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A good friend of mine who's a student {here in the U K} she's been studying here for two years now. Her visa expires end of this month. She hasn't got enough money to pay her school fees and to add to that problem from the 5th of March she's only allowed to work for 10 hours instead of 20. So she's begging me to help her do arrangee marriage so that she can get out of her predicament.

Hold it right there.
A man with correct commonsense should have said
"Sorry sweetie,I don't want to be involved in such"

She says that since am a british citizen we can do the marriage and divorce after only six months

.

and what was your answer?
coming to nairaland to ask if it took only 6 months

Is that true? because i told her that i'm planning on getting married later this year and i don't want this to affect my plans.

Doesn't this sound like someone who is considering an act of crime the only snaffu being the time it took to do the deal and get off

maybe na one strung out druggie for one street corner you used for your own arrangee
what do I know

manmustwac:
yes they used to say that the U K was a piece of cake but its gettng harder now
This is a discussion forum and we're having a discussion. Do u have evidence to prove that i have commited any offence?

Discussion with who?
your fellow criminals?
The fact that you even entertained this idea in your mind after the request is deplorable and to bring up such a "discussion" shows your criminal intent.
Any man with some dignity should have told the girl a bold NO and walked.
shame on you

davidylan:
women are desperate . . . i dont think they will listen to you.
Truth be told, by the time a woman is about 28 with no serious bf in tow, she's no longer interested in your pontificating.

Hmm
This America has done our girls many things
very few eligible men
I better train my girls to target and lock down a man when they're in their 3rd year in the university highest
many overgrown girls in this US of A
the thing fears me 
many girls here will finish first degree,do masters,enter med school,start residency still no man has asked her nne how much?

Thank God there are a few reasonable persons here who have already denounced this
Tufiakwa!!
and when someone says the average Nigerian is a criminal,you people want to behead the person

manmustwac,are you out of your mind?
don't you know what you're just about to do is a crime punishable by law
and you have the impetus to voice it out online?
jehovah shammah!!
na so Naija criminality don dey sotay people go sidon dey discus their 419 plans in an open forum.
Udinekeudi!
Go and help her rob a bank too,she needs pound sterlings

~Sauron~:
Women prefer the lies.
[size=24pt]Without the lies, the men cannot score.

Men must score so they have to lie[/size].

From the horse's mouth
let all the YIMers and YAMers hear this one  o
all these transatlantic  shopping  sorry, chopping trips that has been going on in this nairaland since 2006
I'm sure many regret it but others need to learn
BTW I haven't heard whitelexi's input on this thread

Pataki:
@ Ohsisi,

I know you do want to protect your gender. I just finished having a chat with a female friend of mine somewhere in Eastern Europe. She was telling me about her heartaches involving two men. When I stated women are confused, I know what I am saying.

She has been dating this Igbo dude for over a year now. The guy remains the most sincere and loving guy she has ever dated. Two months ago, the guy traveled to Nigeria. Around last year, my female friend met this dude from Germany, who knew she was in a relationship, but kept professing love to her. She remained true to the Igbo man. Until recently, she developed strong feelings for this Germany resident guy. He comes visiting her somewhere in Europe some days back, called her and told her his location. Informed her to take a taxi and meet him at his hotel. My friend obeyed. She got to the hotel, expecting that they would sleep with for the whole night.

The germany dude, simply gave her a hug and went to sleep with her beside him throughout the whole night. My female friend got annoyed and asked the dude, why did you ask me to come and see you tonight? He replied her with a question: ''what is it that you want tonight?'' She said, intimacy! The guy replied her, ''I want love''. Now my female friend is madly in love with this germany guy, wants to break up the relationship with her Igbo bf, who is still in naija. She is already in a state of mental depression.

Tell me, why should a man not play up with deception with women? Do women deserve the best of qualities in a man, and when they do get it, why are they so foolish to throw it all away.

You can give all the emotional radars and sensors a woman should look for in a serious man, but the truth is that, most women can never be satisfied with what they have in their respective men.

Enough said.

What a tramp!
Because her  serious BF traveled to Nigeria,she already has someone to fill in the blank spaces
she deserves what she gets from the Germany dude
I hope the Okonkwo in Nigeria finds out and drops her behind

davidylan:
Is this a female pity-party gathering?

On a more serious note . . . when a man truly LOVES you (as against merely likes you or thinks you're a cute person he can hang with), he shows it. Men are not monsters, you can basically tell if a man is keeping you as a potential wife or as a mere bedmate (if you're 100% honest with yourself you will pick up the vibes). When a man has made up his mind he wont marry you . . . trying to change him is a waste of time.

To be honest . . . 99% of men dating you and professing to "love" you spend a lot of their free time away from you busy looking up potential wives to replace you. At least i confess i do this a lot.

At least you're being honest here
Please let the girls know that too
This romance and falling in love thing is very serious for us females
many of us don't give our hearts easily and it hurts when we get played by what you thought was a potential
You need to see girls who have been played call up friends and cry about it
It's almost like they lost someone by death
a gf of mine wasted a solid 3 years with this eediot in this America
I wish I could publish his name here
strung the girl on,fixed and refixed wedding dates and some of us were eargerly waiting for the ashoebi
only for the man to quietly dump her
he had dumped her way back but poor girl didn't read the writing even though some of us who are more savvy read it and warned her.
Imagine a fiance that will not return 3 calls for 5 days and more

stillwater:
I bet it was the same lies the ex-wife found out that made her deal with him.

Exactly

As soon as we landed, I had to call my best friend to gist her about this man
I had never been so disgusted by any man
Gosh!
and this was a 5 hr flight so as soon as the first round of conversation ended,I bought the inflight movies quickly and occupied myself with headphones and also listened to romantic music  to forget the nightmare sitting by me,and I only got to talk with him again just before the end of the flight

Pataki:
@ davidylan,

You are so right. And any relationship based on flattery, lies and deception cannot stand the test of time. More reason why I do not pity women when they come with their whinging cries about heartbreaks.

There must have been something a lady has done or shown to a guy for a guy to cook-up lies just in order to sway you off your feet at first. When would ladies start accepting a guy for what he is rather than who is he?

Biko my dear,don't blame it on the woman alone,there are some very deceptive guys out there who will lie through their rotten teeth at the drop of a hat
Is it not how  recently I was stuck on a plane for hours with this very Igbotic man that was heading home
Jesus is Lord!
The man annoyed me no be small
Irritating!
na so so lies ,about how he has this and that
how his ex wife did this and that
how he only dates American ladies now
Meanwhile the eediot was eyeing me.
I was like,even if I wanted to cheat on my husband,is it with this one that looks like he escaped from Abakpa Nike zoo
haba!
I may be older but I still have taste and class abeg.
I even asked what he did for a living,he said he was an accountant.
I almost vomited the peanuts and biscotti they gave me on that flight.
The only accounting he did was perhaps in his taxi cab driving down main street.
The man was wearing some tracksuit abi na sweatsuit with a bb hat heading home
abomination!
this man must be at least 52.

so men do those things to impress women but to a smart woman,they sound like m0rons

kemisuga:
Good Topic, really got some sense in this.

Thank you poster.

You're welcome
there are some mean dudes out there and ladies have to be fore warned

!amebo no1:
@osisi

Abeg i waka b4 i turned 20, so late teens,hahaha


@luvbrook

Age?na nt telling, else u want me to lie, ive told pple lies here abt d age issue, bt my dad promised to cut the guys abunna if he steps his foot inside his house promised to cut

Jehovah!
you were a teen bride?
Jenny nwa nma
did you know what you wanted as a teenager?
The man no even gree you test other waters kai!
anyway sha, I'll rather my child married as an 18 or 19 year old than present me with an unfortunate belle

well I read that omotola Jalade's hubby married her that early too and they're both happy.
there's no guarantee that marriage is better when the woman is in her late 20's or 30's

@ the poster,If your inner chambers don't rise up when you are with the one you're about to marry trouble dey na
Na who suppose fire ya grill ?
It is as normal as farting
Infact if whenever you see the man, all you think about is a Bible study session,he is not the one for you
he may just be a pastor the Lord has sent to sharpen your Christian walk
You must feel "eros" together with "agape" with your man
Eros is erotic love and agape is the unconditional  God kind of love.
You are not being carnal,you are being human
But you must hold yourself till the wedding day,tough but can be done.[b]premarital se.x is still fornication in God's eyes.[/b]Bring the date forward if una wan chop unaselves fast fast.

tachi:
lmao!

Interesting.

Some replies here have surprised me tho.e.g davidylan's.

Always struck me like a straightforward,right-btw-the-eyes kinda person.

anyways, wat do i know o

Girls just need to be wise
If a lady turns herself into Ijebu garri, guys go drink am

!amebo no1:
Yea, cos i remember when he proposed, i was like " excuse me, i just met you, i dont even know you" and then he said " i wanna date and know you whilst we are married" my dear i did not even have the time to plan a wedding, cos the guy was so obsessed so tey him no give me time, i remember i had to leave sometime in my second semester to travel back to naija , infact na after second semester, i go for honeymoon

When a man meets the woman he wants osisi i tell you the only words that keeps ringing or beating a drum in his ears are " go for her, else someone else will take away from you"

When i read stories here of gurls dat have dated their men for 5 yrs not to even talk of 10 sef, i ask myself, " did someone blindfold this gurl or sthg" deep inside their heart, they know that time is running and they've decided to console themselves wit words like " i wanna finish school, before i marry" when they finish school they change their words to " i wanna enjoy life to the fullest and do things before i get married"

I personally cannot even date a guy for 2 yrs back then, seriously

And i always say this, been married will not stop you from going to school,as long as you marry that person that is truly yours, he or she will amke the road smooth for you, i finished school in my husbands house, and[b] i will never regret getting married in my early teens[/b]

I'm sure you meant to say early 20's not teens.
I hear you.
marry early, pop out the babies before you turn 30 and look hot in your late 30's and 40's .

!amebo no1:
Osisi i agree with everything but, the meeting his mother aspect, alot of men have gone as far as proposing to a gurl, meeting her family just to get inbtw her legs, there is this guy in europe who's introduced if not a million girls to his mum,and the mum knows that this dude is just out there to sleep with women, introducing to mum is not a guarantee to marriage, introducing to the whole family member is not a guarantee to marriage, i was introduced to someones family members and even had his mum begging me to come to the east to spend some time with her, at the end of the day i married someone else

I've seen couples separate after trad wedding, men of these days can even go along with the wedding plans until hes gotten what he wants

I agree with chika on the part of a guy being excited when he meets the right woman and wants to marry her ASAP, i did not date my husband for up to 3 months before he proposed
In all if a girl isnt ready to be deceived the best thing is keep your legs closed, even if the guy leaves you tomorrow, sucide will be far from your mind

My gf's and I say this all the time
That is my story too.
The day I met my guy and we spent a whole day together, I knew he wanted to marry me ,he proposed in about 4 months and the traditional igbankwu followed immediately.
That is what serious men do
not people like[b] Sauron and pataki [/b] that'll be dating a girl for donkey years without her even knowing their middle or last names

Is he smoking Igbo in prison
see his eyes
please who posted that picture
don't give me nightmares

8.

Another one

"My elder brother is not yet married,I need to wait for him to marry first"

Ladies , start shopping around, that relationship is going nowhere.
Make yourself available and keep him on standby too,he already has you on standby
be wise.

7.

another sorry line
"My people are against me marrying someone from your area".
"They insist I must marry an Igbo girl"
make I laff first
hohohohoho,hehehehehe,hahahahaha
na man you wan marry abi na ya fellow woman
that is a lie from the pit of hell
run as fast as your ikebe can carry you
he has found a girl from his tribe, has her on standby and wants to blame the break up on his parents and relatives because he's too chicken to tell you the truth.

6.

Another dumb one which I know someone did
lending a man money to divorce his estranged wife
are you insane?
You might as well give him dowry too
If he's not running helter skelter to gather money for the divorce and you have to offer to do it for him,you need some hot slaps.
desperado.
The man is not ready to get married,get away from there.

5.

The other stoopid thing people do is dating a married man who promises you he'll leave his wife for you.
If you fall for that line you're  a goat
99% of the time they don't leave their wives
your most exalted position will be that of a mistress,a standby
flee before you develop sudden wrinkles like a white girl!!!!!!!
find you an unattached man

~Sauron~:
I have taken all of em to ma momma, of course.

I don't mean to mama Calabar

~Sauron~:
Story. . . . . . . .
A man can take his babe to his family and nothing will happen.
There's no rule that governs men when it comes to relationships.

Hannibal,have you taken any of these your YIM gals to your mommy?
obviously not
but I bet you,the day you meet the one,you can't wait to show her to mommy.

women have really suffered
chai

David is that why you're always here
looking for cooks
girls beware.
are they sending you these things by FEDEX abi them dey deliver am personally

davidylan:
Dude bagged himself a blackberry worth about $350 a few days ago from the same chic. Lucky fellow.

Abeg no slap am yet o, that girl sabi cook well well!
Okra soup is still sitting in my fridge since saturday . . . another chic cooked that one for no reason and sent it oh! Women are indeed a blessing.
Please do not stop peddling your selves for free.

Please who is the girl
is she into women
I need her for myself
I need the new google nexus phone

Girls abeg stop being desperate
Never ever spend money thinking you'll buy a man's love
see how they make fun of you
listen to davidylan
na laff them dey laff you as they use toothpick to comot the meat from their cavities.

davidylan:
Reminds me of someone i know here . . . smart dude keeps a gf (been dating for 7yrs) in NYC while another idiot spends all her time fantasising about him here. She must have spent over $1500 on him so far and they just met about a month ago. Well turns out none of us is complaining, the silly chic cooked for all of us for the week and just asked that we send her a list of food we'd want for next week. We're compiling the list already . . . no harm in milking a brainless woman dry until she learns her lesson.  

I wouldnt mind googles either, i think marriage is over-rated too.

Please tell me who that girl is let me give her a hot slap to jolt her into reality.
I hope she reads this thread
I can adopt her and hammer some sense into her head

you sef why are you eating her ukazi soup and the okporoko and goat meat therein
God forgive you

chika98:
That having children bit I don't agree with. Children shouldn't be the driving force for a man to marry you. That is why women should get with like minded men. If a guy says he isn't ready for something serious till 4-5years from now then take his word for it and take a hike! Don't sit around thinking you'll change him because you're so awesome; I call that delusions for a deluded soul. Move forward and find someone who is truly looking for something serious

Are you following my argument?
what is a fiancee/fiance?
when a man places a ring on your finger asks "will you marry me"? we assume he intends to marry you abi?
so why move in and procreate babies with a fiance?
why not marry than play house
that is my point.

davidylan:
Marriage is not over-rated, you only feel that way because you have been on the short end of the stick when it comes to men seriously willing to take you down that path.

You are the type of woman all unserious men like me are looking for.   Free intimacy without the pressure of a commitment.

ROFL
The same way some will rather ride Toyota tercel than a lexus.
Lexus is overrated

chika98:
LOL moving on sometimes is easier said than done but we should all do what must be done

Yes but it can be done
you can't be stuck in a relationship that's going no where for you when you want marriage
some will even get pikins with their fiancee
ROFL
I no fit laff
one pikin, I can even understand,we all make mistakes but I can't imagine a trailer load of kids with a fiance
God forbid!!
the lady has been milked for free