hooper24:
This one was a mistake that I regret with everything in me. I know am ready to model my self and be a better person. Just give me the very last chance.

Mynd44: All these people looking for faceless people to back them up sef....

You intend to forgive him and go back to him you have made that choice before opening this thread so why bother us by asking?

beeevan:



The reason every woman should own a pestle .

chubbyzegna: To cut the whole story short, the slap didn't happen during an argument, I walked into the room while he was talking about me in a not so good manner to a mutual friend of ours who happened to be around, (the real argument some hours ago) I sat on an empty chair while he was sitting somewhere else, I said nothing while he continued talking, it got to a point and I said please can I have my wristwatch back as I will be leaving soon(I gave it to him to help me replace something in it), he said he wouldn't give it to me and then I said he was only kidding, he suddenly stood up, asked me to vacate the chair that he wants to use it, I ignored him, he tapped me and I said, "you've been sitting there why must you remember this chair only when I sat on it" before I know wetin happen, I begin see stars, I couldn't take it, I just saw myself retaliating, that was what happened.

chubbyzegna: I wish it were, I'm glad he even brought it here, if I had told it myself from the onset, it would seem worse than it already is, I'm even ashamed to tell anybody why I'm really leaving cos it will seem I'm insulting him.

theLORDreigns:

Jessybarbie or Chubbyzegna, if this recap above is how it really happened, I beg of you to forgive him, (only you have the final say though).

The fact is; no genuine abuser hits his target in the presence of a mature third party. In the presence of kids, maybe, but not in front of someone mature, who can intervene.
Your boyfriend is not an abuser. He made a bad decision which he should never have made. This is just so sad.



I wanted to assume that 'the slap' was the only issue behind your disagreements but the emboldened makes me feel otherwise.
Do only what you feel is best, but as far as 'the slap' goes, he was being childish and deserves a second chance.

chubbyzegna: Yea well he's childish a lot if that's the case, he's slapped an ex girlfriend also and that's why I believe it will happen again, the fact that I told him I'll never take such, he hit me, reminded me, I said I wouldn't take such and went on to say he wanted to prove I only have my mouth and stupid ego, tells me he did it on purpose just to show me I can't do anything even if he panel beats me as he said, I can't just get past all that and many more, not now atleast.

shizzleStar:
Working on it? indeed!

Any way i can tell the guy involved is here, lets see how it goes

theLORDreigns:

From the beginning of this thread I have never supported him... until you said a mature individual was present. This changes everything.

I do not wish to drag this any further... if 'the slap' is the ONLY reason for your decision, you may want to have a re-think. If it is not, feel free to do whatever you see as best for yourself.

We're only human...

bukatyne:

LOL!

And people (men & women) are marrying every week, some even doing multiple wedding ceremonies in a location.

Until women start marrying themselves emasse, 'men are scarce holds no water'

If you are now referring quality wise, hmmm you have a point but then again it goes both ways

RoyalRoy:

See hypocrites.... welcome madam!!! Did you miss the part where she slapped him back and even did more?

Here::::::


I guess she too is not a wife material herself


@Op.... truth be told you have retaliated back and that makes both of you equally guilty of whatever violence that went down that day.

If you said because a man slapped you and you decided to retaliate and he wasn't even comfortable enough to continue in the silly "cat-fight" then you both need counselling on anger management.

So you will be breaking up with everyone who slapped you?
Get a good counsel and give each other a second shot.

By the way what did u do or say to him to get a slap after two whole years of non violence?

theLORDreigns:

From the beginning of this thread I have never supported him... until you said a mature individual was present. This changes everything.

I do not wish to drag this any further... if 'the slap' is the ONLY reason for your decision, you may want to have a re-think. If it is not, feel free to do whatever you see as best for yourself.

We're only human...

MzMariah: Op sorry about the slap o, you failed to tell us what transpired between you both that prompted him to slap you for the first time in 2 years. It is wrong for a man to hit a woman, I fear men that hit ladies but you also retaliated which is not ladylike. He slapped you and your retaliated, all the while you were hitting him he did not retaliate which obviously meas he regretted slapping you in the first place. You retaliating shows that you can't even stand pressure in marriage, when your husband says one you will say 20, you can even fight him gan. ( I'm not supporting the fact that he slapped you o).

For me o, you are as guilty as him, He slapped you and you retaliated. you both should go for counselling and if you feel you can't continue with the relationship then let it go. You alone can decide what you want. but please think before you act, follow your heart, nobody can decide for you .

softsparkyy:
Kaiiiii Mariah!!!
I no know say you get sense like this.

MzMariah: You..... I tap small from your sense na How you dey na? I don miss you o, since morning

softsparkyy:
My love na work ooooo . Hope you're good.

jessybarbie: Before now, I have already made up my mind not to have anything to do with any man that lays his hand on me and he knows this. I have being dating him for two years now and just in the middle of a big quarrel two days ago he slapped me. I reacted immediately and hit him as much as I could but he did not retaliate but felt really bad and started begging me immediately to forgive him.

I have sworn to him that it is over between us. He is begging, pleading, crying, asking our friends to intercede and loads of other stuffs that I can not put down here just to have me at least forgive him and be his friend again but I have declined because I believe that this can happen again.

I want to know if there is a way that it can work again between us? We have gotten to a stage that we are more than just bf and gf. We had great plans for the future if things turns out well but this singular act have altered everything and we are both hurting.

Is there any way to remedy this relationship or is it truly over forever?

theLORDreigns: RoyalRoy..

My stance on domestic abuse remains. Zero tolerance.

Be sure to never lay a hand on your woman, no matter the provocation...

RoyalRoy:
Good.. at least you know what you stand for. This Op sure doesn't know what she stands for!!

angela98: If your boyfriend slaps you its a sign of an aggressive, abusive man. You never marry am he slaps u like that. What will happen if he marries you, of course he will knife you. I wonder what you are still doing with the guy. Please walk out of that relationship fast. He doesn't deserve you. He is a loser. Its a loser that hits a woman period.

jessybarbie:

There can not be any justifiable reason to hit a woman!

RoyalRoy:

Quality always supercedes Quantity

RoyalRoy:
You are not pure... not at all.
Yoruba adage says...." a. Gbo ejo enikan da agba osika ni'....meaning an adult who makes judgement on a one sided story is not a worthy elder.
You have "spammed" this thread with a loud "noise" of !leave him because of one slap in two years!!!."
The truth be told... I believe women like you are exactly the opposite of what you preach. If you follow your own rules according to the gospel you are preaching here... you sure will remain single till Jesus comes.
But then... everyone is entitled to their opinion. I Wish You well babe!!!

Oahray: let's say this is true. Shouldn't the same apply to a woman hitting a man? Even self-defence isn't reason enough.

You both lack respect for each other. Forget the "first time" crap. It happened once, it would happen again till one of you kills the other.

You both are as bad as each other. Breakup and save yourselves the stress of future fights.