Two months after marriage , my friend left his banking job to seek "greener pasture",as it is often called.

Fast forward to six months after,he's married in the U.S to another woman claiming the old worn out phrase "green card things".

We talked on phone and when i asked if his beloved Nigerian wife is aware , he became silent.

Common bro! Anytime i'm around his LEGAL wife, i feel sad inside.

Two wives in a year?
Just to stay in another man's land? Too much to wrap my head around that.

I dont know of any wife that can

biolabee: I dont know of any wife that can

naija wives will.
some girls with overseas husbands know very well that their hubbys have families up there. the guys too dont even hide it, they give the naija wife a period of hours when he can be reached without dosturbing the natural order of things

I haven't told him of a new law that gives the American wife a huge advantage.

There's a new law that gives the wife the right to withdraw his application for green card through her. Even if it has been approved for 10 years in case of a divorce or misdemeanour.

I know of a woman who did . The husband got married to a Japanese woman so he become a citizen and get a job . He has two girls with the woman now , and the nigerian woman also have two children . Last December , the Japanese woman came to Nigeria, the man introduced his Nigerian wife to the Japanese as the sister. She only communicate in igbo whenever the japanese woman is there . They stayed for two weeks , and this man never comes home , he is fully in Japan, as the woman won't let him come home alone . Menh, that woman took shit , all for greener pasture .

@ohaleoghene,

Mhen! That's extreme.

Even american citizenship can be revoked many years after it is attained if it is found that it was got through fraud.Marriage fraud that is.So do not think it is ever home run.A word is enough for the wise.

jeffizy: @ohaleoghene,

Mhen! That's extreme.

My brother , this is what a woman is passing through , I am not been told the story , I know this couple .The guy doesn't come home , the Nigerian wife stays with the mother in law . All of these for money ? The husband brother who is my frnd said the Nigerian woman is a good wife . Please how long will she continue to be a good wife why she is no different from a single mother ? If she is not complaining , then I could bet she is getting love and sexxx from another dude . To even think of the fact that the children dnt see their father . The Japanese woman thought it was African culture for one's sister children to call you 'daddy '

My buddy is now in a pensive mood.
Guess he thinks i might squeal on him.

I won't do that simply because i know what the result will be.
I have my own family to worry about.

What a pity

jeffizy: @ohaleoghene,

Mhen! That's extreme.

You're a learner. Dem boku for Europe.

jeffizy: Two months after marriage , my friend left his banking job to seek "greener pasture",as it is often called.

Fast forward to six months after,he's married in the U.S to another woman claiming the old worn out phrase "green card things".

We talked on phone and when i asked if his beloved Nigerian wife is aware , he became silent.

Common bro! Anytime i'm around his LEGAL wife, i feel sad inside.

Two wives in a year?
Just to stay in another man's land? To much to wrap my head around that.

mind your damn business......

and oh Jeff , what he ^^ said too none of your gaddam business.

coogar:

mind your damn business......

Im my brother's keeper Coogar.

I should wait till he outsmarts himself and gets his a.r.se hauled in jail before showing concern?

@jidegirl12.
Emi o ni laju mi s'ile ki ti ore mi o baje men!

Will i be happy when his family accuse me of abetting?
NO.

Try having a friend from nursery school till now.

Wow! All for this papers.
When will that time be when a foreigner will marry a Nigerian for papers?

never_say_never: Wow! All for this papers.
When will that time be when a foreigner will marry a Nigerian for papers?

Naija papers?
That will be a while.
In naija wey foreigner is regarded as brocoli and our own ppl seen as ewedu.

jeffizy:


@jidegirl12.
Emi o ni laju mi s'ile ki ti ore mi o baje men!

Baje bawo? Ko ba le da noni .... don't say anything yet, I'm sure he'll explain to wifee himself.

Will i be happy when his family accuse me of abetting?
NO.

I think you're taking it way too far jeffy, you haven't done anything wrong to warrant any accusation , y'all both married, it's way different from kg1 days , he's an adult and not everything you see you go talk. I've got childhood friends too, I shared my opinion when they're making wrong choices but they don't have to listen to me, nah , for every wrong doing , there's consequences.

Try having a friend from nursery school till now.

I do and cherish them a lot, but won't rat them out for any reason. Pinky swear remember?

I wish him all the best, ain't easy securing a gc unless you've got relatives to file for you otherwise, *grunts*. I don't want to say this but na by force to travel? I heard banking job pay great. 2month marriage? is the wife preggy before his departure ?

@jidegirl12..

Well laid out. Thanks.

@jide12...
Yes , Wife is pregnant.

He had 10 years experience as a banker.

Unfortunately,he barely earns enough to pay rent.

Sometimes, i put his name on the brown envelope for his family when in town.

E dey pain me small.

I never knew somen women could take this sh..it, but going through this thread, its an eye-opener, but the question is, can men take this type of shi t from their wives, all in the name of greener pasture...........that is food for thought for you men.

The question is this- Who raised this women to believe they don't deserve anything from life except an absentee husband and a marriage certificate to keep their bed warm? who told them its ok for them and their mil to raise kids together when the father is married to an oyinbo and raising oyinbo kids? Who told them as long as they are married anything that comes their way is good enough for them.? Who told them money is everything. Are these women ok? Who told them marriage is an endurance walk? Who defined the "good wife" for them.

andromida: The question is this- Who raised this women to believe they don't deserve anything from life except an absentee husband and a marriage certificate to keep their bed warm? who told them its ok for them and their mil to raise kids together when the father is married to an oyinbo and raising oyinbo kids? Who told them as long as they are married anything that comes their way is good enough for them.? Who told them money is everything. Are these women ok? Who told them marriage is an endurance walk? Who defined the "good wife" for them.

that's what the nigerian society expects from them.to swallow all manner of poo.and pretend to be happy.saddening

Completely saddening. But thank God some women are now more sensible. Some women are no longer dependent in the sense that they cannot feed themselves without a husband. Any woman whose husband travels out and get married to a white or black woman should file for divorce. Marriage was instutionalised by God and He didn't introduced it to be used as a collateral in money making. That is a glaring adultery.

jeffizy: @jide12...
Yes , Wife is pregnant.

He had 10 years experience as a banker.

Unfortunately,he barely earns enough to pay rent.

Sometimes, i put his name on the brown envelope for his family when in town.

E dey pain me small.

Good she's expecting and I'm hoping she must've agreed with him travelling?

Please don't quote me cos I might modify this post later.

Marriage is the only way in US to expedite the process trust me. If they want to see him come home ASAP .

Na wa for Naija oh, banking job now hardly pays rent? God will continue to bless you Jeff , you keep talking to him bout the process from time to time to keep him on his toes.

Don't threaten him, give him timeline, or fight, it's a battleground as a visitor up there. No healthcare, so he must secure that gc before his visa lapse ( 1 year I presume) because he's already doomed either way for overstaying.

@greatgod, sis, this is not a competition oh, I know many women whose hubby stayed back home with 3,2, 4 , 5 kids ( yes) for over a year ( even more) until they secures a gc and eventually brought everybody over.

Everybody is not fortunate in Naija with a million paying job so he gotta do what they gotta do

Princess zoe: Completely saddening. But thank God some women are now more sensible. Some women are no longer dependent in the sense that they cannot feed themselves without a husband. Any woman whose husband travels out and get married to a white or black woman should file for divorce. Marriage was instutionalised by God and He didn't introduced it to be used as a collateral in money making. That is a glaring adultery.

God bless you!

Hurray for women liberation !!

'Some women' she said Pftttttt ..... Nobody knows what's going on behind closed doors, everybody shines their teeth like everything is A okay.... You're in no position to decree that rule ; Anybody whose hubby travels and marry a foreigner for papers should divorce.

Why can't you people be real here for once?? And stop living in your cookoo fantasy happily ever after world??

jidegirl12:


Everybody is not fortunate in Naija with a million paying job so he gotta do what they gotta do

So if I'm right, your point is that he's doing this for the good of his family, his wife

Shouldn't he discuss it with her first

uju and jide - abeg make peace

Uju today is Victoria Day .... I'm heading to the parade as I speak and a guy I just filed PR for is driving me and my family there..... I came to the west solo (student) with my britiko passport to refresh your memory ..... yeah I thought you need that explanation from me.

For the umpteenth time, could you please waka pass my posts?? This is getting ridiculous don't you think?? How else do you want me to spell it out to you that I don't give a Bleep about you and you're not relevant to me??

*sighs*

Again I'm not gonna discuss this thread with you, my post wasn't directed at you , abi aye e fe baje ni?

I'm truly sorry Jeff... didn't mean to derail.

My concern is actually from 2 perspective.

1. He commiting bigamy.

2. Leaving a comfortable existence for uncertainty.

Nice discourse. Please lets keep it open-minded.