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|To My Future Wife by eleojo23: 8:19pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Sitting in my room and looking through the window with the cool evening breeze blowing across my face, the thought of you crossed my mind. I decided to pen down this letter to you on how I feel and how I would want our marriage to be.
Dear future wife, who you are and where you are right now, I do not know. One thing I know however is that each passing day draws me closer to you. I look forward to the day we'll meet when there will be that spark and our hearts will be bonded in love. My heart is racing in anticipation.
I've lived my life alone all this time but now I feel the need to find you, the person who will finally make my life complete. I'm a man with flaws, yes I'm not perfect and I know you are not perfect also and I don't expect you to be. Sometimes I say things that I
don’t really mean and do things that are not really my nature. I apologise for those right now.
I've got these flaws which will become obvious to you as we meet begin to relate but if after seeing all these you still decide to be with me, I promise that as long as I'm in my right mind, I shall love, cherish and respect you.
I promise to always listen to you when you simply just want to be heard. I will listen to you especially when you don’t feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with anybody else, and to the things you try to tell me when you’re not
even speaking. I promise to always listen.
I probably don’t know all the right things to say, but my feelings and words are from the heart.
Our fairy tale will happen, but remember it doesn’t go from ‘once upon a time’ to ‘happy ever after.’ So I can't promise an all rosy experience. We are two different individuals with different backgrounds, we're going to argue and disagree on issues but I will not want that to affect or change the feeling we have for each other. When we have a misunderstanding, I would not want us to sweep it under the carpet, rather we would address it and move on.
There are going to be times when our 'love feeling' will not be at its high. At such times it is our commitment to each other that will drive us to make things work between us. This fleeting feeling that we'll have when we meet will fluctuate with time and that's why I have made up my mind to love your person and not just your good looks (as that too may change). I will have you as my friend and we shall grow together.
Looking at my mum and seeing the sacrifices she has made some of which involved letting go of the things she would have loved to do, I promise to support your dreams and let you do the things that make you happy.
In times of storm I will hold your hand and we'll face it together. We will take turns being strong in times of trials and pick each other up. We will have each others back and look out for each other when the chips are down. I will support you in every way I can and I hope you do same for me.
I have seen a lot of marriages fail but ours will not be like that. We're going to make our marriage work for the sake of ourselves and the kids we'll have. I would want you to understand me and not compare me with other men. I promise to do same for you. We will not allow extended family and friends to come between us. We are going to handle our issues in our own unique way.
We will be role models to our children and we will build a model home full of love where they will live happily.
These are not just the words of a man who is high on emotions but that of a man who is ready to take responsibility.
They are words with serious implications and I have decided to take this bold step with you. God helping us and with some effort on our part, we shall make them come to pass. I'm not going to marry you because my mates are getting married. Rather I'm going to marry you because at this point in my life, I need someone with whom I can fulfil God's purpose for my life.
I know waiting isn’t easy. I’m waiting for you because I love you unconditionally. As I wait for you, I'm going to invest my time in making myself the husband that you will forever be proud of.
Wishing you all the joy and happiness you can get till we meet and begin this exciting journey together.
Lots of love from your future husband,
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|Re: To My Future Wife by eleojo23: 8:22pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Some guy on this thread thinks it's unlike a 'black/african man' to write something like this. He thinks it shows weakness. Well, that's his philosophy and a warped one at that. I intentionally wrote this to 'upset' people like him. A real man is not afraid to show and express his feelings.
Someone ( Yangki Christine) wrote this somewhere and I wish to repeat them here. Every person is born with qualities of the opposite energy (masculine AND feminine) within him or her— and not simply in the biological sense, but also in the psychosexual sense of attitudes, feelings, dreams and desires.
Men because of their biological make up express more of the masculine energy and women because of their biological make up express more of their feminine energies.
If a man or woman is well adjusted and harmoniously balanced, the feminine traits and the masculine traits are both expressed. To say one is a “real” man or woman would be to say one is a “real” human being with a good balance of both masculine and feminine energies.
When a man has his masculine energy well developed he can afford to express his feminine energy without fear, timidity or feeling a threat to his masculinity — which is already strong and developed.
When a man’s masculinity is not well developed and strong, he’ll tend to suppress his feminine side (i.e. being sensitive, nurturing etc) because he is already insecure about his masculinity. He’ll tend to express a more “macho” image to try to cover up his insecurity about his masculinity.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by LORDI(m): 8:26pm On Nov 13, 2014|
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Nobody: 8:27pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Don't forget to show this thread to her when she finally shows up.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by ogaofficer(m): 8:48pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Congrats to the OP.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Nobody: 8:49pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Dy dere dy write letter while another guy is shining her congo
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Tattooboy: 8:55pm On Nov 13, 2014|
edozie04:That's impolite. I will ask Ego 2 play Magic!'s 'Rude' 4 u.
|Re: To My Future Wife by CuppyCakie: 8:59pm On Nov 13, 2014|
|Re: To My Future Wife by MaleoPearls(m): 9:20pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Attai agbaa ooo.
|Re: To My Future Wife by MaleoPearls(m): 9:22pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Change the 'wills' to 'shalls'. You know... Just in case you
|Re: To My Future Wife by iykedare(m): 9:49pm On Nov 13, 2014|
If she Is a Nigerian living in Nigeria then she must be doing any of the following right now
1. Giving another guy bj
2.Being hammered to submission by one naija dlck
And you are here fantasizing. It shall be well with you o
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|Re: To My Future Wife by eleojo23: 10:16pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Some comments on this thread are rather unfortunate. I can't help but think that they were made by teenagers (in age or in behaviour). I tried to ignore but I have to say this to all those making silly and vulgar comments: Stop thinking that every man /woman is like you. You see the world through your own eyes and make generalisations.
It's immaturity (well, what do you expect from teenagers anyway?)
You people spread the wrong things on social media and mislead others. Why not try to contribute positively to the lives of others even if its on a faceless forum? It's very unfortunate really.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Nobody: 10:49pm On Nov 13, 2014|
Some people are just plain stupid, annoying and pathetic
So, because your girlfriend goes around town, giving bredrins head and allowing every Efe, Kamar and Dozie 'shine her congo', all ladies are sexually promiscuous?
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|Re: To My Future Wife by hydeka: 5:54pm On Nov 14, 2014|
|Re: To My Future Wife by hydeka: 6:11pm On Nov 14, 2014|
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Hollyb(f): 9:50pm On Nov 14, 2014|
|Re: To My Future Wife by ennon92(m): 10:01pm On Nov 14, 2014|
eleojo23:u need to understand ppl individual differences. Some ppl can't just think upright.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by eleojo23: 10:25pm On Nov 14, 2014|
ennon92:That's why I said it's quite unfortunate.
|Re: To My Future Wife by STENON(f): 12:45pm On Nov 15, 2014|
It is a pity and sorry case for some people.
Must every lady be the LovePeddler that you have met before?, Must everylady be so useless to that extent?
I dnt just knw how people make comments, without critical reasoning / thinking and understanding of the topic.
"My People are perishing, because they lack knowledge"
|Re: To My Future Wife by DEUSHA(f): 3:28pm On Nov 15, 2014|
Whaooo I can't just control d smile on my face. I wish u d best of luck and I pray God give each and every one his/her heart desire nd give u d woman of ur dream.
|Re: To My Future Wife by MARKone(m): 3:54pm On Nov 15, 2014|
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Sophyrocks: 4:01pm On Nov 15, 2014|
Nice words for your future wife Op. Do not mind the myopic people here making jest of the write up. What do you expect from little boys with empty brains? A lot of them were not properly trained to treat women with respect. Their comments tells you a lot of how horrible their marriages would be. A lot of these boys are attracted to vain women no matter how they condemn them and beat chest for us here. At least, the write up shows a man ready to handle the responsibilities of a real man. Real men that all these small small 'boys' should learn a thing or two from. Only Small 'boys' that size up their Ego by their Diks will mock your write up. Immaturity isnt about age. Real men will end up with women who deserve them.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Nobody: 4:16pm On Nov 15, 2014|
Lmao @ the soliloquy.
Future is an illusion - just think about now and enjoy life to the fullest, man.
Go out more, a lot of chics out there wanna fun. And stop daydreaming about an imaginary wife. This is why most marriages don't work cos folks don't are just rigid in their thought process, creating things that only exist there lool.
|Re: To My Future Wife by eleojo23: 4:43pm On Nov 15, 2014|
^^Future is an illusion? While you live in today, can't you also stop to think about tomorrow? Methinks many (i can't say all) marriages fail because guys/girls were busy having fun, never thinking of the future and creating problems they never knew would come up later in their marriages.
Does the write-up suggest a rigid thought process to you? Methinks it's a rigid thought process for you to think that guys who stop to think about their future marriages have a rigid thought process.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by Nobody: 5:06pm On Nov 15, 2014|
See, the truth is that tomorrow never comes. And there will always a tomorrow after the next one. Hence the need to deal with today before thinking about tomorrow, especially when it comes to humans. So, what's "ya today" like?
Also, with marriages, since it doesn't involve only you, and it's more or less organic - you can't start dreaming about what you are going to show ya imaginary wife. Just be a normal guy and let it flow, man.
And go out more. Chics are out there looking for fun. Enjoy life to the fullest cos it is short.
|Re: To My Future Wife by coolmoon500(f): 5:12pm On Nov 15, 2014|
Omg, I made a similar post almost a year ago because I knew it would be perfect when we finally meet.
I love your creativity, I write, so I always appreciate a well written piece.
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|Re: To My Future Wife by adeoladrg(m): 5:57pm On Nov 15, 2014|
Who knows? Just who knows if...
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|Re: To My Future Wife by eleojo23: 6:01pm On Nov 15, 2014|
SirShymex:You very much repeated yourself. So my earlier reply still stands. Anyway, thanks for sharing your philosophy of life with us. Do have a good evening. I'm sure you're already having a good time since you so much love fun.
|Re: To My Future Wife by vikel2104: 6:20pm On Nov 15, 2014|
SirShymex:You mean chicken? Oh yeah, the chickens are having fun at my backyard, messing up the whole place with shite and scattering the waste bin with their legs. But you know what? I'll soon be having my own fun with them on the dining table.
|Re: To My Future Wife by hydeka: 6:34pm On Nov 15, 2014|
adeoladrg:Are you thinking what I'm thinking?
|Re: To My Future Wife by Nobody: 7:00pm On Nov 15, 2014|
Nah, you make black men look soft lol.
The emasculation of black, with folks showing more estrogen traits than chics need to stop. Get a grip and find ya balls lol.
|Re: To My Future Wife by OmolodMilkman93(m): 7:02pm On Nov 15, 2014|
hydeka:You are definitely not alone on this,......
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