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Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 6:19pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
O.T.I.S: A graduate for 3years now and working... Don't judge ppl till u know them. I don't watch Nollywood... And don't bother about me n my standards..at least u weren't rude while giving ur advice. Thanks. Dr. Joe: You too, if u don't know me, don't talk about me! Adults have never had d monopoly on common sense. (If this thread is anything to go by). Ciao! 4 Likes |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by gbanikiti(m): 6:22pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Nne you too much! Fire on sis! tchidi: 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Burger01(m): 6:32pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!Some ladies would become aunty and grow old in their parents house. Hmmmmm. O ga o.. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by jaymichael(m): 6:33pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!na small pickin dey worry you. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by hallengray(m): 6:38pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
redsun:Very funny. You'll wait well o. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by 2good(m): 6:42pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
baby_mama: very funny 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by gbanikiti(m): 6:45pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Tchidi,see how dem dey attack you for this thread! |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Ngwakwe: 6:48pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Nairaland should be rated 18 years and above to avoid this quoted comment below vivian chinaza: Them never even conceive the man wey go give me this kind condition!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Dmantle: 6:49pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
getting pregnant before marriage=fornication 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 6:50pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
gbanikiti: Tchidi,see how dem dey attack you for this thread! Nne'm oº°˚! See troublem oº°˚! I have no issues with people who get pregnant b4 wedding.. I have no issues with anyone living how they want, why dem de beef me? If I become old maid for my papa house (chukwu a man kwe), na dia problem ni? That's my wahala of nairaland! They can judge people without reason ehn! I actually learnt a few things from those who had sensible things to say... The rest,I just click 'ctrl ignore ' 3 Likes |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Burger01(m): 6:57pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
To me, if the cousin loves her man more than anything then she could get pregnant before marriage and at the same time proof him wrong on child bearing. On the other hand if the man loves her more than life itself he would marry her pregnant or not pregnant. But wait, don't they say love conquers all... Or are we saying love is not that important in a marriage?. If love is that important then either way it's 50/50.. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by leslieu63(m): 7:03pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Impulse80: I not only endorse it but i recommend it also What is difficult about it? get pregnant and we get married! SHIKENA!gbam. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by nanaman(m): 7:20pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days". Can you ask your cousin if she prefers the insult of her in-laws if probably she gets pregnant late after marriage @ least we all know why the guy is insisting she gets pregnant before marriage..AGE.. Not advising she gets pregnant before marriage but she should put the other side into consideration as well and for ladies who say they cannot get pregnant before marriage..Which one would you prefer insults from in-laws (ibo especially),second wife or pregnancy before marriage. Folks it is easier said than done,ask ladies who have gone through the trauma in marriage before you respond. We are in a setting where we believe child after marriage or what next ?? so, the issue of making a woman child bearing machine does not come into force here or which of you ladies would want to get married and not having kids of her own,its just for the good of the wife because if anything happens after marriage the man would look else,all he does his to beg which you would gladly accept as God's wish for you. Yes,we don't pray for it but it happens and we see it all around us. Some men are understanding in situation like this but it really depends on how both of them started. My advice to her is BE WISE. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 7:37pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
As a christain it is not biblical and there are fertility tests to confirm this child bearing issue and the rest is in God's hands. Moreover in a relationship where there is honesty and love from both sides pregnancy b4 marriage shuld not be an option. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by true2god: 7:41pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
kulyie: you make it seem like the only reason for marriage is sex and children and you make it seem like thats the only thing women have to offer.what the hell is wrong wit u men that you lack self control like thisDats the primary reason. Evry oda tin na added value. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by kaboninc(m): 7:52pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha! My dear, I so much love this your 'strict rule'. However, I'll advice you to be strong because when the hands of life touch you, like its touching the op's cousin, then that rule of yours will be put to test. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by SELFWORTH: 7:52pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Hypocrisy at its best. On one hand, we have men who want a virgin wife but don't mind testing other ladies as long the women in their own families are not tested by other men like a dripping tap. On the other hand, we have women who know the right thing to do but due to pressure from men and relatives give away their virginity like peanuts to men (example of such men can be derived from a sample of the male posts on this thread) who do not respect them. God shall be busy on judgement day! 4 Likes |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 7:54pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by SELFWORTH: 7:56pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
omo_to_dun: @OP Uhh! Will you make heaven? |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 7:56pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by SELFWORTH: 7:57pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
true2god: Dats the primary reason. Evry oda tin na added value. ....man made added value! God created the institution of marriage but now that men have taken over, you can tell from the posts on this thread that chaos reigns. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 8:01pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
tchidi: welcome dear, no need to be rude, we argue to learn. if i have to go by what you wrote, 4yrs in the university, extra 1yr NYSC, plus 3yrs and now working abi? if you are not in an intimate relationship now then i think i know your type. in life, 'different things happen to different people differently' i wish you the best....cheers!! |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by SELFWORTH: 8:02pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
omo_to_dun: ^ So you have died and come back to life ? Or how do you know? Just asking! |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Florena(f): 8:08pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Burger01:na wetin i dey think be dat oooo, i have like 2 friends dat re 19yrs each and they re married and livin fine......i dnt knw wat wil make a 35yr old lady 2 be single, although different time 4 different pple but i think it is wen u've seen too much in life dat u wil start havin problems wen u get married cos sumtimes u wil bliv u re right because u think it has happen 2 u b4, i dnt understand..... |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Nobody: 8:08pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
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Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by favinvest: 8:12pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Some people re nt bin practical here o.. @ 34yrs; her chances of seeing anoda guy is very very slim o. Someone may say re u God? I think dat person should go to churches and see am marry to Jesus types (over 45yrs but single). If she trusts her self, I will advise both families to sit together and agree. Dat he marries her after she takes in. After all d most important tin is parents agreement, nt d party called church or traditional wedding.. And 4 those of u dat said love. In africa we practice practical love. Dats why in some culture a woman family background will b checked even to 7 generations ago. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by Florena(f): 8:15pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Burger01:na wetin i dey think be dat oooo, i have like 2 friends dat re 19yrs each and they re married and livin fine......i dnt knw wat wil make a 35yr old lady 2 be single,i ave a sister too she even celebrated her 35th birthday in grand style in her father's house!!! (no boyfriend in attendance) although different time 4 different pple but i think it is wen u've seen too much in life dat u wil start havin problems wen u get married cos sumtimes u wil bliv u re right wen u re nt,because u think it has happen 2 u b4, i dnt understand..... |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by fankasibe: 8:16pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
I can only buy a goods if i'm allowed to test it and also has warranty. |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by tomakint: 8:17pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
baby_mama:I am a big fan of ur unalloyed bluntness when it comes to sensitive topics! Real men will wait for their 'wives' after marriage and if it 'happened' real men will not pester her to abort! Most times, men are guilty in cases like these 1 Like |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by WAM1(f): 8:17pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Lol- lo ba tan- a ma wa daran Lori oro marriage yi o. These stories crack me up - the world is changing pregnancy ko nancy preg ni |
Re: Getting Pregnant Before Marriage by vanstanzy(m): 8:18pm On Dec 28, 2012 |
Ngwakwe: I don't support pregnancy before marriage, but it is the same as sex before wedlock (traditional or religious). Because God was visibly angry and may have giving King David a hint somehow that the Child born out of wedlock with Bathsheba was going to die as a punishment. Remember, King David not only put another mans' wife in the family way, but also got the man killed because of the illicit affair and God sent a prophet to deliver this message to King David. Being born out of wedlock, the kid was a bastard. 1 Like |
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