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Re: To My Future Husband by Nobody: 8:17pm On Dec 26, 2013
Be careful with d panic syndrome you are gradually getting into... Some men specialise in hurting and breaking innocent hearts. Pls get yourself together. I know its NOT easy. If you get worried when you are 28 and you gradually turn to 30, then 32 and it hasn't happened. Am sure you MAY lose faith.

Girl, put your trust in God. Don't lose ur confidence because of a man somewhere that hasn't said, " Will you be my wife?" The more you worry, the more your worries turn into stark realities.

Get yourself together. Keep your MIND BUSY. Don't be a threat to yourself too!!!
Re: To My Future Husband by Nobody: 8:33pm On Dec 26, 2013
Good Husband scare for town! cool

#np - Wande Coal ft Burna Boy - Amorawaaaaaaaa oooooooo!!! smiley

@Poster.

You seem kinda intelligent

If you are waiting for the churchy type of man then you might wait for donkey years. Been Godly doesn't mean you should attending church but by your behaviour.

I know the pressure is kinda high, if I say you should calm and how long? but I would say just relax and keep your mind off it.

Go out more, be social, dress decent

Why not even put your profile pics in here. You can never tell. You would get tons of PM and you might get hooked.

What happened to facebook? aint you on social networks? you going to church doing workers bla bla bla na serengetime..

you can meet the man of your dreams anywhere.

So the ball is in your court, if you play your cards well then you will hit the jackpot!
Re: To My Future Husband by Chinwem(f): 11:46pm On Dec 26, 2013
OP I wish you well, It is well with you

I can say I know exactly how you feel cuz I opened a thread just like this one a year and a bit ago
It's not easy but I m so glad you have all this good advice from lovely people here
You are a decent girl and I m sure you ll be alright

Don't rush into anything just because of pressure from anybody ok
Because when you rush in and you re there alone nobody will care
Don't endanger yourself just to conform
Don't endanger your mental health, physical health or emotional health just to conform

It's only in Nigeria that marriage is do-or-die
I wish the society was not so hard on young girls
As if getting married is all that they re good for

I m sure your husband will locate you
Your prayers are not useless
And God is not deaf

Here's a link to a YouTube video......a lively and interesting perspective on the whole do or die affair that marriage has become in this country called Nigeria. Watch and enjoy.....hope it teaches you that the grass is not always greener as Mrs Somebody. You re not alone. Nothing is wrong with you .Everything will be fine. I m praying with you. X


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EKhNoIfEXY
Re: To My Future Husband by Handsomeemmy(m): 4:09am On Dec 27, 2013
@Op I pray this new year will be better for you, just as someone rightly said, not all men in church are Christians, but there are still few, I will advice you attend more of Bible study, there you will meet men that are not just sunday service members but men who are a bit decent.
Re: To My Future Husband by Jayses(m): 10:37am On Dec 27, 2013
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Re: To My Future Husband by lifestyle1(m): 10:38am On Dec 27, 2013
Hmmmmm
Re: To My Future Husband by MrMac10(m): 10:38am On Dec 27, 2013
coolmoon500: Hello guys,compliments of the season to everyone,hope everyone is doing great.

I'm actually feeling led to post here,though I don't post much at all,but for some reason,I woke up this morning and was feeling abit incomplete,hence coming here to seek some advice on how to live through it all.
I understand that I would get encouraging comments as well as immature and ridiculous comments,but all in all,its the grace of God that has kept us all sane and alive till date.

I never thought I'd be the lady staying calm and waiting almost endlessly for the one I would spend the rest of my life with.the one who would one day become my husband and the father of my children.my best friend and love.

I'm generally not the woman you would see often on d streets as I am mostly indoors,I was brought up to be around home,and as such days I have tried going out on my own hasn't been fruitful.I end up spending a few minutes out,then head back home,I also have limited friends because most of the ones I call friends are away in far cities and countries. The few I have around are mostly all married and don't hang out much either.

I am a christian and have noticed that I have a thing for christian men who are filled with the word of God.needless to say that I would eventually be gettin into ministry in my older years,and every prophetic word I have heard about my marriage has pointed to the fact that the man God has prepared for me would also most likely be in ministry and a huge God lover.

Now the thing is where on earth is this man?I am tired of waiting and I don't want to make a mistake.I am in my late 20's slowly approachin 30 soon and would like to settle within the next one year.

My family is puttin a lot of pressure on me and I am starting to crumble under the pressure of havin to remain sane while waiting for my own.I have indeed met a lot of other men who I dare not settle with.eg party rockers,drinkers,womanizers and the rest.does it mean that all the good men are taken?

Asides waiting,I also want to feel loved,wanted and appreciated.I want him so much already.

I am a professional lady,I am yoruba,I am gentle,kind hearted and want to continue serving God.

what can I do to remain calm?

how long more would I need to wait?

does it mean that there is no other Godly man out there?
nairalanders and their fantasies
Re: To My Future Husband by Nobody: 10:39am On Dec 27, 2013
Don't be hard on yourself,whatever will be,will be.
Just remain focus,improve on yourself,and skill,and things will definitely fall into shape. Never give in to pressure to make you a desperado,which can make you throw caution to the wind.

God be with you.
Re: To My Future Husband by wyette: 10:48am On Dec 27, 2013
Hi sweets,

I admire you and your courage. I was in the very same (almost exactly identical) situation at some point.

Let's talk.

Mail me @ cintins@yahoo.com. We'll take it from there.

Cheers!
Re: To My Future Husband by adegwurulez(m): 10:48am On Dec 27, 2013
mods where is the letter na? she is just seeking for advice from us. @op You dont have to worry yourself too much. With this kind of emotion you poured on this post, you might just jump on any man wether he is the right guy or not. Just relax, if you believe there is someone out of the 7billion people on earth who was specially made for you then why worry?
Re: To My Future Husband by Nobody: 10:49am On Dec 27, 2013
coolmoon500: Hello guys,compliments of the season to
everyone,hope everyone is doing great.

I'm actually feeling led to post here,though I don't post much at
all,but for some reason,I woke up this morning and was feeling abit
incomplete,hence coming here to seek some advice on how to live through
it all.
I understand that I would get encouraging comments as well as immature
and ridiculous comments,but all in all,its the grace of God that has
kept us all sane and alive till date.

I never thought I'd be the lady staying calm and waiting almost
endlessly for the one I would spend the rest of my life with.the one who
would one day become my husband and the father of my children.my best
friend and love.

I'm generally not the woman you would see often on d streets as I am
mostly indoors,I was brought up to be around home,and as such days I
have tried going out on my own hasn't been fruitful.I end up spending a
few minutes out,then head back home,I also have limited friends because
most of the ones I call friends are away in far cities and countries.
The few I have around are mostly all married and don't hang out much
either.

I am a christian and have noticed that I have a thing for christian men
who are filled with the word of God.needless to say that I would
eventually be gettin into ministry in my older years,and every prophetic
word I have heard about my marriage has pointed to the fact that the
man God has prepared for me would also most likely be in ministry and a
huge God lover.

Now the thing is where on earth is this man?I am tired of waiting and I
don't want to make a mistake.I am in my late 20's slowly approachin 30
soon and would like to settle within the next one year.

My family is puttin a lot of pressure on me and I am starting to crumble
under the pressure of havin to remain sane while waiting for my own.I
have indeed met a lot of other men who I dare not settle with.eg party
rockers,drinkers,womanizers and the rest.does it mean that all the good
men are taken?

Asides waiting,I also want to feel loved,wanted and appreciated.I want
him so much already.

I am a professional lady,I am yoruba,I am gentle,kind hearted and want
to continue serving God.

what can I do to remain calm?

how long more would I need to wait?

does it mean that there is no other Godly man out there?

K
Re: To My Future Husband by luv22(m): 10:53am On Dec 27, 2013
Here I come ur future husband, dunno u ar here nd av been waitin 4 u 4 d past 3yrs
Re: To My Future Husband by americanbaddo: 10:55am On Dec 27, 2013
coolmoon500: Hello guys,compliments of the season to everyone,hope everyone is doing great.

I'm actually feeling led to post here,though I don't post much at all,but for some reason,I woke up this morning and was feeling abit incomplete,hence coming here to seek some advice on how to live through it all.
I understand that I would get encouraging comments as well as immature and ridiculous comments,but all in all,its the grace of God that has kept us all sane and alive till date.

I never thought I'd be the lady staying calm and waiting almost endlessly for the one I would spend the rest of my life with.the one who would one day become my husband and the father of my children.my best friend and love.

I'm generally not the woman you would see often on d streets as I am mostly indoors,I was brought up to be around home,and as such days I have tried going out on my own hasn't been fruitful.I end up spending a few minutes out,then head back home,I also have limited friends because most of the ones I call friends are away in far cities and countries. The few I have around are mostly all married and don't hang out much either.

I am a christian and have noticed that I have a thing for christian men who are filled with the word of God.needless to say that I would eventually be gettin into ministry in my older years,and every prophetic word I have heard about my marriage has pointed to the fact that the man God has prepared for me would also most likely be in ministry and a huge God lover.

Now the thing is where on earth is this man?I am tired of waiting and I don't want to make a mistake.I am in my late 20's slowly approachin 30 soon and would like to settle within the next one year.

My family is puttin a lot of pressure on me and I am starting to crumble under the pressure of havin to remain sane while waiting for my own.I have indeed met a lot of other men who I dare not settle with.eg party rockers,drinkers,womanizers and the rest.does it mean that all the good men are taken?

Asides waiting,I also want to feel loved,wanted and appreciated.I want him so much already.

I am a professional lady,I am yoruba,I am gentle,kind hearted and want to continue serving God.

what can I do to remain calm?

how long more would I need to wait?

does it mean that there is no other Godly man out there?

i feel this way too lipsrsealed

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Re: To My Future Husband by claremont(m): 10:57am On Dec 27, 2013
If you are as good as you say you are, then why are you still single?! You are being economical with the truth, there must be something about you that is scaring eligible bachelors away. Post your pictures here for assessment.

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Re: To My Future Husband by olumyde5(m): 11:00am On Dec 27, 2013
coolmoon500: Hello guys,compliments of the season to everyone,hope everyone is doing great.

I'm actually feeling led to post here,though I don't post much at all,but for some reason,I woke up this morning and was feeling abit incomplete,hence coming here to seek some advice on how to live through it all.
I understand that I would get encouraging comments as well as immature and ridiculous comments,but all in all,its the grace of God that has kept us all sane and alive till date.

I never thought I'd be the lady staying calm and waiting almost endlessly for the one I would spend the rest of my life with.the one who would one day become my husband and the father of my children.my best friend and love.

I'm generally not the woman you would see often on d streets as I am mostly indoors,I was brought up to be around home,and as such days I have tried going out on my own hasn't been fruitful.I end up spending a few minutes out,then head back home,I also have limited friends because most of the ones I call friends are away in far cities and countries. The few I have around are mostly all married and don't hang out much either.

I am a christian and have noticed that I have a thing for christian men who are filled with the word of God.needless to say that I would eventually be gettin into ministry in my older years,and every prophetic word I have heard about my marriage has pointed to the fact that the man God has prepared for me would also most likely be in ministry and a huge God lover.

Now the thing is where on earth is this man?I am tired of waiting and I don't want to make a mistake.I am in my late 20's slowly approachin 30 soon and would like to settle within the next one year.

My family is puttin a lot of pressure on me and I am starting to crumble under the pressure of havin to remain sane while waiting for my own.I have indeed met a lot of other men who I dare not settle with.eg party rockers,drinkers,womanizers and the rest.does it mean that all the good men are taken?

Asides waiting,I also want to feel loved,wanted and appreciated.I want him so much already.

I am a professional lady,I am yoruba,I am gentle,kind hearted and want to continue serving God.

what can I do to remain calm?

how long more would I need to wait?

does it mean that there is no other Godly man out there?


mail mi ka jo se track grin mo serious grin
Re: To My Future Husband by Jephyard(m): 11:02am On Dec 27, 2013
This is somewhat an advice bt not it is. Get busy or probably do sumfin for urself. Guys will com along d way jst choose the beta one n creat him as ur soul wishes. Note: Guys/Men don't like religions women kip ur church tin to yourself except u want marry pastor/ministers.


Gudluk in ur sojourn
Re: To My Future Husband by Jephyard(m): 11:04am On Dec 27, 2013
This is somewhat an advice bt not sure it is. Get busy or probably do sumfin for urself. Guys will com along d way jst choose the beta one n creat him as ur soul wishes. Note: Guys/Men don't like religions women/babe. kip ur church tin to yourself except u want marry pastor/ministers.


Gudluk in ur sojourn
Re: To My Future Husband by 3nairalandcom: 11:05am On Dec 27, 2013
For the fact that I am a Muslim while I was reading through the content of your letter I almost believe from the topic that it was a letter to me but you broke my heart when you say you are yoruba,I have nothing against your tribe but my family will only welcome an in law from their tribe,ebira.Good luck.
Re: To My Future Husband by spawne: 11:07am On Dec 27, 2013
I usually don't comment but what the heck. You need to be careful Miss, really. You have started just three threads and all in this month, no offense but that could be mistaken for desperation (which I know isn't). As cliche as it sounds, patience and faith in God is key.
However, one of your threads specifically pointed out your interest in a man with Yoruba heritage; don't you think you may be narrowing your chances by subconsciously seeking one from that region? You can never tell which tribe your better half hails from. You even defined an age bracket..what if he's younger (just saying)?
Relax already and give God thanks for the future, even pray for the dude (especially that he gets ready quick..lol).
You will be happily married soon smiley . Just trust that God is never late and most definitely never wrong.

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Re: To My Future Husband by Nobody: 11:07am On Dec 27, 2013
I do understand you @op. one tin I notice Is lack of faith and patience. if you start working on those things I mention. believe me you will have more than you ask for. don't be shy to ask your father(who is at heaven) for a husband and "believe". buy some gift for your future husband, tell your parent that you have a lovely husband. work by faith and not by sight.
Re: To My Future Husband by Nobody: 11:10am On Dec 27, 2013
coolmoon500: awwww, thanks a lot for your response so far, I appreciate it.

well the God factor, no man has the power to control that, because when God says it is time, then it truly is time.

@eragablessn, yes I know that I cant possibly meet all good men if I remain indoors, but iv also tried in my own power to go out and enjoy the great outdoors. yes there are good men in church but majority of the ones I have seen are either engaged or hooked. I believe I am also tender and gentle at heart, I am very industrious, I am goal driven, encouraging and make out time to develop myself always.

well I wanted to get married at age 25, but id be 28 in a few months. I guess God has great plans for each of us, though it may not go as one may have planned.

thanks @bellong, the pressure is not a joke, but I try to remain sane and calm with it all.

Who told you party rockers, drinkers/smokers, womanizers are not good men for marriage? Listen, most pastors/reverends you see today were once party rockers, smokers and drinkers and womanizers. The earlier you realise you wasting away ur time seeking for pastor/a pastor wannabe, the better for u. If guys begin to understand d exact type of men u want, trust those pretending dudes to turn to cameleon just to access your pant and then, fling away. Dont you think, with your christian life, you can nurture and turn a man to be who you want him to be in a Godly way?

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Re: To My Future Husband by Hero10001: 11:11am On Dec 27, 2013
Seriously?!
Would you like to meet the second to the most gentleman on earth?
Come on, i'm here.
Santa's done it!!
Just pm me.
Re: To My Future Husband by spawne: 11:13am On Dec 27, 2013
Jephyard: This is somewhat an advice bt not sure it is. Get busy or probably do sumfin for urself. Guys will com along d way jst choose the beta one n creat him as ur soul wishes. Note: Guys/Men don't like religions women/babe . kip ur church tin to yourself except u want marry pastor/ministers.


Gudluk in ur sojourn
Baba you need to start liking them o..lol.
Better a Godly lady everytime.
Re: To My Future Husband by gedtalks(m): 11:15am On Dec 27, 2013
my dear I just noticed something....... did you really have to state ''professional + lady'' as far as you are well educated you don't have to lay emphasis on this this is one thing that drives men away from girls. If being ''a professional lady'' means working late hours too like your oga, and coming back late without the strenght to cook and time to look deep into the childrens affairs . Then change your mentality. I personally wont marry a girl that puts ''professional'' before marriage. NEVER !!! with capital N
Re: To My Future Husband by bbankky: 11:18am On Dec 27, 2013
Now is the time to be more calm n prayer full don't let anybody to put pressure on u. Your future husband will come soon, I wish u all the best.
Re: To My Future Husband by Nobody: 11:19am On Dec 27, 2013
coolmoon500:



lol at riot act. would my mother/father wait to even listen to me quote out the sections? I don't think so dear.
I find it strange when girls/women find it so easy to call people(guys) they hardly know 'dear'.
Re: To My Future Husband by mosesk2(m): 11:20am On Dec 27, 2013
Just stay calm,u might be looking @ ready made man of God. very few men of God were single before they met Christ. For instance Pst. E A Adeboye never knew Christ until he was abt to become a Professor. i will advise you sek the face of God and seek the help of people of God around you. Your husband might still be in the world but going to church. you want refined gold but God might want a raw gold for you. however, pls seek the face of God. Stay bless
Re: To My Future Husband by silvernus0: 11:21am On Dec 27, 2013
coolmoon500: Hello guys,compliments of the season to everyone,hope everyone is doing great.

I'm actually feeling led to post here,though I don't post much at all,but for some reason,I woke up this morning and was feeling abit incomplete,hence coming here to seek some advice on how to live through it all.
I understand that I would get encouraging comments as well as immature and ridiculous comments,but all in all,its the grace of God that has kept us all sane and alive till date.

I never thought I'd be the lady staying calm and waiting almost endlessly for the one I would spend the rest of my life with.the one who would one day become my husband and the father of my children.my best friend and love.

I'm generally not the woman you would see often on d streets as I am mostly indoors,I was brought up to be around home,and as such days I have tried going out on my own hasn't been fruitful.I end up spending a few minutes out,then head back home,I also have limited friends because most of the ones I call friends are away in far cities and countries. The few I have around are mostly all married and don't hang out much either.

I am a christian and have noticed that I have a thing for christian men who are filled with the word of God.needless to say that I would eventually be gettin into ministry in my older years,and every prophetic word I have heard about my marriage has pointed to the fact that the man God has prepared for me would also most likely be in ministry and a huge God lover.

Now the thing is where on earth is this man?I am tired of waiting and I don't want to make a mistake.I am in my late 20's slowly approachin 30 soon and would like to settle within the next one year.

My family is puttin a lot of pressure on me and I am starting to crumble under the pressure of havin to remain sane while waiting for my own.I have indeed met a lot of other men who I dare not settle with.eg party rockers,drinkers,womanizers and the rest.does it mean that all the good men are taken?

Asides waiting,I also want to feel loved,wanted and appreciated.I want him so much already.

I am a professional lady,I am yoruba,I am gentle,kind hearted and want to continue serving God.

what can I do to remain calm?

how long more would I need to wait?

does it mean that there is no other Godly man out there?


Mys sister there is notin lyk a good man .try to change the pple that comes around you and make them what you want
Re: To My Future Husband by abhosts(m): 11:25am On Dec 27, 2013
I know a Particular Christian Guy that got so frustrated looking for a Wife in Church because most of the Ladies in your Category do not get involved in Church activities. He narrowed his search to midweek Services and House Fellowship but could not find any wife material because most of the attendees were mostly Married Women and Students. Godly men cannot find you when you only go to church on Sundays.
Re: To My Future Husband by neejay1986(m): 11:26am On Dec 27, 2013
@OP..... God's time is the best. Read Habakkuk 2:1-4.
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Re: To My Future Husband by goist(m): 11:28am On Dec 27, 2013
@ Op.gedtalks have said it all. Ur luks don't realy matters than ur attitude. Above all, what if d man God has kept for you is not d type you seek? Rember, nobody can predict God. God might jst want U̶̲̥̅̊ 2 change dt man out there who is nt that Godly aπϑ that might be ur mission in life.
Re: To My Future Husband by akogunreloaded: 11:28am On Dec 27, 2013
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