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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by odedele: 10:37am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Go & do court wedding biko,it won't cost u up to 10k |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nobody: 10:37am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: It is all about finances. That N200k she gave you that you have not paid is the problem. Again, the Uber stuff you did. I have not seen any Nigerian business man that has never burnt his fingers. Your N100k would have seen you through but you went and took loan. Nawa.. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by nnamdiosu(m): 10:38am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: Pappy2000 calm down. Even with the way you.are lamenting on this thread, its clear that you can easily be bullied, manipulated and controlled easily. 1. Listen to me, DONT GO AHEAD WITH THE WEDDING. YOU ARE NOT IN THE RIGHT FRAME OF MIND FOR A BIRTHDAY PARTY SEF. 2. PUT EVERYTHING ON HOLD 3. INSIST ON NO 2 WITH THE FAMILY. 4. IN ALL YOU SAID, YOU NEVER SPOKE OF YOUR OWN FAMILY MEMBERS. DONT YOU HAVE ANY? are you an orphan? 5. You need a counsellor . just remove that thought from your mind of divorce after marriage. I need to speak to you. Pm me so we can talk more off camera 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by ghettochild(m): 10:41am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:Sell your car n buy okada?? I laugh in Cantonese Bro, you have fallen trap to ur wife n her sis plan... Your wife is the type that's been way overdue for marriage..and u r just the lucky victim n the support her sis gives was what led u to decide to marry her; A woman u haven't even dated for a year and half plus to be able to know her real behaviour Now she's forcing u to quickly wed her n so is her sister too.. Maybe she's thought all along she'd never marry until u came into d scene.. Mr Oga stand ur ground.. Let the wedding wait but if they insist make dem drop the bar... U can't kil ya self Secondly I suggest u shd seek spiritual counselling.... Good luck 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by ibechris(m): 10:41am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Gloriagee: This is the only one that shocked me... 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nicoddemus(m): 10:41am On Nov 08, 2019 |
statusquoante: The guy is not grounded at all |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by stanwheellz(m): 10:42am On Nov 08, 2019 |
I feel You are not telling us everything. U dont leave a monthly paying job to start up a business dat is on trial/early stage and to pay back loan from d bank. You dont plan marriage witout savings. D lady is ova 34 and u didnt observe wat happened to oda men in ha life*i could be wrong on dis one* She nided to get married cos of ha age. She supported u wit 200k and u are talking about a brighter future wen u are suppose to be sorting tins like dis out as matured minds. And i'm also having dis impression dat u acted like u had enough at d initial stage of the relationship. I knw dis 21st century men cry but bro, u nid to wipe it since u did a court marriage. You wont hang urself. carry d car put on d road n hussle for you and her and the baby. Kip a deafening ear to her abuses and kip caring for her and d baby. Give her time and be prayerful Trust me, if u are 40yrs let ur mind be. Sorry to say dis u sound like u r having a relationship fr d first tym. You are both matured adults dis is annoying to read. As for d sisters support tin, she knows her sista is off age and really wants her to settle down. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by jubangha(m): 10:42am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:my brother not because she doesnt luv u,but those are signs of pregnancy so chille all those things will be bygone as soon as she put to birth 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Skmoda360(m): 10:42am On Nov 08, 2019 |
AerialMapper:He has done a court wedding already... 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nicoddemus(m): 10:43am On Nov 08, 2019 |
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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Reelmii: 10:46am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:u are thinking of divorce wen u never marry,, why not stop the marriage instead ogf going into it and pulling out later 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Skmoda360(m): 10:46am On Nov 08, 2019 |
LyfeJennings:You must be a wicked soul...... ndiara!!! |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Skmoda360(m): 10:46am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Reelmii:Did you read the story at all? He has done court marriage..... |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Skmoda360(m): 10:49am On Nov 08, 2019 |
VeeVeeMyLuv:Less than 1million he'll do a wedding with planning and everything if he is gonna listen to people who can advise him.... |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by pre4drums: 10:50am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: On the highlighted comment. I have issues with this. You really made serious mistake to have allowed member of her family (the sister) to take financial responsibility for your burden. Why would you allow such? Before a man goes into marriage, he must be emotionally and financially competent to shoulder responsibility before and after marriage. But you pushed your financial responsibility to your sister in-law to be. That was a very big mistake. Was the 900k spent for wedding preparation, a loan or a non-refundable assistance ? If it's a loan, it means you are in serious problems and I would advise that as you steer clear from her(your fiancee) as advised by someone above, I would advise you start thinking of how to raise the 900K, for a refund because she would come after you for that money and you must be prepared for the unexpected. Secondly, I do not subscribe to that wicked act called abortion, therefore you would have to take responsibility of that child after birth as this has become a reality you would have to live with for the rest of your life. It's a consequences for going against biblical principle but you can overcome this challenge if you go back to God in prayers seeking his face for help and guidance towards achieving your dream life. Please keep us posted on this as things unfold, I'm very much interested in this challenge. I wish you all the best in your endeavour. Bye Bro. |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by hresso: 10:50am On Nov 08, 2019 |
0KNM: Failed relationship? The dude said they did court marriage already. They are not in a relationship anymore. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by hresso: 10:53am On Nov 08, 2019 |
You are already legally married to this lady. Be a man and sort things out with your pregnant wife. Stop whining like a pussy |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by ibechris(m): 10:53am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: U are just a good guy and many of them that don't understand u might be dumb and blind. U see a man that is going through emotional battle,u are here calling him all sorts of name. May thunder fire all of u. And for those mocking him,may u be mocked in everything u do. And to those who can't understand him and his writeup may u continue to lack in understanding. Stupid and konconbility. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by mrpaedo(m): 10:54am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:These simpanzees never learn.Tales of your sufferings always gives me great pleasure 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Blackfriday: 10:54am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:Op... I really do feel for you at this time, it's not easy coping with certain pressures but leaving your woman and your unborn child is not the answer. It's good enough you took some step in finding a solution to your financial stability but you have should know every business has it's risk and you should have made adequate plan to check mate the risk. Like the saying goes "if you do not fail, you will never learn". God will surely make you rise like a phoenix. Please be patient with your lady, in as much this is hard for you, should also know this is a trying time for her as well and she is pregnant and most women at her stage can be very irrational in their decision and Very cranky.... You said she was nice to you in the beginning, supporting your vision, even giving you her money for the business wanted to start and so far her family has been very supportive of you. I think you have to be man enough and confront your problems, think of solutions and not burying you head in shame and running with your tails in-between your legs... If you leave her now, what is the assurance your next marriage trial will be better?, Why not fight for this first and know you gave it your all before making up your mind to quit. You are legally married you know, so if this one is going to be much an issue, you can call it off or better still ask her sister to speak with her. You don't solve issues by running away from it oga... Think about your unborn child as well, would you want to deny him/her a good parentage without even trying first to be a good father. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Kbs468(m): 10:55am On Nov 08, 2019 |
seunmohmoh:I don't think pappy2000 is scared of his supposed in-law (Wife sister) since he admitted she has spent over #900,000 on the wedding preparations. It seems the Wife feels that he is not bouyant enough and since her sister has been spending seriously for them instead of the opposite, Then she would be in control of his financial reward from work and the Uber business. @ pappy2000, I think you don't need to quit the marriage, instead, confide in her sister and let her mediate and talk sense into her on what marriage entails (I believe she is married too). Let her be schooled On the need to be tolerant of one's hubby, Being patient in marriage On how to be respectful and loving How not to undermine a hubby"s supremacy Etc. You see, the problem is because of her exposure and the celebrity lifestyle access she has, that is why she wants to flex muscle for someone that is supposed to be calm and cool headed in a new relationship unlike the bully she used to be with. And that's why majority of Men always go to the villages in quote for their life partners instead of dating the City girls. The moment you even mentioned KOGI STATE, I'm already thinking of a particular tribe because their girls are terrible wives since you said that she is insisting on you fulfilling all the marriage rights even in the face of being incapacitated for now. They can frustrate their household and that's why their men nowadays prefer other tribes for marriages. Imagine someone being bold enough to threaten abortion? Or she is only trying to coerce you into doing anything for her in submission though having understood how deeply in love you are with her Are you from the same tribe but only based in Lagos? 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by nellyelitz(m): 10:56am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:oh 34 i see...the age of desperados. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by MedicH: 11:00am On Nov 08, 2019 |
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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by farady(m): 11:01am On Nov 08, 2019 |
OP you may be 40 years old but I can tell you for free that you are not emotionally and psychologically ready for marriage. Same goes for the lady. If your inlaws have put in so much (spent money) of up to N900k into the wedding preparation and still all the rites have not be completed, then there is a problem. In fact, you are no longer on the driver seat! You are now a passenger and don't even know where the "vehicle" is heading. Maybe heading for a crash. You never even complete marriage rites, you are already planning suicide. Are you okay at all? Look put yourself together and go see a counselor. Put everything on hold and take a break to clear your head. Thereafter, take charge and take control. Complete the other rites with a little money as possible whether your sister-in-law and her people like it or not. Remember your lady is already pregnant and pregnancy gives 9 months notice to adequately prepare for baby/babies that are coming. Start saving for post wedding expenses. Don't worry your wife-yo-be will calm down. Just be man enough to push ahead and do not let anyone intimidate you. It is well. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by AerialMapper: 11:02am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by MedicH: 11:02am On Nov 08, 2019 |
mrpaedo: just like the earth, round and round then round it goes. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Moscodee1990(m): 11:02am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:Cancel it if you're not ready. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Just2endowed2(m): 11:02am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: sorry bro, it is ridiculous begging someone and it turn deaf ear. i can relate. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by pappy2000: 11:02am On Nov 08, 2019 |
some people are not getting the full story i am an orphan, secondly i am still working 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Blackfriday: 11:03am On Nov 08, 2019 |
0KNM:Please what is the reality?. That you can be the best of a man by running from every problem that come your way....my dear wake up.. life is real, it's not a bed of roses... You will encounter problems everywhere. Marriage Work Finance Relationship Family etc The first thing you owe your self, is facing your problems square-on and not run at first sight of it.... Give it your all and then if it doesn't work, you can put your head high and walk away. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by lyndaway(f): 11:05am On Nov 08, 2019 |
This marriage is already on a bad foundation if you go ahead your name na sorry so just respect yourself and safe yourself from further actions |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by ceeceeuwa: 11:05am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:It could be pregnancy hormones at play... if she is her first trimester the hormones are raging... you guys can chill for now to see how things goes. 1 Like |
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