herald9:
Mehn...I thought you were annihilated by NL's bombing...

When I saw this topic... wanted to invoke ur spirit
but i said lemme chill u go soon appear...

How yhu Bro..fank Gawd u survived!

herald9 my brother...i survived the trunami. The topic is a misleading one, trying to make guys to dwelll in that pit meant for foools. But guys are wiser now.

Where have you been?

princesa:

I hear sir, i don dey go before you bite me... Even ur signature says it all

great...but tell me true, na which guy you friendzone na?

ITbomb:
Me I believe say, any girl wey friendzone me, maybe she get Spiritual husband wey fit harm me if I try so she wan protect me

Na so you fear reach? I been think say you be boseline


but Seriously IT, I'm finally beginning to understand that friend zoning a guy is different from being friends with a guy, based on the responses I've been seeing here so far.

Friend zoning comes to play when the guy wants a sexual or romantic form of relationship from the girl, while she, for reasons best known to her, wants to remain just friends with that same guy. This inadvertently might mean that she doesn't want a relationship with him that would lead to any form of sexual benefits. The problem then is that the guy, stubborn or egotistical as he is, wants what she can't give. And if worse comes to worst he cries zoning!

While at the other hand, when she's friend with a guy means that they are like buddies, colleagues, good mates that are not even thinking along the sex lane. I'm sure relationship like that does exist right? It only becomes wrong when a party is selfish and won't contribute.

I'm I right or wrong?


The conclusion of the matter is obviously the fact that girls and guys just don't reason alike. Neither do they want the same thing.

Shikena!

mencade5: herald9 my brother...i survived the trunami. The topic is a misleading one, trying to make guys to dwelll in that pit meant for foools. But guys are wiser now.

Where have you been?

Lolz...

Mehn...after loosing all my posts and mentions to the catastrophe...
Didn't feel like posting anything again...
Twas like building castles in the sand...
I've recovered now sha...

Am up and running

Hope ur side is good and ur babymama(s) is/are treating you wella

herald9:
Mehn...I thought you were annihilated by NL's bombing...

When I saw this topic... wanted to invoke ur spirit
but i said lemme chill u go soon appear...

This your friend carry zoning matter for him head like gele

@mecande5
I don't friendzone a guy. If i don't want to have a romantic relationship with them, I tell them straight up. But if they keep coming and pestering, They get friendzoned at their own peril

A stubborn fly follows the corpse to the grave. Go figure!

No big deal.

princesa:

This your friend carry zoning matter for him head like gele

He's doing the right thing miss...
And we fully endorse him...
It's time we show you ladies that guys Don upgrade

princesa:

This your friend carry zoning matter for him head like gele

@mecande5
I don't friendzone a guy. If i don't want to have a romantic relationship with them, I tell them straight up. But if they keep coming and pestering, They get friendzoned at their own peril

A stubborn fly follows the corpse to the grave. Go figure!

You see its tricky.

ihedinobi2: No big deal.

Wow... guess who am seeing...



Our Royal Chaplain!

princesa:

I'm I right or wrong?

I don't normally do this (especially in the romance section) but I would be serious and say my mind.
Apologies to the guys.

Most guys are all victims of friendzoning, one way or another, mostly during late sec school and inexperienced undergraduate years.

A guy would think that by being nice and caring, a girl would 'have mercy on him' and open the legs without being asked. While the girl on the other side, after weeks of benefiting from the guy's niceties without any bold demand would be thinking, 'oh, I've met such a nice young guy who treats me like a sister, let me get closer to him'. And so the journey with two different intentions begins.

Later, the girl would meet another guy who drives her crazy and boldly demand from her, 'this is what I want' and she would probably give in.

In as much as you, as a guy, need to be caring and all those initial sweet talks with the potential babe, after a short while you are expected (sometimes the girls don't need to expect it, they like surprises) to make your intentions known. If accepted, you move in, if not you move out.

A bold and confident guy with some cash in his pocket has no business being friendzoned except he wants it that way

After friendzoning the brother, he must complain as usual. Then she'll say: "you're a great guy. Don't worry, you'll find someone."
She'll still insist that he walks her home that evening and she'll be expecting him take her to see that new movie on saturday. Winsh.

If they have a mutual friend who's getting married, well, that guy is just the perfect escort for her. Everyone at the party will be happy for "them" except the poor friendzoned brother.

Then she'll finally agree to date another guy who usually turns out to be a first class jerk. That's another blow to the friendzoned dude cos, she will discuss the happy and sad moments of her relationship with him. He must not tell her the bitter truth (that she's dating a jerk) but must be a ready shoulder for her to cry on.

Note that he must still be available to discuss her challenges at work, home, etc. She will always introduce him as her "bestie" to others. She'll glady tell people that he has always been there for her. But she won't realize that she failed him when he needed her the most.

Naturally, the dude will complain about the wall she has built around her heart and he'll make advances but na lie, she nor go gree. He will never hear the last of "you're a great guy", "you deserve someone better" and similar poopoo. She still won't let go of him emotionally.

Hello? You're saying he's a great guy but the poor dude is somehow not good enough for you? C'mon!

So the brother starts to feel used, manipulated, drained, disappointed, tired, beat-down, etc, and he stops being a tool. Next thing she starts to complain that he no longer calls her; or he leaves church immediately after service; or he no longer "has her time" and poopoo like that. The brother then moves on and learns to live without her and he begins to notice other ladies and he becomes a happy dude....

...Then she comes to Nairaland, opens a thread and goes on and on about whether it's such a big deal to friend-zone a guy.

...And you know the worst thing about it? The ladies love to friendzone nice guys.

tytymer: After friendzoning the brother, he must complain as usual. Then she'll say: "you're a great guy. Don't worry, you'll find someone."
She'll still insist that he walks her home that evening and she'll be expecting him take her to see that new movie on saturday. Winsh.

If they have a mutual friend who's getting married, well, that guy is just the perfect escort for her. Everyone at the party will be happy for "them" except the poor friendzoned brother.

Then she'll finally agree to date another guy who usually turns out to be a first class jerk. That's another blow to the friendzoned dude cos, she will discuss the happy and sad moments of her relationship with him. He must not tell her the bitter truth (that she's dating a jerk) but must be a ready shoulder for her to cry on.

Note that he must still be available to discuss her challenges at work, home, etc. She will always introduce him as her "bestie" to others. She'll glady tell people that he has always been there for her. But she won't realize that she failed him when he needed her the most.

Naturally, the dude will complain about the wall she has built around her heart and he'll make advances but na lie, she nor go gree. He will never hear the last of "you're a great guy", "you deserve someone better" and similar poopoo. She still won't let go of him emotionally.

Hello? You're saying he's a great guy but the poor dude is somehow not good enough for you? C'mon!

So the brother starts to feel used, manipulated, drained, disappointed, tired, beat-down, etc, and he stops being a tool. Next thing she starts to complain that he no longer calls her; or he leaves church immediately after service; or he no longer "has her time" and poopoo like that. The brother then moves on and learns to live without her and he begins to notice other ladies and he becomes a happy dude....

...Then she comes to Nairaland, opens a thread and goes on and on about whether it's such a big deal to friend-zone a guy.

...And you know the worst thing about it? The ladies love to friendzone nice guys.

U sabi analyse well! U dey try!

lmao! This thread is cracking me up so bad! So many bitter guys on here!

But I don't think any girl is forcing you to be her friend? If she's made it clear she doesn't wanna be more than friends and you want more, then move on and save yourself the heartache and stress!

kadas01: U sabi analyse well! U dey try!

Thanks.

tytymer: Thanks.

U welcome!

TyTymer: After friendzoning the brother, he must complain as usual. Then she'll say: "you're a great guy. Don't worry, you'll find someone."
She'll still insist that he walks her home that evening and she'll be expecting him take her to see that new movie on saturday. Winsh.

If they have a mutual friend who's getting married, well, that guy is just the perfect escort for her. Everyone at the party will be happy for "them" except the poor friendzoned brother.

Then she'll finally agree to date another guy who usually turns out to be a first class jerk. That's another blow to the friendzoned dude cos, she will discuss the happy and sad moments of her relationship with him. He must not tell her the bitter truth (that she's dating a jerk) but must be a ready shoulder for her to cry on.

Note that he must still be available to discuss her challenges at work, home, etc. She will always introduce him as her "bestie" to others. She'll glady tell people that he has always been there for her. But she won't realize that she failed him when he needed her the most.

Naturally, the dude will complain about the wall she has built around her heart and he'll make advances but na lie, she nor go gree. He will never hear the last of "you're a great guy", "you deserve someone better" and similar poopoo. She still won't let go of him emotionally.

Hello? You're saying he's a great guy but the poor dude is somehow not good enough for you? C'mon!

So the brother starts to feel used, manipulated, drained, disappointed, tired, beat-down, etc, and he stops being a tool. Next thing she starts to complain that he no longer calls her; or he leaves church immediately after service; or he no longer "has her time" and poopoo like that. The brother then moves on and learns to live without her and he begins to notice other ladies and he becomes a happy dude....

...Then she comes to Nairaland, opens a thread and goes on and on about whether it's such a big deal to friend-zone a guy.

...And you know the worst thing about it? The ladies love to friendzone nice guys.

You, sir, get a standing ovation! Where the hell are those memes? #peeringEverywhere

ThoniaSlim: lmao! This thread is cracking me up so bad! So many bitter guys on here!

But I don't think any girl is forcing you to be her friend? If she's made it clear she doesn't wanna be more than friends and you want more, then move on and save yourself the heartache and stress!

You do well too to let him go, mm. Don't be calling up and down talking about how you miss him and he no longer cares about you and all that nonsense.

haven't gone through the entire thread so someone might have mentioned this imma go over this just the same.

so close yet so far

there is nothing wrong with a guy and a girl being platonic and intimate friends but usually the dissonance is because the guy does not want to be a platonic friend and would rather have a romantic relationship. being confined therefore, to the friend zone from which privileged position you get to observe another guy enjoy what you so desperately want without working for it as hard as you do is incredibly annoying.

further, the term friend zoned doesn't really apply to mutually platonic friendships. it applies to situations where the girl knows what the guy wants from her and likes enough to want him in her life him but probably does not find him attractive enough to date. this is obviously both frustrating and ego-bruising. the only reason why girls can't see this is because they are typically selfish beings that want to eat their cake and have it.

ihedinobi2:
You do well too to let him go, mm. Don't be calling up and down talking about how you miss him and he no longer cares about you and all that nonsense.

It goes both ways.

ihedinobi2:

You, sir, get a standing ovation! Where the hell are those memes? #peeringEverywhere

Lol. Thanks boss.

TyTymer: Lol. Thanks boss.

How many times have u been friendzoned?

Creamish:

How many times have u been friendzoned?

Hehehe. well, a couple of times (or so) in the past. Back when I was Mr Nice Guy.

TyTymer:
Hehehe. well, a couple of times (or so) in the past. Back when I was Mr Nice Guy.

hmm...so what r u now?

Creamish:

hmm...so what r u now?

I am more logical than emotional. I can smell manipulation light years off.

But for your my dear Creamish....

Hello aunty princesa, I got ur mail but it was somehow. .. here's my mail.

Oyadeyiabimbola@yahoo.com


thanks!

mencade5:
truly it can kill. I nearly die in the last friendzoned i encountered. If no be God, i for don die.

abajo! No wonder your passionate tirades!

princesa:

abajo! No wonder your passionate tirades!

hmmm...if you say so. But never again will it happen.

zicoraads: Hehehe...

Me na bad guys naw. That hurricane wey blow no reach my side. I full grown trowey

Xo 4 ur mind U dey feel lyk Jamez Bond now ova a mere e-tsunami abi??
Enjoy it while it last... How U dey na?

KelvinGraphics:
Xo 4 ur mind U dey feel lyk Jamez Bond now ova a mere e-tsunami abi??
Enjoy it while it last... How U dey na?

Mere ginî? It was massive jor, and I survived.
I even gave testimony in church yesterday

Ayam fine o...resting much. Au ur own side?

zicoraads: Mere ginî? It was massive jor, and I survived.
I even gave testimony in church yesterday

Ayam fine o...resting much. Au ur own side?

Lolz...
My side dey o, just chiling with my MzMariah noni o

KelvinGraphics:
Lolz...
My side dey o, just chiling with my MzMariah noni o

Big man! I envy you noni

BTW, where Barcanista, OluWaKiDD?