My boyfriend and I have being dating for like 4 years. We are in the same University hoping to get married after school. I've always being the one talking about our future together which he never mentions to me.

In one of our gist I told him I'm actually waiting him. What he told me was that I have choice,. He practically said it's my choice, which means it's either I continue wit him/ leave him. If it were you what will you do? When u never dream of being with any other person accept him. Please advice.

I suggest asking if he he seriously wants you in his life or not and then i suggest ignoring him for a while then maybe he'll come back to his senses.

the guy is just messing around with u cos he has seen dat the love is more on ur side,and u r really showing it to him,ignore d guy if possible try and stay away from him for one month and see if he wont come running back to u

as for d discussion of marital settlement,to me u sound like a desperado,let d guy be d one discussing all dat with u,afterall he is d one marrying u,i dont blame dat guy for his reaction,cos u r always pestering him wt marriage marriage marriage,let him do d pestering and stop acting desperate

As he is still in school, I bet u the last thing on his mind is marriage.


He would be prolly more concerned on how to stand on his feet as a man after school.


I might be wrong but it is a rare thing for hearthrobs in school (especially in Nigeria) to be married after graduation. Most times the relationship end upon the graduation.

check him out very well,he may already hve someone else .It is obvious he is not realy down with u d way u are with him.is statement points to d fact dat he lack any form of commitment to d relationship,so rule out love ,for he has none4  u,he is probably attracted to u kind of,so shine ur eyes and do not be used.

Don't understand the Issue here

@ OP: are you maykelly, by any chance?

There was a thread somewhere about some men refusing to marry until they were older.

i'll advise u 2 focus on your study, because u can get anything u want wen u hv ur cert in your hand. give him some space n see if he will cm 2 u and if not, abeg look else where.

because u can get anything u want when u hv your cert in your hand.

no i dont agree wt u,it doesnt always work out so

hey look, i think most pple here are really being frank and candid with u ,, the last thing in his mind is marriage and with u talking abt it around him really pisses him off, how i wish u could get to hear him talk to his friends abt this, damn!! u sure would let him be if ur love 4 him aint strong,
as a guy ooo, the least thing i would think of w is marriage whyl in school ,
Good luck,

There is something I heard long ago I think it's worth sharing:

"Many men /women are not worth crying over. Those that are worth crying over will never make you cry (at least not the type of crying you described here)."

I have found this to be true in several relationships. Like he said, it's your choice. It has always been. You decided to be with him. He has just given you some real power. He has woken you up to see the power that you have - power to choose. Take responsibility for your life, decide what you want and make your choice.

One of the requirements for success in life is that you need to take 100% responsibility for your life.

All the best.

The guy just can't promise you marriage now that he is still in school and I suspect he doesn't want to be held responsible for making you refuse your suitors when they start coming. You didn't say if you were graduating soon. But I suggest you leave the matter alone for now until the situation has improved on his side.

bymya:

My boyfrnd n I av being dating 4 lik 4yrs, we r in d same University hopin 2 get married after sch. av always being d 1 taking about our future 2geda wc he never mention any 2 me. In 1 of our gist i told him am actually waiting  him, wot he told me was that i av choice,. He practically said IT MY CHOICE, wc means its either i continue wit him/ leave him. If it were u wot wil u do. Wen u never dream of being wit any oda person accept him.
PLS ADVICE

I'm sorry, I don't understand your post.

But since you said pls advice and the title of your thread is My boyfriend makes me cry, my advice is. . .look for someone who doesn't make you cry.

Sisikill:


I'm sorry, I don't understand your post.

But since you said please advice and the title of your thread is My boyfriend makes me cry, my advice is. . .look for someone who doesn't make you cry.

LMAO!!

u know in ur heart of hearts say d guy no want u again. so wat u'd do is to scram. d problem wit some babes is dat they know wen dey no longer wanted, wen d game is up yet they still hang on, hoping for watever. so my dear, the word is :SCRAM! b4 he makes u public disgrace. hope u feel me?

@poster

Maybe your short hand way of writing is putting him off! If you learn to spell your words correctly. . .he might just realize your potentials after all!

Goodluck!

I THT T WUZ IM BALAMI MAKNG U CRY

@poster, you have not started crying. my advice to you is to wait until it gets to uncontrollable stage. my boyfriend ko;

do you think is the only man and reliable you got in your life ? you get lost

well just give ur b.f some air,there are lots of things to think about after school.i know surelyt he wouldn't 4get u and maybe he's not the real one for u have u thot about dat and keep on praying too.

first of all,hw old re u guys.secondly, u guys re still in school its better you plan your future(career ) to ve peace shld in case u guys eventually get married.To me i would support the guys cos there is more to marriage than the lovey lovey thing.The choose is urs just like your guy said.

@poster

we member have posted different ideas from different view, so is left for you to decide which to choose, but i pray u choose the correct one

Gosh the poster came here for help,NOT to have her grammar or lack of it citicized by a f.ucking chimp,

@topic.
You have to know what you want dear. If this guy is showing no interest, then move on. There are lot more fishes in the sea. It is evidently clear that his heart isnt with you. So if I were you, I would wish him all the best and move on with my life.

not many men like to feel caged. especially if its like they are being cornerd into marriage. at this stage in your b/f's life he is either saddlied with the thoughts of what happens after school. getting a job, settling down. its harsh, but the truth is that you may not be in the picture for now.

get a life outside of him. learn a new language, get into new friendship circles and let him know you can be single and happy. if he really wants you in his life permanently he will put you in his plans. period.

My Advise to you is to face your study now and drop such ideas cos he has more sophisticated challenges upfront and he needs to be himself to either make you happy someday or love someone else but for now he is enticed by more powerful ideas than marriage.
Keep cool and best of luck in your relationship.

Stop idolizing your boyfriend. He's just another silly young man who doesn't know what he wants.
You need to experience various relationships before settling for a particular guy. Many fish in the ocean!

Baby girl you know ur guy better than any other person. If that's how he has been then it means that's how he is. May he doesn't want to give yes as an answer. Therefore is up to you either to be patient but tactful/careful with him or just leave him and find your way.

i dont think that this is a cause for so much debate. the guy is not that into you. my advice loose that man and let him go!!!

What a coincidence! My ex used to make me laugh and i still left him!
Babe, you got a choice, make it!

@Doyin13, you must always dirty things up abi?

Re: My Boyfriend Makes Me Cry
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the guy is just messing around with u because he has seen that the love is more on your side,and you're really showing it to him,ignore d guy if possible try and stay away from him for one month and see if he wont come running back to u,


**shakes head** sigh**and zooms off

Girl friend, please don't depend on any man or hope that any man will marry you, until he proposes. That is why sometimes, I encourage cheating, but make sure you are not caught. Even bible said it, " the heart of a man is something, something, something". What I meant is, you can never know the hearth of man, and please don't be too desperate about marriage, it scares men. One proverb says, until you marry two wives, you can never know the better woman. Try to date another guy, and see how much your boy friend loves you.