Ujujoan: God bless you Osisi for the idea of this thread . .

I've been following this thread quietly and I've gulped a lot of wisdom and knowledge . . .

Keep them coming!

Rhukie: Thanks to all for ur contributions. Like I said I am single, the situation is not abt me bt abt a family friend. I guess i did nt explain d situation better for you to understand. She doesnt intend to make anything from money groceries cos she sometimes buys for the family. During pregnancy, for him to give her money to buy baby stuff was war. He said he would send his bro to buy dem. Recently d wife's phone got damaged beyond repair, all he dd was to buy himself a new S4 and said he has no business with her damaged phone. his mother tried to cajole him but to no avail. He watches wat she eats and complains. And d wife is a nurse who earns 80k a month

Chillisauce:

Let her manage her 80k, since the man takes care of the food, housing etc. what does she do with her money

It should be enough for her to get herself her own s4.

Chillisauce:



Do you have anything to say, don't follow quietly, share something for us, a secret

Rhukie: Thanks to all for ur contributions. Like I said I am single, the situation is not abt me bt abt a family friend. I guess i did nt explain d situation better for you to understand. She doesnt intend to make anything from money groceries cos she sometimes buys for the family. During pregnancy, for him to give her money to buy baby stuff was war. He said he would send his bro to buy dem. Recently d wife's phone got damaged beyond repair, all he dd was to buy himself a new S4 and said he has no business with her damaged phone. his mother tried to cajole him but to no avail. He watches wat she eats and complains. And d wife is a nurse who earns 80k a month

Ujujoan:

Nne I'm still a learner oh . . .

I really do not know any 'secrets' to share . . . I'm hoping I'll pick some up some from this thread!

Ujujoan:

What has she ever bought for her husband

She earns 80k a month, in Nigeria that's a lot of money for someone with no responsibilities.

Her hubby takes care of the needs in the home so in actually fact, she does nothing with her money except take care of herself. I still don't see any reason why her hubby MUST give her extra money or buy her a phone.

If he's willing to, then no problem . . . but it also should not be a problem if he doesn't.

Besea: I'm getting married in three weeks and all I can say is WoW! Baby mama, CC, Efe u guys r d best. I've learnt hw to deal with the "I'm sorry situation" cos my eyes hav bin opened to undastand my man and his I'm sorry style. D s.ex part... Hmmmmm, I don learn. I'm getting married strait out f d uni, so I'm going to be a housewife for a while and I will be moving from my precious Lagos to d east for me, dats a huge sacrifice. Thank u

Besea: I've been thinking a lot, as I would be spending sometime at home, can I get advice on something I can do from home to get small small money(he has told me to relax dat he can handle it but I don't want dat)? I want to be able to contribute my own one cent too

Besea: I've been thinking a lot, as I would be spending sometime at home, can I get advice on something I can do from home to get small small money(he has told me to relax dat he can handle it but I don't want dat)? I want to be able to contribute my own one cent too

Besea: I've been thinking a lot, as I would be spending sometime at home, can I get advice on something I can do from home to get small small money(he has told me to relax dat he can handle it but I don't want dat)? I want to be able to contribute my own one cent too

PocketEconomist: you can learn how to bake or make people's hair. Or since ynu are a graduate, why don't you think of private tutorials.

Baby mama:

I got married right out of the university and got pregnant immediately
We moved to Obodo oyibo shortly after
Since we were in JJC in Obodo oyibo ,I had no choice but stay home,it wasn't by design
I did some menial jobs at some point part time here and there to help out while he was a grad student
I always wanted to work ,I didn't like being at home full time and when the opportunity came for me to get my license,I took it and we worked hard to make it through .
There are women who enjoy being stay at home moms,I don't advocate it
A woman needs to work and earn her own money IMHO
I have seen marriages fail and the woman has no working skills
I have also seen the man pass away and the woman is left with kids and no working skills
For those two reasons,a woman should work outside the home even if part time
Nobody knows tomorrow
You don't want to be stranded with no where to turn when things don't work out as planned

Besea:
Don't know why I never thot of private tutorials and I'm a trained teacher, thanks. Been tinkn about d baking tin since I love to cook. I'm so happy I God made u guys for me.

yellowpawpaw:
I hvnt tot about them for once. I still don't know why considering my kind of person.
Maybe, I'm shy to initiate such. But its good for those who hv d mind to explore.
That's part of what I call variety and since d essence is to attain maximum intimate satisfaction, why not?

(I miss jidegal, cos she is a specialist in this field)
It has its disadvantages too like u can't get s*exual satisfaction with ur partner alone if u get addicted just like p*orn.
CC, where r u?
Yes, it can enhance bedroom action for the naughty minded.
Ladies, don't be shy pls, let's rob minds together.
Some might hv inhibition bc of religion too.
Some women r yet to go raw in d bedroom bc of religious beliefs and we r here discussing s*ex toys.


Buky, can u use them? (I pray u r born again o!)
Deol I know is a muslim so I will ask her how its viewed in d muslim community.
Baby gal pls we need ur input. R they frowned upon?

Nnekacherry: Seconded..
You are correct..
It can't work for me.
I can't stay with such a man that is ok with doing house chores.
If it's just to help around the house, that's cool but daily.. No..
I may start feeling like I'm missing something.. Yea missing the man i married because he has turned into a sissy..
So different strokes for different folks..

chaircover: My thoughts on Money!!

Some people feel that the man should do everything/must do certain things. . I think NO NO NO! . . . There is nothing stopping you from doing it if you have the funds. You are a team and you are one and so it doesn’t matter if you tie the wrapper round the bum or the bum round the wrapper, so long as the bum isn’t exposed.

It doesn’t matter who pays for what. Don’t wait for the man to give you money for foodstuffs before you buy some. If you have a project that you are both working on and you have money and you have heard him talk about paying the painter or the electrician, then bring the money and just put it into his account. If you see him struggling with something, don’t wait until he comes to ask you or he starts talking and talking about it before you offer to do it. You are one. If the school fees are due and you know that he has his hands full with other things, then there is nothing stopping you from paying them. They are your children too.

A man respects and appreciates a woman he knows that has his back. He knows that he can rely on her. He rests easy knowing that his children are in safe hands. He knows that there is someone out there who is on his side no matter what. Under all this macho macho are men who too crave to have a soulmate and someone there for them no matter what.

. . . .And when you do help, please don’t rub it in his face, or automatically expect him to start washing the dishes and pounding yam if it isn’t something that he has been doing before. Be patient, he may show his appreciation in other ways.