O.T.I.S:

you sound more like a teenager student and still have a long way to go when it comes to life and marriage. am married for 12yrs now and blessed with kids. when you grow up, you will know that marriage is not all about you and your standard. for now i advise you stay closer to your parents (mum especially) than nollywood movies -----no offense.

Dr. Joe:


go and study your books and stop playing with that keyboard kid! the topic is for adults.

tchidi:

A graduate for 3years now and working... Don't judge ppl till u know them. I don't watch Nollywood... And don't bother about me n my standards..at least u weren't rude while giving ur advice. Thanks.



You too, if u don't know me, don't talk about me! Adults have never had d monopoly on common sense. (If this thread is anything to go by). Ciao!

tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!

tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!

redsun:



You are funny,"church!".

baby_mama:

Are you not the same person impregnating them and paying for abortions?
There are women who can be pregnant 50 times and yet no baby,don't you know that?
You might as well demand that she not only gets pregnant but delivers a bouncing baby boy before she marries you

For any man that contributed to the barrenness of a young woman,may you be childless too
That's fair IMHO
You cannot damage other girls and expect your own to be preserved
You must meet your match or your own akamu tadpoles will not swim with energy
Yes ke

vivian chinaza: Them never even conceive the man wey go give me this kind condition!!!!!

gbanikiti: Tchidi,see how dem dey attack you for this thread!

Impulse80: I not only endorse it but i recommend it also What is difficult about it? get pregnant and we get married! SHIKENA!

berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days".
I have a cousin who is gonna be 34years by next year and she is not yet married.There is this guy she was introduced to for marriage but the man gave her condition that she must get pregnant first.My cousin being a very stubborn lady refused and said she will never get pregnant before marriage.Her mum has been worried because of her age and also being the first daughter.
My main worry now is that her mum wants me to advise her on what to do.Right now am confused.I don't know what kind of advice to give.Should I advise her to get pregnant or wait for the right time? Am really scared the guy might leave her if she refuses to get pregnant first.

kulyie: you make it seem like the only reason for marriage is sex and children and you make it seem like thats the only thing women have to offer.what the hell is wrong wit u men that you lack self control like this

tchidi: Dunno about others, but I have a strict 'no sex b4 marriage' rule!! If u can't wait till we r married, (not even traditionally sef, church!) Then back off! She should hold fast to her values! If he loves u, he'll love u even if u don't give him a child... My 2 cents sha!

omo_to_dun: @OP
Respect the decision of your cousin and let her be. What is most important is what she wants for herself and not what any other person wants.


As for other Nigerian women on this thread claiming not to want sex before marriage, I laugh in 18th century English. After you lots have enjoyed sundry p.enises, you are now forming saint. Abeg make una go sidon jor.


By the way, 7^th page, 209^th to comment, so I give all the undivided glory to Almighty Obatala.

true2god: Dats the primary reason. Evry oda tin na added value.

tchidi:

A graduate for 3years now and working... Don't judge ppl till u know them. I don't watch Nollywood... And don't bother about me n my standards..at least u weren't rude while giving ur advice. Thanks.

omo_to_dun: ^
My brother, I am an atheist. There is no such thing as heaven.

Burger01:
Some ladies would become aunty and grow old in their parents house. Hmmmmm. O ga o..

Burger01:
Some ladies would become aunty and grow old in their parents house. Hmmmmm. O ga o..

baby_mama:

Hehehe
Imagine
Girls are wayward ,girls are doing abortions,is there not a participating man at the other end?

Ngwakwe: I don't support pregnancy before marriage, but it is the same as sex before wedlock (traditional or religious).

However, if I may ask:

Why was David fasting and praying for God to keep his first son he had with Bathsheba alive: You think the Boy is a Bastard, me no think so?