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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 9:27pm On Oct 03, 2020
tunjilana:



This is toxic masculinity at its finest...Any woman who cant and wont support u wen u are down isnt worth being called a wife...such shud end as a girlfriend or at most baby mama

Don't hand over your life to a selfish person all in the name of marriage...no one is promised a smooth financial ride forever

Are you a man or a woman

for your info there is nothing like toxic masculinity, you either be a man in a relationship or you will end up being the woman

a man job is simple, a provider, a leader and a protector.

you claimed because she didnt help the man she is selfish?

so you think it is right for a man to ask a woman to ask her wealthy parent for money to take care of his own family? It is a disgrace if you believe in that

How do you expect that woman to look at you?

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 9:32pm On Oct 03, 2020
jimmychang:



Your English is beautifully crafted but I still don't see your point.You mean if as a man you face difficult times and that period while you are trying to get back up she is not even bothered , it is normal?
How do you think ? You think life na pot of beans abi.If your wife can't help you when you are down why did you marry her grin grin.....African man wise up these are modern times.If it was those year of hunting and farming I see no need for a woman's love or support but times don change ....

So a man need to wait for his wife to help him before he can help himself, no wonder we have lot of houses where the men have been relegated to only watching tv and drinking beer after losing their jobs

so if a woman does not help the man, he can not do anything.
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by jimmychang: 9:45pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


So a man need to wait for his wife to help him before he can help himself, no wonder we have lot of houses where the men have been relegated to only watching tv and drinking beer after losing their jobs

so if a woman does not help the man, he can not do anything.

Check what I wrote and try to comprehend just this once in your life.In the mean time when the man is down I didn't say the man should sit down and cry like a baby.I don't know how your background is have your back ever been against the ground.
Things happens bro,what if the man is rendered useless maybe an accident to his spine or something like that. Nigga STFU.I have pride as a man.I don't subscribe to Laziness bro tueh. I don't accept gifts from girls due to pride and I don't give either except it is worth it .
Guy that period when you are down and she should at least help not just adding to your burden.She should just on her own observed that things ain't like before and she help you take care of a few things cuz she knows you are not lazy.
A woman like that will motivate you bro not that one that will make you enter depression.Are you married self?

Na who never see life go dey yarn watin you yarn so ...

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 9:51pm On Oct 03, 2020
jimmychang:


Check what I said,in the mean time when the man is down I didn't say the man should sit down and cry like a baby.I don't know how your background is have your back ever been against the ground.
Things happens bro,what if the man is rendered useless maybe an accident to his spine or something like that. Nigga STFU.I have pride as a man.I hate Laziness bro tueh. I don't accept gifts from girls and I don't give either except it is worth it .
Guy that period when you are down and she should at least help not just adding to your burden.She should just on her own observed that things ain't like before and she help you take care of a few things cuz she knows you are not lazy.
A woman like that will motivate you bro not that one that will make you enter depression.Are you married self?

Na who never see life go dey yarn watin you yarn so ...

you keep writing try to comprehend, i doubt if you ever comprehended what i wrote.

What you just wrote are all idealism, what you expect another human to do for you instead of what you should do by yourself as a man

A man that want to work badly does not need any support or motivation

if she was not from a rich family and had no cash, what would he had done, cry and wail in depression i guess

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 9:52pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


the truth is always pointless, when you marry you can go alone and depend on your wife for survival

1 timothy 5:8

But if any man have not care of his own, and especially of those of his house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel


Genesis 2:18
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
undecided


Incase you don't know na me talk
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 9:55pm On Oct 03, 2020
jimmychang:


Check what I wrote and try to comprehend just this once in your life.In the mean time when the man is down I didn't say the man should sit down and cry like a baby.I don't know how your background is have your back ever been against the ground.
Things happens bro,what if the man is rendered useless maybe an accident to his spine or something like that. Nigga STFU.I have pride as a man.I don't subscribe to Laziness bro tueh. I don't accept gifts from girls due to pride and I don't give either except it is worth it .
Guy that period when you are down and she should at least help not just adding to your burden.She should just on her own observed that things ain't like before and she help you take care of a few things cuz she knows you are not lazy.
A woman like that will motivate you bro not that one that will make you enter depression.Are you married self?

Na who never see life go dey yarn watin you yarn so ...

The guy just dey amaze me cheesy cheesy cheesy

Incase you don't know na me talk
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 9:57pm On Oct 03, 2020
MrTAnonymous:



Genesis 2:18
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
undecided


Incase you don't know na me talk

God said i will make a helper (companion) not a provider

I guess you forgot the part where God said you are to provide for your family

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 10:01pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


God said i will make a helper(companion) not a provider
Bro, why is it so hard for you to comprehend things easily? I never stated in any of my post that the wife should be the provider, I only stated that she should be able to help her husband during the time he needs her the most.
Now go back to page one and reread all over.

Incase you don't know na me talk

Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:06pm On Oct 03, 2020
MrTAnonymous:

Bro, why is it so hard for you to comprehend things easily? I never stated in any of my post that the wife should be the provider, I only stated that she should be able to help her husband during the time he needs her the most.
Now go back to page one and reread all over.

Incase you don't know na me talk

you are the one that can not comprehend anything

Do you know the meaning of a helper according to the bible that you love to quote, if god wanted women as providers he would have written that

The role of the husband in the Bible starts with leadership. Scripture makes it very clear that a husband must be a leader of his home and have healthy control of his life

So how do you expect a woman to respect a man that want her to ask her parent for loan to take care of her

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by jimmychang: 10:09pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


you keep writing try to comprehend, i doubt if you ever comprehended what i wrote.

What you just wrote are all idealism, what you expect another human to do for you instead of what you should do by yourself as a man

A man that want to work badly does not need any support or motivation

if she was not from a rich family and had no cash, what would he had done, cry and wail in depression i guess


Nigga I am done ....
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:11pm On Oct 03, 2020
jimmychang:



Nigga I am done ....

bye bye
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Martinez39s(m): 10:13pm On Oct 03, 2020
dingbang:
Men really need to be selfish for once.


A female customer, (married with kids) comes to the bank to seek for her money in her account to be placed on lien, say 800k. She further comes weekly to remove lien of the amount of money she needs for that week.


This surprises me, maybe she doesn't want her husband to know she has such amount of money in her bank account. Well, marriage las las na scam.

Men need to really take good care of themselves out there, it's really a selfish world right now.
If only men can swallow the red pill, put themselves first, and go mgtow, things like this wouldn't be happening. Women ain't shit, and marriage and relationships are scams and absolute waste of time. Many married men don't wish their children dead but if they could rewind the hands of time, they would choose to stay single. Most married men facing hard times and hell/betrayal from their wives would have never been broke and/or mentally and emotionally tortured and saddened if they had stayed single and avoided children. In current times, marriage is just extra responsibility for the man without any safety for him or necessity for the woman to contribute anything tangible to the union.

Men are willing to share their pots of gold with women, women are never willing to share theirs with men. Women only love what you provide and how you make them feel. No matter what you have done for a woman in the past, once she can't benefit anything from you, she leaves you cold. A woman sees a man as an expendable utility. A utility serves, a utility is never served.

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Martinez39s(m): 10:16pm On Oct 03, 2020
MrTAnonymous:

Bro, why is it so hard for you to comprehend things easily? I never stated in any of my post that the wife should be the provider, I only stated that she should be able to help her husband during the time he needs her the most.
Now go back to page one and reread all over.

Incase you don't know na me talk
I don't know why you all are arguing with that woman. Leave women to rot in their delusions.

Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 10:18pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


you are the one that can not comprehend anything

Do you know the meaning of a helper according to the bible that you love to quoteif god wanted women as providers he would have written that,

The role of the husband in the Bible starts with leadership. Scripture makes it very clear that a husband must be a leader of his home and have healthy control of his life

So how do you expect a woman to respect a man that want her to ask her parent for loan to take care of her


Can you tell me what helper means according to the Bible? It seems like you have a different version of dictionary. undecided



Incase you don't know na me talk
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 10:20pm On Oct 03, 2020
Martinez39s:
If only men can swallow the red pill, put themselves first, and go mgtow, things like this wouldn't be happening. Women ain't shit, and marriage and relationships are scams and absolute waste of time. Many married men don't wish their children dead but if they could rewind the hands of time, they would choose to stay single. Most married men facing hard times and hell/betrayal from their wives would have never been broke and/or mentally and emotionally tortured and saddened if they had stayed single and avoided children. In current times, marriage is just extra responsibility for the man without any safety for him or necessity for the woman to contribute anything tangible to the union.

Men are willing to share their pots of gold with women, women are never willing to share theirs with men. Women only love what you provide and how you make them feel. No matter what you have done for a woman in the past, once she can't benefit anything from you, she leaves you cold. A woman sees a man as an expendable utility. A utility serves, a utility is never served.

Chris Brown has said it all

He said This girls ain't loyal


Incase you don't know na me talk
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:20pm On Oct 03, 2020
Before you get married to any lady, sit her down and let her know that she has to contribute financially, if she abhors the idea don't marry her. Just call off the proposal or whatever you've already done.
Why is she working and making money if she's not going to contribute to the family (financially)? To buy clothes and perfumes for herself?

Like I said earlier, sit her down and tell her before you guys get married don't wait until after you guys get married because that's where the problem will come from.

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:22pm On Oct 03, 2020
Martinez39s:
If only men can swallow the red pill, put themselves first, and go mgtow, things like this wouldn't be happening. Women ain't shit, and marriage and relationships are scams and absolute waste of time. Many married men don't wish their children dead but if they could rewind the hands of time, they would choose to stay single. Most married men facing hard times and hell/betrayal from their wives would have never been broke and/or mentally and emotionally tortured and saddened if they had stayed single and avoided children. In current times, marriage is just extra responsibility for the man without any safety for him or necessity for the woman to contribute anything tangible to the union.

Men are willing to share their pots of gold with women, women are never willing to share theirs with men. Women only love what you provide and how you make them feel. No matter what you have done for a woman in the past, once she can't benefit anything from you, she leaves you cold. A woman sees a man as an expendable utility. A utility serves, a utility is never served.

stop contradicting yourself.

Read the story and be objective in thinking instead of writing idealism

you think it is right for a man to ask a woman to tell her parent to give him some cash to take care of her?
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 10:22pm On Oct 03, 2020
Martinez39s:
I don't know why you all are arguing with that woman. Leave women to rot in their delusions.

Oh so I was arguing with a female moniker all this while? Didn't know, I thought it was a male moniker. No wonder sad

Incase you don't know na me talk
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:25pm On Oct 03, 2020
MrTAnonymous:



Can you tell me what helper means according to the Bible? It seems like you have a different version of dictionary. undecided



Incase you don't know na me talk


a helper in the situation of Adam means a companion

He saw adam was lonely and decided to create another human (a woman) that will be his companion
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 10:25pm On Oct 03, 2020
Elder0001:
Before you get married to any lady, sit her down and let her know that she has to contribute financially, if she abhors the idea don't marry her. Just call off the proposal or whatever you've already done.
Why is she working and making money if she's not going to contribute to the family (financially)? To buy clothes and perfumes for herself?

Like I said earlier, sit her down and tell her before you guys get married don't wait until after you guys get married because that's where the problem will come from.

Just like your moniker Elder, you just gave people like thebosstrevor an elderly advice. I pray he listens before it is too late.


Incase you don't know na me talk
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:28pm On Oct 03, 2020
MrTAnonymous:


Just like your moniker Elder, you just gave people like thebosstrevor an elderly advice. I pray he listens before it is too late.


Incase you don't know na me talk

I dont need any advice from anybody but if you want to be weak by waiting for a woman's money before you can act like a man all because of some gender equality, it is your choice, you can continue, it is your life.

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Martinez39s(m): 10:29pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


stop contradicting yourself.

[s]Read the story and be objective in thinking instead of writing idealism[/s]

[s]you think it is right for a man to ask a woman to tell her parent to give him some cash to take care of her?[/s]
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by TLE900: 10:29pm On Oct 03, 2020
What is a definition of real man or real woman when storm, disease or hard times knocks on the marriage door. Hmmmmm. Make we get sense ooooooo.
thebosstrevor1:
It seems the man married her because her parent are rich

The woman is right, it is not the job of her parent to loan the husband money.

If the man is a real man, he would have had saving for bad days.

No masculine man will go so low to ask his wife or her parent for loan. Who does that.

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by TLE900: 10:32pm On Oct 03, 2020
Avoid the Booby traps. Na early grave oooo
MrTAnonymous:



I thought females were created to be a man's helper according to the Christian Bible? Why will I marry a woman who ain't loyal and supportive? undecided
Anyways like I said , marriage is overrated, marriage is a trap.


Incase you don't know na me talk

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 10:39pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


a helper in the situation of Adam means a companion

He saw adam was lonely and decided to create another human (a woman) that will be his companion

You are saying bs.

When a man and wife are joined in marriage, they are no longer two; they are one.

"For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24).

So what is the essence of marrying her if she won't be willing to work together for the betterment of the family. You need prayers. I would rather file for a divorce than live the rest of my with a selfish and self centered woman.


Incase you don't know na me talk
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:41pm On Oct 03, 2020
The comments from guys here makes me cry for the future of Nigeria.

How do you expect to be a leader in the society when you can not lead your own home

it is just embarrassing that many guys believe in the idea that they need support from their woman if they go down, so if she doesnt support you finaincially, you will stop to exist or what.

the order of society is simple God over man, man over his wife, wife over children meaning the man is the head of the house, he provide, protect and lead, how do you expect a leader to go so low begging and checking his wife account and complaing and nagging about his wife not supporting him because she didnt ask a loan from her wealthy parent on his behalf. The behaviour of the man is repulsive and no guy here could talk about that.

I pity for these men of this generation, no wonder all you complain every day here on nairaland, it is either most of you were brought up by single mothers or you guys had weak fathers who was never a leading example.

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:43pm On Oct 03, 2020
[s]
Martinez39s:
If only men can swallow the red pill, put themselves first, and go mgtow, things like this wouldn't be happening. Women ain't shit, and marriage and relationships are scams and absolute waste of time. Many married men don't wish their children dead but if they could rewind the hands of time, they would choose to stay single. Most married men facing hard times and hell/betrayal from their wives would have never been broke and/or mentally and emotionally tortured and saddened if they had stayed single and avoided children. In current times, marriage is just extra responsibility for the man without any safety for him or necessity for the woman to contribute anything tangible to the union.

Men are willing to share their pots of gold with women, women are never willing to share theirs with men. Women only love what you provide and how you make them feel. No matter what you have done for a woman in the past, once she can't benefit anything from you, she leaves you cold. A woman sees a man as an expendable utility. A utility serves, a utility is never served.
[/s]
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:47pm On Oct 03, 2020
MrTAnonymous:


You are saying bs.

When a man and wife are joined in marriage, they are no longer two; they are one.

"For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24).

So what is the essence of marrying her if she won't be willing to work together for the betterment of the family. You need prayers. I would rather file for a divorce than live the rest of my with a selfish and self centered woman.


Incase you don't know na me talk

They become one flesh with the husband been the head and provider of the family.
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:54pm On Oct 03, 2020
TLE900:
What is a definition of real man or real woman when storm, disease or hard times knocks on the marriage door. Hmmmmm. Make we get sense ooooooo.

Helping and supporting as husband and wife is different from trying to manipulate an individual to get what you wan because you know the person's family has wealth

The topic of discussion was about a man complaining about his wife from a wealthy home not helping him to ask for cash form her parent to take care of the family then also going through her account for money

I find what the man did repulsive? help is given mutually and not by manipulation or by deceit.

So if she wasnt from a rich home, he will stop exising or what.
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by MrTAnonymous(m): 10:55pm On Oct 03, 2020
thebosstrevor1:


They become one flesh with the husband been the head and provider of the family.


Chai, you are impossible. At this point, I have nothing to say to you, your lack of comprehension is a big issue. I weep for you cry cry cry


Incase you don't know na me talk

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Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Nobody: 10:57pm On Oct 03, 2020
MrTAnonymous:


Chai, you are impossible. At this point, I have nothing to say to you, your lack of comprehension is a big issue. I weep for you cry cry cry


Incase you don't know na me talk

you are the one that lack comprehension

i will end with this

The companionship between a man and a woman is directed by the influence of the husband through his provision and protection and is covered by his caring, gentle, and graceful love for his wife and family.
Re: Man Is Broke, His Wife Has Money But She Is Not Willing To Help, Advice Him by Karleb(m): 12:15am On Oct 04, 2020
You can easily know why some marriage crash from this thread.



I've never seen a woman who failed to contribute financially in the family... Maybe I need to travel more.

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