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My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 9:58pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hello guys I trust we're doing great?I really do need sincere advise on this issue. I'd appreciate if married men with same experience can be blunt with me. I have been very bothered about this issue because even as a young man while growing up I have always destested the idea of marrying an older woman. I never ever thought I'd be in this situation. She's a good woman, although not perfect but she's very reasonable. I didn't see a problem with it at first but as time went on I became scared. She's morally upright and loyal but I fear she may become old too quick especially when she starts giving birth to children. I fear that I may not find her attractive few years after marriage. I'm reluctant to call off the relationship because women like her are rare (I have dated much so I know.) the thing is that getting a loyal woman especially one who is younger is always a challenge. Should I let go because of the age difference and hope for a younger woman with same character or should I let it slide? I really really do need honest and sincere answers. This is going to be a life saver for me. Thanks. Mods kindly move this to front page. My happiness depends on it. Thanks. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by kingreign(m): 9:59pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem. It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko! |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Dreadlock69(m): 10:00pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
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Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Nobody: 10:00pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Arrrrrrrh I don't see anything bad there, 2 years is small . Is your wife fat? Have she given birth? How many kids do you intend giving birth too? From the question let me say an assuming answer . - If your wife is small in nature?, forget it she woñt old in time. - If you take care of her well, without much stress she won't get old fast. - Hope she don't bleach or apply all those rubbish make up girls do wear on? - She should be willing to dress in ways that suit you. - Child bearing makes women old fast, most especially she's the type that get old in time. - - --- Minimize the kids you are to born like 3 is Ok. - Exercise and eating well can refresh her. Above all money, money can make an old woman young. Just get money you won't be complaining . Unless you don't love her as before, because if you love the first choice the second choice won't be there. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by virginprincess(f): 10:01pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by FalseProphet1(m): 10:03pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I see both of you fighting in future, I see you feeling insecure and sad. I see you demanding respect from her but she isn't willing to shift grounds. I see you complaining and sad. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Dissap: 10:03pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Yo mehn. Fvck her very much dude, that ain't funny niggar!!! |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Xenry: 10:04pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
No need to rush. What is yours will always be yours. Marriage is not a bed of roses, think deeply before you are trapped in a box with no way out. They will always be loyal at the beginning, who knows what they might turn out to be in the future? Be wise! 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:05pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
kingreign: Dear Nairalander not everyone is available for children rants. We have matured people here with matured minds seeking and being answers to real life situations. If you don't have anything positive to contribute kindly keep shut as this is not a kids game we're playing. How can you go from section to section seeking to be FTC only to display gross foolishness? Please get a grip on yourself; get a life outside Nairaland. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by lilmax(m): 10:06pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Remember when I was 24, I dated a woman of 30..... Well she has respect and all, but I don't see my self marrying any woman older than I am Didn't enjoy the sex though 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by PAWG(m): 10:07pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hardtruth01: If you love that girl and she loves you too, marry her. Nobody go dey this world forever, life’s to short to be worried about bull crap. Just make sure her fecundity is sky high. I wish you a happy home. Cheers Getting married is like this Liverpool game, initially you’ll be faced with tough decisions and challenges like this one you’re battling with, dig deep, hang in there and ‘goals’ will start pouring in 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by EzegeNdiigbo: 10:08pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Ogbeni calm down jooor, age is just a number calm down
What is needed there is LOVE And TRUST 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
FalseProphet1: Exactly my fear. Don't know whether it's just my mind or it's actually always goes that way. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by PAWG(m): 10:11pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hardtruth01: Coming from a Falseprophet1? |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by NiRfreak(m): 10:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
If she has alot to bring to the table..... plus if she's submissive and respectful. Perhaps two years isn't much. . If you truly love everything about her, you will need to earn her respext and act mature, and maintain frame to make it work. Otherwise older mature ladies can be very manipulative. You have to be smart....or she has to be respectful, submissive, sensitive and reasonable . pls don't take certain redflag with levity, especially if she's very manipulative, stingy or promiscuous. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:18pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
NiRfreak: She's none of the things mentioned above that's why I find it hard to leave. Truth is she's a very resonable woman. Although sometimes stubborn like most women are but she's virtous. Thanks for your advise brother. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by debbydams(f): 10:20pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
gaius01:u v said it all if she has a small stature u good to go nd if u.are not comfortable with that den let her go, marriage is a life commitment o, choice wisely nd pray so that u wont regret,,.. don't marry because of love alone marry her because u want everything about her. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Destinylink(m): 10:21pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
OP does she know she's two years older than you? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by kingreign(m): 10:24pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hardtruth01:Trash.Hardtruth01 post=97863336: Dear Hardtruth01 contrary to your moniker, you don't want to hear the hard truth which is what so ever you decide to do with your partner IS NOT OUR problem, not our concern. You fail to understand that all manner of folks are here, folks with happy marital union, sad union, violent union, broken union, boring union, no union. Folks who wish others well, folks who are less concerned about others, and folks who wish and are hell bent on seeing others cry and fall. You may be desirous of sweet words but to your utter dismay and disbelief, I'd never be one who'd sugar coat my words here especially if it concerns relationship or/and marriage because I am married and I have some exposure and experience in that area of life. I'd be blunt with you. It's rather shameful and sad that you had to bring YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE to public forum for the world to read and react. This show of shame is a huge indication of your gross negligence, immaturity, and subjection of yourself and your spouse to public ridicule and disgrace. I still stick to my earlier comment, That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem. It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko! Finally learn to talk to a counsellor or an elderly respected married couple about this rather than bringing such sensitive topics online. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:24pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
gaius01: Thanks brother. This was really helpful. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Oluromantic: 10:24pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Only 2 years, you dey complain. Go deeperlife church go see where wife take 5yrs from her husband. Husband na hausa, wife na Edo. Husband black, wife use small escape albino. Everything's just totally somehow and they're happy. Small pikin dey do you. No be who you open ur mouth tell about ur wife age go know? 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Nobody: 10:25pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hardtruth01: You are always welcome!! |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:29pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
kingreign: My brother I don't need your advise. People who are reasonable will advise me. Ps: you're not being honest or blunt as you claim but rather you're only displaying immaturity. This is a forum which has changed lots of lives including mine. If I didn't consider this place family, I wouldn't bring it up here. From your words I can see what you're made up of. You sound bitter and childish. Like I said before this is not a play ground for kids. And please stop saying "we don't care" if you no care others care. Don't drag others into your backward way of thinking. There are so many reasonable people here. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:31pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Destinylink: Yes she does know. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:33pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Oluromantic: I guess you're right sir. No be say na small pikin de do me. It's just that normal stuff unto say husband suppose senior wife. That's all. Thank you sir. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Hardtruth01: 10:35pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
debbydams: Hmmm.... Thanks dear I appreciate your sincere response. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by DaudaTheSexyGuy(m): 10:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hardtruth01: The age gap is just 2 years which isn't much 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by U1(m): 10:39pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
PAWG: How? |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by oaselemi: 10:48pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
how long have u being in this relationship with ur fiancee |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by Kobicove(m): 10:56pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Once you start having any doubts it's best to just end the relationship and go your way...take it from me |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by SamuelLoch: 11:04pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
If you are worried about just the 2yrs difference, and every other thing is okay with you, then you can put a ring on it. There are some parents that you'd be astonished when you see their child(ren). You'd be surprise that such woman gave birth to such a grown up. Her stature, food intake, cosmetics, and exercise requirements matters in this case. Remember that peace of mind is better than unrest! |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Two Years Older Than Me. Please Advise. by sweetmelanin(f): 11:23pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
You're already having doubts from the beginning. ..this is not a good sign for the future of the marriage.. 1 Like |
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