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Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Mandem12: 10:40pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
nnaeyes6:I don't know about that. Just that they said we're siblings since we're from the same village. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by franchasng: 10:40pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Mandem12:Op, if your problem is the fear that if you leave her, she may never find a suitor like you, then you got no problem because I am scouting for a second wife, so if she is light skin, averagely tall, has very flat tummy, protruding buttocks and full straight legs, then you can PM for further discussion on this....its straight to marriage, so you can be rest assured that she is in safe hands, as for you the guy, you will always find better looking, better behaved, better packaged ladies whenever you are truly ready to marry.....but you must put things in order first. Respect your tradition, hook me up with her if she meets the above criteria and you will be richly rewarded too Waiting for your PM, and please don't let MrCork see this thread 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by sacx: 10:40pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
seunak2016: Come, dem take aproko do you something ? |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by TruthSpeaker: 10:42pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
IN MY OPINION, YOUR DECISION SHOULD BE SUPREME WHEN IT TURNS TO MARRIAGE AND NOT THE WISH OF YOUR PARENTS. YOU SHOULD OF COURSE BEAR IT IN MIND THAT IF THINGS DO NOT WORK OUT WELL, YOU WILL BE HELD CULPABLE. YOUR DAD GOT MARRIED TO YOUR MUM BECAUSE HE LIKED HER I ASSUME. SO YOU SHOULD ALSO GET MARRIED TO THE LADY YOU SAY YOU BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER. JUST BEING FROM THE SAME VILLAGE DOESN’T BIOLOGICAL CLASSIFY HER TO BE YOUR SISTER. DID WAS IT YOUR FATHER THAT IMPREGNATED HER MOTHER? DO YOU GUYS SHARE THE SAME GRANDFATHER/GRANDMOTHER? HAS YOUR FATHER IDENTIFIED WHERE YOUR FAMILY LINAGE COINCIDES? IF NO, THEN HE SHOULD GO SIT DOWN AND ATTEND TO HIS WIFE’S AFFECTIVE NEEDS. THERE ARE SO MANY COUPLES THAT WRONG FAMILY INFLUENCE HAVE SHATTERED. BEFORE THINKING OF THE NEXT STEP OF ACTION, YOU GUYS SHOULD BOTH GO TO THE LABORATORY FOR A HEMOGLOBIN GENOTYPE TEST TO SEE IF YOU ARE COMPACTIBLE. IF YOU ARE BOTH “AS”, THEM FORGET ABOUT LOVE AND FIND YOUR WAY. YOU FAILED TO TELL US WHAT YOU GUYS DO FOR A LIVING AND HOW YOU PLAN TO RUN THE FAMILY. WHAT IS YOUR LEVEL OF EDUCATION, WHAT ABOUT HERS? WITH THE NIGERIA I THINK I KNOW IT IS VERY UNLIKELY YOU ARE BOTH GRADUATES AND ARE GAINFULLY EMPLOYED. TO IMPREGNATE A FERTILE WOMAN IS NOT OFTEN A BIG DEAL, BUT THEREAFTER HOW WILL YOU RUN THE FAMILY? THINKING OF BUILDING A CAREER RIGHT NOW MAKES MORE SENSE THAN THINKING OF GETTING MARRIED. IN MY OPINION YOUR DAD’S REASON IS FLIMSY AND SHOULD HINDER YOU WHEN THE TIME FOR SERIOUSNESS COMES. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Roju402(m): 10:42pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Dear OP, in this world, everyone is everyone's sibling. We all stemmed from the same root. Do whatever makes you happy, man. But importantly, seek spiritual guidance from God before you proceed. Have a nice life. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Bekool(m): 10:42pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Mandem12: At 25yrs is marriage supposed to be ur ultimate ambition in life have u finished ur education or are u successfull in ur business to take good care of ur own family? All these are supposed to be ur major worries besides I will advise you to listen to ur parents am also an Igbo man i come from a village with similar culture it's highly forbiden for us to marry ourselves. A couple based in the US who are both from our village once disobeyed this age long tradition despite all the warnings from his immediate family and elders from our village went on to conduct a church wedding in the US thinking that nothing will happen to them because they are living outside the country but at the end of the day the lady ended up giving birth to a cripple. Don't joke with some African cultures if u are not spiritually strong enough to withstand the backlash they can be very powerful. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by konkerall(m): 10:45pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Someone is here looking for advice on how to continue to indulge in incest and taboo and in the name of fucking love. Fool at 25. Go and marry your job if you have one cos obviously you ain't matured for marriage yet. You should do more of flower boys things during wedding to gain more experience. Nwa mkpi(small he-goat). U need like 25 more years of experience literally you need to regrow up. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 10:45pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
nnaeyes6: Shay Cain in the bible married his IKWU, and it wasn't a taboo! ...because Adam and Eve were the only people God created and they gave birth to children.. ..or where did you come from? If not from Adam 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by HRHF: 10:45pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
I’ve been your shoes too. I’m from mbaise we are not allowed to marry from same village. I was like mummy but no be you born her na, una no even know this girl before. But orientation can change anytime but tradition remains tradition. If you go through with it my guy u go regret am o 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Olayetan(m): 10:45pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Mandem12: Op Don't be lazy Make some findings n see if you are truly related and if you not then let your parents know about your findings and how you aren't related. But don't ever make mistake to marry her outside ur parent consent... |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Vanzcharles(m): 10:46pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Let me make it clear to you,it is not about the same village, it is about if she is from the same clan/ hamlet... The village geographical mapping may be different... You can have the Same L.G.A, then after that the same autonomous community then the same village, then the same clan $hamlet/family please try and confirm you can get married from the same village but not the same village with the same family, clan, hamlet ..because it is believed you guys have a common father. And please don't go and do your own to avoid unnecessary spiritual problems... 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by michlins(m): 10:47pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Ikjosh04:Oga I will support him to marry the girl if it's because of the Igbo caste system and shii. But this is totally different issue. It has to do with genetics and blood relationship. Moreover we don't know if the OP village are settlers just like yours or they are really siblings. PS no town in Nigeria is a thousand years old. Whatever your granny told you is a lie |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 10:48pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Mandem12: Somehow? How? Ask questions.. And seek the face of God. Because if you walk away and that girl is the will of God for you, you'll never be fulfilled in marriage as marrying the wrong woman could be synonymous to suicide. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Candoit: 10:48pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
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Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Mandem12: 10:49pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
konkerall:Thanks so much, I think I need this to spank sense into my brain. I'll always revert to this. Thanks |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by executive12: 10:49pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
If the only relationship is that you come from the same village (ie you are not related by blood like cousins etc), go meet some elders in your village and find out if there is a way out. In some Igbo villages, some rituals are performed to allow the marriage to happen. Also, in most Igbo villages, the restriction only applies to some parts of the village. You are allowed to marry from other parts of the same village. Ask around to be sure. As for the blood covenant, it's a sign of immaturity on the part of your girlfriend. Don't do it. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Kennydoc(m): 10:49pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Justdogood: Northerners marry their first cousins sha. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Rajosh(m): 10:50pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
so because they're from the same village, they're related by blood? Does this even make sense? If that's the case, nobody should get married as we are all descendants of Adam. we're all related. 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by SweetCunt97(f): 10:51pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Justdogood:How is it incest? They are simply from d same village and the connection might b a very very far one 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by SweetCunt97(f): 10:51pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Rajosh:Toh, abi o |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by JohnQ01(m): 10:52pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Be open minded. Damming all consequences is not the first option, do a thorough research on how much related you are. Love is overrated, marriage is overrated, as a matter of fact love is not what keeps marriage after 10years. It is responsibility and you would like to be responsible in making a decision that generates into marriage. The safety and sanity of the lady is very important as well should breakup be an eventuality. Get her totally involve in tracing your lineage, it may be because of your blood relationship that you are drawn to each other in the first place. Get educated, less emotional, let her snap out of it and assist her in settling down again but not at the expense of your dreams. Believe me, I was in your shoes 22yrs ago. I am happy but she does not talk to me again; that I can live with since she is happily married also. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Ikjosh04: 10:52pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
michlins: Lol, do you expect a old woman to quote yrs for me. I just used that figure to emphasize on my point that blood ish happened a very very long time ago. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by SweetCunt97(f): 10:52pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
konkerall:Do u know what incest means? The op and the lady surely has different surnames and I'm sure it's probably a kinsmen something |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by abdullkabar(m): 10:53pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Hmm |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by executive12: 10:53pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
michlins: She is obviously not his sister, unless your definition of sister is different from what is in the dictionary. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by mrblessed(m): 10:53pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
priscaoge:There is no doubt you are very intelligent but you obviously don't know what civilisation means. It is not, as many erroneously think, a slavish acceptance of western culture and a concomitant repulsion for your culture. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Candoit: 10:55pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
I've read the post more than twice now and I'm still wondering where some persons got the idea it's an Ibo tradition. To OP, I wouldn't advise you to disobey your parents neither would I tell you to leave the woman that you love. I only ask you to seek counsel else where. Truth is we don't have enough facts to advise you properly and so u are not misled, go else where. You have elders or senior uncles in your village, Right? Talk to them, tallk to a man of God too PS: Your woman is too forward if u ask me. Imagine the guts asking you for an oath also boldly telling you no one can stop her from getting married to u. Forgive me but I find that awkward 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by talk2aikay(m): 10:55pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
If what the holy book says is anything to go by, then it’s safe to say that we’re all related. After all, we come from Abraham’s long line. I also understand that different people have different cultures, some of which are not only silly but bizarre and seemingly crafted to ruin lives. But I also realize that as Africans we hold tenaciously to our beliefs no matter how self-destructive they may be. The Greeks and romans married their own blood siblings so their progeny would be pure-blood and the heavens didn’t fall. In any case, I suppose you know what you want to do but you’re probably looking for some measure of validation. Whatever you do, don’t make your decisions in anger, spite, hate or love for that matter. I find decisions made in that state of mind aren’t always in anyone’s self interest. Shallom! 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by new2naija: 10:56pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Nobody: 10:56pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Horseshit abeg even in my village dem go dey beg you make you marry from your village bros go and do a history check if she's your fifth generational cousin Or better still you are not related marry am ni even one of the royal bloods of England married his fourth or was it fifth gen cousin no mind all these local nairaland people wey manage find phone. They should start evaluating the people they give sim card. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Mandem12: 10:56pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:Surname differs but the surname has a single sentence holding the name. For eg chukwunonso, chukwuebuka |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 10:56pm On Feb 21, 2020 |
Justdogood: Incest kwa.. You don't know Cain married his sister abi? ..okay o ..that means you're a product of incest ..and Cain village people no make am mad?? So we should shag 7th generation cousins ní? Who's this Methuselah tracing lineages? Let him keep tracing until he traces all lineages to Adam and Eve and eventually finds out everyone is involved in this taboo 1 Like |
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