OP your BIL has no iota of respect for your family. If he did,he wouldn't beat you in the presence of your mother his MIL.
He has no respect for his wife your sis. Pathetic the way she sides him.I guess her case na 'I must answer mrs by force.cos God forbid a man do this to my sis. He'll see the ugly part of me.
And he def has no respect for you. Maybe u guys were intimate in the past.
Maybe he hasn't gotten over it.and he gets jealous seeing u with some other guy.
Maybe your sis supported him cos she too hates the fact that you had him before her.and she need reassuring that he isn't hung up on you
JUST MAYBE

But going to take ur book from him out of anger was childish even tho I totally understand your grievance.seeing as u always cook for them n all. And they feel they can't do same for you.
Maybe you're like a housemaid to them in their mind. Humph. If you can make him pay,do so by all means. But if u can't and you see that you'll lose more in trying to pursue the case,just let it go.
And stay away from them.
Your sister's turn is coming. Punching bag things.that's if she isn't already chopping slaps and covering with the I-must-remain-married mentality.

Abali1:
LOL, at protective brother.
I am not talking about me protecting my sister. My sister will send the man (woman no fit try am) to the emergency world.

oh!!! my bad

"I didn't know when I hit the kettle on his head" rotflmao. Girl you need to chill. For real. It seems all of you are out of control. Why is your sister not home with her husband? Why couldn't you just leave very well alone? Why did you go get the book? I believe you jumped in his face and was aggressive in addressing him. It does not excuse his hitting you but there is enough blame to go around

Beating Tinz...

OP, I hope your teeth is complete Sha. Very very important.

PureOhio:

That's how you catch a pathetic liar. A caveman knows what UPS is. At least deny sensibly.

Stop trying to save face with you friends on here. Get away from your screen and come sort yourself out. Fast!

hehe
sometimes the subplots are more interesting than the main plot

lorretta u:
OP your BIL has no iota of respect for your family.

This is the summary of this whole thread.

OP, abeg na charcoal kettle you use .

Anyway, joke apart. You both seems immature. Because I don't see a reason why someone will hit me.
Talk more of beating. However, the deed has been done. Go arrange for area boys or else swallow the beating.

Learn your lesson.

dat in law does nt hav respect 4 his wife n her family

This coogar can argue eeh!
It seems this is a hobby.

I've never seen!
U no dey tire?

lorretta u: OP your BIL has no iota of respect for your family. If he did,he wouldn't beat you in the presence of your mother his MIL.
He has no respect for his wife your sis. Pathetic the way she sides him.I guess her case na 'I must answer mrs by force.cos God forbid a man do this to my sis. He'll see the ugly part of me.
And he def has no respect for you. Maybe u guys were intimate in the past.
Maybe he hasn't gotten over it.and he gets jealous seeing u with some other guy.
Maybe your sis supported him cos she too hates the fact that you had him before her.and she need reassuring that he isn't hung up on you
JUST MAYBE

But going to take ur book from him out of anger was childish even tho I totally understand your grievance.seeing as u always cook for them n all. And they feel they can't do same for you.
Maybe you're like a housemaid to them in their mind. Humph. If you can make him pay,do so by all means. But if u can't and you see that you'll lose more in trying to pursue the case,just let it go.
And stay away from them.
Your sister's turn is coming. Punching bag things.that's if she isn't already chopping slaps and covering with the I-must-remain-married mentality.

Babez,never judge a case by hearin a side of the story(am not sanctioning violence in any form against women n kids)

Have u asked urself wat she cud have been saying while she pointed her finger at the sistas huby?

Have u asked urself why mana didn't say a thing to support her child while d whole thing happened?

no Man likes been talked down upon

He just messed the whole thing up by beating her

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Chillisauce: Beating Tinz...

OP, I hope your teeth is complete Sha. Very very important.

U wicked small! LOL!

luvable sam:

Babez,never judge a case by hearin a side of the story(am not sanctioning violence in any form against women n kids)

Have u asked urself wat she cud have been saying while she pointed her finger at the sistas huby?

Have u asked urself why mana didn't say a thing to support her child while d whole thing happened?

no Man likes been talked down upon

He just messed the whole thing up by beating her

Guys whatever be the case, this happened at the babes HOUSE.
As in, na for her mama place this gbege dey happen. If it were in BIL's place I can start reasoning both sides.
To be sincere with you, No Person will ever try this nonsense in my families house ohh... That BIL, never reach.

No mind am.
Na so the guy vex reach?
He can't tell his wife to warn the sister?
He can't complain to his MIL to caution her daugther? Na to slap am.commot belt to flog her. He's lucky I'm not the person. Some people and wickedness. Whatever the girl might have done. Even a real man can't do it in his own house how much more his in-laws' house.
I don't understand how someone can see reasons with him.

Abali1:
Guys whatever be the case, this happened at the babes HOUSE.
As in, na for her mama place this gbege dey happen. If it were in BIL's place I can start reasoning both sides.
To be sincere with you, No Person will ever try this nonsense in my families house ohh... That BIL, never reach.

lorretta u: No mind am.
Na so the guy vex reach?
He can't tell his wife to warn the sister?
He can't complain to his MIL to caution her daugther? Na to slap am.commot belt to flog her. He's lucky I'm not the person. Some people and wickedness. Whatever the girl might have done. Even a real man can't do it in his own house how much more his in-laws' house.
I don't understand how someone can see reasons with him.

I hope u saw were I said it was wrong for him to beat her?

imagine fa, even knowing she is 29 should be enough to respect her no matter what and let sister and mama deal with the situation.
29 years wey first pickin go don reach to marry sef for North.
that hand go soon reach her sister's.
The man na original woman/wife beater.

lorretta u: No mind am.
Na so the guy vex reach?
He can't tell his wife to warn the sister?
He can't complain to his MIL to caution her daugther? Na to slap am.commot belt to flog her. He's lucky I'm not the person. Some people and wickedness. Whatever the girl might have done. Even a real man can't do it in his own house how much more his in-laws' house.
I don't understand how someone can see reasons with him.

How are you doing Deols

deols:

lol

I like your username btw

My dear, i hope that kettle made a big dent in his head. Please, i am almost tempted to say you should provoke him and then belt him mercilessly. Or arrange awon boys to beat the living day lights out of him. I did not read this story right or what. As for your sister, tell her point blank that the moment she puts her hands on you, you will defend yourself and beat her finish. Any one that thinks he is an elder and brings himself to the level of who he thinks is a child, wants to be treated like a child. Never let anyone get away with beating you. That is why we are adults. You can resolve anything by talking. No fists. When fists are involved, respect flies out of the window for me. I enter temporary insanity mode till further notice. Things start flying and people start running for their lives. .That inlaw will break your sisters bones in the nearest future. Expect that.

baby_123: My dear, i hope that kettle made a big dent in his head. Please, i am almost tempted to say you should provoke him and then belt him mercilessly. Or arrange awon boys to beat the living day lights out of him. I did not read this story right or what. As for your sister, tell her point blank that the moment she puts her hands on you, you will defend yourself and beat her finish. Any one that thinks he is an elder and brings himself to the level of who he thinks is a child, wants to be treated like a child. Never let anyone get away with beating you. That is why we are adults. You can resolve anything by talking. No fists. When fists are involved, respect flies out of the window for me. I enter temporary insanity mode till further notice. Things start flying and people start running for their lives. .That inlaw will break your sisters bones in the nearest future. Expect that.

You're assuming he is not already. She is living with her mother. One way or the other he is already doing something wrong with his wife. The OP knows her BIL. She chose that exact moment when things were hot to go take the book from him. She was stirring the pot. From her own description of things she walked up to the man aggressively. She might even have been pointing her fingers in his face. It seems they all behave the same way. The OP and her in laws. No victims here. Be happy. She at least took a kettle to his head

soul_glo:

You're assuming he is not already. She is living with her mother. One way or the other he is already doing something wrong with his wife. The OP knows her BIL. She chose that exact moment when things were hot to go take the book from him. She was stirring the pot. From her own description of things she walked up to the man aggressively. She might even have been pointing her fingers in his face. It seems they all behave the same way. The OP and her in laws. No victims here. Be happy. She at least took a kettle to his head

So what if she stirred his pot? So what if she was aggressive? So fracking what if she pointed fingers It does not make it right. He has noooo right to beat her. Absolutely no right at all. No one cares if he has an anger problem or cannot control himself. That is his own business, and his wife's business. But to take your madness outside, not to talk of on your inlaw or to your inlaws house? Shega banza! The guy must be a lunatic with no respect for his inlaws and no self control. The only way to fight a lunatic is to show them someone is madder. Are you serious He has been given too much space and respect in that house. Time to disrespect him OP, as in drag him in the mud disrespect. He can do what he likes with your sister, but draw that line quick and let him know no one will take that shi*t from him. It is the way you presented yourself to them in the first place. She is your sister yea, but her being pregnant doesnt make her handicapped. You shouldnt have been there cleaning, cooking and doing all sorts all the time. They now see you are servant or slave for the husband to even lose his mind like that. You must do something about this oooo!!!! This one is a battle line! See me shouting for you! HA!!!! Ewooo buruku!

LOL. You're really mad at this man. Actually it matters. If I already established that someone is all the names you have called him but then purposely go and antagonize him then I am no better. Notice how their mother did not say anything. She probably did not just so she does not cause trouble for her daughter that is married to the man. Notice how the sister jumped in to defend her husband? Typical of what a woman being abused would do. Why would her sister then decide in the midst of all of this madness to go grab a book and then approach the man aggressively. If I approach a wild beast aggressively I don't expect it to lovingly lick my face. I am not sure what her plan was but I am betting she already had in mind to dent his head with that kettle. At the end of the day it is the sister with the new baby that will suffer the consequences. I wish someone had said that the man started with her and was abusive while she did nothing to provoke an altercation but that's not what happened.

soul_glo: LOL. You're really mad at this man. Actually it matters. If I already established that someone is all the names you have called him but then purposely go and antagonize him then I am no better. Notice how their mother did not say anything. She probably did not just so she does not cause trouble for her daughter that is married to the man. Notice how the sister jumped in to defend her husband? Typical of what a woman being abused would do. Why would her sister then decide in the midst of all of this madness to go grab a book and then approach the man aggressively. If I approach a wild beast aggressively I don't expect it to lovingly lick my face. I am not sure what her plan was but I am betting she already had in mind to dent his head with that kettle. At the end of the day it is the sister with the new baby that will suffer the consequences. I wish someone had said that the man started with her and was abusive while she did nothing to provoke an altercation but that's not what happened.

My dear honestly, wwhat i would have done to that man. When he sees me, he will take off. That her sister sef has already caused a lot of trouble and has destroyed the relationship they have by siding with such a man. So there is nothing left to preserve with such a beast. A person can be a beast, but that is for their own pocket. No one outside cares really that you are a beast or you have anger problems, not to talk of your inlaws. People who have excesses always think they can get away with anything, till you show them some people dont care or accomodate those excesses. Someone that as the poster says fights all his older siblings? You must be kidding. OP, if you let this go, it will happen again. I hope he is not sleeping in your house. If he is, get a bucket of water, and buy two long pankere. Give him sleeping pills and tie his hands and legs. Then wet him with the water, and whip his ass for hours. Make sure you lock your mother in the room, and your sister too. Get area boys to escort him out of the house when you are done and he has repented. I assure you, that beast will never ever rear its head again. A person that has the guts to come and beat up an inlaw, deserves no accommodation or consideration at all. A person that can come and beat someone in their own house, whatever the person sees is what they deserve. This guy no fear at all.

Well it seems this family is mostly women. OP has not mentioned any men in the picture. If there were brothers or a dad I know the in law would not be so bold. It's actually the mother I feel for. I have no doubt that her son in law would probably have told her to hold her lips if she said a word LOL

coogar:

she was going to beat him.....
her voice was raised, she was moving closer to him, she confronted him & was waving her finger in his face. what's he meant to do? act like Jesus & wait to be slapped?

way to go Coogar! Violence? Woman battery? *smh* just when i thought you were hum an... Humans provoke and get provoked... If every1 resorted 2 violence, I seriously wonder how things would look like

The Op is here crying because the man was able 2 beat her and no one took her side.
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If the case were reversed, if after she 'rushed' him, if after the kettle magically ended up on the mans head, she had inflicted injuries that made the man cry and walk away, I'm sure she will be in her room gloating.
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She is no victim here.
She was very very disrespectful to her B-I-L. If I were her Sis & she insulted my hubby like that, I would've joined also 2give her a good beating she wouldn't be able 2 eat solids for days.
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Op, work on your attitude. Grow up and stop fighting over beans!!

Winneygirl: The Op is here crying because the man was able 2 beat her and no one took her side.
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If the case were reversed, if after she 'rushed' him, if after the kettle magically ended up on the mans head, she had inflicted injuries that made the man cry and walk away, I'm sure she will be in her room gloating.
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She is no victim here.
She was very very disrespectful to her B-I-L. If I were her Sis & she insulted my hubby like that, I would've joined also 2give her a good beating she wouldn't be able 2 eat solids for days.
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Op, work on your attitude. Grow up and stop fighting over beans!!

Anakogheli.
isi odikwa gi nma?
Anyways na OP and her family. Some of us actually have seen where wild animals in human clothing were succesfully tamed.

I actually feel more sorry for the wife. Clueless stupid naive wife. She will get it in time.

Leave him and his behaviour to themselves. Think of it this way, you don't have to have any contact with this man on a daily basis, just hello and be civil at family gatherings finito! Imagine your poor sister has to co-habit with this animal.

Your sister will always be your sister. Forgive her please, let's blame it on her hormones this time round :-)

baby_123: My dear, i hope that kettle made a big dent in his head. Please, i am almost tempted to say you should provoke him and then belt him mercilessly. Or arrange awon boys to beat the living day lights out of him. I did not read this story right or what. As for your sister, tell her point blank that the moment she puts her hands on you, you will defend yourself and beat her finish. Any one that thinks he is an elder and brings himself to the level of who he thinks is a child, wants to be treated like a child. Never let anyone get away with beating you. That is why we are adults. You can resolve anything by talking. No fists. When fists are involved, respect flies out of the window for me. I enter temporary insanity mode till further notice. Things start flying and people start running for their lives. .That inlaw will break your sisters bones in the nearest future. Expect that.

who knows if he is already breaking her bones.I am not married but I just keep wondering why a man's wife will deliver and move to the sista's house. He has no respect for his in laws.beating up his wife's sista in her own house.I feel he should have reported to his MIL or tell his wife to caution her sista.why will his wife deliver and she starts living with her sista? The man no get house? Na wa oo. I will really like to no if its normal for a woman to give birth and move to her sista's house.

Maybe things are hard for them and the woman decides to move to her sista's house. Maybe she over reacted on the book ish but no matter what,beating up a 29 years old woman to the extent of using his belt is a very wrong thing to do. If op is married her sista's husband will not try such. I think for peace to reign,op's sista should go back to her husband's house, except there is something op is not telling us.

Winneygirl: The Op is here crying because the man was able 2 beat her and no one took her side.
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If the case were reversed, if after she 'rushed' him, if after the kettle magically ended up on the mans head, she had inflicted injuries that made the man cry and walk away, I'm sure she will be in her room gloating.
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She is no victim here.
She was very very disrespectful to her B-I-L. If I were her Sis & she insulted my hubby like that, I would've joined also 2give her a good beating she wouldn't be able 2 eat solids for days.
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Op, work on your attitude. Grow up and stop fighting over beans!!

And some day, he will beat you and have his sister join at it.



Btw, why did coogar deny the Ohio girl?? O ga o

deols:

And some day, he will beat you and have his sister join at it.

Btw, why did coogar deny the Ohio girl?? O ga o

if i twist your mouth for you, you will cry.