gypsey:
Ofcourse, if his parents are in his way of getting married and he if he is so desparate not to listen to his parents, he should kill his parents.

And you're comfortable telling him to kill his parent Mpia gi eh

Graysons:
Which state in the south south are you from?

I wonder. South South has many tribes. He should just mention his tribe because the issue according to him is about tribe, not geo-political zone.

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

My male cousin from imo married a lady from Akwa Ibom. I don't know what your mum is thinking though, like Akwa ibomites are superior to imolites

Listen to ur parents bro, at the end most times they are right

putin2:
Lol there is no good tribe in Ss except Igbo, I guess you maybe from delta south na only them hate igbos((Urhobo, itsekili ) the best wife got ijaw man na Igbo women. So we know very well.

u dey mind them ,every thing they want to bring hate against igbo, which tribes makes better marriage than igbowoman?

Thiwalade:
... I'm always surprised at issues arising from tribal differences. Isn't it confounding that our parents will allow us marry "rich" people from another tribe but when it comes to the average person, all laws immediately come into foray. Tribe should be one of the least things to look out for in a spouse. Humans are the same, though our environment influences our morals, social life and character. In my humble opinion, the environment which is primarily the family one grew up in is a better precursor of an individual's values. A fellow tribesman/woman can be your downfall as well as your pillar of support. Evil knows no tribe, religious beliefs, family, country or whatever denomination you may be from. The earlier we start seeing people as individuals instead of tagging "yoruba person" "aboki" "omo igbo" to their heads, the better for our country.

In addition,

You only limit yourself if you let yourself be blinded by tribe even your own family can frame you up. A complete stranger can be the helper of your destiny. Many have lost valuable people due to nonsense tribal sentiments.

We are never born to hate on a particular tribe or people but it's often learnt from our parents or a general misconception arising from one person's experience of another from a tribe. Let's not allow a person's experience guide how we treat our fellow humans.

Be cautious, trust no one because evil knows no color or religion.

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You must be from akwa cross. Their mothers doesn't like their son marrying Igbo girls, sorry to add they are very tribalistic.

Goan marry from your place o, cos if u marry an Igbo girl and there's any ill treatment from your family, una go know say she get people.

Adịghị asikwa ndo.

Kizzygentle:
Your a man. They shouldn't dictate for u. Gone are d days when parents force children to Marry from the same state or tribe. The only reason they would bring tribe as an issue is if they just don't like d lady naturally and they use it as an excuse. If it's dangote or adenuga's daughter they will never reject her.

exactly

Thiwalade:
... I'm always surprised at issues arising from tribal differences. Isn't it confounding that our parents will allow us marry "rich" people from another tribe but when it comes to the average person, all laws immediately come into foray. Tribe should be one of the least things to look out for in a spouse. Humans are the same, though our environment influences our morals, social life and character. In my humble opinion, the environment which is primarily the family one grew up in is a better precursor of an individual's values. A fellow tribesman/woman can be your downfall as well as your pillar of support. Evil knows no tribe, religious beliefs, family, country or whatever denomination you may be from. The earlier we start seeing people as individuals instead of tagging "yoruba person" "aboki" "omo igbo" to their heads, the better for our country.

In addition,

You only limit yourself if you let yourself be blinded by tribe even your own family can frame you up. A complete stranger can be the helper of your destiny. Many have lost valuable people due to nonsense tribal sentiments.

We are never born to hate on a particular tribe or people but it's often learnt from our parents or a general misconception arising from one person's experience of another from a tribe. Let's not allow a person's experience guide how we treat our fellow humans.

Be cautious, trust no one because evil knows no color or religion.

True talk

Lies from the pit of ignorance. I know a man in my place who married Housa woman and she later died. The man married another woman from ou tribe, that is, our tribal sister. Till today that woman has been given her terrible issues. The man remembers his Housa wife every day and cries, wishing he could bring her back. The Housa woman loved him so much. These things have nothing to do with tribe, it's individualistic. the way people were brought up in most cases.

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

how is it our business with this lockdown when ever body is overwhelmed with important issues na tribe be your problems

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

They know why they are telling you that, you are probably being motivated by appearance. Most times, after the marriage, cultural issues set in.

Make sure you know what you are getting entangled in .

I had a cousin who was murdered by a wife from the South east. She later married somebody from her area and inherited all of my cousin's assets. I also heard of somebody, also from the SS region. His wife from the South east nearly murdered him through wrong medication. She managed to sell most of his assets.

Many times you have difficulty knowing more about people who are very far from your area.

Your mum may be right, she may have genuine misgivings. That she doesn't approve an 'outsider' does not necessarily make her a bigot.

Just sit down and watch your statement oooo


Please lala and the house!


Who be lala sef?


We don't know him here on nairaland

Denko2721987:
Awka ibom and Ibo marriages dont always end well most especially becos of the love lost between the older generation. There is this hidden hatred between them that I don't seem to understand.. The younger ones don't have issues but the bad blood from the old generation still lingers on, runs deeps and eventually sows discord among the younger generation.. Its shame anyways becos when the whites start been racists against us, its largely becos we do not also love ourselves.

Peter Obi married from akwa ibom though.

Renida:



Kids

Oh low doh

I don't blame you.
Since they're still giving you pocket money, how will your brain ever develop?

putin2:
Lol there is no good tribe in Ss except Igbo, I guess you maybe from delta south na only them hate igbos((Urhobo, itsekili ) the best wife got ijaw man na Igbo women. So we know very well.

Please explain that bold part. I didn't understand it.

Thiwalade:
... I'm always surprised at issues arising from tribal differences. Isn't it confounding that our parents will allow us marry "rich" people from another tribe but when it comes to the average person, all laws immediately come into foray. Tribe should be one of the least things to look out for in a spouse. Humans are the same, though our environment influences our morals, social life and character. In my humble opinion, the environment which is primarily the family one grew up in is a better precursor of an individual's values. A fellow tribesman/woman can be your downfall as well as your pillar of support. Evil knows no tribe, religious beliefs, family, country or whatever denomination you may be from. The earlier we start seeing people as individuals instead of tagging "yoruba person" "aboki" "omo igbo" to their heads, the better for our country.

In addition,

You only limit yourself if you let yourself be blinded by tribe even your own family can frame you up. A complete stranger can be the helper of your destiny. Many have lost valuable people due to nonsense tribal sentiments.

We are never born to hate on a particular tribe or people but it's often learnt from our parents or a general misconception arising from one person's experience of another from a tribe. Let's not allow a person's experience guide how we treat our fellow humans.

Be cautious, trust no one because evil knows no color or religion.

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Without any hatred for any tribe, if your family isn't compatible especially linguistically with the one you want to marry, your mother has a point there. Nothing creates divide in a family like language barrier especially between your wife and in law and your family members such as your mother and father. If such gap in communication is fueled by any other misbehaviour from your wife, it will be hard for both families to stand United again. Personally I love other tribes but for marriage I try as much as I can to marry someone that can easily merge with my family. Marriage is expansion of your family not really an individual affair in my place.Since my brother married someone from Nasarawa, his family and ours have divided linguistically and in so many aspects. THE WORDS OF OUR FATHERS ARE MOST TIMES THE WORDS OF WISDOM.

thehedge:
Hahahah LIES from the pit of hell......In these days and times?

OP Your parents made their choice and they are still making yours @33

He is right. You will not understand him though simply because you are a lady(sorry if I sound chauvinist).

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

Dude, South South has many tribes. Just mention your tribe because the issue according to you is about tribe, not geo-political zone.

That way people may be able to relate to your mum or not relate.

Let's be honest, inter-tribal marriage is VERY challenging. You must both be committed. A marriage "made" in heaven between tow lovely professionals lasted about 10 years. It just ended abruptly earlier this year. The lady's sister (a divorcee) convinced her to leave her marriage with three kids. She still cannot explain to anybody the reason. Her parents are looking ayanyan. Apparently in her tribe, leaving a marriage anyhow is no biggie. Previously his family supported the marriage irrespective of tribal difference. Now I guess his family would be very skeptical about other cultures they do not know well. I know several other failed examples. Of course success stories also abound.

The decision is yours. LOVE is not always enough when push comes to shove. Love is mostly audio these days. If you are ready to humbly bear the consequences should things go south, you can ignore the opinion of anybody else.

If you both live in another city that is neither yours or her area of origin or diaspora, it might be easier.
If you want to go ahead and marry her, be extremely sure about the relationship.

Good luck.

Urchman200:
u dey mind them ,every thing they want to bring hate against igbo, which tribes makes better marriage than igbowoman?

you are diverting,stick to the topic

Op Better Leave That Igbo Girl And Go Marry From Your Tribe,i As An Igbo Guy Will Never Date Let Alone Marry Outside My Tribe,and I Will Disown Any Of My Unborn Child That Try Marring Somebody Outside My Tribe...I Blame Igbo Girls That Go About Accepting Marriage Proposal From Every Dick And Harri Outside Igbo Land....Smh!

Op, successful marriage does not depend on marrying from your tribe. What matters is that you love her and she loves you too. My wife is from Dassa Zuome, Benin Republic and I am from Delta State, an Urhobo by tribe and we have been married for almost ten years now and we are very happy together. Talk to your parents especially your mother for them to see reason why they cannot impose who to marry on you because you are the one going to live with the woman not them
and marrying a woman from your tribe does not guarantee a successful marriage

Thiwalade:
... I'm always surprised at issues arising from tribal differences. Isn't it confounding that our parents will allow us marry "rich" people from another tribe but when it comes to the average person, all laws immediately come into foray. Tribe should be one of the least things to look out for in a spouse. Humans are the same, though our environment influences our morals, social life and character. In my humble opinion, the environment which is primarily the family one grew up in is a better precursor of an individual's values. A fellow tribesman/woman can be your downfall as well as your pillar of support. Evil knows no tribe, religious beliefs, family, country or whatever denomination you may be from. The earlier we start seeing people as individuals instead of tagging "yoruba person" "aboki" "omo igbo" to their heads, the better for our country.

In addition,

You only limit yourself if you let yourself be blinded by tribe even your own family can frame you up. A complete stranger can be the helper of your destiny. Many have lost valuable people due to nonsense tribal sentiments.

We are never born to hate on a particular tribe or people but it's often learnt from our parents or a general misconception arising from one person's experience of another from a tribe. Let's not allow a person's experience guide how we treat our fellow humans.

Be cautious, trust no one because evil knows no color or religion.

It couldn't have been better said. You spelt out my thoughts almost verbatim.

PHijo:


They know why they are telling you that, you are probably being motivated by appearance. Most times, after the marriage, cultural issues set in.

Make sure you know what you are getting entangled in .

I had a cousin who was murdered by a wife from the South east. She later married somebody from her area and inherited all of my cousin's assets. I also heard of somebody, also from the SS region. His wife from the South east nearly murdered him through wrong medication. She managed to sell most of his assets.

Many times you have difficulty knowing more about people who are very far from your area.

Your mum may be right, she may have genuine misgivings. That she doesn't approve an 'outsider' does not necessarily make her a bigot.

There are also uncountable stories of south south spouses doing strong thing to their partners.

There are streets in some south south states where you have only widows.
The husbands have been cut down very early.

There are places in the south south where the women drink infidelity like water.

There are places in the south south where getting a good husband is impossible because of generational laziness and drunkenness.

There are a lot of stories to go round. Where another person end, that is where yours begin.

Let us all be mad together.

RTSC:

There are also uncountable stories of south south spouses doing strong thing to their partners.

There are streets in some south south states where you have only widows.
The husbands have been cut down very early.

There are places in the south south where the women drink infidelity like water.

There are places in the south south where getting a good husband is impossible because of generational laziness and drunkenness.

There are a lot of stories to go round. Where another person end, that is where yours begin.

Let us all be mad together.

That region is multicultural. If you want to bash any ethnic group be specific!

The people are lazy, women kill their husbands etc and yet Igbo men and women come in droves, begging people to marry them!

this one is a 33 year old child

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Op Better Leave That Igbo Girl And Go Marry From Your Tribe,i As An Igbo Guy Will Never Date Let Alone Marry Outside My Tribe,and I Will Disown Any Of My Unborn Child That Try Marring Somebody Outside My Tribe...I Blame Igbo Girls That Go About Accepting Marriage Proposal From Every Dick And Harri Outside Igbo Land....Smh!

what have you sincerely gained in this life by being igbo? answer sincerely

PHijo:


They know why they are telling you that, you are probably being motivated by appearance. Most times, after the marriage, cultural issues set in.

Make sure you know what you are getting entangled in .

I had a cousin who was murdered by a wife from the South east. She later married somebody from her area and inherited all of my cousin's assets. I also heard of somebody, also from the SS region. His wife from the South east nearly murdered him through wrong medication. She managed to sell most of his assets.

Many times you have difficulty knowing more about people who are very far from your area.

Your mum may be right, she may have genuine misgivings. That she doesn't approve an 'outsider' does not necessarily make her a bigot.

afonjaz! Pathetic Mor.ns always looking for an opportunity to attack ndi igbo with their stinking lies and propagandas.

EVILFOREST:
Just AVOID MARRIAGE If U can.
Just avoid it, however if you enter and realise you have made the worst mistake, Please Run away..... Just evacuate yourself from it.
Your DEATH is not worth it.

Being unmarried doesn't stop you from having a CHILD or being a FATHER.
IF you invest that MILLION NAIRA meant for the wedding, as a Single FATHER.... You will reap bountifully.
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Nowadays MARRIAGES draw you closer to the DEVIL. DEVIL now has a permanent resident permit

oga what happened to your lovely wife that supported you then? Have you gone your separate ways?