onyinye2:

Acid man stop jiving with the girl. She is hurting and is trying to get over that. give her a break.

you jiving with me. i guess guys are emotionally shut.

HCH3COO:

you jiving with me. i guess guys are emotionally shut.

I didn't mean it in that way, Acid.

sayhi2ay:

don't you want to admit your are obsessing over him ?

No, because I am not obssessing over him!! I am not as stubborn as you guys are making out! I explained it already, my friends understand me! I am a very analytical person, when one of my friends gives me a look, I'll analyse it, 'maybe she scowled at me because , this this that that' and so forth, or 'why is that guy texting me at this time of the night, , is it because this this that that' or 'i'll ommit the kisses at the end of the text message because he has a girlfriend and if I was his girlfriend I'd think that was disrespectful' I AM LIKE THIS. NOW if there isn't an issue I can't resolve and bring peace to my mind, I lose sleep over it, I AM AN OVER ANALYSER, if anything that is my problem. The issue is I can't put my finger on why he pushed me away (the ex). When you don't have the full story to a situation my best advice is to try not to judge so harshly, you don't have both sides neither do you have the beginning to the end narrative of what happened between us. I actually genuinely wanted to help other people feel better. I asked unisex questions so guys can be involved too, I found the questions today and they instantly made me feel better.

Now I'm starting to feel like a piece of crap again, due to your constant hammering on the whole 'it's your fault, your possessive, you have a problem' rubbish!

onyinye2:

I didn't mean it in that way, Acid.

can you elaborate more on your earlier mention of caressing? details!

HCH3COO:

can you elaborate more on your earlier mention of caressing? details!

Mba. that is secret information.

topup:

No, because I am not obssessing over him!! I am not as stubborn as you guys are making out! I explained it already, my friends understand me! I am a very analytical person, when one of my friends gives me a look, I'll analyse it, 'maybe she scowled at me because , this this that that' and so forth, or 'why is that guy texting me at this time of the night, , is it because this this that that' or 'i'll ommit the kisses at the end of the text message because he has a girlfriend and if I was his girlfriend I'd think that was disrespectful' I AM LIKE THIS. NOW if there isn't an issue I can't resolve and bring peace to my mind, I lose sleep over it, I AM AN OVER ANALYSER, if anything that is my problem. The issue is I can't put my finger on why he pushed me away (the ex). When you don't have the full story to a situation my best advice is to try not to judge so harshly, you don't have both sides neither do you have the beginning to the end narrative of what happened between us. I actually genuinely wanted to help other people feel better. I asked unisex questions so guys can be involved too, I found the questions today and they instantly made me feel better.

Now I'm starting to feel like a piece of crap again, due to your constant hammering on the whole 'it's your fault, your possessive, you have a problem' rubbish!

overanalytical but not opsessive.  part in bold, i thought you said it was over sex?
i am glad you feel better.  

onyinye2:

Mba. that is secret information.

giggles.

I think we should leave way for people replying to the OP, as the discussion has gone off topic.


If anybody is helped by the questions that makes two of us

well OP i think i kind of understood you with my previous post.

HCH3COO:

i thought you said it was over sex?

It might have it might have been. A lot of my guy friends thinks that's why he left me.

And by left me, I mean the reason why he started becoming distant, not texting n messaging as often. I actually said the words 'I think we should end this.'

So yes he broke up with me, I only said the words.

Here's an obssessive initiative,

** Let's move on from this guy and allow others to contribute **

contribute as in what topup?

topup:

It might have it might have been. A lot of my guy friends thinks that's why he left me.

And by left me, I mean the reason why he started becoming distant, not texting n messaging as often. I actually said the words 'I think we should end this.'

So yes he broke up with me,

I only said the words.

weird.  from what i'm reading, you broke up with him. cruel. all this while i thought he was evil.  he didn't say he broke up over sex, you assumed he did because your friends said so. you broke up with him.

Anybody who is finding it hard to get over their Ex, can answer those questions, discuss that really they weren't into the guy/girl's personality, but were possibly more flattered from how he/her made them feel or what he/she did for them,

Realising that, really helped me, you cannot believe.

I stopped thinking, man I lost an incredible boyfriend and started thinking actually, wait a minute, if what I loved most were those things, the same things that another guy can easily do for me, the texting, kissing, the putting me first and being a shoulder to cry on ,



Realising that was a BIG step, I stopped idolising him immediately.

topup:

I think we should leave way for people replying to the OP, as the discussion has gone off topic.


If anybody is helped by the questions that makes two of us

that makes two of us. i was helped. you showed me the mind of a brokenhearted woman.

topup:

I stopped idolising him immediately.

truly questionable.

HCH3COO:

that makes two of us. i was helped. you showed me the mind of a brokenhearted woman.

truly questionable.

You want a fight don't you? It's that time of the night I guess, someone's a little feisty!

HCH3COO:

that makes two of us. i was helped. you showed me the mind of a brokenhearted woman.

Acid, stop it.

You proposed a fight yet I'm the feisty one
LOLL  I'm sorry.  My ribs are broken.       
   

Acid be a little sympathetic.

Onyinye2 I doubt he'd take you seriously when you have laughing smilies in your message,

onyinye2:

Acid be a little sympathetic.

I'm trying hun.     .  I don't like seeing women hurt.

topup:

Onyinye2 I doubt he'd take you seriously when you have laughing smilies in your message,

onyinye, she got you good.

Honestly I don't need sympathy, let alone a little.

Well done HCH3COO or 'Acid', you've picked one, someone you can test all your come backs and insults at,

*sighs*

Oh topup, don't mind acid. he is just jiving with you. no need to take him too seriously. it is nice that you realize why you were so attached to your ex and how you can get passed that.

topup:

Honestly I don't need sympathy, let alone a little.

Well done HCH3COO or 'Acid', you've picked one, someone you can test all your come backs and insults at,

*sighs*

now you're hurting me . never insulted you.

HCH3COO:

now you're hurting me . never insulted you.

HCH3COO:

weird. from what i'm reading, you broke up with him. cruel. all this while i thought he was evil. he didn't say he broke up over sex, you assumed he did because your friends said so. you broke up with him.

No you didn't insult me ,

its tough but hey what can you do? suck it in and find another guy . . . it aint easy though. You'll always use that guy as a benchmark for others.

davidylan:

its tough but hey what can you do? suck it in and find another guy . . . it aint easy though. You'll always use that guy as a benchmark for others.

As scary as this sounds, im actually agreeing with you.

its a fact . . . i still have that problem till tomorrow. Funny as it sounds, every girl i meet i see her from the lenses of my first true love . . . Man i need help and fast!

So you do have a heart after all.

Do you honestly believe that your first true love was the ideal girl? Or is it just because you can't get her out of your mind? Just wondering what makes a girl so special you can't get her of your mind? Was it the duration of the relationship (my analytical self asking questions again )

Yes, he will be the benchmark but luckily he didn't have too much of a hold on me though, we only went out for 3-4 months.

topup:

No you didn't insult me ,

I didn't. I said I thought he was cruel. Quit the jive.

Can i answer this question in a woman's perspective topup?