berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days".
I have a cousin who is gonna be 34years by next year and she is not yet married.There is this guy she was introduced to for marriage but the man gave her condition that she must get pregnant first.My cousin being a very stubborn lady refused and said she will never get pregnant before marriage.Her mum has been worried because of her age and also being the first daughter.
My main worry now is that her mum wants me to advise her on what to do.Right now am confused.I don't know what kind of advice to give.Should I advise her to get pregnant or wait for the right time? Am really scared the guy might leave her if she refuses to get pregnant first.

amourpure: I have heard of Virgins that got married and could not conceive for several years. pregnancy before marriage does not Make sense to me, the woman might even loss the pregnancy or the baby after the marriage so what will the man do then?

vanstanzy: In Deut. 23, He says he will be cursed for ten generations for creating a bastard or for incest. A bastard is one conceived out of wedlock.

Okija_juju:

YES o!!

The number of Damaged goods walking around our c=society, calling themselves women are too much.. He will marry you, all he wants are babes.. Whats so hard in that..

Do you agree that he can divorce you should you fail to produce babies for him after marriage and you are not entitled to even the g-string on your waste as divorce settlement?! IF YES! Then sign a fhucking pre-nupt and lets get the marriage on!!

Women wan use Christianity cover up their faults.. This trend is not new, our fore fathers did it.. Infact, the groom was supposed to test the bride to verify she was a virgin before marriage sef back in the day.. If na today, many of una go die single..

faporori24:

Nah there you dey go ask ya fada how dem born you i think you want hear the super story go learn no belle no marriage i cant marry Naija used TOKUNBO girls never BIKO

Please urself then, but don't mention my parents, cos they ain't ur mates.
And if u'll answer a post with an insult, it'ld have been best if u just read and not post. What, u want to be heard?

vanstanzy:

Okija, because our fore-fathers did it doesn't mean it was ok. What they did then, they did out of Ignorance.

berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days".
I have a cousin who is gonna be 34years by next year and she is not yet married.There is this guy she was introduced to for marriage but the man gave her condition that she must get pregnant first.My cousin being a very stubborn lady refused and said she will never get pregnant before marriage.Her mum has been worried because of her age and also being the first daughter.
My main worry now is that her mum wants me to advise her on what to do.Right now am confused.I don't know what kind of advice to give.Should I advise her to get pregnant or wait for the right time? Am really scared the guy might leave her if she refuses to get pregnant first.

chuksme: At 34 she is still making guy. she should wait until when it is 40. she is still young. when she miss this last Bus.she will be the one begging guy to come and pregnant her

Richvkunt:

Berem,
you be small pikin.
Talk about your self.
I know wetin I dey talk- some girls destroy their wombs and ability to concieve by engaging in more than 50 abortions/D&Cs before they clock 25 years of age.
Take it from some one who knows.

ednut1: afta all d abortion una don do, most holy holy ere self don do abortion, as for me till u get pregnant no marriage and we must be nackin, cos me no like wahala of childlessness or dull sex life, which is responsible for high divorce in 9ja, most guys dat dont want sex are eida gay, importent or wit small willy beware

payless:

Is your cousin a virgin? If yes, she has enough intergrity and the guy should respect her for that. If she's is not a virging, then what intergrity is she's protecting? Not being a virgin before marriage puts her in a tough situation.

tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!

stillwater: By sleeping with the lady before marriage is he not contributing to this so-called 'waywardness'? Nigerian men are hypocrites! Freaking razz things.

tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!

Mustymohd2: to me any lady i Bleep b4 getin married, true 2 god i wont promise her hnd of married

berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days".
I have a cousin who is gonna be 34years by next year and she is not yet married.There is this guy she was introduced to for marriage but the man gave her condition that she must get pregnant first.My cousin being a very stubborn lady refused and said she will never get pregnant before marriage.Her mum has been worried because of her age and also being the first daughter.
My main worry now is that her mum wants me to advise her on what to do.Right now am confused.I don't know what kind of advice to give.Should I advise her to get pregnant or wait for the right time? Am really scared the guy might leave her if she refuses to get pregnant first.

berem: my dear I don't know much about my cousin's affair because she isn't the type that talks about it.Apart from our stay together in school,we aren't close.it is almost a year I spoke to her last.Her mum is the one trying to put me in the middle of this mess and she is tryna involve her sister,my mum.even up till now my cousin hasn't told me anything.it was her mum who gave me the whole jist.am gonna pretend like I didn't hear anything till she herself tells me what's happening.but I fear for my cousin.Her introvert nature is really becoming worrisome.

k2039:

[color=soyouquotedme]The real marriage is the traditional marriage not church. [/color]

freecocoa: Some people and their ways of reasoning, smh.

Like many people have said on here, supposing she agrees to get pregnant, gets pregnant and losses the pregnancy, what happens then? He calls off the wedding or what?

Oh I get it, he just wants to make sure she still has a functional womb but its like he's forgotten that only God gives children when he wants and to whom he wants to, what if he has a problem and isn't able to impregnate a woman?(which he may not know)

There are just too many what ifs that we don't always have the answers to, that man is the one who needs to be talked to not even your cousin, if anything sef, I'd advice your cousin to have a serious thinking session about the kind of man she wants to marry.

Okija_juju:


BROS!! the matter tire me o!!


Talk about inferiority complex.. Oyinbo people sef wey carry the religion come meet us sef have grown past that church wedding crap.. They talk as if wedding for church na guarantee of a happy marriage life..

J12: I don't know what your cousins priorities are. it seems she has other serious suitors lurking around and she considers the guy in question an unserious player who wants get in her pants. else I see know reason why she's yet to agree to his demands.

mallorca:
Nne, u don ask 20 yet to be married men&15 of them wants thier wife to be pregnant first,
good,add me to d list as no 16 because not dat i want her to be pregnant b4 wedding but we go born all our kids finish, infact na my first son go be my best man on my wedding day.marriage b4 sex my foot

tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!

Okija_juju: SIMPLE RULES!!!

Tell your cousin to sign a PRENUPT saying that should she fail to carry belle after the wedding and its medically confirmed that its as a result of her fault, she would agree to a divorce with no financial settlement.. #SIMPLE!!!