₦airaland Forum

ibkaye:
A man who currently does not have a job? Does not mean he will not have a job in the future, I believe I would, but I'd need to see certain qualities within this man, for starters, he'd need be hardworking and have potential, there are many circumstances to consider

honeric01:
Abeg, stop jumping around, you didn't know what we were discussing together before you flew in. let the right person respond to my post, thanks.

honeric01:
@Siena

What about if the girl in question is the jobless type too? what if the girl doesn't work?

what this really sounds like is advice to men to do what they can to limit their wive's aspirations in order to preserve their marriages

i know of a family friend in the us - who hustled as taxi cab driver etal to put his wife through nursing school. the moment the women started bring home more money than him, she started flipping the script

as an American you should know that a man being  hard working does not necessarily mean his wife won't wind up earning more than him.  guys who married computer geek chicks who went on to work for google in its infancy come to mind

i think in the end, most nigerian women, like Nigerian men, marry more out of convenience/condition than love. thats why when men hit money na second wife, and if women hit money, its to begin treating the husband like a doormat

Your subsequent responses made nonsense of your advice.
No man is beneath a lady, especially whom he want to marry.
Even your younger brother is not beneath you.

However, I think most of the ladies miss out the difference between being lazy
and jobless status. Even if you have a job but you are lazy, you will still not do your duty
I can stand a jobless status man, but I have great discontent for a lazy-bone.

I know of a man who married his wife in his jobless status.
All his friends and family were against his decision.
A relative who sponsored the wedding did it grudginly.
Today, this same man gave out 12 cars as gift during last year christmas.
Chief Alex Akinyele, former infromation minister married his wife, Yvonne when he was jobless,
till she died, everyone know he adore her.
Love is far above having job or being jobless.
Choice of partner is beyond the jobless status of the persons involved.
Lastly, the people interviewed in this post lives a larger than life kind of live
embedded in deceit and make-believe.
So beware when ou take advise from them or follow their footstep

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc]INSECURE!!!
there is a difference between losing your job after you are married, but trying to get married knowing you have no job (which equals no source of income and probably nothing in his savings account).
how do you intend on starting a family?
losing your job after marriage is totally different.

so you're saying you would get married if you were jobless? or what?
it just doesn't make sense at all! you people will come here and debate until heaven falls, but think about reality.
IT JUST DOESN'T MAKE SENSE. PERIOD. POINT. BLANK.[/color]

chika98:
Awulam o! he heeeeeeeeeeeeeeee heheeeeeeeeeeeee
And elekwanu onye di 36 ga n'agba ahu uforo? Osi ona acho i act movie soon. lol M chia ochi gbalaga. Imasi uduru ndi ahu wu ndi n'acho onye ga akwuru ha ugwo ulo. There's this dude my friend almost married and ima ihe osiri my friend " Eme ka m nye gi mortgage ka ikwutuwa"

Can you imagine nonsense? I know most of these men have nothing to do but to live off their wives ; tomorrow they will say she is insulting and all that crap! Akuko! Nwoke choro kam kwura ya ugwu ulo ebido beghi at all!

chika98:
He heeeeeeeeeeee! I don die with laugh. There is this guy here who when he speaks English yet it sounds like Igbo even though he is speaking English o! kai! That is something else I swear. Enwere onye nke sim na ona aru na factory campbell soup. Oso atam n'ukwu

chika98:
I[b] think that is the worst thing to do actually. Marry a man who is not educationally and intellectually up to par. I believe a man has to be educationally smarter than his woman.[/b] I once dated this guy who studied Engineering at UCL and quite frankly if nothing his eloquence speaks volumes and still does till date. Nothing beats having a man one can look up to. Again, I agree with what you've said. Mgbe m huru onye ahu then I will settle down otherwise kam were anyam gbara owem xmas. Umu nwoke di iberibe juru ebe n'ile these days.

chika98:
Ima si ndi iberibe juru ebea. I completely agree with what you've got to say.

chika98:
Owu otu onye iberibe ji si na m di after ego nwoke mmadu maka na m si anaghim alu onye na akpata obere ego.

Naija girls and women tire me oooooo. one time una go say una dey near 30 year and no husband. Another time una go say d man must to got job.

Watin una want!!!!!!!!!? Make una just talk am out say na money we wan marry not husband. Thats is why men dey treat una like nonsense. you wen be woman and man, most of una na graduate o. make man wen be graduate find job. you wen be graduate nkor? abi nor be work make you go school? if the work easy to find why you do find man when get work? Na this make am say I can never sorry for girl or woman wen say e dey find husband. Na lie. Na man wen e go chop him money nai e dey find. make una bear watin una see o. Little bird wen nor fit fly today go fly one day.

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc]you insecure guys keep driving this thread out of context.
can you marry a jobless man? NO. how does that translate to being a gold-digger and being money hungry?
so love alone puts food on the table, pays the bills, takes care of the kids? really? SINCE WHEN? why would a man that has no source of income even consider getting married in the first place? or is there something that I'm missing here?
just because you say you can't marry a jobless man doesn't make you an automatic gold-digger.[/color]

michelin89:
Abortion is a right of a woman. It is her body. No one is telling you to abort, but if someone chooses to, that should be the least of our concern.[/b]That law wasn't created after a serene sleep by the legislators. It is there because someone wanted it and others thought it was legitimate. We are free to discuss all the moral implications of abortion, but calling it murder is way out of proportion.

Not to mention that someone thinks spermatozoas and eggs should be treated with gloves because they are potential lives. That is absurd.

michelin89:
There are always going to be fools who'll take advantage of their rights.

People make mistakes and even rain coats break. Besides even abortion is done within the right time.

~Lady~:
Even though it has a heart beat at week 4?
A well developed cardiovascular system at week 4, many women don't even know they're pregnant at this point.
But let me address your statement directly

1. Infants brain development at the time of birth are the same as when in the womb, after the embryonic stage not much development takes place, all that is needed to recognise it as a human is already in place. This is the science they refuse to tell ppl about. It is developed enough to cause the heart to beat. I saw this with my own eyes.
2. This brain development happens at week 8 and before even, because after this time, there are movements in the womb, neurons are already in place and function.
3. By week 12 you can already see the brain, and all things functioning properly.
4. The brain has to be developed enough, in order for the other body parts to develop and start functioning. So it is enough.
5. An infants brain is not well developed, it is still developing, what the infant can recognise is the same as it can recognise as a fetus.
6. Example, my Godson, when in the womb his mother called him Preston, when he came out she would call him Emmanuel, he wouldn't respond, but when called Preston, he responded, you will see him make movements that he recognises not just the voice but the name. This was recognisable from the womb.

As for pain "Pain pathways run from sensory receptors in the skin to those in the brain. Nerve endings that sense pain are at least as dense in the skin of a newborn as in an adult. Such receptors appear around the mouth in the 5th week after conception, and are present in the face, the palms, and the soles of the feet by the 9th week, spreading to the trunk, arms, and legs by the 13th week, and to all areas of the skin by the 18th week. The development of the neocortex, the largest part of the brain, begins at 6 weeks after conception, and by 18 weeks a full complement of nerve cells is present. The evidence thus suggests that by late in gestation the fetus has developed sufficiently to sense pain." - Pain and its Effects in the Human Neonate and Fetus.
K.J.S. Anand, M.B.B.S., and P.R. Hickey, M.D.,

bawomolo:
they are disgusting.

obelisk:
i have tribal marks.
very few ppl [if any] will accept tribal marks esp. on the face if they had a choice.
it has lost all relevance{if it had any}

the girl leaving becos of marks shdnt be quickly called petty.
she just exercised her freedom to choose her spec.
if she didnt hv what u liked ,u wdnt hv been wf her too.

so brace up and find another chic

then again,she fit just use d marks excuse bobo you

asha 80:
The difference is that when people get a tatoo to their body they are well aware of what they are doing since they are adults but in the case pf tribal marks they are usually kids or infants that have no say of what is happening to them.