2tek: SUMMARY:

20-24 - They think they're doing you a favour

25 -30 - They know you're doing them a favour

31 - 39 - The Lord is my Shepherd, I Shall Not Want

40 - above- GOD unto U I commit my spirit

pendo89: The problem at times with NL is that people give advice based on the bad experiences only.
We live out the good,those that succeeded.
Nway.its a mindset.

pendo89: The problem at times with NL is that people give advice based on the bad experiences only.
We live out the good,those that succeeded.
Nway.its a mindset.

acidtalk: *coughs and then sip a glass of water*

18months to settle down you say?
Now let's set your priorities straight and that of the lady in question.

The average Nigerian familt wants their daughter to get married after her first degree. The only two exceptions in this case are; The lady gets pregnant and her people are ashamed of her giving birth to the baby in their home or she is from an almost below average home (poor family background) as such they want her to go so that they can feed (minus one mouth) less mouth.

Secondaly most girls in this age bracket are not in anyway desperate to get married. They still see themselves as beauty queens because they sometimes get as much as 5-10 toasters everyday because of their youthful nature. This will make them assume they will remain 'hot cake' for ever and think there will always be that suitor waiting to get married to them whenever they are ready.

Except for few families which still nuture their female children, its almost common for most ladies within that age range to learn basic home chores in their boyfriend's place.

Though not in all cases, but if you are one who cares a lot about financial management and knowledge, most young ladies in that age bracket might not fit in. The want to get the latest phone, gadget, hand bag and fashion accessories to meet up with their peers. If you are not one of those guys that spend frivolously on a lady when it isn't relevant, she might term you stingy as won't consider settling down with you because she rarely knows what is the difference between necessity and wants.

Above all Intelligence, if you are a serous minded and fast thinker, it might be an hill task finding a lady that will match your intelligence. I am not talking of knowing latest music, movie or celebrity gist. I am talking of beneficial reasoning.

If you don't mind the above, then you can stick with them and groom them with patience. Otherwise maybe you should stick with the law of nature that "the older the wine, the better it taste".

sexkillz: Record, yes. But then this one has 98 likes, and counting. . .

www.nairaland.com/1000494/dating-broke-man#11569144

Chidex2442: i dnt do babe tinz next page please!

12 inches!:
Sometimes wen I think of the way many girls I have dated behave I start to bliv that they are no good girls only parasites and wolves bt wen I remember my last ex gf....I knw I tell myself a lie...WONDERFUL GIRLS EXIST...Jst a dyin breed.

2tek: SUMMARY: there ar exceptions but MOST TIMES,here is what u'll get with ladies of these age brackets

20 - 24 (immature,insulting,cheat/exploring,fun/sex seeking,tantrums,yopie yopie)

25 - 30(more focused,mature,commitment minded)

30 - 39(tired of fun/sex,lots of heart breaks,prefers no-sex-b4-marriage,desprados,'forming/becomes' born again,wen ar U going 2 see MYparents,wants marriage within 6-12months)

40 - above(menopausal panic,marriage within 3months,gets pregnant every 9months afta wed,ready2 marry a seperated/divorcee/widower,ready2 b a 2nd wife even 2 a muslim)

frikuenci: Wow!!! This thread is like a reality show. I av learnt quite a lot though. But I have just one question,How do you know or ask a girl u love about her real age? Considering most females do lie when it comes to this aspect of discussion. Thanks.

acidtalk: *coughs and then sip a glass of water*

18months to settle down you say?
Now let's set your priorities straight and that of the lady in question.

The average Nigerian familt wants their daughter to get married after her first degree. The only two exceptions in this case are; The lady gets pregnant and her people are ashamed of her giving birth to the baby in their home or she is from an almost below average home (poor family background) as such they want her to go so that they can feed (minus one mouth) less mouth.

Secondaly most girls in this age bracket are not in anyway desperate to get married. They still see themselves as beauty queens because they sometimes get as much as 5-10 toasters everyday because of their youthful nature. This will make them assume they will remain 'hot cake' for ever and think there will always be that suitor waiting to get married to them whenever they are ready.

Except for few families which still nuture their female children, its almost common for most ladies within that age range to learn basic home chores in their boyfriend's place.

Though not in all cases, but if you are one who cares a lot about financial management and knowledge, most young ladies in that age bracket might not fit in. The want to get the latest phone, gadget, hand bag and fashion accessories to meet up with their peers. If you are not one of those guys that spend frivolously on a lady when it isn't relevant, she might term you stingy as won't consider settling down with you because she rarely knows what is the difference between necessity and wants.

Above all Intelligence, if you are a serous minded and fast thinker, it might be an hill task finding a lady that will match your intelligence. I am not talking of knowing latest music, movie or celebrity gist. I am talking of beneficial reasoning.

If you don't mind the above, then you can stick with them and groom them with patience. Otherwise maybe you should stick with the law of nature that "the older the wine, the better it taste".

ACM10:

Ask her when she finished secondary school. Calculate the number of years to the present. Add it to 17yrs. You will get her right age in 96% of the time. The statistical error is at + or - 2%

foyeks2001:


So women are now left-overs...am sure u have sister,aunties and am sure u r gonna have enuf female children...mtchewww

pendo89: The above stereotypes are what make people blunder big time

I hate approaching anybody with a fixed mindset cz I will have this negative view and fail to see or bring out the best in them.

I know many under 25 yr old responsible girls.Why do people assume that a girl must sleep with 99 men before she settles down? Says who? Is that a statistic?

Don't u guys have responsible sisters among you? Do your young sisters sleep around with anything in trouser? what is your responsibility over them? sorry am old fashioned here. pardon me.

Some people mature and become responsible early in life based on their upbringing,environment and the crowd.And they remain fun and morally sober.

So these generalisations as much as we enjoy cheering them on, are not very true cz they are based on what 'we have encountered' not what we have not.

swtcharissa: My dear there is notin wrong,it all depends on the individuals maturity to handle issues,a lady ma be 29,yet she is not wiser than a 20yr old gal,I knw of a frd who married a 22yr old lady,n till date he keeps saying' age is not maturity'n keeps thanking God he did not miss d opportunity due to age factor

190: most girls of that age dont have respect
they cheat
they dont have focus
dey are lead by material tins

always interested in ashawo don get uniform oooooh kinda clothes
THE MOST CAPABLE ONES ARE THOSE DONE WITH NYSC and more focused in life and
seem to know what they want!

Sijo01:

there are some early twenties dat more cool headed and also kno wat dey want more dan some late twenties......in others words, maturity is not defined by age.

sandraa: Gosh i cant believe you guys have sense like this o!

As in from most of the replies i can see guys are stepping up to the "I have grown up zone"

On a real note most chics in their early twenties are not ready to marry trust me i ve been there!
Its just at that stage they dont know what they want but just flow with the "trend" at hand or what my "family want"

It takes a little reality check to push them in the right direction in life!

So if you ve a chic in her early twenties that you want to marry, just be there on the side and be friends with her cos your time will come when she will realise you are the one and thats when you can marry her!
You have to ve a lot of patience cos enough guys will go in and out under ur nose, but just set your eyes on the ball!

Good luck!

Julieccentric:

Oh thanks...what if the guy has got his own problems?besides hw come younger guys don't ask me out like around 28 to 30..I am always having suitors around 35 upward..really funny buh its the truth.