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smart1204:
Hi everyone, I'm a 20 year old male student in college of medicine UNN, enugu campus. This is
my problem.

I get aroused by close body contact with ladies. example:

Sitting beside a lady around my age or so makes me get an erection. Even though I have MOSTLY but not totally conquered this by fighting it in my mind.

The remaining ones I've sincerely tried and not being able to overcome are:

1. when I give a female friend front hug without any ulterior motive in mind, I start to get an erection (This has happened severally and made me stop hugging ladies).

2. when standing in a crowded place like 2 submit a script or enter a class. If ladies buttocks are pressed against groin and/or their breasts on my body, I start to get an embarrassing erection even though I actually hate it and have nothing in mind. This happens to the point I have to place my hand to cover it or prevent it.

Pls, I'm a technical virgin and have made up my mind to remain celibate till marriage. I try my best not to lust after women or sexual objectify them.

PLEASE HELP ME DEAR FRIENDS.

Graysons:
Something your igbo brothers can't seems to process.

Duru9:
Boko haram leader lambaste minister of banditry

7lives:
You are a rational mind, same cannot be said for your people.
Imagine always blaming Yoruba for Azikiwe's lack of foresight, Azikiwe did not only sabotage the secession clause, he also joined the North to delay Nigeria's independence for two years.
SW was colonized separately, the current Nigerian high commission office in UK, used to be the embassy of Western Nigeria in UK.
If the secession clause was included in the Nigerian constitution, Awolowo would probably have pulled SW out even before 1963.
Awo is a man that saw tomorrow, this was why he said Nigeria is a ' mere geographical expression " , not a country.
Did your people not labeled him a tribalist for his views?.
What Awolowo saw and demanded for secession clause to be included in the Nigerian constitution, Adaka Boro saw it, Ojukwu eventually saw it, the whole of Igboland saw it and this was why they support Ojukwu's Biafra agenda, unfortunately their fore fathers signed them into this union, forceful exit is a breach of contract, the owners of this slave ship the British will not take it.
Did Zik not cornived with his Fulani allies to carve out mid west?, Benin, Itshekiri, and Uhrobo are a sub Yoruba group or have they denied their identity?.
He still did the same to the Okun and Igbomina people, thank God for the likes of Olawoyin, who keeps reminding his people that " we are Yorubas we are not North".
Now tell me, 60 years later who in SW, SS, SE and MB is not seeing things from Awo's point of view today?.
Yorubas have since mapped out their survival strategy in a forced union like Nigeria, let other tribes too go and do the same.
Orun ma wo, kii se ori enikan.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr.....
Sapele road in Benin city is okay.....pz road to be precise...my area

Ugbowo is also okay...around nineteen Street and opposite main gate according to one of my niggarrrr....

Okhoro around play house...not good...no constant light..my grand mum's area

Iyean after aduwawa is manageable...my cousins area

Slynation:
Omo....I can categorically inform you here in Awka, it's been days without interruption of power supply...

Now...we are the ones pleading for them to take the light for some hours due to high consumption rate of units....

Monogamy:
Stick to the thread and answer the question.

Was ESN created only for herdsmen?

dumahi:
That was when love lasted "till death do us part".

Righteousness2:
Flee From Julie, the Strange woman with all the strength and Speed you can Muster.
Her lips drops like Honey but it will Destroy you.
Flee my Brother! Flee!

I'm In Danger Of Committing Adultery - Please Advice Me (From The Inbox)

Someone sent me this and I got his permission to publish it anonymously. So, please, can we advise him on how to avoid infidelity under the circumstances narrated?

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"Please Sir, I need a mature and expert advice on this issue:

There's this girl I started having feelings for right from childhood (let me call her Julie). I remember one day I saw Julie after a Christmas church service while we were both kids (she was in the primary school while I was in junior secondary). As I saw her that day sitting on a mobile stool around the lawn area, she looked like a heavenly being to me. The memory has never left me after about 25 years perhaps.
But, being a child then, all my infatuation for Julie was all bottled up in me. Yes, I couldn't talk to her, although she's up to 5 years younger than me.

Now, fast-forward to my university years. I met Julie somewhere far from our town (where she was attending a high school). We began to get together (I don't mean sex). To my great delight, I noticed that Julie had also been nursing strong feelings for me. I used to be the talk of the town in my uni days. So, I believe it's why she got so deeply into me so fast.

It's a piece of experience I've never had again since then - I mean having a long-time crush crushing on me. But the joy didn't last long: I soon graduated from uni and was very madly in search of a good job. I even had to travel far away from my city in search of greener pasture. That was when someone came for Julie's hands in marriage (let's call him 'Jude').

Jude was a family friend who also confided a lot in me. Somehow, we (me and Julie) couldn't resist Jude's advances. I couldn't seem to betray a family friend (and, honestly, marriage was totally absent from my mind then). In fact, looking back now, I can see that it's the loophole Jude had taken advantage of - coupled with his connection to my family - to access Julie.

Long story short, Jude and Julie eventually got married. I refused to attend their wedding because I was afraid I would break down and cry and disgrace myself seeing Julie getting married to someone else. I also hoped to use that to annoy Julie, thereby breaking the emotional cord that linked us.

Did my trick work? No. It was actually counterproductive. See how:

One evening - about a year after their wedding - I received a phone call from an unknown number. It was Julie sobbing on phone, saying how she was missing me terribly, and asking how she offended me (since I was avoiding her, she meant). I had blocked her on the social media and on the phone because I didn't want anything to remind me of the pain of losing her. Please, remember, I was relatively immature even after graduating college because I wasn't experienced enough in such things - I was a noted book worm at college.

I can't remember how I survived Julie's heart accusing me on the phone that evening. But I remember telling her, "I feel like telling you I love you but I can't since there's already someone between us" - which she didn't take lightly.

Then, some days ago, I was on a dating platform (EDITOR: such as this) when I noticed it was Julie who sent me 'love' - like Facebook friend request. I accepted and we began to chat. She told me she's now a trained nurse working with a high-brow government hospital. But, she said she keeps feeling incomplete in her marriage and keeps feeling like having me around (she has up to 3 kids now and I've never had sex with her; so I can't quite understand such a saying).

Yet, what Julie said is not my main problem now. My main problem is that she has gotten me seriously thinking about her. Do you know that I've never really been able to fall in love with any other woman apart from Julie?

I remember the last time I dared to visit her after years of unsuccessfully trying to avoid her. Her husband wasn't around. I remember her clasping my hand discretely behind my car door when I was about to go. As I lifted my face involuntarily, my eyes met Julie's as she was looking me through and saying, "please, be coming around, I do miss you a lot".

My heart still skips every time I remember that. It's one reason I stopped visiting Julie in her matrimonial home. However, honestly, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Hence, my need for advice.
Thank you Sir."

Welcum:
You can get the 'vibe' from many other sources. But, you can't get the UNDERSTANDING that comes from marrying same or similar career from many other sources.

BadRadio:
u are right

chatinent:
It depends on who you live for, and who was always there for you.

BadRadio:
Prince Harry is the biggest pussy worshipping SIMP in the Universe !!!

Edobabe20:
Asin eh, we no dey carry last when it comes to cooking sumptuous meals

Jerryherd:



Lol

Neo colonialised low self-esteem slaves

Na ya slave master for Fake News Network go determine wetin sweet and wetin no sweet..

Imagine Janet Clarkson giving her own opinion in her book now black inferior people are jubilating like they achieved something

If Richard Quest decided they are monkeys they would jubilate, If Anderson Cooper calls them Snake they accept


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Welcum:
Classless all of them. Why fight physically at a funeral? Yet, they are called celebrities! What's there to celebrate about such people? I invite all singles and married people here to join our discussion thread entitled "HOW DO YOU MANAGE MONEY IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIP?" We started the discussion because it has been discovered that most divorces are related to couples' inability to effectively handle issues related to money. You can find the thread here.

Welcum:
Classless all of them. Why fight physically at a funeral? Yet, they are called celebrities! What's there to celebrate about such people? I invite all singles and married people here to join our discussion thread entitled "HOW DO YOU MANAGE MONEY IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIP?" We started the discussion because it has been discovered that most divorces are related to couples' inability to handle issues related to money. You can find the thread here. A lot to learn.

Liposure:
No 3 is quite reasonable. Cut your coat according to your size. Its not by force you impress on your D day

chiommy123:
I agree with you on being honest. I also think having a joint account may help if both are employed where you pay in every month.

dumahi:
Where are the one-Nigerians please? Una don de dodge abi?