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Re: . by Rayfield: 1:41am On Dec 28, 2020
MEGA4BILLION:

I answered this already. No go give person daughter belle o
Thank you.
Re: . by Gokoyer0(m): 2:00am On Dec 28, 2020
What did you mean by you just decided to marry her? Don't you love her at all in the first place?

Your libido may be very low right now. Another question is that, are you into pornography at all?
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
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My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless
Re: . by rtdCivilservant: 2:27am On Dec 28, 2020
ukaface:
And prick People will be shouting ' vagina people' upandan.

Just negodu
U don spoil finish, see wetin de comot for ur mouth.
Re: . by WallStreetfx(m): 2:55am On Dec 28, 2020
Zzor:
It has finished with Nigerian men

I swear you no lie, very stupid man, na his wife I pity. This sex of a thing have turn some people to full time mumu.

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Re: . by drexx(m): 4:09am On Dec 28, 2020
Gokoyer0:
What did you mean by you just decided to marry her? Don't you love her at all in the first place?

Your libido may be very low right now. Another question is that, are you into pornography at all?
Sir please my libido is not low as I can have sex with other ladies especially this my preferred body type. I am not into porn Sir.
Tried relating this truth to my wife yesterday. I really want to separate. If it's too hard, we might just stay married but stay differently so I can move on with my life
Re: . by ruggedtimi(m): 5:29am On Dec 28, 2020
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless
this when you marry out of pity and you probably didn't have frequent sex with your wife before marriage. Sex is a very important tool in marriage
Re: . by mattmogan88: 6:41am On Dec 28, 2020
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drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless
[/s]

Shame on you.
No Dy disgrace men,!

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Re: . by Nobody: 6:50am On Dec 28, 2020
hashtagged:
Divorce and marry another wife, why stay in a marriage you don't like, marriages were meant for happiness.
The mistake you made was marrying her, so if she get Belle only the child is your responsibility not her.
Tell her you want to marry another wife and you don't find her attractive or if she would allow you have a side chick that you can bring home for constant fvcking


. No useless evening newspaper should quote me
SECOND WIFE can solve all these.
AFRICANS need to wake up.
When we married in POLYGAMOUS SETTINGS, DIVORCE wasn't there.
Since we started this MONOGAMOUS pattern, every where na Divorce.
I hate DIVORCE.
Talk to her and bring in another Lady.
MARRIAGE goes on.
Re: . by Nobody: 6:52am On Dec 28, 2020
scottyoloye:
Na thunder go fire you if you break that girl’s heart.
Does she make you happy in most areas apart from sex? If yes, stick with her. Trust me, the sex drive will come back naturally if you begin to make yourself see how wonderful she is.
It’s difficult to find a good girl these days, trust me.
THUNDER doesn't need to Fire him.
GOD doesn't operate that way.
That his Wife also needs a happier husband too.
He aired his opinion openly.
Many are suffering.
ADVICE him and withdraw the Thunder.
It's natural.
All WOMEN and MEN are not the same.
I can't stay with someone that has body odour.
Some can manage dat situation throughout dia lifetime.
So everything differs.
Re: . by braimeddy: 7:31am On Dec 28, 2020
I believe apart from sex there's something you love about her. Why not sit her down and talk to her so that she can work on herself. Divorce is not an option and please for now stop looking outside.
drexx:
See for all those insulting me, you are free. I shouldn't have gone ahead to marry her. I accept my mistake. But am I going to stay in a sexless marriage all because of my mistake? I have taken responsibility, given her everything and I am even ready to pay her for life. The mere sight of her kills my erection.
Re: . by femi4: 7:39am On Dec 28, 2020
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless
Don't worry, you ll still find out that so many things are wrong with you before jumping into marriage

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Re: . by Nobody: 7:40am On Dec 28, 2020
drexx:
See for all those insulting me, you are free. I shouldn't have gone ahead to marry her. I accept my mistake. But am I going to stay in a sexless marriage all because of my mistake? I have taken responsibility, given her everything and I am even ready to pay her for life. The mere sight of her kills my erection.

This issue doesn't need NL palava. Marriage is a contract, not a lifetime sentence. If it's not working for you, divorce amicably (especially for the sake of the child) and marry your spec. Open your eye well this time. Make sure you adequately fulfill your responsibilities to your child.

Good luck.
Re: . by Gentle0wavez: 7:51am On Dec 28, 2020
Oga marriage is for better for worse, for richer or poor, in sickness and in health until death. Get that first in to your mind then Pray to God to for strength and love, yes he supplies such spirits too, It's not only Money you should pray for.

I BELIEVE IN THE WORD OF GOD
Re: . by Saintmary(f): 9:37am On Dec 28, 2020
generationz:


Lol, he's just not serious. How can you impregnate a totally different women then say you like the opposite body type? What sort of confusion is that?

Obviously, he's not in his right senses.
Re: . by FX(m): 10:07am On Dec 28, 2020
drexx:
See for all those insulting me, you are free. I shouldn't have gone ahead to marry her. I accept my mistake. But am I going to stay in a sexless marriage all because of my mistake? I have taken responsibility, given her everything and I am even ready to pay her for life. The mere sight of her kills my erection.
Jesus!
Re: . by lereinter(m): 11:07am On Dec 28, 2020
Try discipline yourself

It's hard but you should cultivate it


Because you will always see hot ladies than your wife even if you divorce the one you married
Re: . by DukeJoe17: 11:52am On Dec 28, 2020
[quote author=drexx post=974

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation.[quote]

there is no type of woman that will satisfy a kind of man like you forever, marriage is not for you, stop deceiving yourself. Community przzk

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Re: . by Womanizer(m): 12:02pm On Dec 28, 2020
MISSCONGENIALITY:
Don't mind the dickhead. Disgracing men up and down and making women see men as dickheads. He got erect and bleeped her hard enough to deposit a seed inside her even before they got married and now that they've given her to him as whole sale, to Bleep till death do them part, he suddenly can't get and erection.

I can now see why you're so peeved with OP

You are a petit and portable lady therefore you see this as a personal attack grin
Re: . by Womanizer(m): 12:05pm On Dec 28, 2020
Gentle0wavez:
Oga marriage is for better for worse, for richer or poor, in sickness and in health until death. Get that first in to your mind then Pray to God to for strength and love, yes he supplies such spirits too, It's not only Money you should pray for.

I BELIEVE IN THE WORD OF GOD

You lie, that till death do us part rubbish no longer applies!

Marriage is simply a contract which can be terminated by either of the parties involved
Re: . by bukatyne(f): 12:12pm On Dec 28, 2020
Vanzcharles:

It has not finished with me biko Abeg stop dragging everybody into one trouser.

Hahahahahaha!
Re: . by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 12:50pm On Dec 28, 2020
Womanizer:


I can now see why you're so peeved with OP

You are a petit and portable lady therefore you see this as a personal attack grin
I'm all you have said. But I'm a very cute and irresistible babe. No man will resist my charm except I don't use it. We don't need to even have sex before you become obsessed with me. Meeting. Talking to me alone will make you leave your wife.
Don't think every smallie is unattractive. Some of them will make you throw your wife out
Re: . by Nobody: 1:01pm On Dec 28, 2020
So how did you achieve the erection that got her pregnant? Na long throat dey worry you. Go and be managing her like that.

Greedy men everywhere. Never satisfied until they meet their Waterloo.
Re: . by Gentle0wavez: 1:18pm On Dec 28, 2020
Womanizer:


You lie, that till death do us part rubbish no longer applies!

Marriage is simply a contract which can be terminated by either of the parties involved


What do you mean by no longer applies, look marriage never changed, if it was so before it is still so now and Marriage is a Covenant by Godly standard not just an ordinary contract.



I BELIEVE IN THE WORD OF GOD.
Re: . by GodWrites: 1:28pm On Dec 28, 2020
SimpDetector:
You are not alone. Many men have lost attraction for their wives but they are still enduring the marriage. The ones that cannot endure go on to cheat.

This is why I'm not a fan of marriage. It puts people in uncomfortable situations in the long run, especially men. As a man you aren't naturally designed to be monogamous. Don't mind what any of these man made institutions tell you about marriage, it's all bullshit.

OP you fuçked up by getting this girl pregnant in the first place. Always use protection when fuçking these bitches. You took your fuçk up to the next level by marrying her. Now you are stuck. My advice is that you should file for a divorce and rid yourself of this problem. You'll gain your freedom back and life will be better for you. As a man your needs should come first. It's not your fault that she isn't attractive enough for you. And it will be unfair to her to keep pretending that you are attracted to her. There are lots of men that will find her attractive, let her go and meet them. Marriage no be by force.

My only issue is your child. Most kids from divorced homes don't usually turn out right, but with proper individual parenting from each of you despite not being together, the kid could turn out right.




Who are you?

If not for one thing, I would have sworn I wrote this.

It sounds exactly like what I'll write.

Merry Christmas!
Re: . by millionboi2: 1:33pm On Dec 28, 2020
ojun50:
Offering time........?
Blessing time
Re: . by JustCruise(m): 1:33pm On Dec 28, 2020
So you never knew your sexually preference at 29?? That's weird. I think it's a lame excuse.
Re: . by Gokoyer0(m): 2:39pm On Dec 28, 2020
I married a woman with a big boobs and moderate yansh with not-too-slim-stature. That's what I always wanted. I don't think I can get arouse with a tiny boobs girls btw. My marriage is going to be 7yrs in April. I used to tell my wife what I want and I make her to be free to express herself. We are enjoying our marriage after 2 kids.

The point is that you will always find women who seems to be more attractive than your wife. The key is to spark up things with your wife and ensure that she is free to express herself as well.

I can't tell you to continue a sexless marriage. She deserves to be happy as well. But with what you wrote here, it seems you mistakingly married a wrong woman or you married out of pity. if you still go ahead to divorce her, pls take your time to know what you want and don't marry out pitiness. But if you your second trials(like dating or fwb) fails, just look for sexual partner(s) so as to avoid this kind of story in the future
drexx:

Sir please my libido is not low as I can have sex with other ladies especially this my preferred body type. I am not into porn Sir.
Tried relating this truth to my wife yesterday. I really want to separate. If it's too hard, we might just stay married but stay differently so I can move on with my life
Re: . by Kaydans(m): 3:16pm On Dec 28, 2020
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless

U dey mad.
What will now happen to the baby you brought to this world?
S
Re: . by Skmoda360(m): 3:28pm On Dec 28, 2020
Zzor:
It has finished with Nigerian men
It will be finished for you...omoale

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