marriage and the place of your husband says a lot about this woman and her ambition. Fortunately, she has find the validation she passionately seeks on a silver platter. Congratulations!

Richy4:


My brother u saw those personal pronouns too?... Many happy couples that I know uses "WE" & "OUR" in their conversation as if it was running out of fashion...
But this particular one was shockingly using "I" and "My" one just wondered the kind of relationship they have going on @ home.. ... I am not against her moving but make it a team work... I used to hear that two heads were better than one... Even if it was to bad heads, at least they will join together to make it worse... If marriage were to be I and MY, what is the use.. is it not better to remain single and make your decision by yourself,

mrblessed:
My brother, the title of this post -- "Should I leave him?" -- clearly betrays the lack of respect this young lady has for her husband, solely because he is currently incapable of providing the type of material comfort she requires. When I saw first the post, I thought it was the usual, run-of-the-mill boyfriend-girlfriend relationship challenges that litter the entire landscape of nairaland.

Imagining a future without the husband, and with no intention of being cynical, cast a huge doubt of paternity on those children.

tabithababy:
Please go and take that job fast biko

Men that will cheat, will surely cheat

Save enough money.for your kids and don't give him your money , don't buy properties in his name

baby124:
As a couple, you have to take decisions and do things that put you in the best financial situation. Let him start looking for work in the place you are moving to and please have a conversation with him. Ensure you get his commitment to this plan and you guys should plan to be together. If you can get a 200k job in a certain location, then the prospects of work for him in that location may be better than where you both live right now. All of you can relocate together. You work and he finds something new to do. You can also use your contacts after a few months of working to help him get a job or business.

Acidosis:


So the new job is going to give her and her kids the best things of life? What the father couldn't offer? The father ever begged you for feeding money? The father begged you to train up his kids?

It doesn't bother you that the man would be alone, lonely and unable to bond with his seed?

You lots are extremely lousy and selfish! Just a little pay rise, some of you would tear your marriage certificate.

ibkayee:

Lol oh boy

nwanneni:
lol.so you didn't know any woman with 200k salary and 2m naira savings turns to a feminist automatically
Well,I'll say they keep meeting the wrong men.
What I will do is;
Make her very comfortable.get her a car,a nice bungalow with penthouse for us,some liabilities like security man and a maid.
As soon as she starts being a feminist,I will just leave you and all the bills and go stay with a friend or perhaps rent a self con.
When bills start slamming her left,right,center.her savings starts tumbling almost immediately and she knows she can't keep up,no be person go tell her say husband and his needs dey important.
Feminist my ass

AntiBrutus:


You never see anything.

Reason I avoid these broke elements or those ones whose lives/egos revolve around money.

Some are already seeing prounouns, talking DNA, that is just how they are wired. Taking decisions with their penîs and egos.

My friend said, it is no more TDH (Tall, dark and handsome). It is now, tall, dark and handsome with SENSE.

What next? E get as the woman go waka, e go say she no get respect again. Marry a broke or ego-filled Naija man at the risk of your sanity. Godforbid!!

ibkayee:

Lol triggered people hallucinating

AntiBrutus:


Them never start...

ibkayee:

“pErSoNaL pROnOuNs”

AntiBrutus:


You never see anything.

Reason I avoid these broke elements or those ones whose lives/egos revolve around money.

Some are already seeing prounouns, talking DNA, that is just how they are wired. Taking decisions with their penîs and egos.

My friend said, it is no more TDH (Tall, dark and handsome). It is now, tall, dark and handsome with SENSE.

What next? E get as the woman go waka, e go say she no get respect again. Marry a broke or ego-filled Naija man at the risk of your sanity. Godforbid!!

AntiBrutus:


Lmao. Naija men ehn.
You chop their money... gold digger.
You say you no wan chop, make you go hustle your own...feminist!

Which kind wahala be this?

Thegamingorca:
...

AntiBrutus:


Lmao. Naija men ehn.
You chop their money... gold digger.
You say you no wan chop, make you go hustle your own...feminist!

Which kind wahala be this?

nwanneni:
lol.so you didn't know any woman with 200k salary and 2m naira savings turns to a feminist automatically
Well,I'll say they keep meeting the wrong men.
What I will do is;
Make her very comfortable.get her a car,a nice bungalow with penthouse for us,some liabilities like security man and a maid.
As soon as she starts being a feminist,I will just leave you and all the bills and go stay with a friend or perhaps rent a self con.
When bills start slamming her left,right,center.her savings starts tumbling almost immediately and she knows she can't keep up,no be person go tell her say husband and his needs dey important.
Feminist my ass

ornicus:


I haven't read the thread, but I consign this. A lot of naija women want emancipation without responsibility . You pay the bills, I keep my money. This is a mean but effective way of enforcing equity.

Sort of like a kid earning a salary that goes to himself alone and thinking he has some sort of say in how things are run in the house.

The most bizarre thing happened in the office a day ago. Slightly off topic.We were all asked to contribute 3k for an event, and the women started protesting left and right.it was weird. A lot of the men were simply of the opinion, this is 3k, what gives? But the women, most of whom have husbands pulling down big dough and some of whom have said they DO NOT KNOW what to do with a recent big payout, were raising the roof. Why should I pay, we already pay so and so.

AntiBrutus:


Don't go wiring money into my acct, I prefer to go with the lifestyle I can maintain. Lets not derail each others dream, we can support, encourage and build. I thought every Naija guy will like this, after all, they want non-gold diggers. But I got a shocker. They were all complaining how I do not collect.

ornicus:


I haven't read the thread, but I consign this[b]. A lot of naija women want emancipation without responsibility[/b] . You pay the bills, I keep my money. This is a mean but effective way of enforcing equity.

Sort of like a kid earning a salary that goes to himself alone and thinking he has some sort of say in how things are run in the house.

The most bizarre thing happened in the office a day ago. Slightly off topic.We were all asked to contribute 3k for an event, and the women started protesting left and right.it was weird. A lot of the men were simply of the opinion, this is 3k, what gives? But the women, most of whom have husbands pulling down big dough and some of whom have said they DO NOT KNOW what to do with a recent big payout, were raising the roof. Why should I pay, we already pay so and so.

AntiBrutus:


Abeg, which one una want?

ornicus:


That one is the weird one for me too . why would I be giving money, not gifts to a grown woman? Comes off as a payment for services thing.

Maybe they are hedging. So that if it doesn't work out, the naija babe gragra of you used me for x years (free toto noise) will be countered by 'and you collected for it '

AntiBrutus:


Yes, I think that is one of it. If lots of them are dating you and you are not collecting, they are actually very uncomfortable. They think your mouth will be very sharp and they have no hold on you.

I take gifts o, but it will be something I can afford. No come collect my bb, give me iPhone X. Or change my Camry 2.2 to an AMG. That one is the gift of the devil, the type I flee from. This is the type they like to give; the one people will see and know there is a MAN in your life.

bukatyne:


Discuss with him exploring all the pros, cons and both be open minded.

It is your family and you both should do what you will to make you happy.

And your title is misleading: Should I leave my husband seems you want a divorce or seperation.

Acidosis:



Men place respect and honour over financial or monetary contributions. Fine if they get both, but such traits are hard to find among slay queens and feminists.

Acidosis:



Men place respect and honour over financial or monetary contributions. Fine if they get both, but those are hard-to-find traits among slay queens and feminists.

nahzyla:
I honestly don't understand why many men in this thread are so angry

Is it because of the amount I said I would be receiving? You all don't think it's right for women to earn more than men? Oris it because I wrote 'my children' instead of our children? Does it even matter? My husband calls our baby 'my son', ' my boy', 'my capon' etc when we are at home or with other people and I don't even see the big deal, he isn't wrong to say that so why is my saying 'my children' now a sign of disrespect?

Or are they angry because I said I want to use the money to better my kids lives instead of saying I want to spend on my husband? Personally I too would prefer him to spend his money on the children before considering me because they are the most important people in our lives right now.

I honestly don't understand the outrage and the wrong conclusion about my disrespecting my husband. If I didn't have respect for him I would not even seek second opinion from people for a job that pays so much. I would just leave.

nahzyla:
I honestly don't understand why many men in this thread are so angry

Is it because of the amount I said I would be receiving? You all don't think it's right for women to earn more than men? Oris it because I wrote 'my children' instead of our children? Does it even matter? My husband calls our baby 'my son', ' my boy', 'my capon' etc when we are at home or with other people and I don't even see the big deal, he isn't wrong to say that so why is my saying 'my children' now a sign of disrespect?

Or are they angry because I said I want to use the money to better my kids lives instead of saying I want to spend on my husband? Personally I too would prefer him to spend his money on the children before considering me because they are the most important people in our lives right now.

I honestly don't understand the outrage and the wrong conclusion about my disrespecting my husband. If I didn't have respect for him I would not even seek second opinion from people for a job that pays so much. I would just leave.

nwanneni:
thank You!
You are always on point.
Who really cares about a woman's contributions?
No one(real man) really does.as a matter of fact,they hardly accept it.
Don't pay house bills,fees and allow us spoil you how we can and in return,just love us as much as we love you and we live our lives and be happy.
But No,today's woman won't accept That,after all they now make money too.
You've gotta do this,you've gotta do That.you've gotta be this,you've gotta be that.....
It's a marriage,not an avenue for us to compare who's better.
This is where all of them(feminists) fail.
WE DON'T WANT YOUR MONEY!!!!!!KEEP IT.
We just will support you to be the best you can be,and if you could,do same to us in our down times.
We've got each other's backs and be our biggest fans.
That's all.
BATTLE FOR SUPREMACY women can't allow this na,it's in their DNA.
*Spits
My own sister does it too and it pisses me the fùck off!!!
Whenever I go visit them and see some things going on and how authoritative she is in that house,I feel like using a cooking spoon to maim that her husband.
Funny enough,he is the one taking care of his family overly perfect and she keeps her own damn money
I hate that guy,reason I don't visit them anymore!
Spits!

QueenSekxy:

She should concentrate on her kids. They are her future. If a man could be very comfortable with a job that may not even pay him a month, and doesn't wanna hustle to see how he could double his hustle and create multiple streams

Acidosis:



Men place respect and honour over financial or monetary contributions. Fine if they get both, but those are hard-to-find traits among slay queens and feminists.