I agree with you to some extent. It is true that our society place too much emphasis on marital Status irrespective of the end result.
While more and more marriages are crashing, young women are being pressured to get hooked-up by ALL-MEANS, not minding what the out-come will be in future.
We seem to living for somebody and not for ourselves anymore. And the society in question does not teach good moral to the would-be house wives.

Another undoing of the unmarried ladies is that some of them, who are opportune to secure a good job as soon as they leave school, allow the cash they are making gets into their head following which they live BIG and become kind of ostentatious. No serious man will allow such a life style go unnoticed. (A big car, tastefully furnished flat, or always the [b]out-going [/b]kind). Or how do you expect a man who earns N50-100k to be in control of unmarried lady of N300k and above in a month. It’s just a matter of time before their marriage collapses.
A serious man will take all these into consideration before he proposes. Viewed from that angle, a lot of ladies will not get proposed to.

Kirinwa: As a caring nairalander,my advice to our single sisters is treat any man who approaches you nicely and respectfully.
Guys can you imagine approaching a lady to say hi and she's looking at you like you're ALIEN!Jeez.Some of them are architects of their own misfortune.I have discovered most times ladies hang out with playboys and sacrifice the future for a few meatpies or fried chicken while ignoring more serious guys who they consider boring without even giving them a chance.

I'm a 32yrs old port-harcourt based business man searchin 4 a God-fearing working class lady btw d age of 23-28yrs 4 marriage. Contact me on; +2348030773286, +2348187068306.

I use to tell people; In this life there's nothing that surpass Humility . Even God respect someone that's humble.

Imagine some of my friends, when they say ". I like this girl" and I will tell them to go ahead and talk to them. The next thing you'll hear from them is Do you think she will answer me, na forming they go dey do now

One day I was going out early in the morning at the express I saw a beautiful girl passing and I say 'hi good morning'. Isn't courtesy demand that you say good morning back. The girl look at me like "Do I know this nigga before".... I wasn't surprise cuz that's how naija ladies are.

Anytime you say Hello to a naija girl you don't know or you haven't meet before, their mentality is; this nigga wanna woo me

I discover there's little different between naija ladies and westerns cuz I have some of them as my Fb friends almost 80% are westerns...When I say hi to westerns girl, the reply you will get is hello with either smiles of smiley but naija girls wetin u go see na "hello who's this, is dat suppose to be the initial reply.

Naija girls don't worry again our men are now getting married to Ghana girls,american,UK, SA cuz their girls are craving for us...

Naija ladies will only reply to you nicely when they need something from you or they see you're ok

In all our girls should be humble little enough to earn some respect from our Men.

God bless you all and God bless naija

mesutiyke: They neva see anytin, u wll see a lady of 35yrs she wll be selecting a man whn she has no option. They alwys wht their man 2 be cute, handsome nd rich. They want d most wonderful wedding in town. Most of dem ar rich, y nt use dat ur moni nd uplift an average man who cn marry u. Una neva wan marry..

True talk. But it is also in record that most men 'LIFTED UP' in that manner had at the end betrayed the women who lifted them up...
They went for younger girls later...
Pathetic

Onye~Ego:
In Flavors voice**** TO BE A MAN IS NOT A DAY JOB**** IF U ARE A PROUD MAN PLS CLICK LIKE ABEGI

God reduceth the proud and giveth grace to the humble

Good men may be hard to find but there are still ladies out there who have multiple suitors, as many as three in some cases. that goes to show you that in many cases, the women may be the problem. there are so many things that put men off. unfortunately, the older a lady gets, the more clingy she becomes in hopes of getting a husband, and if there is one thing most men hate, it is clingy behaviour.

Then there is the issue of what we Nigerians refer to as 'wife material' vs 'girlfriend material'. When a man is searching for a wife, no matter how modern he is, he looks for 'a good girl', and that means a girl who can cook, lives with her parents preferably and dresses decently.

If you really want a husband and a good one too, these steps may help.

1. Go to God for direction and build a solid relationship with Him first.
2. Learn to love and appreciate yourself. Build up your self confidence.
3. Get a career and a hobby. Fill your time. Also, develope yourself intellectually. No man wants an air head as a wife.
4. Get decent clothes! Dressing can make you look either immature or in control. Revealing clothes especially are a no no. that is not to say you should turn to an mgbeke. Look good, and well put together always.
5. Regardless of your age, do not be desperate. Guys can sniff desperation on a woman.
6. Develope friendships with men without expecting marriage from them. Be platonic friends. And if you are a good friend, he might just want to go the next step. Afterall most men want their wives to be their friends above all else. And even if your platonic friend doesn't marry you, you may meet his friends.
7. Be approachable. Yes maybe you are self made, drive an exotic car and have an enviable job, but humility will win you the day. Don't flaunt your accomplishments. And yes, live at home with your parents if you can. It will give guys the impression that you are not out of control(this in particular is something that endeared me to my in laws at first meeting)
8. Finally, do not be overtly demanding. No man wants to be an ATM machine. Earn your own money, no matter how little.

And my prayer for you my fellow sisters is that God will wipe your tears, give you a man, and not just any man but one tailor made for you.

aaah! i dey enjoy all comments...it been a while,so am baaacccckkkk
@topic,there are many problems associated but if we all follow the commandments of our creator we will not regret.guyz,u see,there is nothing that you cant find solution to in islam including how 2 keep a relashionship & get married...immediately when a girl reach puberty her parent's main concern should be how 2 get her married & (leave the rest 2 her creator).this was the norm in the olden dayz of our fathers & mothers,nobody regret it.

Oko won lode ooo.sincerely there many men who wants to settle down,but they dnt have the finance to carter for the needs of the family due to lack of employment.

RedBenson:

Anger? Where did you see anger? what right button do you press? Dont understand you. Honestly, i only catch my fun here. Nothing serious! Dont let ur head swell you cos i said pm me.

..You don't seem to understand what sexytabhl wrote..she was just being sarcastic with you..she has got a great sense of humour

sexytabhi:
Stop chasing me around,you re too many and am still thinking of whom to choose..go for your akwa ibom babes,don't allow them waste..go aand help their ministry

Dey there dey deceive yourself. who they chase u. na gals like u dey come net come claim babe while for real life u be like nightmare!!!

lorretta u: Men scarce?
But I've got a long waiting list and applications forms to attend to.so who are those ones?

lorretta u na still pikin nah. highest weh u go be nah 20. if u get the liver continue to dey attend to application forms till u turn 35. when that time come tell me afar.

sexytabhi:
definitely I am only using you to catch fun as well cos you always seem funny to me,in reality where do I ever want to see you. Don't be decieved that you are taken seriously here abeg

You dey copy wetin the guy talk. you no fit form your own words? na people like u dey copy for schl.

though am still in skool but if any decent and respectful woman come 2 ma life i wil marry her but she shld be a working class lady from 20 to 27 i will consider. Freemanandrano@yahoo.com

All i will say is end time tins

justplainpaul: You dey copy wetin the guy talk. you no fit form your own words? na people like u dey copy for schl.

justplainpaul: Dey there dey deceive yourself. who they chase u. na gals like u dey come net come claim babe while for real life u be like nightmare!!!

Alright your name is justplainpaul,I have noticed you,are you haappy now?

Audrey I: Good men may be hard to find but there are still ladies out there who have multiple suitors, as many as three in some cases. that goes to show you that in many cases, the women may be the problem. there are so many things that put men off. unfortunately, the older a lady gets, the more clingy she becomes in hopes of getting a husband, and if there is one thing most men hate, it is clingy behaviour.

Then there is the issue of what we Nigerians refer to as 'wife material' vs 'girlfriend material'. When a man is searching for a wife, no matter how modern he is, he looks for 'a good girl', and that means a girl who can cook, lives with her parents preferably and dresses decently.

If you really want a husband and a good one too, these steps may help.

1. Go to God for direction and build a solid relationship with Him first.
2. Learn to love and appreciate yourself. Build up your self confidence.
3. Get a career and a hobby. Fill your time. Also, develope yourself intellectually. No man wants an air head as a wife.
4. Get decent clothes! Dressing can make you look either immature or in control. Revealing clothes especially are a no no. that is not to say you should turn to an mgbeke. Look good, and well put together always.
5. Regardless of your age, do not be desperate. Guys can sniff desperation on a woman.
6. Develope friendships with men without expecting marriage from them. Be platonic friends. And if you are a good friend, he might just want to go the next step. Afterall most men want their wives to be their friends above all else. And even if your platonic friend doesn't marry you, you may meet his friends.
7. Be approachable. Yes maybe you are self made, drive an exotic car and have an enviable job, but humility will win you the day. Don't flaunt your accomplishments. And yes, live at home with your parents if you can. It will give guys the impression that you are not out of control(this in particular is something that endeared me to my in laws at first meeting)
8. Finally, do not be overtly demanding. No man wants to be an ATM machine. Earn your own money, no matter how little.

And my prayer for you my fellow sisters is that God will wipe your tears, give you a man, and not just any man but one tailor made for you.

If you were not married i could have gone 2tru fire to make sure you become my bride. this is the kind of woman every man wants as a wife.

sexytabhi:
Alright your name is justplainpaul,I have noticed you,are you haappy now?

Thats the problem u have. u think men seek your attention. all they want is the thing between your legs. nobody wants u for u. 80% of men that have sex with u use pillow to cover your face cuz they don`t want to have nightmares. they just use u as a rag doll to get their rocks off. the remain 20% are monsters like u so they dont use the pillow. And for the records i`m not a nice guy.

zeb04: Jst like max said dis article is jst 2 make men feel gud abt themselve. Bt gals anyways dey kip havin fun even after 23 nd then they start complanin. Altho I dnt fancy al dis r/ship ish bt Iknw am suppose 2 start tinkin straight wen I am probably 23,24

how old are u now??

justplainpaul: Thats the problem u have. u think men seek your attention. all they want is the thing between your legs. nobody wants u for u. 80% of men that have sex with u use pillow to cover your face cuz they don`t want to have nightmares. they just use u as a rag doll to get their rocks off. the remain 20% are monsters like u so they dont use the pillow. And for the records i`m not a nice guy.

Why are you doing this to yourself?

It on both ways. Men has no problem marrying but has to endure the wwoman wife 4s 80% are nt enjoying their relationship. The naija women too ar arogant and despise d culture. Now adays ladys behaviour is nt good for mmarriage at first instannce except by more experience like topic.
Ladys shld change attitude and b mmore focus. There I a man for every woman. Poligamy incclusive

But make unah wait oo, if nah woman scares wetin dis girl for do us? I just dey reason am since.

sexytabhi:

Why are you doing this to yourself?

lol, are u for real? you`re lost for words to the extent that you`re asking me stupid question. now get your head out of your a$$ and be reasonable for once.

well I think good women are scarce too

jude d writer: u r 100% correct. Marriagi is nt everytin. Many r married today n live in reget. A good relationship wit God is more beneficial dan any marriage.

I hope you know that a good relationship with God includes not sleeping with or lusting after men.

rajiayo: ..You don't seem to understand what sexytabhl wrote..she
was just being sarcastic with you..she has got a great sense of
humour

I understood her exactly. Dont mind me jare! She knows who we are when we meet in sexuality chatroom.

andrano: though am still in skool but if any decent and respectful woman come 2 ma life i wil marry her but she shld be a working class lady from 20 to 27 i will consider.
Freemanandrano@yahoo.com

u wan help reduce the population out of pity abi? Those girls on 20s are not complaining, at least not now when the market is still opened. Na thier 30s and 40s counterparts dey disturb we guys now.

After all said and done, any friendly Christian lady interested in a godly and serious r/p pls contact me: 08189043756, and on Whatsapp.

nopecin: But make unah wait oo, if nah woman scares wetin dis girl for do us? I just dey reason am since.

Dem for use us play guitar or may be kick us like futball. E good as e be like this

Mynd_44:
This one don search tire

Guy, you are vey weekend.

Tolutheo: well I think good women are scarce too

For you abi?

justplainpaul: If you were not married i could have gone 2tru fire to make sure you become my bride. this is the kind of woman every man wants as a wife.

Bros, you sure? All na wash o. You think say she mean am abi?........Shine your eye wella jor.

justplainpaul: If you were not married i could have gone 2tru fire to make sure you become my bride. this is the kind of woman every man wants as a wife.

Bros, you sure? All na wash o. You think say she mean am abi?........Shine your eye wella jor.