Mondisweets: and the reason for Creating turns to cook will be
dumb dumb!
Isn't working longer hours to make more money a responsibility a woman will have towards her family?

lertee:
You are not good at argument and you are only trying to twist matter after you have seen the glaring truth.
The OP asked if it is cool to draw a duty roaster with her hubby all because they both work.
The answer is NO,it is not cool. It is only cool for the man to help her out at his own discretion.
[size=18]Now when she said duty roaster,what is the definition for duty roaster[/size]? It means i will do some and he will also do some like division of labor right?
So stop making it look like i wrote that the OP said she wants her hubby to do ALL house chores.

jhidey08: God Bless u jare. Tell her

shizzle11:

It is still a very lame reason to suggest a roaster.....Very lame

Dhuurr!

jhidey08: Thank u 4 expatiating dis tin 4 dis Mondisweets, is lyk she has problems in understanding simple language, and guess wot... She is in law skul! Funny

Mondisweets: why is is really eating you up that I'm in law school

Mondisweets: Whats insulting and very lame about jointly maintaining your household or cooking for each other. Last time I checked a roaster makes you much more organized. E.g

I call home and tell my husband I'm doing overtime.
He can decide to prepare the easiest and quickest meal he can make for 2 so that when I get home we can eat together I will do the dishes and then maybe we can take a long bath together afterwards and talk about how we spent our day

Or if come back home after him he can just cook whatever he can make e.g. Pasta or boil yam or something
Then I will come back and make a quick and easy stew.

What's wrong with creating a roaster that we will stick to in case I come home late because of a meeting, traffic or working overtimeor he comes home late because he had a meeting or had to work overtime or when he is stuck in traffic

ennon92: @mondesweet, Stop arguing blindly. It can't help u

addictiv: Marriage isnt by force. But if you have accepted to marry someone, also accept the duties n obligations that come with it. If you draw up roaster for cooking just pray that he is patient enough to reason with you. I would just draw up roaster for you. Which ll include servicing of cars, house rent, picking kids from sch., servicing of gen. Replacing damaged installments, DSTV subscription Then we ll cobtribute 50. 50 to buy every single item even if its 20 naira. since she wants equality , I ll show her equality. Everything go be turn by turn, no cheating. We ll see who ll get tired. If he is the impatient type, he ll just send you packing. Go to your fathers house n draw roaster.

Mondisweets: if it arguing blindly why has the same thing been working for my parents for the past 30years?

Mondisweets: Again no on can say what's degrading or lame about creating a roaster both spouses will agree to and abide by

so 'cos of our little misunderstanding on this thread, you unfollowed me


Talk about being immature & childish

Mondisweets: Whats insulting and very lame about jointly maintaining your household or cooking for each other. Last time I checked a roaster makes you much more organized. E.g

I call home and tell my husband I'm doing overtime.
He can decide to prepare the easiest and quickest meal he can make for 2 so that when I get home we can eat together I will do the dishes and then maybe we can take a long bath together afterwards and talk about how we spent our day

Or if come back home after him he can just cook whatever he can make e.g. Pasta or boil yam or something
Then I will come back and make a quick and easy stew.

What's wrong with creating a roaster that we will stick to in case I come home late because of a meeting, traffic or working overtimeor he comes home late because he had a meeting or had to work overtime or when he is stuck in traffic

addictiv: Marriage isnt by force. But if you have accepted to marry someone, also accept the duties n obligations that come with it. If you draw up roaster for cooking just pray that he is patient enough to reason with you. I would just draw up roaster for you. Which ll include servicing of cars, house rent, picking kids from sch., servicing of gen. Replacing damaged installments, DSTV subscription Then we ll cobtribute 50. 50 to buy every single item even if its 20 naira. since she wants equality , I ll show her equality. Everything go be turn by turn, no cheating. We ll see who ll get tired. If he is the impatient type, he ll just send you packing. Go to your fathers house n draw roaster.

Mondisweets: Again no on can say what's degrading or lame about creating a roaster both spouses will agree to and abide by

imsu.boi:


so 'cos of our little misunderstanding on this thread, you unfollowed me


Talk about being immature & childish

Mondisweets: Whats insulting and very lame about jointly maintaining your household or cooking for each other. Last time I checked a roaster makes you much more organized. E.g

I call home and tell my husband I'm doing overtime.
He can decide to prepare the easiest and quickest meal he can make for 2 so that when I get home we can eat together I will do the dishes and then maybe we can take a long bath together afterwards and talk about how we spent our day

Or if come back home after him he can just cook whatever he can make e.g. Pasta or boil yam or something
Then I will come back and make a quick and easy stew.

What's wrong with creating a roaster that we will stick to in case I come home late because of a meeting, traffic or working overtimeor he comes home late because he had a meeting or had to work overtime or when he is stuck in traffic

Mondisweets:
my parents jointly own a farm together the equipment used on that farm they bought it together, from the irrigation system, tractors and the other farming equipment used on the farm. They both take turns to oversee the farm and paying the workers.
My parents jointly pay my fees, my dad takes care of the allowance and my mum takes care of the flight fares. My dad is responsible for servicing the cars and putting fuel in them and my mum is responsible for insurance payments.
My dad taught all of us ( the girls) how to change a flat tyre and how to connect and disconnect a car battery. He taught me how to use a lawn mower. I never objected to it or call it a man's duty.
My dad was the one who taught me how to make okra soup and pudding properly.
My dad normally buys the essentials such as oil, soap, sugar while my mum buys the things that perish quicker you vegetables etc.
That's wat I call partnership, a healthy marriage. So what wrong with equality again?

shizzle11:

Everything is wrong about creating a roaster. EVERYTHING!
Read my post that preceded this

shizzle11:

Nothing is wrong with a marriage where both spouses help out and compliment each other in the home. But how you go about seeking that 'equality' matters a lot.

Mondisweets: you simply discuss and agree on who does what and when it will be done...pretty much like a roaster

Mondisweets: so if u have a wife and she calls you to tell u she will be coming home late (say after 9pm) because her department has a deadline to meet before the auditors come in ( you dont have a house help) and you are already at home, what would you do?
[s]Starve yourself because you believe u are too sexy to me standing in a kitchen cooking[/s]or would u just cook whatever you can make and eat on time?

imsu.boi:


so 'cos of our little misunderstanding on this thread, you unfollowed me


Talk about being immature & childish

jhidey08: dis comment will only touch me if only I'm nt studying my course of choice, and I'm a proudly ABUSITE! Naturally ahead of u.

shizzle11:
No!

Talking about it is more civil like a peaceful dialogue. A roaster from my understanding has to be written and pasted somewhere.... more like a military decree
Mondicheek for the umpteenth time.... I can cook and will not wait for my wife. I'll gladly prepare a meal for two.

jhidey08: dis comment will only touch me if only I'm nt studying my course of choice, and I'm a proudly ABUSITE! Naturally ahead of u.

Mondisweets: will it stop you from sleeping peacefully tonight?

Nope..

Just trying to point out that was childish of you

imsu.boi:


Nope..

Just trying to point out that was childish of you

Mondisweets: bite me

why?