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Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 10:06pm On Apr 11, 2015 |
nice14: Aaawww. You can get it off your chest here. Rant if you want. You will feel better afterwards. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by opeoluwa2(f): 1:03pm On Apr 14, 2015 |
Nice14, pls dont do this. You can be very happy again.i am married almost the same yrs as you. Had some bad times, girl I never thot my hubby and I could love each other again. After a very resentful period. If you could share your pains people ll help you. You can love him again That I promise you by God's grace. 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Wendy80(f): 3:00pm On Apr 14, 2015 |
prissyluv: Hey Babe, hope ur Dad has given his consent? |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Wendy80(f): 3:04pm On Apr 14, 2015 |
nice14:Pls don't do Eye for an Eye, it will only destroy Ur marriage. U can share here to ease Ur mind. All d best |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by prissyluv(f): 4:30pm On Apr 14, 2015 |
Wendy80:Dearie,thanks for checking up on me. I appreciate. Dad has not oooo. He told me I should endure it,that before my service year runs out that i will see someone. Mum at a point was crying self. I tire my sis. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 10:06am On May 09, 2015 |
seriously all these and many more |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 10:23am On May 12, 2015 |
LyndaRoyce:Ewuooo... Wonder why im seeing this just now. Amen and amen dear. The wedding has been shifted till later in the year. But still keep space for the item 7 sha o cos its gonna be hoit! |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 10:26am On May 12, 2015 |
But when is aisha2 coming back |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by bukatyne(f): 2:11pm On Sep 07, 2015 |
onegig: @Bold: 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by yetseyi(f): 6:57am On Jul 18, 2016 |
This thread must not die ooo One of the realest threads in family section 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by deegnity22: 12:04pm On Jul 18, 2016 |
yetseyi: Second that! |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by imurboss: 4:09pm On Jul 18, 2016 |
Thirded |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by byvan03: 5:59pm On Jul 18, 2016 |
Wow!!! So this thread still dey. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by sweetilicious(f): 7:32pm On Jul 18, 2016 |
I just came to learn because i pray for the best home. God willing, my future hubby will also help me to achieve it. God willing, i will be with a good man whom he will give long life and prosperity to become the head. I think every woman should start praying for their family from the very first day. Prayers will be like a shield. Having a supportive spouse is the best every woman should pray for. All other evils that attacks marriages will just be defeated. Amen 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by imurboss: 4:19pm On Jul 19, 2016 |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by byvan03: 4:37pm On Jul 19, 2016 |
imurboss: My dear dem deyooo, how your platoon? where una go sef? |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by imurboss: 9:48am On Jul 20, 2016 |
My dear, we just dey o, soldier go soldier come,barracks remain 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Titilayooni(f): 4:32pm On Jul 21, 2016 |
Even though I have never commented,ts still a very good thread...abeg make una keep the fire burning especially for intending ones like us and I just wanna pray that all the marriages going through one storm or the other,because God gave u that spouse of yours...NOTHING shall break your home IJN. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 10:49am On Jul 24, 2016 |
Just saw this thread. I'm having a serious challenge with my marriage. my story is long pls bear with me. I and hubby met while in school. He chased me like crazy. We were just on and off. After a while I decided to give it a try. We got engaged often 3yrs of courting. 8 months after the engagement I took in. Hubby wanted me to abort I refused. We had already done our introduction and all that so our both families knew each other. Hubby changed that he wasn't ready for it .... I insisted I won't abort. we could both afford the pregnancy so I couldn't understand him. I can raise the child comfortably so I insisted I wasn't going to abort. I had to involve his family when I realized he was serious.. and we had our trad last month. The problem now is that hubby has completely changed. He disrespect me now. Says all manner of silly things to me with disregard. We work in different states. Since we got married he hasn't visited me. I do the visiting. When I visit he's all loving and behaves. Immediately I leave he goes back to the monster he used to be. His extremely stubborn. I've complained to his elder brother before but it okay made things worse. He said I reported him. That do I think anyone can talk to him.... Last week we went to the embassy but we were denied visa because we ain't wedded yet. He blamed me for it. Said I'm bad luck. I told him it's because we ain't t wedded and we should have done court like I suggested before. He threatened to slap me so I kept quiet. On our way back my flight was canceled but his wasn't. Cos we live in different states. I had to take a bus back cos of work whilst he flew back. My journey lasted for almost 12 hrs. He didn't call me to know how far and refused to pick his calls. my battery ran down and my parents and his where worried and kept calling me but I couldn't be reached. My parents and his kept calling him but he didn't pick their calls. Till now he hasn't returned my parents or any of my siblings calls. I got home at 11pm that day. my hubby hasn't called me till date and doesn't even pick my calls. I sent him a message on whatsapp telling him I've not gone to work for two days cos of my health. He replied telling me not to show up at his door without a week notice. Right now I'm fed up. I don't want to do the wedding or get more yoked to him in any legal way. I just want to have my baby and take care of it. I don't know what else to do. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by byvan03: 11:21am On Jul 24, 2016 |
Wapu concentrate on your unborn for now. Obviously he developed cold feet along the way and felt you took in to trap him. Hold off on the wedding for now, you don't drag a man kicking and trashing to the alter. Why the one week notice? You don't need to be told his head is somewhere else. I believe that deep down we always know the solutions to our problems but most times our cowardice won't let us face the reality on ground. No point trying too hard, just have your child first Ok. 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 12:06pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
byvan03: You are right. I've told the parents I'm not intrested in the wedding anymore. He feels I planned the pregnancy. I don't want him to feel like I forced him to get married to me. He already feels that way though I can't change that but I can stop the wedding and I have. I believe he's head is elsewhere too never given it much thought until now. He was trying so hard to hide our trad wedding on social media. My siblings and his put the pics and tagged us. He even had to tell his colleagues it was photoshop. What I don't understand is why I should want to trap a guy that just last dec I broke up with and he came to my village bearing gifts to give to my parents. He bought two engagement rings because I returned the first one that I wasn't intrested anymore. Now it seems to him like I'm trapping him? Someone we had already done introduction and preparing for trad before I found out I was pregnant. Why should I bother trapping him. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by mamateniola1: 12:54pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
@Wapu, me think he has never been ready for the wedding. He was just flowing with d gist to save face until he has a reason, no matter how stupid the reason is to any other person? I think yu shld concentrate on your health now and your baby. Suspend the wedding until further notice and use that period to reassess the whole situation. It's well with you o jare! 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by bellong: 1:05pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
@Wapu, I always advice ladies under any circumstances not to become pregnant prior to wedding. As a rule of thumb, chastity pays irrespective of how archaic people view it. It saves from many emotional torture. However, the deed has been done. You should have known he wasn't ready when he asked you to abort the pregnancy. Who does that to someone he plans spending the rest of his life with? The pregnancy should have even given him the urge to quickly tie the knot. Since you are not yet lawfully married, better save yourself now, count your losses and move on with your life. Take it as one of those bitter experiences to make one wise. Parents, please teach your children street intelligence from childhood. It will save a lot of trouble in future. 5 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by byvan03: 3:13pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
wapu: Some people are confused like that, just focus on your child and from now just think of the best for you. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by luscioustrish(f): 7:07pm On Jul 25, 2016 |
I'm happy I stumbled on this thread... It is well with you wapu. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Godmystrength: 2:19pm On Nov 10, 2016 |
Wow!!! Where is everybody? It's been a while. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by bukatyne(f): 3:57pm On Nov 10, 2016 |
Godmystrength: Are my eyes deceiving me? Where have you been Happy Happy new years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So good to have you back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Godmystrength: 10:55am On Nov 11, 2016 |
bukatyne:lol. Your eyes are not deceiving you. Many things happened my dear but God is good Missed you all Where is aisha2? |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by yebo: 11:37am On Nov 11, 2016 |
elektra:just like you have said" it never ends well" my Sil is exactly in this situation, getting to know my husband more before i got married to him, i discovered my Sil, her husband and children stay with my father-inlaw, not just accommodation but also feeding them, my SIL does not work in the same state where her family resides so she leaves for work on mondays and comes back on fridays, my Fil decides to give his rented apartment to my Sil husband to manage it as agent in order to get income, do you know that my SIL husband brings ladies to my father-inlaw house to sleep with them while the wife is away, i'm not just assumming this cause i saw him several times and he knows, my Sil takes care of her children, buys cloth for them, pays the children's school fees while my father inlaw takes care of the accommodation and feeding, its a long story which i dont know how to express it, the truth is sometimes in late september (2016) my sil did not see her husband, she thought he has travelled for business outside the state so when she did not hear from him she contacted the husband family members which they also said they have not heard from him. two weeks later my SIL Saw a missed call on her phone( international line) she didnt bother to call back, so the husband decided to chat her on whatssap that this is your husband but my Sil replied by telling him that my husband is in Nigeria, so the husband displayed his picture and also sent him his pics, he is now in USA. After all she has done, this is what she deserves, his family members are also supporting whenever the wife complains that her husband his not providing for the family,all they say is that he does not have. what hurts me more was that this man which the family claims does not have funds cheats alot, and you will see him attending shows, snapping at the shows and displaying it on whatssap. my Sil never felt it that much cause she was prepared for it, she had lived has if she is never had husband. it never ends well. long story dont know how to express it |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by byvan03: 3:32pm On Nov 11, 2016 |
Godmystrength: Babe is good to have you back, believe it or not I think about you every now and then because of how the absence came about. I hope all is settled now. Welcome back! |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Emioga: 10:46am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Wow this thread is still here. Been going through so much. Thought of killing myself but I think of my kids. Am so tired |
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