pro01: Only a dubious woman demands trust from her husband or partner. A genuinely virtuous woman earns it. . .and strives to retain it - simply by keeping her hands clean and her path straight. You don't insist on keeping male 'friends' or going on 'business trips' with your randy boss, and yet expect a sensible husband to trust you.

Any sensible man would NEVER trust any human being (let alone a woman) 100%. That's pure foolishness. If there are sufficient grounds for suspicion, then by all means a man must conduct a paternity test to clear all doubts. A truly good woman wouldn't get angry with her husband for doing that. She would get angry with herself for not doing enough to earn his trust.

Only sneaky, slimy, deceitful women (and they are in the majority) would make foolish noise or threaten divorce (you can imagine) when their serial unfaithfulness is under suspicion.

obo_man: A lot of women here are just going about, bashing the husband....... accusing him of not trusting the woman.......


Trust is not automatic, trust isn't what everyone in a relationship deserves, it is something you earn.


Each time you find a woman/man to be trustworthy, it reinforces more trust in that person.

So if your husband is doing paternity test on your children, it means he sees something wrong he wants to investigate. If nothing is actually wrong, it will reinforce his trust in you.

Leaving a Partner because he/she doesn't trust you is harsh and meaningless. Overtime, when a partner continues to spook on you and finds nothing, he/she will naturally trust you.

Trust is risky and can be costly, so the sensible thing to do in a relationship is to gradually test and trust a partner until you are fully satisfied you can give them all your heart. (E.g... You trust your partner not to cheat on you, only for you to find out that he/she passed something to you)


@ OP..... If he eventually finds out that he is the father, it would only reinforce the trust he has for you..I think there is nothing to worry about. You can then sit down 2gether and discuss the issue with maturity..... Divorcing him is irrational.... The next dude you might divorce him for might be even worse.

Gaggi: Lack of trust, dats what happens when a man marries a ho Jst for d beauty or sex. If paternity test is done for all women wahala go dey o.

pro01: Only a dubious woman demands trust from her husband or partner. A genuinely virtuous woman earns it. . .and strives to retain it - simply by keeping her hands clean and her path straight. You don't insist on keeping male 'friends' or going on 'business trips' with your randy boss, and yet expect a sensible husband to trust you.

Any sensible man would NEVER trust any human being (let alone a woman) 100%. That's pure foolishness. If there are sufficient grounds for suspicion, then by all means a man must conduct a paternity test to clear all doubts. A truly good woman wouldn't get angry with her husband for doing that. She would get angry with herself for not doing enough to earn his trust.

Only sneaky, slimy, deceitful women (and they are in the majority) would make foolish noise or threaten divorce (you can imagine) when their serial unfaithfulness is under suspicion.

greatgod2012: Doing dt implies dt he doesnt trust me, i will wait for him to get d result, i know d result will confirm his paternity, then i will politely sit him down and have some moments of discussion with him, after which i will divorce/separate from him, there is no use/sense in staying with a man who cant/wont trust me.

P. S one can do this if one is sure of 100% faithfulness to his partner.

pro01: Only a dubious woman demands trust from her husband or partner. A genuinely virtuous woman earns it. . .and strives to retain it - simply by keeping her hands clean and her path straight. You don't insist on keeping male 'friends' or going on 'business trips' with your randy boss, and yet expect a sensible husband to trust you.

Any sensible man would NEVER trust any human being (let alone a woman) 100%. That's pure foolishness. If there are sufficient grounds for suspicion, then by all means a man must conduct a paternity test to clear all doubts. A truly good woman wouldn't get angry with her husband for doing that. She would get angry with herself for not doing enough to earn his trust.

Only sneaky, slimy, deceitful women (and they are in the majority) would make foolish noise or threaten divorce (you can imagine) when their serial unfaithfulness is under suspicion.

Korrection: when i was in school,I stayed at dentistry quaters UBTH/UNIBEN for those of us that knew the place..Like 3 years back,I met a matron nurse whom i picked up along the dentistry quaters road as a lift to the hospital,she was looking unhappy so i asked her what the problem was and she started her story,very interesting i had to slow down so i could get all the gist...Her younger brother who is a medical doctor in the UK got married to a pretty lady before he left for the UK and they had a 10 year old child who stays in Nigeria with the mom,Now it was time for the guy to come pick his family to the UK..Of course a DNA test was carried out on the boy at UBTH there..It failed...the guy went to UNTH,it failed..the guy moved to Eku in Delta state it failed,He came back to find out from his wife,it was so funny that the wife denied not until when the guy threatend to kill her.Behold she opened up that 10 years ago few weeks before the marriage that a guy from convent who met her in the choir made love to her when she told her she was getting married so they did the final stuff and she got pregnant hooking it on the UK guys...It was terrible for the guy so he moved to london and promised never to be back again...The reason the matron was down...through out that day any girl i saw turns a cheat in my eye but na wetin man go do na...I must run a DNA test on my kids and i had to tell my wife to be the conditions to avoid had i known.

saintneo:
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jidegirl12:

Okay I hear you! I just don't get what you're implying,

a parternity test versus phone drama ,

not even close,

I will lose my spark for that man after he recieves the result of the DNA.

We are DONE!!!

nous: Faithful ladies how would you react if you discovered that your husband did a paternity test for your children?

greatgod2012: Doing dt implies dt he doesnt trust me, i will wait for him to get d result, i know d result will confirm his paternity, then i will politely sit him down and have some moments of discussion with him, after which i will divorce/separate from him, there is no use/sense in staying with a man who cant/wont trust me.

P. S one can do this if one is sure of 100% faithfulness to his partner.

Damitism: Only a dullard(man) will trust a lady these days. I will do it even at d child's 3 month old birthday so i won't spend much on a bastard.

Lexoria: What do u xpect when most nigerian men are proud cheats all in the name of "its our culture","men are polygamus in nature".You've taught women the trend,they are learning well and adding some to it.Most of the men here running their mouth abt this aint/won't even (be) faithful to their spouses.

bjcole: & after then what happen, stay single or remarry, u think is as easy as that, divorce is what u dnt wish 4 ur enemy, U will leave ur home 4 another woman, what happens 2 d kids. I guess u r joking.

adieora:

Watch ur words fish face.

pro01: Only a dubious woman demands trust from her husband or partner. A genuinely virtuous woman earns it. . .and strives to retain it - simply by keeping her hands clean and her path straight. You don't insist on keeping male 'friends' or going on 'business trips' with your randy boss, and yet expect a sensible husband to trust you.

Any sensible man would NEVER trust any human being (let alone a woman) 100%. That's pure foolishness. If there are sufficient grounds for suspicion, then by all means a man must conduct a paternity test to clear all doubts. A truly good woman wouldn't get angry with her husband for doing that. She would get angry with herself for not doing enough to earn his trust.

Only sneaky, slimy, deceitful women (and they are in the majority) would make foolish noise or threaten divorce (you can imagine) when their serial unfaithfulness is under suspicion.

pro01: Only a dubious woman demands trust from her husband or partner. A genuinely virtuous woman earns it. . .and strives to retain it - simply by keeping her hands clean and her path straight. You don't insist on keeping male 'friends' or going on 'business trips' with your randy boss, and yet expect a sensible husband to trust you.

Any sensible man would NEVER trust any human being (let alone a woman) 100%. That's pure foolishness. If there are sufficient grounds for suspicion, then by all means a man must conduct a paternity test to clear all doubts. A truly good woman wouldn't get angry with her husband for doing that. She would get angry with herself for not doing enough to earn his trust.

Only sneaky, slimy, deceitful women (and they are in the majority) would make foolish noise or threaten divorce (you can imagine) when their serial unfaithfulness is under suspicion.

adewaleafolabi: Have you guys ever wondered why in the occultic world they usually ask for the mother's name and not the father's?