Cayon:

@hannibal:

Please change your avatar.  you scared the Bleep out of me just now

That was the original motive!!!!
Scare away all the lambs.

stillwater:

This such a weak line. A man steals for the comfort of himself first which always empowered by the greed of his own heart.

Are u sure about this?? Men steal sometimes to help a loved one in crisis.

P.S. Wheres ma story??

davidylan:

Of course a poor girl can love. It depends on the condition of the boy . . . your carpenter friend for example doesnt sound like he's in a profession that is likely to ever elevate his status. It would be different if he were poor but struggling to send himself to graduate school. What has a woman (rich or poor) to look forward to in a future that is only filled with uncertainty and struggle?
Every woman looks out for financial and emotional security in a lifelong commitment. Dont blame them if they choose to date richer men . . . its a natural reaction of the survival of the fittest.

Right on point!!!
After they complain we don't know what we want *hisses*

doyin13:

I thinkl a poor girl will probably not fall in love with a poor guy who is making no effort to
climb out of his poverty. . . .

I am sure there are many poor girls, from my experience as well, who have fallen in love
with lots of guys who are poor but just don't sit down at home.

C'mon there is no poor guy that sits at home watching TV . . .
What section do you put the uni graduate that has gone everywhere to find a job

Take it or leave it, 'Girls tend to stick with the wealthiest guy available'

The Sly:

Did you just know that!! ??
Naija chicks have redefined . . . . .For better for worse
Most of them now says there is nothing like for better for worse no more even if they are married
Its now. . .For better i stay. . . . . . .For worse i go. . . . . . . . . .

Sumone said it's For better for BEST

eldee:

As Stillwater said 'A woman sells herself for the comfort of herself which always empowered by the greed of her own heart'

Not greed (in many cases anyways)

like david said, its the survival instinct

Hmmm, trying to make escuse for the girls decision, Well the carpenter as we call it in naija, he makes furnitures, he can grow to become a big interior decorator that makes expensice chairs and house furniture, why cant she wait to see what he will become ?

eldee:

C'mon there is no poor guy that sits at home watching TV . . .

How wld you then classify those who hang around the streets waiting for handouts and free money

mekaboy:

Hmmm, trying to make escuse for the girls decision, Well the carpenter as we call it in naija, he makes furnitures, he can grow to become a big interior decorator that makes expensice chairs and house furniture, why can't she wait to see what he will become ?

Wait till RAPture?? U gotta be kidding me.
Is there any guarantee the Carpenter won't dump this same gurl when he hits it BIG.
No one wants to marry a liability. . . . .

HR.hotness:

Not greed (in many cases anyways)

like david said, its the survival instinct

So love conquers errthing but not 'survival instinct'?

HR.hotness:

How would you then classify those who hang around the streets waiting for handouts and free money

Those ones know the type of girls they ask out
We're talking bout the sensible poor man, not touts

mekaboy:

Hmmm, trying to make escuse for the girls decision, Well the carpenter as we call it in naija, he makes furnitures, he can grow to become a big interior decorator that makes expensice chairs and house furniture, why can't she wait to see what he will become ?

Lets be honest bro . . . how long do you want her to wait? This is Nigeria, how many times have you seen a mere roadside carpenter become a "big interior decorator"? But for the less than 5% nouveau rich in Nigeria who is going to buy the expensive chairs and furniture?

Ok take a look at we men, are you ready to marry a poor roadside hawker? Its no secret that most guys now are looking for women with established careers . . . imagine that the pressure is double on the woman.

eldee:

So love conquers errthing but not 'survival instinct'?
Those ones know the type of girls they ask out
We're talking bout the sensible poor man, not touts

It's no brainer. . . . .
No woman would set out to marry a poor man. . . . . . .not in these last days.
Money makes the world go round!!!

A lady will date a guy who gives her security. . .that is true.

And I know many guys who make ladies secure without having any wealth or the trappings of wealth

In the same vein, I have witnessed childhood loves, wher the gir through thick or thin has stayed with
the guy even to the point of abuse.

You can never propound a priori, what will make a lady comfortable with a guy. Sure the common assumption
is a lady will fall for a guy who has some dosh. Me sha, I have come across enuff exceptions to disagree that is
an automatic given. . . . .

Hannibal:


Are u sure about this?? Men steal sometimes to help a loved one in crisis.

P.S. Wheres ma story??

Most steal out of greed, no two ways about that!!!
Errrhhmmm story, mmmhhh

Hannibal:

It's no brainer. . . . .
No woman would set out to marry a poor man. . . . . . .not in these last days.
Money makes the world go round!!!

Still leading us back to the answer to the topic

Can A Poor Girl Love Genuinely ? NO!!!

doyin13:

A lady will date a guy who gives her securitythat is true.

And I know many guys who make ladies secure without having any wealth or the trappings of wealth

In the same vein, I have witnessed childhood loves, wher the gir through thick or thin has stayed with
the guy even to the point of abuse.

You can never propound a priori, what will make a lady comfortable with a guy. Sure the common assumption
is a lady will fall for a guy who has some dosh. Me sha, I have come across enough exceptions to disagree that is
an automatic given. . . . .

Wealth is relative, Mr Doyin13 . . .
What exceptions are u talking about here??
No woman would set out to marry a poverty-stricken geezer. . . .
Everyone loves comfort . . . . .even if she wants to, family pressure comes into PLAY.

stillwater:

Most steal out of greed, no two ways about that!!!

I concur but many steal to help the POOR.
Ever heard of Robin Hood??

Errrhhmmm story, mmmhhh

Answer now. . . . .time's awasting!!!

eldee:

So love conquers errthing but not 'survival instinct'?
Those ones know the type of girls they ask out
We're talking bout the sensible poor man, not touts

Like I said, love is over-rated. . .

the survival instinct kicks in when we love one person and not the other.

A girl who is comfortable with her life and has no great desire for wealth will find it easy to love a poor man

A girl who has a hard life and is despreate for some financial security will equally find it easy to love ant guy who offers her that.

Greed aside, its human nature that we attracted to that which we desire

HR.hotness:

Greed aside, its human nature that we attracted to that which we desire

And what do humans desire??
Life of opulence or poverty??

Say whatever you want people.
Love will not tranform into a plate of Jollof rice
ho ha!

So no love for a poor guy ? So a guy should be made before he can love a girl ?

Hannibal:

And what do humans desire??
Life of opulence or poverty??

thats all relative. . .

we each decide what we want in our lives and go out to get it

I dont think anyone wants a life of poverty but material wealth holds no importance to some people and it is safe to say that these people have no problems with being poor

So much cynicism sef.

What about Bonnie and Clyde people.

Attraction, Love whatever are not forces subject to some money derived calculus.


Orisirisi

mekaboy:

So no love for a poor guy ? So a guy should be made before he can love a girl ?

Everytime lovu lovu
what is love?

HR.hotness:

Like I said, love is over-rated. . .

the survival instinct kicks in when we love one person and not the other.

A girl who is comfortable with her life and has no great desire for wealth will find it easy to love a poor man

A girl who has a hard life and is despreate for some financial security will equally find it easy to love ant guy who offers her that.

Greed aside, its human nature that we attracted to that which we desire

That where the word 'GENUINELY' comes in
If you're attracted to what you desire, what happens if, like in nollywood, sumn happens?

mekaboy:

So no love for a poor guy ? So a guy should be made before he can love a girl ?

Not true but a man intent to marry a woman must at least be striving to provide the best for the family he intends to start. Even the bible says - a man that will not work let him not eat.
Again it says - a man that will not cater for his family is an infidel.

If a man cannot provide for himself talk less of someone else,he has no business loving anyone.
we can't eat love

mekaboy:

So no love for a poor guy ? So a guy should be made before he can love a girl ?

A man should cut his cloth according to his size.
Let a poor man be comfy with a poor babe. . . .when he rises above the poverty bracket, he can choose a rich babe.

@ Doyin13,

Bonnie n Clyde were robbers. . . .
What has that gotta do with what we saying here.
Bonnie ran away from home. . . . .met Clyde and they were on a robbing spree(they made money)!!!!

mekaboy:

So no love for a poor guy ? So a guy should be made before he can love a girl ?

God's time is the best. . . . .

Hannibal:

I concur but many steal to help the POOR.
Ever heard of Robin Hood??
Answer now. . . . .time's awasting!!!

Who talks about Robinhood of medieval Britain when we are in the 21st century?
So yahoo yahoo boys steal to help the poor? What a laugh!!!

davidylan:

Not true but a man intent to marry a woman must at least be striving to provide the best for the family he intends to start. Even the bible says - a man that will not work let him not eat.
Again it says - a man that will not cater for his family is an infidel.

Thank You jare
People forget that after this so called love, children come along and then what ?

eldee:

That where the word 'GENUINELY' comes in
If you're attracted to what you desire, what happens if, like in nollywood, sumn happens?

the "genuine" love u talk about is pure fantasy

if wealth is the basis of any relationship, it obviously will not last long if summin happens

i choose to base my love on sumthin else or a combination of many things. . .  It all comes down to personal choice and decisons

mekaboy:

So no love for a poor guy ? So a guy should be made before he can love a girl ?

You got it right.
He should keep his love on the down low and better his financial situation first

stillwater:

Who talks about Robinhood of medieval Britain when we are in the 21st century?
So yahoo yahoo boys steal to help the poor? What a laugh!!!

Yahoo boys help their family. . . . .

Matter of fact, i read an article on Nigerian Guardian where some men appealed to the government to let Yahoo boys be!!
Their argument was. . . Yahoo kinda reduced the wave of armed robbery attacks immensely. . . . .
Online fraud is kinda acceptable to them than gun toting robbers who rape and kill.

Where's the STORY b4 i lose me cool??

Maybe you guys are so insecure that the money you have gives you
assurance when you are out on the pull. . . . . .

There are times I have been down in the dumps, and lady plenty yanfu yanfu rich
and poor wey dey hang around.

Na the poor ones dey love pass sef. . . . . . .