Flawless~diva:


Thank you!! Does not add anything to me

Sagamite:

https://www.nairaland.com/820236/what-not-after-first-date

Tgirl4real:

This is so not fair. If it's true, how can anyone treat another this way?

Sad!!!

ekt_bear: Update:

So she responded. She is busy with finals related stuff this week, but has agreed to hook things up sometime after that.

So....suck it, haters

ekt_bear wins again

pleep: Yea its no fun to approach a girl when shes got a friend around.

Especially if that friend has a hijab! talk about intimidation lol

Sagamite: She was not sure but thought since I had the confidence to approach her while wearing hijab, I must be a Allahu Akbar guy. She asked during the date, I never answered. Turned it to a joke and game without lying. It was when she used the word 'haram' and I did not know the meaning, when she realised I was not muslim and started laughing.

ekt_bear: Bros, you may be right. What I did probably doesn't conform to US standards that much either...there are a bunch of intricate rules about how you are supposed to wait X days to call a girl, blahblahblah.

But I've never cared to follow any of those rules. If I'm feeling a girl, I ask for her # and I'll call the next day. I think it is better to go with your instincts rather than conform to different standards that society arbitrarily is making up for you.

My instinct at that time was that the girl was feeling me (despite not wanting to give out her #), but was being inhibited in some way by external factors.

Plus if a girl is a stickler for society's rules, we wouldn't get along anyway...so better for me to find that out right away.

ekt_bear: Also, I don't necessarily want some girl i just met in my facebook life. Isn't a phone # easier for everyone involved?

It was so sketchy. I asked her, "oh do you have a man or something, is that why you don't want to give me your #?"

And she said she doesn't have a man.

All I know is that women are crazy

Goldieluks:

If you are her type, she wouldn't hesitate to give you her number.
She only gave you her fb account so you can go on and salivate on her pics.

Sagamite:

Welcome to the behaviours of the average L'Oreal modern day woman that men are suppose to endure to be privileged enough to be tagged "Real Men".

The same selfish, wick and inconsiderate woman in that link would be the same one complaining when a man dumps her arsse in marriage and looks for his happiness elsewhere. Then you will hear her moaning "did the 10 year marriage men nothing to him".

Tgirl4real:

It could be that she lost her fone, forgot her fb n email password or she was kidnapped. Let's give her the benefit of doubt jor.

Sagamite:

But she knows how to find her way to publishing his letter to her on the internet.

Tgirl4real:

It could be her Ghost jor

As per the friend wearing hijab, that does not mean nada to me. I have even approached a girl that was wearing hijab before. It is not the norm, but fck, she was so freaking curvy wearing hijab, waist coat on a top white shirt and colourful gypsy skirt that assenuated her hips, to the point that I could not resist. Hips are a universal, non-religious language.

Sagamite:

I can't fault your approach. One of my friends is using the same approach at the moment. He got bored of the rules and is doing things as he pleases.

If he feels like calling a girl at night after getiing her number in the afternoon, he just does it.

But to practice that approach, one must be able to convey simultaneously that he is:
- very confident.
- not desperate.
- and he is willing to pack it up if she misforms.

If a girl messes up because he did not follow the rules, he just scraps that side quickly.

The trick to that ability is "piling them high". He gets as many girls number as possible, so he does not fret over one fcking up.

Goldieluks: Grow up OP and stop pestering the poor girl. She's not that into you. Stop consoling yourself abeg. The girl at the gym rejected, now its this one at the club. Hehehehe u no get babe? No offeiense oh abeg carry go nothing do you.

kokosheen:

It seems you missed a page in the thread.

Goldieluks:


Oh really? Ok show me the way then.

ekt_bear: Update:

So she responded. She is busy with finals related stuff this week, but has agreed to hook things up sometime after that.

So....suck it, haters

ekt_bear wins again

ekt_bear: My brother, the story ends here, unfortunately

It would be ungentlemanly of me to share any further details of whatever happens on NL.

Besides, the purpose of this thread has been served: the lesson learned is not to assume that a girl wanting to be facebook friends = rejection. I should have known better than to listen to the detractors that abound on NL

Oh I forgot to say, she told me the reason she didn't give me a # is due to some creepy, overly aggressive stalkish guys she met in the past.

kokosheen:

ekt_bear: How can you be offering further advice on an already resolved matter
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I started this thread very early Saturday, got a positive response Sunday from the girl in question, thus answering my question.

I even wonder what there is left for Goldieluks to be saying.

Idowuogbo:
i tire o..