theLORDreigns:

Where she goes is secondary... right now, the smart thing to do is to walk out.



She isn't, it was self-defence.



She isn't the abusive type...



Lol...stop being sarcastic!

theLORDreigns:

Where she goes is secondary... right now, the smart thing to do is to walk out.

She isn't, it was self-defence.

She isn't the abusive type...

Lol...stop being sarcastic!

Odilafta:



Atleast give 'em gender equality/feminism activists the time to get here,they are stuck in traffic

RoyalRoy:

Hehehe... I guess they have a flat tyre right now.

Mynd44:
She already did

This is not self defence, it is revenge. She said he slapped her once.......self defence would have been if he raise his hand and she rushed one in or after the first, he tried to come in with another

Says who? She hit the guy continuously even after he did not hit her anymore. Excessive force can be argued here

Why? It is fun don't you agree?

Odilafta:
Are you her e-lawyer?

Danhumprey: If every girl/lady has a mindset like yours,I doubt if relationship/marriage will exist. Just because of a sponataneous slap,which he even apologise for,she should quit the relationship,eh??

theLORDreigns:

Not quite, otherwise she wouldn't be here.

How are you so sure he didn't make further attempts?

That was the only way she could defend herself.

Enjoy!!

Mynd44:
That is debatable

I am judging from what was written in the OP. Nowhere was it stated that he came at her or tried to hit her again. Even when she hit him continously, he remained calm She could have chosen to walk away like a non violent person would. She did not

I am oooo

theLORDreigns:

She still
has feelings for him.
She hasn't made up her mind yet about staying or leaving.



You're right @emboldened, however it still doesn't translate to her being overly aggressive or abusive.

Her boyfriend, on the other hand, took the first strike. Its a lack of self-control on his part, which should never be treated with kid gloves.

Mynd44:

She already did


This is not self defence, it is revenge. She said he slapped her once.......self defence would have been if he raise his hand and she rushed one in or after the first, he tried to come in with another


Says who? She hit the guy continuously even after he did not hit her anymore. Excessive force can be argued here



Why? It is fun don't you agree?

Danrizzle: He isn't a gentleman... he has just been pretending all this while. When men fight their fellow selves, the scene is always catastrophic, .. But when the fight is btw two opposite sex....the scene my friend is always scary(cos the probability that the female might die is 98.2%). Am the kind of gentleman you need in your life, i never hit females...

whytepawn1: you have already made up your mind to stay with him my dear. if you have gotten this far in your relationship, it wouldn't be smart to walk out now. you have gotten his attention with your bluffing and shakara and all. my dear the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.

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jessybarbie: Before now, I have already made up my mind not to have anything to do with any man that lays his hand on me and he knows this. I have being dating him for two years now and just in the middle of a big quarrel two days ago he slapped me. I reacted immediately and hit him as much as I could but he did not retaliate but felt really bad and started begging me immediately to forgive him.

I have sworn to him that it is over between us. He is begging, pleading, crying, asking our friends to intercede and loads of other stuffs that I can not put down here just to have me at least forgive him and be his friend again but I have declined because I believe that this can happen again.

I want to know if there is a way that it can work again between us? We have gotten to a stage that we are more than just bf and gf. We had great plans for the future if things turns out well but this singular act have altered everything and we are both hurting.

Is there any way to remedy this relationship or is it truly over forever?

sapiosexual:

So when is the wedding? Let us watch as you walk down to battered wives ville.

Live long and prosper.

jessybarbie: Before now, I have already made up my mind not to have anything to do with any man that lays his hand on me and he knows this. I have being dating him for two years now and just in the middle of a big quarrel two days ago he slapped me. I reacted immediately and hit him as much as I could but he did not retaliate but felt really bad and started begging me immediately to forgive him.

I have sworn to him that it is over between us. He is begging, pleading, crying, asking our friends to intercede and loads of other stuffs that I can not put down here just to have me at least forgive him and be his friend again but I have declined because I believe that this can happen again.

I want to know if there is a way that it can work again between us? We have gotten to a stage that we are more than just bf and gf. We had great plans for the future if things turns out well but this singular act have altered everything and we are both hurting.

Is there any way to remedy this relationship or is it truly over forever?