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Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by biacan(f): 7:21pm On May 10, 2020 |
gypsey:And you're comfortable telling him to kill his parent Mpia gi eh |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by AreaFada2: 7:22pm On May 10, 2020 |
Graysons: I wonder. South South has many tribes. He should just mention his tribe because the issue according to him is about tribe, not geo-political zone. |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by clericuzzio(m): 7:22pm On May 10, 2020 |
nyzeo: My male cousin from imo married a lady from Akwa Ibom. I don't know what your mum is thinking though, like Akwa ibomites are superior to imolites |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Edusouls(m): 7:23pm On May 10, 2020 |
Listen to ur parents bro, at the end most times they are right |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Urchman200: 7:26pm On May 10, 2020 |
putin2:u dey mind them ,every thing they want to bring hate against igbo, which tribes makes better marriage than igbowoman? 3 Likes |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Ibrahim3307(m): 7:26pm On May 10, 2020 |
Thiwalade:best comment 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Collins4u1(m): 7:27pm On May 10, 2020 |
You must be from akwa cross. Their mothers doesn't like their son marrying Igbo girls, sorry to add they are very tribalistic. Goan marry from your place o, cos if u marry an Igbo girl and there's any ill treatment from your family, una go know say she get people. Adịghị asikwa ndo. |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Ibrahim3307(m): 7:27pm On May 10, 2020 |
Kizzygentle:exactly |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Arkmanbuddy(m): 7:28pm On May 10, 2020 |
Thiwalade: True talk 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by SweetyMarvel00(m): 7:29pm On May 10, 2020 |
Lies from the pit of ignorance. I know a man in my place who married Housa woman and she later died. The man married another woman from ou tribe, that is, our tribal sister. Till today that woman has been given her terrible issues. The man remembers his Housa wife every day and cries, wishing he could bring her back. The Housa woman loved him so much. These things have nothing to do with tribe, it's individualistic. the way people were brought up in most cases. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by ahiboilandgas: 7:30pm On May 10, 2020 |
nyzeo:how is it our business with this lockdown when ever body is overwhelmed with important issues na tribe be your problems |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by PHijo(m): 7:31pm On May 10, 2020 |
nyzeo: They know why they are telling you that, you are probably being motivated by appearance. Most times, after the marriage, cultural issues set in. Make sure you know what you are getting entangled in . I had a cousin who was murdered by a wife from the South east. She later married somebody from her area and inherited all of my cousin's assets. I also heard of somebody, also from the SS region. His wife from the South east nearly murdered him through wrong medication. She managed to sell most of his assets. Many times you have difficulty knowing more about people who are very far from your area. Your mum may be right, she may have genuine misgivings. That she doesn't approve an 'outsider' does not necessarily make her a bigot. 4 Likes |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by vasco01(m): 7:31pm On May 10, 2020 |
Just sit down and watch your statement oooo Please lala and the house! Who be lala sef? We don't know him here on nairaland |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by RTSC: 7:32pm On May 10, 2020 |
Denko2721987:Peter Obi married from akwa ibom though. 3 Likes |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by OsuIgboIpob: 7:34pm On May 10, 2020 |
Renida:Oh low doh I don't blame you. Since they're still giving you pocket money, how will your brain ever develop? |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by PHijo(m): 7:34pm On May 10, 2020 |
putin2: Please explain that bold part. I didn't understand it. |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Dreamville: 7:34pm On May 10, 2020 |
Thiwalade:10K likes 4 u. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by ostarlink: 7:34pm On May 10, 2020 |
Without any hatred for any tribe, if your family isn't compatible especially linguistically with the one you want to marry, your mother has a point there. Nothing creates divide in a family like language barrier especially between your wife and in law and your family members such as your mother and father. If such gap in communication is fueled by any other misbehaviour from your wife, it will be hard for both families to stand United again. Personally I love other tribes but for marriage I try as much as I can to marry someone that can easily merge with my family. Marriage is expansion of your family not really an individual affair in my place.Since my brother married someone from Nasarawa, his family and ours have divided linguistically and in so many aspects. THE WORDS OF OUR FATHERS ARE MOST TIMES THE WORDS OF WISDOM. |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by TruthSpeaker: 7:35pm On May 10, 2020 |
At 33, I think you are old enough to decide with whom you will like to share your life. Your mum had a child/children for your dad when she did without your interference, so now the best she can do is to give her opinion and not impose her wish. Are you financially independent or you still depend on her? If you are independent, then let her know it is not her responsibility to decide who you marry, after all she isn’t expected to share the same house with you and your wife. Financial challenges can make a man lose his balls and manhood. It is unbelievable that by 2020 this kind of issues still arises in Nigeria(a must for same-state and same-tribe). All this traditionally absurd way of reasoning should be washed away. Hope your mum’s educational status isn’t influencing her opinion. There is absolutely no guarantee that same-state and same-tribe marriage with make love and harmony bind the marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by hensben(m): 7:36pm On May 10, 2020 |
thehedge:He is right. You will not understand him though simply because you are a lady(sorry if I sound chauvinist). |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by AreaFada2: 7:37pm On May 10, 2020 |
nyzeo:Dude, South South has many tribes. Just mention your tribe because the issue according to you is about tribe, not geo-political zone. That way people may be able to relate to your mum or not relate. Let's be honest, inter-tribal marriage is VERY challenging. You must both be committed. A marriage "made" in heaven between tow lovely professionals lasted about 10 years. It just ended abruptly earlier this year. The lady's sister (a divorcee) convinced her to leave her marriage with three kids. She still cannot explain to anybody the reason. Her parents are looking ayanyan. Apparently in her tribe, leaving a marriage anyhow is no biggie. Previously his family supported the marriage irrespective of tribal difference. Now I guess his family would be very skeptical about other cultures they do not know well. I know several other failed examples. Of course success stories also abound. The decision is yours. LOVE is not always enough when push comes to shove. Love is mostly audio these days. If you are ready to humbly bear the consequences should things go south, you can ignore the opinion of anybody else. If you both live in another city that is neither yours or her area of origin or diaspora, it might be easier. If you want to go ahead and marry her, be extremely sure about the relationship. Good luck. |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by SIONKPO1(m): 7:37pm On May 10, 2020 |
Urchman200:you are diverting,stick to the topic |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Smoke55: 7:39pm On May 10, 2020 |
Op Better Leave That Igbo Girl And Go Marry From Your Tribe,i As An Igbo Guy Will Never Date Let Alone Marry Outside My Tribe,and I Will Disown Any Of My Unborn Child That Try Marring Somebody Outside My Tribe...I Blame Igbo Girls That Go About Accepting Marriage Proposal From Every Dick And Harri Outside Igbo Land....Smh! |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by deltapikin(m): 7:39pm On May 10, 2020 |
Op, successful marriage does not depend on marrying from your tribe. What matters is that you love her and she loves you too. My wife is from Dassa Zuome, Benin Republic and I am from Delta State, an Urhobo by tribe and we have been married for almost ten years now and we are very happy together. Talk to your parents especially your mother for them to see reason why they cannot impose who to marry on you because you are the one going to live with the woman not them and marrying a woman from your tribe does not guarantee a successful marriage |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Blackbelly(m): 7:40pm On May 10, 2020 |
Thiwalade: It couldn't have been better said. You spelt out my thoughts almost verbatim. 1 Like
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Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by RTSC: 7:41pm On May 10, 2020 |
PHijo:There are also uncountable stories of south south spouses doing strong thing to their partners. There are streets in some south south states where you have only widows. The husbands have been cut down very early. There are places in the south south where the women drink infidelity like water. There are places in the south south where getting a good husband is impossible because of generational laziness and drunkenness. There are a lot of stories to go round. Where another person end, that is where yours begin. Let us all be mad together. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by PHijo(m): 7:44pm On May 10, 2020 |
RTSC: That region is multicultural. If you want to bash any ethnic group be specific! The people are lazy, women kill their husbands etc and yet Igbo men and women come in droves, begging people to marry them! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by hardon1(m): 7:45pm On May 10, 2020 |
this one is a 33 year old child |
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Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by hardon1(m): 7:47pm On May 10, 2020 |
Smoke55: what have you sincerely gained in this life by being igbo? answer sincerely 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Smoke55: 7:48pm On May 10, 2020 |
PHijo:afonjaz! Pathetic Mor.ns always looking for an opportunity to attack ndi igbo with their stinking lies and propagandas. |
Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Nobody: 7:49pm On May 10, 2020 |
EVILFOREST:oga what happened to your lovely wife that supported you then? Have you gone your separate ways? |
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