dayokanu:

No sir. I am totally against no testing.
That sacrifice might make one land with a sexually incompatible partner.

I can't do a sexless relationship so where would I be getting it from?

The no sex is for young ppl. Do you think a 35yr old meeting a 29yr woman cares about some romantic idea of no sex? Unless you want to give the guy a free pass to have sex with other women

PocketEconomist: Well, if she doesn't like it, can't you just make that small sacrifice for the one you truly love?

coogar:

even at 17, i wouldn't enter into a relationship without sëx. if a woman is not sex-ready, she should forget about dating overall. who has time for rubbish?

dayokanu:

I can understand warning teenagers with the no sex rule cos they might not know the risks involved but after a certain age even your family would start suspecting you of not being complete

Efemena_xy:

Are you assuming that's the stance for most ladies? Because if you are, don't.

Some of us not only believe in pre-martial sex, but also instigated it too. Some also took it one step further. It all depends on the couple and what they want out of the relationship.

dayokanu: For me o. Any girl who says no sex abeg run unless she is under 22 and is still a novice. Forget wetin pastor dey yarn o. No be them go follow you live in the same house.

One of my friends who followed the no sex rule because the girl say so now calls me everytime to complain. He gets sex about once a month and everytime he brings it up the wife asks "Is it food"

Now no one can tell the guy not to cheat. If you tell him cheating is bad he would simply ask you if you get sex once a month also

bluuu: i av questions.wen s d right time to test drive in a relationship.wat if u test drive n 'd goods' s no longer bought? wat can/should b done

bluuu: i av questions.wen s d right time to test drive in a relationship.wat if u test drive n 'd goods' s no longer bought? wat can/should b done

bluuu: ^^^^6 months? they say plenty se.x makes d vayjayjay slack.how tru s dat

bluuu: ^^^^6 months? they say plenty se.x makes d vayjayjay slack.how tru s dat

dayokanu:
6 months o. Because after marriage that's when you see some ppl complain they don't know their husbands snores.

If you only go on dates its easy to put your best behavior on but when you live together that's when you know that the smell of that fine girls fart
If that's true then by the time you spend 10yrs in marriage coconut can drop from the vagina without friction

zinnyy:

Thank you so much for this piece of advice, you don't know what you've done for me. I will put what you said in pratice and pray it all works out. Thanks again

Baby mama: Dayo,are you married?,engaged?

dayokanu:

Married

jennykadry: Why are some of yous against women who have decided to remain virgins until after marriage?

PocketEconomist: Let us be truthful, if one's fianceé doesn't want pre marital sex, and the man cajoles her into doing so, that's pure selfishness. That man is meant to put her interest before his. If he doesn't, will you say he really loves her?

yellowpawpaw: Getting deeper and deeper.
As for the no test driving, well, I think it depends on d couple involved. Some might want while others r comfortable without.
For u guys talking about bedroom compartibility, that's why we marry our lv, teach her stage by stage and u will be glad u did!
As for the vg slacking, lots of factors can make it slack too.

Dayo, u rnt een nothing yet. U can stay a month w'out sex for a whole lot of reasons like pregnancy and PPD. A bad and infected tear can also keep u away.
So in such cases, u will start chasing anything under d skirt?

zinnyy: Thanks Babymama for this great thread,
am actually going crazy bit by bit
my marriage is just 8 months old and am just not feeling it any longer
first of all, we didnt really court before marriage(no intimate meetings), although we've known each other for a year plus before marriage
after marriage, i found out that we are just so different
yes, he is all i wanted in a man, but our sex life is nothing to write home about
he was my first, but i know there is something about sex am missing
it's so bad now that i dont enjoy it any longer. he too is not a sex freak either
we can stay for a whole week without sex.

He is a good man though, but this was not what i bargained for.
still praying for a change.

bossybom: I am a 31 year old married woman wit a son less than a year,my marriage is almost 2 years. I noticed my husband don't really like making love from d 1st week of our marriage,he responded to my complaints by saying he's fratigued from d wedding stress.....but it has lingered until now, we barely have sex 2 times in a month,anytime I complain he will laugh and say it's because am a self employed woman and I have a lot of time to think about sex,so am so tired of complaining and feeling like a slut...but I feel so deprived,am a Christian,I can't ,cheat on him,sometimes I masturbate just to get satisfied,but I always feel guilty and dirty afterwards, this is not a topic I can easily walk to anyone to discuss,am really frustrated,pls I need as many advice and ideas I can get........

pls in God's name,no insults....I just need candid advise....thanks.

ichidodo: You make it sound as if she being subjected to torture from the North-Korean Military,you think Love making on the part of men is easy? Dont you know that Love making is one the five languages of Love and to some folks out there it is THE love language??.Every couple can always work something out at the very least it should tighten their bond but please let us not make statements that will precipitate into causin serious trouble for others instead let us settle down and enjoy this thread. Thanx and Good Morning