joechima: I am a 29year old serving corps member batch A but still does not know how to approach and ask a lady out,presently asking a 18year old out and already feeling like a loser.pls what's the way out no insults pls

Take a little of Nigerian local gin.
Ur eyes becomes red
U no longer smile
U go to her n speak d shit in ur mide without stoping.
D next tyn she u, were z ur hus.
She start loving U die. Ok

baralatie: okay!i totaly see what u ar saying and where u ar coming 4rm.(u prefer her to av at least an educatn,experience & empowrmt b4 coming to choices lik dez)
understood!

Now this is where u women CONFUSE me!
are you saying at age 18yr a lady should not be intimately involved?

If it was my sister, then I would tell her to steer clear of a 29 year old corper and face her studies. She can find a nice teenage learner in school. A 29, he is bound to have old friends, old goals, and old opinions. She'll be young and want to go to movies, go out with her teenage friends, go to concerts, blast obnoxious pop music 24/7, and do other teenage things, things a nearly-30 corper has since outgrown.

ogugua88:

If it was my sister, then I would tell her to steer clear of a 29 year old corper and face her studies. She can find a nice teenage learner in school. A 29, he is bound to have old friends, old goals, and old opinions. She'll be young and want to go to movies, go out with her teenage friends, go to concerts, blast obnoxious pop music 24/7, and do other teenage things, things a nearly-30 corper has since outgrown.

gud!what will u do if this 18yr old girl u described above(aving a gr8 tim)met a 19yr old (graduat 4 covenant univ.) teen who proposed marriage to her and she is in luv wit him.wil u consent?

Tabh: Spineless old corper....just 18year old thing is giving you headache

Don't make jest of him joor.. You can be ur brothers keeper by giving him clue coz the guy is clueless...

U have low self esteem n 1st,I advise u make friends with them,be real n figure out d kinda woman u desire n if u discover dat,feel free to take d frndship 2 d next level. Some guys come like dat n its a gradual process 4 u to come out of ur comfort zone

baralatie: gud!what will u do if this 18yr old girl u described above(aving a gr8 tim)met a 19yr old (graduat 4 covenant univ.) teen who proposed marriage to her and she is in luv wit him.wil u consent?

I'd advise her against it in all honesty. 18 is quite young for marriage. I'd like for her to finish school and get a job. Women that marry early tend to not finish their education, leading to unemployment, and they also have children earlier. More times than not, providing for children before the parents have reached 25 years of age is burdensome. No one would want that for their loved ones.

ogugua88:

I'd advise her against it in all honesty. 18 is quite young for marriage. I'd like for her to finish school and get a job. Women that marry early tend to not finish their education, leading to unemployment, and they also have children earlier. More times than not, providing for children before the parents have reached 25 years of age is burdensome. No one would want that for their loved ones.

u ar declaring at age 18 a woman cannot attain empowerment in terms of economic affluence & social priviledges!

What u ar also saying at age 18 a young girl is a the bottom of a womans' laddes of relevance.

I want to put u on a ladies hot seat.at what
age would u consider rit 4 a woman to get married alongside being economicaly empowerd

baralatie: u ar declaring at age 18 a woman cannot attain empowerment in terms of economic affluence & social priviledges!

What u ar also saying at age 18 a young girl is a the bottom of a womans' laddes of relevance.

I want to put u on a ladies hot seat.at what
age would u consider rit 4 a woman to get married alongside being economicaly empowerd

A woman should get married when she's ready. Women are ready to marry at different times; it depends on the person. So, there is no perfect or ideal age. However, statistics show that those who marry early are less successful than those who wait. They're more likely to be unemployed, more likely to not finish school, more likely to use federal assistance (depending on the country), and more likely to live in poverty/lower classes.

The likelihood of an 18 or 19-year-old being financially stable for marriage and starting a family is usually slim. There are people who marry young and do okay, but there are many who do it and suffer. So, young marriage isn't something I'd advise to a sibling or anyone else for that matter.

ogugua88:

A woman should get married when she's ready. Women are ready to marry at different times; it depends on the person. So, there is no perfect or ideal age. However, statistics show that those who marry early are less successful than those who wait. They're more likely to be unemployed, more likely to not finish school, more likely to use federal assistance (depending on the country), and more likely to live in poverty/lower classes.

The likelihood of an 18 or 19-year-old being financially stable for marriage and starting a family is usually slim. There are people who marry young and do okay, but there are many who do it and suffer. So, young marriage isn't something I'd advise to a sibling or anyone else for that matter.

lolz!women are created wit gud sense of humor!
U cleverly avoided the ladies hot seat!
(wic means u thrown the tread back open)

ok!let me rephrase my question"do u think a girl child is entitled to graduate 4rn a univ. At age 18 and be employed witout social discrimination"

joechima: I am a 29year old serving corps member batch A but still does not know how to approach and ask a lady out,presently asking a 18year old out and already feeling like a loser.pls what's the way out no insults pls

You are sure....no insults?


Damn!

Na ppl like u dey molest small babies cos u lack d courage to "toast" matured, over 18 babes..

Agrika: Na ppl like u dey molest small babies cos u lack d courage to "toast" matured, over 18 babes..

I am not and ll never be a child molester but all I am saying is that in all every area of my seems great but dealing with woman is a problem and I am seeking solutions.Even if I don't go after the girl in question,I need solutions."Advice no be curse abeg"

ogugua88:

An 18-year-old is a teenage adult. How many teenagers are ready for relationships with adults?

Even though age is just a number, I see no reason as to why an adult would be chasing a teenager (unless he's like 22 and she's 18). If it was my sister, I would tell him to steer clear of the OP... and you. Maybe the age gap and the fact that he's old and she's fresh is the reason he's feeling somehow and running to Nairaland for advice.

will u agree to date him........? at least u b adult na

baralatie:
lolz!women are created wit gud sense of humor!
U cleverly avoided the ladies hot seat!
(wic means u thrown the tread back open)

ok!let me rephrase my question"do u think a girl child is entitled to graduate 4rn a univ. At age 18 and be employed witout social discrimination"

How is that even possible in the first place A graduate @ 18yrs?? So when did she start second skul, when did she finish that she'll graduate @ d age of 18?? That's nt possible. She can't even be employed in a job that's meant for B.sc Holders. Think of it

joechima: I am a 29year old serving corps member batch A but still does not know how to approach and ask a lady out,presently asking a 18year old out and already feeling like a loser.pls what's the way out no insults pls

I will tell you one thing that has been very effective with me... even though girls like to be asked out, one who would eventually date you wouldn't to be asked out...they want to first notice things that are endearing about you, be pals with you then eventually lovers... so if there are gifts you have, you might want to use its instrumentality. one good thing about this is that you could get a dozen of them as friends and then choose whom to make your lover.... but I have to warn you, if indeed you are as endearing as I am some girls might automatically see you as their lovers even without you wanting or asking them out them and classify you a cheat for being friends with others

nkwachiabel: How is that even possible in the first place A graduate @ 18yrs?? So when did she start second skul, when did she finish that she'll graduate @ d age of 18?? That's nt possible. She can't even be employed in a job that's meant for B.sc Holders. Think of it

let me give u a list of confirm teenage graduates:
uac housing estate (site engineer purchase and logistics-19yrs old femal grad covenant uriv)be4 she went 4 her n.y.sc.sch finishd 6 mnths ahead of tim
edward(veritas-21yrs 3rd oldest in clas of chem eng2010)
4 accounting student unilag & petrochem(on scholarship eng.
Uniife (computer scienc 18yr)
mrs(femal gov aspirant lagos graduat 18yrs wen she left univ abroad)

d list is growing ASUU or no ASUU.

Bros ye,dis wan na deliverance case o..if u nor fit ask woman out...ask man na..no go grow liver.

nkwachiabel: How is that even possible in the first place A graduate @ 18yrs?? So when did she start second skul, when did she finish that she'll graduate @ d age of 18?? That's nt possible. She can't even be employed in a job that's meant for B.sc Holders. Think of it

already by ur words u cannot and will not give oppurtunity!(but this ur view is a mans' view)

our commodore ogugua
" has not given her view

ogugua88:

A woman should get married when she's ready. Women are ready to marry at different times; it depends on the person. So, there is no perfect or ideal age. However, statistics show that those who marry early are less successful than those who wait. They're more likely to be unemployed, more likely to not finish school, more likely to use federal assistance (depending on the country), and more likely to live in poverty/lower classes.

The likelihood of an 18 or 19-year-old being financially stable for marriage and starting a family is usually slim. There are people who marry young and do okay, but there are many who do it and suffer. So, young marriage isn't something I'd advise to a sibling or anyone else for that matter.

in as much as I like to agree with u, I beg to disagree. u sound too bias in generating ur points pardon me. if I don't know better, I will say u av issues with teenage or teenagers.
I tried as much as I could to develop a logical premise for ur argument but I couldn't.

A woman should get married when she's ready. Women are ready to marry at different times; it depends on the person. So, there is no perfect or ideal age.

I absolutely agree with that.

However, statistics show that those who marry early are less successful than those who wait. They're more likely to be unemployed, more likely to not finish school, more likely to use federal assistance (depending on the country) , and more likely to live in poverty/lower classes.

I won't discredit that because there is no reference to the statistics u sited but because it is not a general case as u pointed out. and the word early can be relative.

my question to u;
- how many Nigeria women are "successful" b4 marriage?
- when do university degree become a sole determinant to becoming successful? (base on ur evaluation, u are referring to a degree)
- are u from Nigeria? I avn't heard of the federal assistance given to those who married early as a result become unsuccessful (bring ur argument home)
- is it possible for a 18years old lady to be "successful" and a 35years old lady not to be "successful"?
- should a lady not get married because she didn't go to school?

The likelihood of an 18 or 19-year-old being financially stable for marriage and starting a family is usually slim. There are people who marry young and do okay, but there are many who do it and suffer. So, young marriage isn't something I'd advise to a sibling or anyone else for that matter.

this make me to wonder which country u are from, u seem not to know that in Nigeria the husband pay the bills most times irrespective of the number of degrees the wife has.

your conclusion shows that u base ur whole claim on opinion rather than fact.



moreover, the guy In question didn't say he want to marry th3 girl. cut them a slack pls.

sagytarius™:
I'm reading. stop hitting the table

Thanks@ all